Most of the time we give up on life, refusing to become the person we are capable of becoming either because we think that we have miss the opportunity to do so or because we do not believe we can aspire more. We condemn ourselves to live the rest of our lives being the person we are not, believing that we would never become the person we were meant to be for any reason we may have, but the truth is it is never too late to become the person we were meant to be.
Some people know from the very beginning of their lives what they want to do and who they want to become, and they do everything they can in order to become the person they want to become. Some succeed at it, others are still trying. Some people didn’t know what they wanted to and who they wanted to become, and suddenly, magically they realized what they wanted to do, and who they wanted to become, and they did everything in order to achieve it. Some of them succeed at it, some are still trying.
Then there are those people who don’t know at all what they want to do and who they want to become, but they never give up, they never settle, then there are those who may know what they want or not at all but they gave up, they accepted life as it was presented to them, living a life they don’t want, being the person they are not. They refused to keep trying, condemning themselves to a life of failure.
“The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself.” – Mark Caine
I always thought that I was a complete failure; a few years ago I realized I was not. When I was a teenager my life was kind of a disaster. I never fitted in, and I hated myself for that. I was never the kind of girl with lots of friends at school, in fact, I was the one everyone laughed at. I wasn’t the cool kid, the pretty one, the badass or the smart one; I was the shy girl, always sitting in the back of the classroom, crying always in silence. I had no friends, my grades at school were a disaster, my relationship with my family was a complete mess, and the relationship with myself was terrible. I was my worst enemy. I blamed myself for not being capable of being the person that everyone was expecting me to be, always trying to be, always failing at it.
I didn’t know at all what I wanted to do or who I wanted to become, and if I had a small idea, I always destroyed it quickly, simply because I thought I wasn’t good enough, I believed I was a failure, but I wasn’t. I was being the person I needed to be, because that person shaped the person I am now. Today, after 27 years I can say that now I know what I want and who I want to become. I might not be there yet, but oh man, one lesson I had from life is: “Never give up, you never know what you can miss if you do, and if you give life a chance, it will surprise you.”
“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” – E.E. Cumings
I’m not the only one who has waited many years to realize their purpose, and I’m not the only one who is fighting to achieve it. There have been many people that didn’t find success until they were “old” for this society, that the older you are the obsolete you become. That’s bullshit, there is no right time to become the person you meant to be. The first important thing is to believe in yourself, know that you are capable of becoming anything you want, secondly discover your life purpose, and third do everything you can in order to achieve it. Do not worry about time, do not let it stop you.
If you still think that you are not capable of being the person you were meant to be for whatever reason you may have, I will show you a few examples of people who they were doing something completely different before becoming the person they were meant to be. A few examples:
At age 23, Oprah was fired from her first reporting job.
At age 24, Stephen King was working as a janitor and living in a trailer.
At age 27, Vincent Van Gogh failed as a missionary and decided to go to art school.
At age 28, J.K. Rowling was a suicidal single parent living on welfare.
At age 30, Harrison Ford was a carpenter.
At age 30, Martha Stewart was a stockbroker.
Samuel L. Jackson didn’t get his first movie role until he was 41.
Morgan Freeman landed his first MAJOR movie role at age 52.
And there are many other examples out there, just take a look at them, and then think again if it’s really too late to be the person you were meant to be.
“You are never too old to set another goal, or to dream a new dream.” – C.S. Lewis
Some people inherit success, others have to work hard to achieve it, but what really determines one’s success, is the ability to discover the reason of our existence, and live our life according to it. Being the best version of ourselves, doing what we love is the key to a fulfilled life. Do not settle with a life that is less than you deserve, it doesn’t matter where you are, who you are with, what you are doing, you can always become the person you truly want to become, do not let anyone say otherwise.
If you haven’t discovered what you want and who you want to become, don’t worry, if you don’t give up, sooner or later you will discover it. If you already know that but you feel you are far from achieving it, don’t worry, time is an illusion, if you don’t give up, sooner or later success will knock at your door.