Melisa Rodriguez Lopez De Osornio, Author at Love Revolution

Taking Responsibility For Your Life

Inspirational, Keys for a happy life, Reflections, Tools for success

It is not what happens to us but how we deal with what happens what shapes our life experience. The keyword is responsibility. And as boring as it sounds, it is the degree of responsibility we choose to take in our daily life decisions, the kind of thoughts we choose to have and, the kind of actions we choose to take what can truly change our life.

Throughout our life, we will be the victims of many unfair and unpleasant situations. We will face challenges, we will fail and we will be rejected, we might be humiliated, hurt, and we will have one hundred reasons to feel that the world is against us. Therefore, we will have one hundred reasons to feel sad, depressed, stressed, overwhelmed, and angry. However, an endless pity party will take us nowhere. The responsibility to take the control of our life by controlling our thoughts, feelings, and actions will take us to new and wonderful places.

When I was younger I tended to think that somehow the world and everyone in it was conspiring against me. That everyone was rude and mean to me. I always thought how difficult was to be myself and live in such a cruel world. In a way, I always blamed everything and everyone for the wrong decisions I took. Therefore, I made other people and situations guilty of my own failure. Today those thoughts changed. But, what has changed? Did people stop conspiring against me or the world became less cruel? Not exactly. What changed is the way I looked at the world. I took responsibility for my own life, and by doing so, I ceased being the victim of the circumstances by becoming the architect of my own destiny.

“When you think everything is someone’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.” – Dalai Lama

Victims of circumstances

The thing is that you, me, and everyone can be victims of different life circumstances that are not entirely our responsibility. Circumstances that do not depend on our actions and that are entirely dependent on randomness, on other people’s decisions and attitudes, on culture, or simply human stupidity. And yes, we have all the right to feel victims and feel unhappy, depressed, lonely, and unworthy. But in the end, it is our responsibility to think, decide, and act in the best way possible to change our life around. In the end, no one can break, destroy or hurt our own minds as much as our own thoughts.

What we think and do, how we react, and how we choose to deal with what happened to us is entirely our own responsibility, even if other people, circumstances, and merely unfair life events are the culprits of our suffering. We have the responsibility to change our own thoughts, to choose a different path, to decide how we think and how we live our lives, and what to do with what was presented to us by life itself. Yes, this path is difficult, it requires learning, it requires effort, it requires us to stand up and move forward and fight exhaustion. However, this is the path that could possibly change your life for the better.

“The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them.” – Steve Maraboli

Changing your life

The key is to not let yourself become an indefinite victim of the circumstances, even if you have all the right to feel that way. And it is totally fine if you want to adopt that role indefinitely. But in order to move forward in life, feel better, improve yourself and achieve wonderful things you need to step out from that role and take responsibility for your own life. No matter what happened, it is important to do your best. Choose the best decisions that will bring you what you want and deserve.

If you want a better life, better outcomes, if you want to feel better or whatever is it that you want, but someone or something has stopped you from achieving what you wanted to achieve, or has stolen your happiness, or has limited you in any possible way, then it is time for you to take the responsibility for your own life. Go and create the life you want to experience even if it is difficult. It is you who can reprogram your brain and tell it yes, yes I can do this. Yes, I was beaten up, but I will not give up, and I will move forward no matter how hard it gets.

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Accept full responsibility

When I decided to put an end to my self-pity party and took responsibility for my own life, my whole experience changed. It is not easy but you learn day by day, out of your own mistakes and failures. You develop new skills by facing challenges, by pushing the limits, by being punched in the face by life situations and people. That is how you evolve and you become the best version of yourself.

But again, you can still refuse to accept full responsibility and continue being a victim of the circumstances. I am sure you have good reasons to do so. I understand life can be cruel, unjust and that can be painful. But, there is another path if you wish to accept it. And out of my own experience, you could achieve wonderful things. Simply decide to take responsibility for your life. Make the kind of decisions that will create a better life experience.

Give it a try! There are better and more wonderful experiences than those you could have ever imagined.

Una Breve Historia Sobre El Poder del Entendimiento

Reflexiones

Cuando se trata de criticar a otros, somos todos expertos. Sin piedad vamos por la vida criticando y condenando a otros. ¿Pero qué pasaría si pudiésemos gastar la misma energía que gastamos en juzgar a otros, en tratar de entenderlos? ¿Podría ser que nuestro entendimiento sea capaz de cambiar como vemos a otros? ¿Qué pasaría si pudiésemos tener la oportunidad de caminar en los zapatos de otros?

Algunas veces pauso todo lo que estoy haciendo para simplemente contemplar mi alrededor. Normalmente me tomo el tiempo para mirar al cielo, sobre todo esas noches sin nubes en donde puedes ver todo el cielo estrellado. Por algún motivo, siempre que me pongo a observar el cielo, me pongo a pensar sobre algún tema en especial, como si hubiese algo allá arriba, probablemente Dios, observándome y susurrándome algo. Una de esas noches, comencé a pensar sobre como la mayoría de las personas tienden a criticar a otros. Creo que es porque la mayor parte de las veces no podemos realmente lidiar con nuestras propias imperfecciones y circunstancias de la vida diaria, que solemos enfocarnos en otros en lugar de enfocarnos en nosotros mismos, para así sentirnos menos miserables. Normalmente nuestro entendimiento por nosotros mismos es limitado, lo que genera, que no podamos ofrecer el mismo a otros.

Mientras pensaba sobre esto del poder del entendimiento, imaginaba como seria caminar en los zapatos del alguien más. Como seria por un momento estar en la piel de otro y ver la vida a través de sus ojos, y sentir lo que esa persona siente. Pensaba que probablemente eso incrementaría nuestro entendimiento por otros, y nos volveríamos menos juzgadores. Nuestros corazones se abrirían, y cambiaríamos la forma de tratar a otros, volviéndonos más comprensivos y compasivos, teniendo más empatía, siendo menos críticos despiadados y así poder usar nuestro entendimiento para ver a otros y para tomar lo que otros hacen de una manera diferente.

“Cualquier tonto puede criticar, condenar y quejarse, y la mayoría de los tontos lo hacen, Pero se necesita carácter y dominio de sí mismo para ser comprensivo y tolerante.” – Dale Carnegie

Siempre intento encontrar ejemplos que me ayuden a aclarar mis dudas. Es así, que imagine una pequeña historia acerca de un hombre de alrededor 30 años, el cual solía criticar a otros constantemente. No importaba si nadie tenía motivos para criticar a alguien, este hombre, siempre encontraba alguna razón por la cual criticar a otro. Día y noche, él pasaba la vida criticando a otras personas, y no importaba que tan despiadado e insoportable fuese este hombre, él siempre encontraba seguidores que lo aplaudían por sus dichos y acciones.

Un día, este hombre fue a una casa de zapatos cercana para recolectar un par de zapatos que dejo para reparar. Él entro a la tienda, e inmediatamente un fuerte viento cerro la puerta abruptamente. Toco el timbre, el cual se encontraba sobre el mostrador, para así llamar al zapatero, el cual no se encontraba por el momento allí. Sin haber rastros de él, el hombre volvió a tocar al timbre una vez más. Espero unos minutos y decidió irse para así volver más tarde. Cuando intento abrir la puerta, se dio cuenta de que estaba cerrada, y pensó que el viento debió haberla trabado de alguna manera e intento abrirla de varias formas, pero no tuvo éxito.

“Como voy a poder salir de aquí? A lo mejor, hay alguna salida alternativa en la parte de atrás de la tienda”, pensó el hombre. Él decidió ir a buscar una forma de poder salir, y a lo mejor, podría encontrar al zapatero trabajando en alguna parte de la tienda. A medida que caminaba por los pasillos detrás del mostrador, las luces comenzaron a apagarse gradualmente. De repente, estaba tan oscuro que no podía ver nada. Él intentaba encontrar el interruptor de la luz cuando algo comenzó a brillar cada vez más fuerte. Él fue a ver que era, y encontró cuatro pares de zapatos brillando como las estrellas en el cielo nocturno .

Él estaba atónito, nunca había visto algo así, tomo uno de los zapatos para examinarlo de cerca, eran zapatos comunes, pero la luz que brillaba desde ellos los hacía especiales. Luego de examinarlos por unos minutos, y pensar que eran un tipo de zapatos de juguete, decidió usarlos como linternas. Busco por toda la tienda al zapatero y la salida. No se encontraban ninguno de los dos. Busco en cada rincón, pero no había ninguna salida alternativa.

Entonces sin más que hacer, decidió sentarse y esperar. Él pensó que a lo mejor el zapatero se había ido de la tienda por unos pocos minutos a hacer algo y que se había olvidado de cerrar la puerta, pero que a lo mejor volvía pronto. Espero media hora, una hora, pero el zapatero nunca regreso. Estaba cansado, hambriento, y completamente aburrido. “Donde podría estar?”, se preguntó el hombre. Él agarro uno de los brillantes zapatos y se lo probo, era de su talla. Entonces, se probo el otro, y en ese momento un milagro sucedió.

Continuará…

Doing The Things You Thought You Cannot Do

Inspirational, Keys for a happy life, Tools for success

How many times have you said to yourself or others “I cannot do this”? How many times an idea in your mind was quickly erased by the words “I cannot do that”? How many times the idea of not being able to do something prevented you from moving forward? The truth is that just a simple statement like that one, with such simple words, can completely limit yourself, by closing every door to new challenges and opportunities. In order to move forward, we must do the things we thought we cannot do.

About doing the things we think we cannot do

You could have the best idea, or you could have been offered a wonderful new opportunity or experience, you could be in the middle of a challenging moment in your life, but if you let your mind to make you believe that you cannot do something then you will be limiting yourself, erasing from your life the opportunity to become stronger, more confident, the opportunity to experience something new, the opportunity to see how far you can get despite the fears. In order to erase that concept from your mind created by your fears, you will need to stop and look to the fears in the face, you will need to express to them “I am not afraid anymore” and you need to prove it by doing the things you once thought you couldn’t do.

It is important to overcome the most dangerous fear of all: The fear of failure. The fear of not being able to achieve what we want to achieve. We need to understand the fact that failure is not a dead-end but a detour. It only pushes us through a different path, and if we are committed enough as to keep moving forward we can use it as an advantage to become stronger and wiser, and sometimes what we learn along the way is more valuable and important to our success than the destination itself. Sometimes we even end up in a better place than the one we have imagined before. Therefore, do not fear failure and you would have taken already the first step towards doing the things you thought you cannot do.

“You always pass failure on your way to success.” – Mickey Rooney

The interesting part of doing the things you think you cannot do is learning that after you do them, you cease to be the person you used to be before, this change is inevitable, but it is rewarding because you not only become better, but you come to realize how capable you are, it gives you self-confidence, it widens your horizon and makes you realize that sometimes what we fear is not as bad as we thought it was, and even if we do not succeed, as I said before if you do not let failure to stop you but you embrace that failure and you use it as an advantage to improve yourself, then nothing can stop you.

In my life, I have learned that once you decide to look to your fears in the face then nothing can stop you. I have learned that deciding to do what you think you cannot do is the best way to make your fears disappear, and this becomes a lifestyle, you become stronger and confident and then nothing can stop you. I have tried, I have failed, I have tried again, but I have never ever let anything stop me from having new experiences, from learning something new, from becoming better. Challenges can be our best opportunity to reveal the best version of ourselves. It is important to accept the fact that maybe we are not going to achieve what we want or maybe it is going to be more difficult than we thought, you need to learn to accept failure, become its friend, do not be afraid of it, and do not fear disappointment, if you are able to accept the life that were given to you and deal with the current circumstances with the best of your abilities then you will live your life in a completely different way.

“He who is not every day conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

After high school I tried searching for a career that would make me happy, I went from wanting to be a police officer to a graphic designer, I failed both but I do not regret trying because now I know that both options were not for me and that took me to new and exciting paths. After that, I decided to start traveling, I was scared to travel thousands of kilometers to a new country with a totally different language, and to learn a new language is very challenging, to be part of a new culture is also very challenging, it was tough and scary but rewarding at the same time, it opened many doors and change my life completely, now, at my 31 years of age I decided to go back to the University to study Psychology, perhaps I will fail or maybe I will be successful, probably will face my dear friend called “failure” again but that means that I am trying, that I am experiencing something new, that I am pushing the limits and that is living!

Last year I got my first road bike, I changed the pedals to those where you can click your fancy road bike shoes so your feet stay stuck on the pedals, on the first attempt I ended up in the floor like a bag of potatoes but I stood up and tried again until I got used to them. I started biking around, mainly from home to work sometimes just max 15km a day, and one day I decided to go around an island, around 94km. I said to myself “You are absolutely bananas!” but once again I decided to do the things I thought I couldn’t do. Worst case scenario I would just stop and turn back. In the end, I did it all the way to the end. It took me more than 5 hours, my legs were in such pain I could barely pedal, once I arrived I was so happy I started crying, I couldn’t believe that a person like me, a couch potato would do such a thing, but I did it and that changed everything. Now I do the same route like a piece of cake and I continue pushing my limits, and even though I wouldn’t pass the first stage of the Tour de France, if someone would ask me to join, I would definitely try, why? Because if you do not try to do the things you think you cannot do then you are not living your life to the fullest because even if you fail you will still gain something if you are willing to see failure not as a dead-end but an opportunity to learn something and to experience something new. Now I love biking and exploring beautiful places, I enjoy pushing the limits, I even bike at home to practice and become faster. This new passion, this new me, was the result of my decision to do the things I thought I couldn’t do.

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So, throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – H. Jackson Brown Jr., P.S. I Love You

The same happened when I learned to ski last year, on the first day I fell every single time, I had bruises all over my body, but I kept pushing forward because I wanted to learn, I fell in love with skiing from the beginning even if it was painful, and that is the key to do something you think you cannot do, you need to really want to do it, you need to like, enjoy and love what you are doing otherwise what is the point anyways? And after a few days, I got better and better and I found out a new passion! This year I even tried what is called “Ski Touring” where you go up the mountain with your skis on your feet and you go down skiing. I went up and down the mountains of different heights in different weather conditions. In the beginning, it was so difficult, I thought I would never ever try to go up a mountain on my own again, my heart was beating like crazy and I felt tired and frustrated but day after day I became better and better and being on the top of a mountain with that amazing view and going down feeling the snow under my skis is a wonderful sensation I got to experience thanks to the fact I decided to do what I thought I couldn’t do.

The thing is that if you don’t dare to do what you think you cannot do then you will never know what you could achieve and some things can only be achieved if you are willing to go through the pain and suffering of doing what you think you cannot do in order to achieve extraordinary things!

Do the things you thought you cannot do and explore new horizons, discover a whole new world of opportunities, and live your life to the fullest!

¿Deberíamos volver a la normalidad?

Reflexiones

Debido al brote de Coronavirus, nuestra normalidad ha cambiado y nuestra realidad ha dejado de ser la que era, pero en el medio de la crisis, la humanidad ha recibido algo muy especial: más tiempo. En nuestra frenéticas vidas compuestas por largas horas de trabajo, estudios, tareas, eventos sociales y responsabilidades, el tiempo es un lujo. Ahora, la mayoría de nosotros hemos sido forzados a permanecer en casa debido al brote de COVID-19, el cual ha afectado a la mayoría de los humanos alrededor del mundo, pero esta situación nos ha dado tiempo, a lo mejor no tiempo para viajar, tiempo para ir a festivales, eventos, conciertos, centros comerciales, parques, o tiempo para juntarnos con amigos o familiares pero hemos recibido tiempo para pensar, meditar y reflexionar, y la pregunta es, ¿Deberíamos realmente volver a la normalidad luego de que se termine la pandemia?

Era casi el fin de la temporada alta aquí en el norte de Noruega. Muchos viajeros de todo el mundo vienen durante invierno a visitar y descubrir esta mágica ciudad. Para mí, trabajando en el área de turismo, con 10 horas de trabajo por día, el tiempo era definitivamente un lujo. De repente, de un día para el otro, se había terminado todo. No porque la temporada había terminado sino porque nuestras vidas tuvieron un cambio radical debido al Coronavirus. Las fronteras se cerraron y una cuarentena de 14 días se estableció para todos aquellos que visitaban el país. Esto significo el abrupto cierre temporario de todas las oficinas relacionadas con el turismo en la ciudad y alrededor del mundo. Así, pase de no tener tiempo a tener todo el tiempo del mundo.

Es común sentirse desorientado cuando tu vida cambia abruptamente y uno generalmente busca desesperadamente volver a la normalidad, eso significa, volver a lo conocido, lo que nos brinda seguridad, nuestra zona de confort. Sin embargo, decidí aprovechar esta oportunidad. Finalmente tenía tiempo, algo que desesperadamente buscaba tener. Tenía tiempo para relajarme, para comer un desayuno apropiado, tiempo para disfrutar la hermosa vista desde mi ventana, tiempo para hacer ejercicio, tiempo para preparar todo tipo de comidas caseras, mirar una buena película, jugar juegos de mesa, leer, pasar tiempo sentada en el sillón con mi gata en mi regazo, pasar tiempo dialogando con las personas con las que vivo o con amigos y familia a través de internet, pero sobre todo, tenía tiempo para pensar, para preguntarme, para contemplar, para considerar, para reflexionar.

“Las crisis y puntos muertos cuando ocurren por lo menos tienen esta ventaja: nos obligan a pensar.” – Jawaharlal Nehru

Un día me estaba preguntando qué pasará cuando la pandemia se haya terminado, la pregunta que retumbaba en mi cabeza era: ¿cómo volvemos a la normalidad luego del Coronavirus? Todos los posibles escenarios en mi cabeza sonaban complicados, imposibles o completamente locos. Pero luego comencé a considerar el hecho de que a lo mejor volver a la normalidad no es la mejor idea. A lo mejor, la humanidad puede usar esta crisis como beneficio, como una forma de cambiar todo para mejor. A lo mejor, podemos hacer buen uso de este tiempo que se nos ha otorgado para reconsiderar lo que “normalidad” realmente debería ser y tomar este tiempo para cambiar la forma en que pensamos, actuamos y nos comportamos en nuestras vidas diarias.

Es durante los tiempos de crisis cuando nuestras vidas son formadas, y nosotros podemos ser participantes activos de la formación de nuestras vidas dando lo mejor de nosotros para darle la mejor forma posible. La verdad es que mientras hay circunstancias que no podemos controlar, siempre existe la forma de hacer algo para mejorar nuestra circunstancia actual y nuestro futuro. Por lo tanto, es importante no perder la oportunidad que tenemos para cambiar aquellas cosas que no son tan “normales” y así, aprender de las lecciones escondidas detrás de esta crisis. Tenemos ahora la oportunidad de mejorar nuestra vida y la vida de otros.

“En cada crisis, duda o confusión, tome el camino más alto: el camino de la compasión, el coraje, la comprensión y el amor.” – Amit Ray

Tenemos tiempo para decidir si realmente queremos volver a la normalidad o aquello que consideramos normal, también tenemos tiempo para decidir cambiar ahora algo sobre nuestra vida para mejorarnos a nosotros mismos, para cambiar malos hábitos y comportamientos, por ejemplo, esta crisis nos ha enseñado que con el fin de tener éxito y garantizar nuestra existencia nosotros debemos cuidarnos entre nosotros sin importar la nacionalidad, estatus social, genero o edad. Es ahora más que nunca cuando debemos cuidarnos a nosotros mismos y a otros con el fin de evitar más muertes innecesarias, más sufrimiento y ponerle así un fin a esta crisis. Este enemigo invisible llamado COVID-19 nos ha enseñado que al final, si no estamos juntos como unidad sin importar de donde venimos, dejaremos de existir. Este virus nos ha enseñado que la amabilidad, el respeto, la compasión y el amor entre humanos fue, es y sera la clave para nuestro éxito. Separados somos débiles, insignificantes, vulnerables, pero unidos somos fuertes y poderosos.

Utilicemos este tiempo para pensar en todas aquellas cosas a las cuales vale la pena regresar, ya sea estar rodeado de familia y amigos, viajar por el mundo, ir a tu festival favorito, al cine, o practicar tu deporte favorito, disfrutar de la naturaleza y la vida con libertad, y también pensemos sobre todas aquellas cosas que deberíamos cambiar como por ejemplo, ser más compasivos y amables entre nosotros y el planeta, cuidar más de nuestra salud y la salud de otros, apreciar más las pequeñas cosas, siendo más agradecidos con todo lo que tenemos, valorar más nuestro tiempo en la tierra sabiendo que un día estamos acá y que otro día a lo mejor no, entender que tan importante es pasar tiempo en casa con nuestra familia, hijos, mascotas, teniendo tiempo para cocinar, jugar, amar, otra que pasar tanto tiempo corriendo detrás de cosas sin importancia.

“El mundo es mi país, toda la humanidad son mis hermanos, y hacer el bien es mi religión.” – Thomas Paine

La verdad es que la mayoría de lo que llamamos “normal” no es tan normal en lo absoluto y esta en realidad destruyéndonos, destruyendo a otros seres de este mundo y a nuestro planeta más que el Coronavirus. Por lo tanto, es tiempo ahora de reconsiderar nuestras acciones. Nuestro egoísmo, celos, negatividad, codicia, critica, racismo, malos hábitos y nuestro consumismo nos está separando de nosotros mismos y estamos lentamente destruyendo animales y el planeta, por lo tanto, lo que hacemos ahora para cambiar lo que hemos aceptado como normal determinara nuestro futuro y las lecciones aprendidas durante este periodo va a ayudar a nuestra evolución, uniéndonos como humanos y preparándonos para cualquier otra crisis.

Utilicemos este tiempo extra para nuestro beneficio, enfoquemos nuestra mente y pensemos a que partes de nuestra “normalidad” queremos regresar, que partes valen la pena regresar y como queremos que nuestra “nueva normalidad” sea. ¡La vida como la conocíamos ha cambiado y nunca sera la misma, entonces creemos juntos un nuevo y mejor destino!

Should we go back to normal?

Inspirational, Reflections, Soul Awakening

Due to the Coronavirus outbreak, our normal lives have changed and our reality has ceased to be what it was, but in the midst of this crisis, the humanity has been provided with something very special: More time. In our hectic lives filled by long working hours, studies, tasks, social gatherings and responsibilities time is a luxury. Now, most of us have been forced to stay home due to the COVID-19 outbreak that has severely affected humans around the world, but this situation has given us time, perhaps not time to travel, to go to festivals, events, concerts, shopping malls, parks or time to gather with friends and family but we have got time to think, meditate and reflect, and the question is, should we really go back to “normal” after the pandemic?

It was almost the end of the high season here in the north of Norway. Many travelers from around the world come during winter to visit and discover this magical winter wonderland. For me, working in the tourism area, having 10 hours shifts, time was definitely a luxury. All of a sudden, from one day to another, it was over. Not because the season was over but because our lives had a radical change due to the Coronavirus pandemic. The borders were closed and a 14 days quarantine was established for those visiting the country. That meant the abrupt temporary closing of all tourism offices in the city and around the world. Just like that, I went from having almost no time to have all the time in the world.

It is not uncommon to feel disoriented when your life changes abruptly and one immediately and desperately rush to go back to normal, that means, back to what we know, what gives us that sense of security, our comfort zone. However, I decided to embrace this opportunity. I finally had time, something I was desperately looking for. I had time to relax, to have a proper breakfast, to enjoy the beautiful view from my window, to exercise, to make all kind of homemade meals, watch a good movie, play board games, read, chill in the sofa for hours with my cat on my lap, have a nice and long talk with the people around me at my house or via the internet, but above all, I had time to think, to wonder, to contemplate, to consider, to reflect.

“Crises and deadlocks when they occur have at least this advantage, that they force us to think.” – Jawaharlal Nehru

One day I was wondering what will happen to the world after the pandemic is over, the question resounding in my head was: How do we go back to normal after the Coronavirus? All the possible scenarios in my head sounded complicated, unrealistic or completely crazy. But then I started considering the fact that maybe going back to “normal” is not the best idea. Perhaps, humanity can use this crisis as a benefit, as a way to change everything for the better. Perhaps, we can have good use of the time that was given to us to reconsider what normal really is and take this time to change the way we think, we behave and we act in our daily lives.

It is in the time of crisis when our lives are shaped, and we can be active participants in the shaping of our new lives by giving our best to shape it in the way we want it to be. The truth is that while there are some circumstances that cannot be controlled we can always do something to improve our current circumstances and our future. Therefore, it is important to not miss the opportunity we have to change those things that are not so “normal” and to learn the lessons behind this crisis. We have now the chance to improve our life and the life of others.

“In every crisis, doubt or confusion, take the higher path – the path of compassion, courage, understanding and love.” – Amit Ray

We have the time to decide if we really want to go back to our normal lives or what we considered normal, we can decide now to change something about our life, to improve ourselves, to change bad habits and behaviors, for example, this crisis has taught us that in order to succeed and to guarantee our existence we need to take care of each other regardless our nationality, social status, genre, and age. It is now more than ever that we need to take care of ourselves and others in order to avoid more unnecessary deaths, more suffering and put an end to this crisis. This invisible enemy called COVID-19 has taught us that in the end, if we are not together as one no matter where we come from, we will cease to exist. This virus has taught us that kindness, respect, compassion, and love between humans was, is and will always be the key to our success. Separated we are weak, insignificant, vulnerable, but united we are strong and powerful.

Let’s use this time to think about what are the things worth returning to such as being around your family and friends, traveling around the world, going to your favorite festival, to the movies or train and enjoy your favorite sport, enjoying nature and life with freedom and let’s also think about those things we might want to change such as being more compassionate and kind with others and the planet, to take care of our health and the health of others, to appreciate more the little things being more grateful with everything we have, to value our time on earth knowing that one day we are here and the other we might not, to understand how important it is to spend time at home with our family, kids, pets, having time to cook, to play, to love each other rather than always rushing after things that do not really matter.

“The World is my country, all mankind are my brethren, and to do good is my religion.” – Thomas Paine

The truth is that most of what we call “normal” is not so normal at all and it is indeed destroying ourselves, all other beings in the world and the planet more than the Coronavirus. Therefore, it is time now to reconsider our actions. Our selfishness, jealousy, negativity, our greed, criticism, racism our bad habits and consumerism is separating our selves from each other and we are slowly destroying animals and the environment, therefore, what we do now to change what we have accepted as normal will determine our future and the lessons learned during this period can help to our evolution, uniting us as humans and being prepared for any other crisis.

Let’s use this extra time to our benefit by thinking and focusing on which parts of your normal life you want to return, which parts are worth returning to and how do you want the “new normal” to look like. Life as we knew changed and will never be the same, let’s create together a brand new destiny!

La vida fluye como un rio

Camino hacia el exito, Reflexiones

La vida es como un río, siempre está fluyendo, puede fluir lentamente o rápidamente, puede cambiar su curso pero nada puede detener la corriente de agua. Lo mismo sucede con la vida, no hay circunstancias externas que puedan detener el curso de la vida. Una cosa es segura: La vida siempre continua. Por lo tanto, tenemos diferentes opciones: Podemos movernos al ritmo de la corriente, podemos quedarnos quietos como rocas mientras la vida nos pasa por encima o podemos luchar contra la corriente. La pregunta es, ¿Vas a continuar hacia adelante con tu vida e ir en búsqueda de un mejor futuro, o te vas a quedar estancado en ese lugar oscuro y sin esperanza? Tú creas tu propia suerte, tú creas tu futuro, tú eliges.

Sin importar qué suceda, la vida siempre continua. De acuerdo con Wikipedia, el mundo tiene alrededor de 4.6 billones de años, pero la vida en la tierra comenzó después, alrededor de 3.8 billones de años, y nosotros los humanos hemos habitado la tierra solo hace unos cientos de miles de años. Desde el comienzo, han habido diferentes tipos de circunstancias que han afectado la vida en la tierra de muchas formas diferentes, pero de una forma u otra, ella siempre ha encontrado la forma de seguir adelante.

Desde que nacemos, los humanos pasamos por diferentes circunstancias a través de nuestras vidas. Como un río enfrenta diferente circunstancias externas, también lo hace la vida, y es así que estamos expuestos a diferentes cambios en nuestras vidas. Estos tipos de cambios tienen diferentes impactos en nuestras vidas, pero no depende realmente de una circunstancia sino qué depende del modo en el que una persona reacciona ante una circunstancia en particular.

“Cuando los pájaros bonitos hayan volado, y te sientas herido y solo, sé fuerte y sigue adelante, y recuerda que la vida continúa.” – Mouloud Benzadi

En este hermoso, y a veces turbulento río llamado vida, podremos encontrar muchas diferentes situaciones a lo largo del camino, a veces las condiciones externas van a ser favorables para nosotros y nos empujaran hacia adelante en la corriente de la vida, pero a veces, estas circunstancias no serán favorables, y nos golpearan tan fuerte que nos harán caer, los que nos provocara angustia y dolor. ¿Pero nos detendrá? ¿Nos destruirá? La verdad es que no hay una respuesta correcta, porque nosotros determinaremos la respuesta con nuestra reacción ante lo que ha sucedido y las acciones que tomaremos después. ¿Es posible entonces seguir adelante? Sí, definitivamente.

Lo que sea que nos haya sucedido, no podemos viajar al pasado y cambiarlo. Sin importar cuan fuerte luchemos contra la corriente, nunca podremos volver al punto que deseamos llegar para poder cambiar algo que ya ha sucedido, por lo tanto, lo único que podemos hacer para cambiar nuestra circunstancia actual es seguir hacia adelante en la corriente de la vida. Nuestro presente es el lugar donde creamos las bases de nuestro futuro. Cada día puedes decidir comenzar de nuevo.

“Los accidentes ocurren. Nuestros huesos se quiebran, nuestra piel se desgarra, nuestros corazones se rompen. Nos quemamos, nos ahogamos, nos mantenemos vivos. ”- Moïra Fowley-Doyle

Podemos pelear contra la corriente y terminar extenuados, podemos negarnos a seguir adelante, permaneciendo estancados en una realidad miserable por siempre, o podemos decidir seguir hacia adelante al ritmo de la corriente. La vida no se detiene, ni regresa hacia atrás, sino que siempre sigue para adelante, y nosotros tenemos el poder de decidir qué hacer con nuestras vidas. ¿Vamos a permitir qué circunstancias externas nos definan, que definan nuestra vida? ¿Vamos a permitir que una circunstancia nos paralice? ¿Vamos a permitir que nos destruya a nosotros y a todos nuestras metas y sueños? ¿O seremos los creadores de nuestro destino, creyendo en la vida, en Dios, en nosotros mismos? La decisión es nuestra. La vida con o sin nosotros seguirá siempre hacia adelante. Nada permanecerá como esta, la vida fluye como un rio, cambia, evoluciona y sigue hacia adelante, y si seguimos hacia adelante con ella, sin importar que tan oscura sea tu vida en este momento, siempre recuerda que el sol nunca desaparece, solo se esconde, y tarde o temprano, la luz y el calor de una mañana soleada entrara por tu ventana.

¡Deja el pasado, vive en el presente, crea tu futuro y siempre avanza en la dirección de tus sueños!