Jealousy is a destructive emotion and it can only generate destructive outcomes. The truth is jealousy never brings anything good, as it consumes our mind and our reality becomes a nightmare.
Jealousy is a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves and our whole life because it shows how much we lack. Jealousy is poison to our spirit and is extremely toxic, as it contaminates our souls and hearts. There are many reasons why we are jealous, from my experience, I believe that the main reasons are due to our lack of self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-love, and when this happens, we let fear to control our life, and we become insecure, doubtful, anxious, depressed and miserable, everything that jealousy needs to grow every day.
Jealousy has the power to control our thoughts, emotions, actions, and our whole life. When jealousy seizes your mind, you lose control of your own thoughts and emotions, and your perspective which gives your reality, becomes unreal. Jealousy is a disease that causes torment and pain for those who suffer it. Once we let jealousy control our lives, our whole reality becomes a nightmare, not only for us but for those around us who are also the victims of our jealousy.
Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy – in fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other.” – Robert A. Heinlein
So jealousy is the way we have to defend ourselves against external threats, but in fact, the worst threat lies within ourselves and is called fear, fear gives us wrong beliefs about life, people, and ourselves, and so we live in a fictional reality that makes us have the emotion that we were trying to avoid: unhappiness.
When you are jealous, you live in a world that is not real, because you don’t see the world with your eyes open, you see it with your eyes covered by your fears, and the reality you see in your mind is most of the time inaccurate, and so are your feelings and emotions.
The truth is jealousy puts us in the place of suffering we were trying to avoid, and we don’t get anything good out of it. Jealousy takes from us any opportunity to be at peace and happy with ourselves and with everyone around us. No matter the situation, no matter how good your life can be, if you suffer from jealousy, your life will be your worst nightmare, because once jealousy poisons your mind and spirit you will live in a distorted reality, and you will see ghosts and demons where there are only angels, pushing away everything that is good for you.
“Never underestimate the power of jealousy and the power of envy to destroy. Never underestimate that.” – Oliver Stone
Jealousy is the cause of why you are not living a truly happy and peaceful life because it consumes your mind and your life. Every opportunity to achieve your goals, every chance to live the life of your dreams getting what you always wanted, vanishes in the darkness of your fears. If you want to be happy you will have to face your fears and challenge them.
If someone we love leaves us or does something that hurts us, or if we are betrayed, or if we can’t get something we always wanted can be very painful but nothing can be more painful than being trapped in a nightmare world created by our mind, poisoned by our jealousy encouraged by our fears, insecurities, doubts and anxieties.
If you know who you really are, what you are capable of achieving, if you know how beautiful and amazing you are, you will never doubt yourself again, and that my friends, is the first step to remove jealousy from your life. It is something you must work on every day, you must learn to love yourself and believe in yourself, once you do that, you will find peace again and you will see life as it really is.
“You can be the moon and still be jealous of the stars.” – Gary Allan
At least that was my experience because one day I decided that to be successful I needed to believe in myself, and I found out that my beliefs about myself and life were wrong, I underestimated myself, and let my past, situations, and people to define me, which created insecurity, disgust, anxiety, resentment, and fears, and I became dependent of others for being happy, and then I fed my jealousy so much that they took my life, and so I believed in myself, and I took back the control of my own life, and I defeated all fears.
Believe in yourself and be confident about your potential, you need to see it, once you see it, you will not care if others do the same, you don’t have to show anything to anyone, you are worth, and you know that, so don’t be jealous of no one!