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Doing The Things You Thought You Cannot Do

How many times have you said to yourself or others “I cannot do this”? How many times an idea in your mind was quickly erased by the words “I cannot do that”? How many times the idea of not being able to do something prevented you from moving forward? The truth is that just a simple statement like that one, with such simple words, can completely limit yourself, by closing every door to new challenges and opportunities. In order to move forward, we must do the things we thought we cannot do.

About doing the things we think we cannot do

You could have the best idea, or you could have been offered a wonderful new opportunity or experience, you could be in the middle of a challenging moment in your life, but if you let your mind to make you believe that you cannot do something then you will be limiting yourself, erasing from your life the opportunity to become stronger, more confident, the opportunity to experience something new, the opportunity to see how far you can get despite the fears. In order to erase that concept from your mind created by your fears, you will need to stop and look to the fears in the face, you will need to express to them “I am not afraid anymore” and you need to prove it by doing the things you once thought you couldn’t do. 

It is important to overcome the most dangerous fear of all: The fear of failure. The fear of not being able to achieve what we want to achieve. We need to understand the fact that failure is not a dead-end but a detour. It only pushes us through a different path, and if we are committed enough as to keep moving forward we can use it as an advantage to become stronger and wiser, and sometimes what we learn along the way is more valuable and important to our success than the destination itself. Sometimes we even end up in a better place than the one we have imagined before. Therefore, do not fear failure and you would have taken already the first step towards doing the things you thought you cannot do.

“You always pass failure on your way to success.” – Mickey Rooney

The interesting part of doing the things you think you cannot do is learning that after you do them, you cease to be the person you used to be before, this change is inevitable, but it is rewarding because you not only become better, but you come to realize how capable you are, it gives you self-confidence, it widens your horizon and makes you realize that sometimes what we fear is not as bad as we thought it was, and even if we do not succeed, as I said before if you do not let failure to stop you but you embrace that failure and you use it as an advantage to improve yourself, then nothing can stop you. 

In my life, I have learned that once you decide to look to your fears in the face then nothing can stop you. I have learned that deciding to do what you think you cannot do is the best way to make your fears disappear, and this becomes a lifestyle, you become stronger and confident and then nothing can stop you. I have tried, I have failed, I have tried again, but I have never ever let anything stop me from having new experiences, from learning something new, from becoming better. Challenges can be our best opportunity to reveal the best version of ourselves.  It is important to accept the fact that maybe we are not going to achieve what we want or maybe it is going to be more difficult than we thought, you need to learn to accept failure, become its friend, do not be afraid of it, and do not fear disappointment, if you are able to accept the life that were given to you and deal with the current circumstances with the best of your abilities then you will live your life in a completely different way.

“He who is not every day conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

After high school I tried searching for a career that would make me happy, I went from wanting to be a police officer to a graphic designer, I failed both but I do not regret trying because now I know that both options were not for me and that took me to new and exciting paths. After that, I decided to start traveling, I was scared to travel thousands of kilometers to a new country with a totally different language, and  to learn a new language is very challenging, to be part of a new culture is also very challenging, it was tough and scary but rewarding at the same time, it opened many doors and change my life completely, now, at my 31 years of age I decided to go back to the University to study Psychology, perhaps I will fail or maybe I will be successful, probably will face my dear friend called “failure” again but that means that I am trying, that I am experiencing something new, that I am pushing the limits and that is living!

Last year I got my first road bike, I changed the pedals to those where you can click your fancy road bike shoes so your feet stay stuck on the pedals, on the first attempt I ended up in the floor like a bag of potatoes but I stood up and tried again until I got used to them. I started biking around, mainly from home to work sometimes just max 15km a day, and one day I decided to go around an island, around 94km. I said to myself “You are absolutely bananas!” but once again I decided to do the things I thought I couldn’t do. Worst case scenario I would just stop and turn back. In the end, I did it all the way to the end. It took me more than 5 hours, my legs were in such pain I could barely pedal, once I arrived I was so happy I started crying, I couldn’t believe that a person like me, a couch potato would do such a thing, but I did it and that changed everything. Now I do the same route like a piece of cake and I continue pushing my limits, and even though I wouldn’t pass the first stage of the Tour de France, if someone would ask me to join, I would definitely try, why? Because if you do not try to do the things you think you cannot do then you are not living your life to the fullest because even if you fail you will still gain something if you are willing to see failure not as a dead-end but an opportunity to learn something and to experience something new. Now I love biking and exploring beautiful places, I enjoy pushing the limits, I even bike at home to practice and become faster. This new passion, this new me, was the result of my decision to do the things I thought I couldn’t do.

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So, throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – H. Jackson Brown Jr., P.S. I Love You

The same happened when I learned to ski last year, on the first day I fell every single time, I had bruises all over my body, but I kept pushing forward because I wanted to learn, I fell in love with skiing from the beginning even if it was painful, and that is the key to do something you think you cannot do,  you need to really want to do it, you need to like, enjoy and love what you are doing otherwise what is the point anyways? And after a few days, I got better and better and I found out a new passion! This year I even tried what is called “Ski Touring” where you go up the mountain with your skis on your feet and you go down skiing. I went up and down the mountains of different heights in different weather conditions. In the beginning, it was so difficult, I thought I would never ever try to go up a mountain on my own again, my heart was beating like crazy and I felt tired and frustrated but day after day I became better and better and being on the top of a mountain with that amazing view and going down feeling the snow under my skis is a wonderful sensation I got to experience thanks to the fact I decided to do what I thought I couldn’t do.

The thing is that if you don’t dare to do what you think you cannot do then you will never know what you could achieve and some things can only be achieved if you are willing to go through the pain and suffering of doing what you think you cannot do in order to achieve extraordinary things!

Do the things you thought you cannot do and explore new horizons, discover a whole new world of opportunities, and live your life to the fullest!

The Secret to Success: Keep Moving Forward

Through out our lifetime we pass through different stages. Periods of extreme joy, calmness and peace, periods of chaos and brutal struggle, and in order to emerge victorious from the different stages of life we have to keep moving forward. We have within ourselves the necessary tools to overcome any obstacle and achieve all our goals and dreams. One of the secrets to success is always keep moving forward.

 

 

"If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward." - Martin Luther King Jr

 

 

I am an unstoppable dreamer looking always for new adventures, and leaving my comfort zone is something I have done from the past years. Every time I do it, it does not take long until I am face to face to the harsh reality of being in that place of uncertainty, but always God and life find their ways to show me that we must always keep moving forward, because we have within ourselves the power, the strength and the courage to overcome any obstacle, and that is one of the secrets to success.

A few days ago I was kayaking for the first time. I got in a single kayak, the guide pushed me into the water, and there I was, sitting alone in a small boat in the middle of the sea. We started the tour, paddling around the beautiful scenery that Norway has to offer. In the beginning the sea was very calm, then the wind started to blow against us and paddling through those waters became a very hard task. I knew I was trying very hard to move,  but I felt as I was not moving, exhausted I kept paddling, moving forward through turbulent waters, and suddenly it was calm again and everything became much easier. In some moments I simply stopped paddling and I took the time to enjoy the surroundings.

 

“We develop our character muscles by overcoming challenges and obstacles.” – Stephen Covey

 

In that state of peace and relax I discovered a hidden message. Life was using that sea kayaking tour to explain me that in order to move forward in life one must keep paddling even in the worst of conditions. It taught me that life can sometimes be a calm and relaxed experience but sometimes can become a little harsh, but one has their own paddles, that is to say, our strength and courage that will help us move through the currents of life.

Life always finds its ways to teach you helpful lessons that can help you become the best version of yourself, specially when leaving your comfort zone which can happen even without your approval. Life sometimes pushes us away from our comfort zone in a very brutal way for a reason that can be very hard to understand in the beginning, and sometimes like a kamikaze we leave our comfort zone for no reason at all or to pursue a dream, a desire, a fantasy.

 

“Don’t waste your time looking back. You’re not going that way.” – Ragnar Lothbrok (Vikings)

 

Moving away from that place of comfort always means that you will have to face many challenges. They can be very simple or very hard ones, but in the end all of these challenges will make you grow and evolve in a personal and spiritual way. Always remember to keep your eyes in the horizon, keep moving forward, and don’t look back, you are not going there anyway.

 

 

 

Keep paddling through life, keep moving forward with strength, commitment, perseverance and courage, because that is the secret to success!

A New Year: Hundreds of New Opportunities

Why the New Year is a motive to celebrate? Because life will give us 365 new opportunities to enjoy life and be happy, that is why in this time of the year our hearts are filled with dreams, desires and hope. Deep inside our hearts, we believe that this one could be the year where we can do everything we have always wanted to do, making our dreams and goals become a reality, and that is in fact true. The question will be: Are you 100% committed to give your best this year? The answer will determine your future.

 

"Tomorrow, is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one." - Brad Paisley 

 At 00:00 am on the first day of the year, we raise our glasses and make a toast for the New Year, and with joy we look into the future with hope. We remember the year that is gone but we look forward to the next year. Most of us think about all the things we wanted to do that we haven’t done in the last year and we wish that this year we can do all the things we have always wanted to do. That is the spirit of this time of the year, the spirit of believing that everything is possible.

The problem is that after a few days, that spirit is overshadowed by our daily routine, worries, fears and problems, and once again we leave aside all our goals, desires and dreams. Therefore, we leave everything to chance and when that happens there is a large percentage of probabilities that we are not going to do most of the things we wanted to do. That means, that we sabotage our own life, forbidding us to live the life of our dreams.

 

 

 

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney

 

 

 

The truth is we do not know all the things that will happen to us, but that doesn’t mean we should leave everything to chance, but we should do everything we can in order to create the kind of life that will bring us the greatest joy and happiness. Therefore, we must use these days to reflect about the year that is ending, that way we can welcome the New Year more prepared, being the creators of our future and not simply gambling about our life. It is important to know that we are where we are now because we wanted that way, therefore, if we want a different outcome, we should do something in a different way.

Let’s take this time to relax and reflect about this year. Have you done most of the things you have always wanted? Have you reached most of your goals? Have you invested most of the time in yourself? Have you been most of the time happy and joyful? What could you have done different? Have you learned something new? Have you grown up as a person? Are you happy with the person you have been? Have you worked hard in order to be a few step closer from your dream? Have you truly enjoyed your life? My friend, that is the most important question of all, so I will write it one more time: Have you truly enjoyed your life?

 

 

 

“Change your life today. Don’t gamble on the future, act now, without delay.” – Simone de Beauvoir

 

 

 

That is important, because no matter what happened, if you have been able to enjoy your life, that is all that matters. Life is meant to be happy with its good and bad things. The good things are the best but the bad things are lessons, opportunities and tests that life gives us in order to take out the best of ourselves. Think about all those questions, take your time to relax and reflect and then leave the past, forget what doesn’t serve you, remember the lessons, learn from your mistakes and keep all the good things from this year, and with hope and confidence move into this new year with joy.

Once we finish, we must focus on the year that is about to arrive, and the most important question will be: What do you really want to happen to you this year?  Once you know the answer, think about these questions: What can you do now to improve your future? What can you do this year to get closer to your dreams? Which is the first step? What can you do in order to become the best version of yourself? Think about the things that make you happy and then go out and make it happen. Think about them and write them, and take the actions that will make everything possible.

 

 

 

There is no right time, the time is always now. The good thing is that it doesn’t really matter in what time of the year we are, because every new day is a new opportunity to do the things we always wanted to do and be happy. There is no time to waste, time flies, time is limited, so go out and make this year a wonderful year!

Take the First Step

In order to reach our destination, we must begin the journey by taking the first step. Any victory depends on that first step. It is the first action, the first move, the first try, what can lead us to the place where we want to get. That first step makes everything possible and our following actions make it all come true.

 "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." - Lao Tzu

 

Let’s analyse this: Everyone wants to win the jackpot, but how many of us actually goes and buy the ticket? The truth is that only a few of us do that, but why? The reason is simple: Our thoughts and beliefs creates boundaries between our dreams and our reality. We dream but believe they are impossible or too difficult to become a reality, so we give up even before trying.

If you believe that the chances of winning are almost zero it is very likely that you are not going to buy the ticket, so you are not even going to try, or you will try, and if you don’t win, you will use that as a way to prove that you were right about that winning was impossible, and you will finally give up. You can see here that the first step is crucial as it determines everything.

 

 

 

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt

 

 

 

But why the first step is so crucial? How is it possible that it can determine everything? Simple. There are two different outcomes that makes the first step so vital: If we decide to not take that first step, we decide to lose by default. But if we take that first step, it means that we are in the correct way to make our dreams become a reality. If we continue to move forward, step by step, not giving up, overcoming adversity, with perseverance, commitment and faith, it is likely that we reach the desired destination.

Therefore, the first step will be to buy the ticket. What I mean here is that we have to believe in our dreams and go out and make them happen. In order to make your dreams and goals become a reality, you will have to take the first action that will get you closer to the place where you want to be. The first step will determine whether your dream will remain a dream or if it will become true.

 

 

 

“Take the first step, and your mind will mobilize all its forces to your aid. But the first essential is that you begin. Once the battle is startled, all that is within and without you will come to your assistance.” – Robert Collier

 

 

 

No dream will become a reality if we do not take actions. It is beautiful to dream, but what is hard is to take actions to make them a reality. You are not going to win the jackpot if you don’t buy the ticket, that is to say, you are not going to get to the place where you want to be, or get what you want to have if you don’t take the first step. It is our decision to act what creates our destiny and it is our inaction what leaves everything to chance.

If you want to be a doctor, an engineer, a lawyer, a graphic designer, or whatever you want to be, you will have to take the first step and enrol in the university. If you want to learn a new language, you will have to take the first step and look for a course in your city or online. If you want to lose weight you will have to take the first step and make the decision to change your diet. If you hate your job and you want another, you will have to take the first step and find another one. If you want to be a professional athlete, you will have to go and train. If you want to quit smoking, you will have to decide to smoke less cigarettes a day or not buy any more cigarettes. There is always a first step that makes what we wish and dream more real.

 

 

 

 “The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and starting on the first one.” – Mark Twain

 

 

 

It is the first step what get us closer to our dream, and it is our perseverance and commitment to make it happen what makes it all possible. Every single person who has been successful at doing or getting something has once decided to take the first step and then work until they succeeded.  So, what is your dream? What do you want to do? Who do you want to be? What do you want to get? Where do you want to get? If you know the answers to those questions it means that the moment to start is right now. The key is to do step by step what we should do in order to achieve what we want. We have to make the decision to take the first step and start changing our lives.

 

 

My question now is: Have you taken the first step? If you have done it, congratulations! You are one step closer to your goal, keep moving and don’t give up, and if you haven’t done it yet, go ahead and fearlessly take the first step

Do You Really Believe In Your Dreams?

Do you really believe in your dreams? Because dreaming is not enough, in order to make your dreams come true, you must believe in them with all your heart. If you truly believe in your dreams, there is nothing that can stop you from making them become a reality.

 

 "Imagine with all your mind, believe with all your heart, achieve with all your might." #believe

 

We all have dreams, but only few of us are able to turn them into a reality, and why this happens? Well, the reasons are varied, but one of the main reasons is because we don’t really believe in our dreams, within ourselves, in that place we do not know, where our beliefs are kept, we hold the belief that our dreams are impossible or difficult to come true, and those beliefs actually sabotage our dreams. No matter what we do, we continue to fail in the attempt to make them a reality, because somehow we know they are impossible, and that belief creates our reality.

Believing is one of the main tools we have to create the life we want and if we believe in something as impossible, that belief will help create the fact that our reality is not a place where dreams are possible and our dreams will remain dreams until the end of our days on this earth, without the possibility to actually live the life we have always dreamed of.

 

 

 

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

 

 

 

To a greater or lesser extent we are all dreamers, but because of the limitations we all have in our mind because of our fears imposed by the outside world, only few of us have the possibility to live the life of our dreams, and that’s because those people have not only dreamed, but also believed, not only believed but also they have done everything they could to turn their dreams into a reality. For those people nothing is impossible, they dreamed and they believed with all their might even when nobody believed in them, those people are unstoppable dream hunters, and they never stopped until they succeeded.

Everyone can dream but not everyone can truly believe, and it doesn’t matter how much you dream and how many dreams you have, if you don’t believe in them, if you don’t believe they are possible, they never will be, because nobody is going to try to make something impossible into possible, for instance, you are not going to jump from a building expecting to fly when you know deep inside your heart that flying is impossible, you are not even going to try, you dream of flying, but you know it’s impossible, so you will do nothing, end of story.

 

 

 

“To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France

 

 

 

Believing makes everything possible, because it actually changes your mental programming which has been programmed with a very narrow perspective, and by changing your beliefs, you change your whole life. When you actually start believing in your dreams, you broaden your perspective and what was once impossible for you, it is now possible, and so, your dreams start to feel more real.

So, do you really believe in your dreams? Try to be honest with yourself – Close your eyes for a second and think about your dream, can you see it? Well, now try to see yourself in your dream, visualize it; make it real, how does it look like? How does it feel? It feels great, isn’t it? Well, now look around you, and try to look yourself at the mirror, can you imagine that person you are seeing capable of achieving anything? Do you believe in that person? Yes? And so do you believe in your dream? Do you believe it’s possible? So what are you waiting for? Go out and make it happen!

 

 

 

Dreams are possible for those who dare to believe they can come true. Believe that what you want is possible, and it will! Dream, Believe, Achieve.

The way to the top

The way to the top it’s tough, but it isn’t as tough as living the rest of your life looking it from below and wishing to be there. You will find on the way to the top many difficulties, but it will be worth it, because the view from the top is definitely outstanding.

 

 

"It's easier to go down a hill than up it but the view is much better at the top." - Henry Ward Beecher

 

We all want to reach the top of something, for some of us it can be really high and for others not so much, the important thing is to have the desire to get somewhere, that means we have something that motivates us to become the best version of ourselves so we can reach that top, and that makes us to be truly alive, because if we don’t want to reach anything, if we don’t have dreams and goals and desires, then we are just walking corpses.

So once you have the desire to get to the top, you must make the first step, because that is the most important step, it means that despite all your fears and doubts, you have made the decision to follow your heart, and it requires a lot of courage and strength to do that. It doesn’t matter how slow you go, what really matters is not giving up. Once you start climbing, you can stop and slow down, but never look back until you get to the top.

 

 

 

We just wanna remember the view from the top, the breathtaking moment at the edge of the world, that’s what keeps us climbing and it’s worth the pain, that’s the crazy part, It’s worth anything!” – Meredith Grey

 

 

 

 

Have you ever tried to climb a mountain or a hill? It is never easy, right? Because the way to the top is always full of obstacles, difficulties and hardships, and require a lot of strength to keep going up. There are always things, situations, people who will interfere with our way and will make us want to give up, and you will have to face all your fears through the path, they will try to stop you, the will try to confuse you, and they will try to push you back to the bottom.

There will be moments where you will feel that you can’t stand it anymore, you will feel that you have lost strength and you will feel breathless, but in that moment just close your eyes, disconnect your mind from anything else around you, and just listen to your heart and ask yourself the most powerful question: Why? Why am I doing this? If in that moment you can visualize your dream and you can feel as you have reached the top and if it makes your heart to beat faster and puts a smile on your face, then you will have the answer to that question, and you will know that all that suffering is worth it, and you will stand up and you will keep moving forward with confidence.

 

 

 

“This journey to the top is going to be the most exciting and rewarding trip you’ll ever take!” – Zig Ziglar

 

 

 

Don’t give up and don’t allow your fears to stop you, because they will try to paralyze you, no matter how hard it seems just keep moving forward, it will be tough and you will have to face many difficulties, but it will be worth it!

 

 

It’s a long way to the top if you want to see your dreams become a reality, but with commitment, perseverance, and trust in yourself is possible. You can do it, see you at the top my friends!