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Stepping Into The Unknown

When you decide to step into the unknown, life rewards you with a whole new world of opportunities. It is there where miracles happen, and one day, when you less expect it, like magic, almost instantly, life revolutionize your whole reality, and the impossible becomes possible, what seemed only a fantasy becomes real, you can suddenly touch that what it seemed unreachable, your heartbeat increases, the adrenaline runs through your veins, you feel what you have never felt before, you give a deep breath, and then in that precise moment your soul awakens, you become conscious. You have stepped into the unknown, now the adventure begins.

 

 

"Relinquish your attachment to the known, step into the unknown, and you will step into the field of all possibilities." - Deepak Chopra

 

 

You realize that now you are truly alive, and you understand the meaning of being alive and that feeling connects you with your soul, with your true self and everything else around you. You feel reborn, your soul expands, a strong energy travels all over your body flooding it with happiness, and that strong and deep energy is then released into the world, out to the universe, a new star is born, a whole new world is now in front of you, your awake, you are alive and that is all that matters. 

The unknown holds within the greatest treasures, because it is there, in that particular place where everything is possible, there are no boundaries, it is the place where magic happens but in order to be able to experience the feeling of being in such place one has to be willing to cross the barrier, to leave behind what is known, what is comfortable and be ready to expose yourself to a whole new reality and in order to do this we have to be willing to face our fears, to be ready to take risks, and to go for it, no buts, no maybes, no halfway, all in, deeply, completely, with your whole self. 

 

 

“You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.” – Alan Alda

 

 

That is what I experienced when I decided to turn my whole life around by stepping into the unknown. It takes months to decide and one minute to make it happen, one minute to change your whole life, and then miracles happen. In that moment of decision, of action, life enlightened me, it showed me a world of new opportunities and slowly it whispered: “Go my dear soul, I set you free, go get what makes your soul on fire, the world is yours, discover it, experience it, come back to where you belong, take what you deserve, and be happy.” 

My 30s arrived with doubts and fears, with an old world falling into pieces, burning, disappearing, the afraid of becoming old, a failing marriage, uncertainty, but they also came with a whole new world ahead of me, calling my name, extending a hand from the sky, like if it was God itself, taking my hand, pulling me up from the hole, saving me, and telling me: “There is a whole new world waiting for you, you have wished, here is the answer to your prayer, the life you deserve awaits you”. The unknown, the wild, the miraculous, the impossible was in front of me, and I decided to take it, I wanted to do that what feared me, I wanted to do the things no one thought I could do, I wanted to start again, to dream a new dream, to shape a new life and create a brand new future, I wanted to experience life on a whole new level and then the magic happened. 

 

 

“When you walk to the edge of all the light you have and take that first step into the darkness of the unknown, you must believe that one of two things will happen. There will be something solid for you to stand upon or you will be taught to fly.” – Patrick Overton 

 

 

I was invited to join a 5 days Expedition by the owners of the company I work for as a present for the arrival of the wonderful and scary 30s. The trip consisted in driving your own sled with the company of 6 Alaskan Huskies through the most magical Arctic tundra in all different weather conditions, sleeping in tents, with no modern comfort, rather traveling back in time, to a more primitive kind of lifestyle, the one we lost, the one that connects our soul back to our roots, the one that provides the most wonderful of the feelings, the one that challenges you and makes you realize that the simplest things were, are and will always be the most important thing a human can have. 

With no showers or toilets, no electricity, sleeping in tents surrounded by snow, with the weather changing from a completely clear sky to a snowstorm and furious winds in a matter of seconds, driving the sled with unstoppable and energetic Alaskan Huskies from an easy path to an exhausting uphill to narrow and bumpy trails. After hours on the sleds, we arrived at the different places where we stayed for the night, we needed to unpack the sleds, feed the dogs, build the tents, melt snow to have warm water to drink and water to warm up already made food we carried out in boxes on our sleds, to finally taking out the heavy winter boots and expedition jackets and pants, to find shelter inside a sleeping bag on a tent, in the wilderness, our roof was the sky, our floor the snow, our neighbors: the Huskies, and nature in its more pure state. Waking up in the Arctic, preparing breakfast in the tent, putting on the boots and jackets, and getting ready to put everything back on the sleds to continue the journey into the wild.  With our huskies and sled ready we began the journey again, more fascinating landscapes, more emotions, the feeling of being truly alive, an intense sense of freedom, a deep connection with nature and happiness in its purest state. 

After 5 intense and magical days, and after driving for hours in the most wonderful conditions surrounded by the most amazing landscapes we reached the pickup point where they were waiting for us. The trip was finished but it was not the end but the beginning of a whole new life. I had tears in my eyes, we said goodbye to each other, and especially we gave our respect to the most magical of the beings, the Alaskan Huskies, the ones that with their enthusiasm, their free spirit, their passion, and strength took us for the most wonderful of the trips. 

 

 

“If the sight of the blue skies fills you with joy, if a blade of grass springing up in the fields has power to move you, if the simple things of nature have a message that you understand, rejoice, for your soul is alive.” – Eleonora Duse 

 

 

I was not the same, I was reborn, I understood that I have put myself into a place far away from my comfort zone and that I have succeeded, and I understood that real life happens when you decide to do what you are afraid of doing, or when you do what you truly love, when you enjoy life to the fullest, when you are not afraid of the unknown but you rather embrace it, and you let it surprise you. You discover your true strength, your true self, your true nature and only then you know that the sky is the limit. 

 

 

 

 

In order to experience an extraordinary life, one must be willing to leave the comfort of ordinary life. Leaving the shore, sailing to the unknown, discovering new worlds, making possible the impossible and living life to the fullest! 

Polar Nights: Embracing Darkness

Another year has ended, and a new year has begun. We have left behind our past and we are focused on the new experiences to come, periods of darkness and light may come to your door, but here there is an important lesson for the new year that has begun, and you are the main star. Join me and together let’s find a new key to making this year the most wonderful of all!

 

 

"I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars." - Og Mandino

 

 

Living above the Article Circle, in a beautiful city called Tromsø, in Northern Norway, has not only provided me with fascinating landscapes, amazing nature and unique experiences but it has also taught me two important lessons: The Darkness is temporary, and the light will always find its way to shine again and the second lesson is: The darkness will remain as long as we decide to find our own light, because there is no brighter light than the one we have within ourselves, an unstoppable source of light capable of providing light in the darkest places. What do I mean with this? Let me explain you.

In Tromsø you can experience what is called “The Polar Nights”. During this period that begins on the 21 November and lasts until the 21 January, the Sun remains under the horizon, this means that for two months we cannot see the Sun, only having between 3 to 4 hours of daylight, a beautiful bluish color but no Sun, after those hours you experience full darkness. Can you imagine it? No sun, no light, only darkness. 

 

 

“The real meaning of enlightenment is to gaze with undimmed eyes on all darkness.” – Nikos Kazantzakis

 

 

During this period your body and mind feel tired, you lack Vitamin D, you might feel more depressed and with less energy. From the “Midnight Sun” with 24 hours of daylight in summer to almost 24 hours of darkness. Your mind loses track of time and space, you cannot focus, you are irritable and want to sleep the whole time, and you end up having two options: You either succumb to this period of darkness, ceasing to control your emotions letting sadness, anger, stress, and frustration be part of your daily life or you can decide to make the best out of this period, taking back the control of your emotions providing your own light along the way. 

This does not mean you will not feel sadness, frustration or anger, but you will know that you have the control to transform those emotions into the ones that will make you feel better. Here, in Tromsø, you can see during this period the Northern Lights, the magical green light shining in the dark sky, you can see the stars and the moon most of the time when there is clear sky, you can find the way to see beauty in such darkness, you get extra vitamins, you find the way to feel better, and the most important thing is that you have the power to find light within your own soul, and in the end, darkness is as beautiful as the most wonderful summer days. 

 

 

“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.” – Desmond Tutu

 

 

I learned that actually this period does not always happen between those two months, but it actually can happen at any time and everywhere, it is part of the cycle of life, we can experience during our whole lifetime several periods of “Polar Nights” where we enter a period of complete darkness and we might feel sadness, anger, frustration, we might feel tired and depressed and our whole life may seem to be out of our control, but the key is to see this period as an opportunity rather than a punishment, it is a period to reconnect with whom we really are, it is an opportunity to make our light shine and bring light were there is only darkness. The day you realize that you can control how you feel regardless of your current circumstances, it is the day that you will have mastered the key to a life of less suffering and more joy, less sadness, and more happiness. 

It is important to know that one day the sun will rise again, but, it is more important to know that in the end, it is not the current circumstances what really determines how we are gonna feel, because sadness, feelings of emptiness, depression can happen in the most brighter days, but it is our own strength, courage, perseverance and willing to sparkle the light in our own souls and bring light to our life.

 

 

 

If the sun does not shine, you shine, and if it shines, you shine brighter, because it is your own light, your true self, what makes this world a beautiful place. Shine like the stars, lit your soul and with the fire bring light and warmth to the human hearts! May this New Year be the year you make your soul shine! 

Escaping Reality

As fugitives, we go throughout our lives escaping from our reality, running and hiding from its claws, we seek redemption from this evil reality wandering around alternate realities in order to enter in the sweet realm of dreams where everything is possible. The question is: Are we condemned to live our whole life escaping from reality to encounter short periods of bliss in our dreams or is it possible that we can make dreams become our daily reality?

 

 

"There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality: and then there are some who turn one into the other." - Douglas Hugh Everett

 

 

There is no wonder why most humans constantly seek through different ways to escape reality to enter the realm of dreams. Real life can be oppressing, limiting, boring and destructive, therefore we use different methods to escape from the tedious routines from our daily reality to release ourselves and travel to the place where dreams dwell, that wonderful place where everything is possible.

Oh, how beautiful and magical is that place where we travel with our imagination where anything can happen! In that place, there is no sorrow, no pain, no fear, no judgment, no limitations. There is pure bliss, a complete state of ecstasy that makes us touch the sky with our own hands. We can be whoever we want and do whatever we want, the options are endless, and the perk of having no boundaries is that makes our mind fly freely with our imagination.

 

 

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

 

 

Our reality and that place where dreams are possible, seem to be so distant that makes us feel that there is no way that they could one day meet along the path of our lives and become one. The problem is that we seek to be in the clouds by using earthly things as our way to escape not knowing that in order to reach the sky, we have to first release ourselves from the heavy weight of earthly objects to be able to fly among the stars.

What I mean is, that there is no way we can buy dreams, we might think that money, material possessions, power, fame, alcohol, drugs or whatever humans use to run away from reality can make our dreams come true and make us happy, but even though that can work for a short period of time, dreams can only become true if we create them, first with our imagination and second by making them happen, with ideas, plans, hard work, commitment, perseverance, and faith.

 

 

“All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney

 

 

Why running away from reality when we can create the reality we want to experience? One that can look like our dreams, one that can reflect our desires and one that can bring us the feelings we would like to experience. The first step is by acceptance, we need to stop running away so we can face our reality, once we accept and understand what is around us, we can separate the things we cannot change and those we can, and so focus on all those aspects of our lives that we can change and improve in order to make our dreams become our reality.

Once we understand that we have the potential to create the reality we do want to experience, we automatically change the way we see our reality, and it ceases to be the oppressing cage we thought it was, becoming the realm of dreams where everything is possible, becoming a place of opportunities. Once you accept the current circumstances and change the way you see your reality, then you have to become the person you want to become without being afraid of judgment, when you are no longer afraid of the opinions and criticism of others, you are free to be here and now whatever you wish to become, after that, success is inevitable.

 

 

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” – Arthur Ashe

 

 

Change your thoughts, and you will change your whole life. Dreams and fairy tales are possible only if you believe they are and if you do what you have to do in order to make them happen. Even if some things do not go as planned and adversity knocks our doors, we are the ones that say: “This is not how my story will end, this is how it begins, and here I will start again and continue moving forward!” Can’t you see it? We have been given that power, the power to face all adversity, the power to make this world a better place for all, a place where dreams happen, a place where we can all live happy and fulfilling lives.

 

 

 

 

As John Lennon once said: “You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.” I consider myself an unstoppable dreamer and a tireless advocate of making dreams become a reality. Life is not something we need to run away from, but an opportunity to embrace, an opportunity to make dreams part of our reality!

We Change the World with One Small Action at a Time

Every revolution begins with a small step. Every small action or thought carries the seed of our own success. It is by one small action, by one small thought what can put the world upside down, it is the small details what creates a huge difference and impact on the way human beings live and experience life. One small change can push us forward in the right direction, and the effect will expand and continue without stopping, creating many ripples. Every small action combined will create an impact of massive proportions. Will you accept the challenge? 

 

 

"Great things are done by a series of small things brought together." - Vincent Van Gogh

 

 

One of the main reasons why we tend to fail on the road to success is that we become overwhelmed by how difficult it is to achieve what one desires. The goal normally seems unreachable, rough, distant, or impossible, and because of that, we tend to give up before we even start. Once I wrote that the smalls steps are the ones that push us closer to our dreams and goals making the impossible possible, the unreachable reachable, because the truth is that it is the small actions, carried out day and night, the small thoughts, the small details on every aspect of our lives what creates a revolution, what gives us the power to recreate ourselves anew and gives us the control to create the destiny we wish to obtain.

The problem is that small does not mean easy, and that is what normally tends to stop us from doing that little thing that can change our lives and the lives of others around us. It is important to know that it won’t be easy, nothing that can help us change our life, nothing that can create the life we want to experience and nothing that can give us the reality we wish to experience is going to be easy, therefore, we have to be willing to commit ourselves fully on this project, and accept the fact that the road will be hard and painful, but the result will be worth it.

 

 

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” – Margaret Mead

 

 

What is the main obstacle that can stop us from doing that small change that can change our life and the lives of others? Fear. Fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of the unknown. We are afraid of being rejected by those who think different, we are afraid of being humiliated, we are afraid of not fitting in, we are afraid of failing in the road to our goals and dreams, and we are afraid of not being able to reach the utmost goal what can give us utter disappointment, we are afraid of what will come next, of what is waiting on the other side once we have decided to walk into the unknown.  

Here you can see that the first limitation we find is our own minds dominated by the power of our fears. It is fear the main cause of failure and the one capable to limit the potential we have to create the life we wish to experience and the change we want to create in the world. Knowing this, it is important to not let fear to control our lives, and we do that not by running away, but by facing them and we do so by one small change in our thoughts. Change your thoughts, begin with a small action, face your fears and change the world.

 

 

“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.” – Mother Teresa

 

 

I sometimes find people trying to convince me that small changes are worthless and that the world will never be changed, no matter how hard I try. Looking it from their side, you can see that the phrase “change the world” seems pretty big, and you can see that a small action is far from creating the utmost goal of changing the world, and that is easier to do nothing than to face what seems to be a complete failure.

However, if you look it from the perspective of those who believe they can make a difference, you understand that perhaps the utmost goal will not be achieved by one person and on a specific time, and maybe not even long after we have left this world, but you do not let that to limit you because you know that it is the small actions of every human repeated every day and when they are put together makes the impossible possible.

 

 

“While it may seem small, the ripple effects of small things is extraordinary.” – Matt Bevin

 

 

Everything created by humans was once started by one small thought and action, one small change. Every building was once a drawing on a paper, every small action put together by many different people created the drawing into a reality. The key is to believe that it can be done, and with commitment, perseverance and by one good example we can change the world. You can be today the kind of person that decides to do nothing to change their life and the life of others because it is hard or impossible, and waste your potential or you can be that one person that can begin to change the world one action at a time. Remember that it does not matter how little you think you are doing, every small action is never wasted, in fact, it is by our daily positive, kind, and loving actions what make us heroes. 

 

 

 

 

The world needs more people willing to change the world for the better, we all need more people willing to create a better tomorrow for all of us. Start now, join our side, and together let’s change the world! 

Here Comes the New Year: Are you Ready for New Challenges?

Another year is about to end, and a new year is about to begin. Over 300 days after the beginning of the 2017 and here we are, safe and sound. We all have been through different challenges and battles, we have faced defeat and tasted victory, we have encountered difficulties, learned lessons and survived adversities, and now is the time to pause our hectic, chaotic, sometimes quiet and absolutely beautiful lives for a moment and take the time to reflect, to be in contact to what surround us, to be in a profound connection with our own minds. The new year, 2018, is around the corner, more challenges and opportunities are ahead of you, the question is, are you committed enough as to be the architect of your own destiny or will you leave everything at the mercy of luck?

 

 

 

Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering, 'It will be happier.' - Alfred Lord Tennyson

 

 

 

Another year has passed, and at least for me and I guess for most people too, it passed at the speed of light, another prove that life does not wait for us, it simply passes, at its own pace, its own speed, regardless if we decide to move at its own rhythm or not move at all. For that reason, as life moves and passes minute after minute carrying us forward through the path of our lives whether we want or not, we must then take advantage of our time and seize every minute of our own lives.

During one year, anything can happen. Life can punch you in the face and put you in your knees from one moment to another, putting you in a state of darkness and despair, but also it can provide you with the most wonderful of the feelings. No matter what happened, life will keep passing, and it is in our own hands the decision to move forward with life seizing every minute of our lives, or to remain still while it passes through our faces. Now is the time to leave behind what is not good for us, what we do not deserve, what makes us miserable and takes out the worst in us, as the new year begins, let’s make the choice to create the life we truly deserve and become the best version of ourselves.

 

 

“If you don’t make the time to work on creating the life you want, you’re eventually going to be forced to spend a lot of time dealing with a life you don’t want.” – Kevin Ng

 

 

The bad thing about life is that we cannot travel in time and modify our past, we cannot erase our mistakes nor change our past decisions, the past is out of our hands, however, the good thing about life is that always gives us another opportunity to begin again, to born anew from the ashes like a Phoenix and become the person we were meant to be. For this reason, embrace this New Year with happiness, courage, and commitment, for we can be the creators of our own future. Accept the fact that we cannot always control life circumstances, but indeed, we can always control how we react to those circumstances. Choosing them wisely is the key to live a fulfilled, happy and prosperous life.

Embrace this New Year with your open arms and be ready to accept its challenges. May this New Year be a year of action, do not only wish, dream and hope, but go out and make your dreams become a reality, begin this year by deciding what you really want, make a list with everything you want in this New Year, and then make a plan, take it seriously, as your whole life depended on it, because it does, your life, the life you truly deserve, your dreams and desires depend on you for them to become real. You are their commander-in-chief and you have the power within you to make everything become a reality.

 

 

“The path to success is to take massive, determined actions.”  – Tony Robbins

 

 

Let’s take some time to say goodbye to 2017 and reflect on the good and bad things. Let’s take with us all the lessons and great memories, and with courage let’s embrace 2018 with confidence and commitment, and always remember that greater things are ahead of us, more challenges and opportunities are waiting. The question is: Are you ready to abandon the comfort zone and go for an adventure that could bring you the most rewarding experience? Are you ready to accept the New Year’s challenges? Are you ready to dream more, and do more in order to make them become a reality? Are you ready to create the life that you wish to experience?

 

 

 

 

 

Say yes and accept the challenges! And always remember that if you can dream it, you can do it. Go out and make it happen. May the sorrows be gone with the old year and may the new year bring only happiness, welcome 2018!

We Are All Genius

We live in the kind of world where the members of their society are labelled as if they were merely products that will end up on a store shelf to be selected or discarded according to someone’s needs. The society in where we live condemns you or glorifies you according to the label you possess. Since school, we are categorized with a grade, and that symbol becomes our burden. We believe that our intelligence depends on the amount of excellent grades we get, and that belief tends to create our reality, but the truth is everybody is a genius, with our own personal characteristics and skills, and that is what it makes us unique.

 

 

 

"Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." - Albert Einstein

 

 

 

We are all the same, we are all one, we are all humans, we are all mortals, however, we are also different as we all have different personalities, characteristics, skills, qualities, beliefs and opinions, and that creates unique beings, as human’s fingers, where they might all look the same, but in the end they all have their own distinctive and unique pattern what creates different fingerprints. For that reason, we all possess a particular talent and skills that create a different kind of geniuses. Therefore, a genius cannot be described in one way, but in several ways.

All my life I struggled to find my own talent; at school I wasn’t the student with the best grades, I didn’t even know who I wanted to be or what I wanted to do when I grow up, usually I tended to lose faith in myself and let my future be at mercy of my luck. The problem is that this society has made us believe that if you are not the best, the first one, the most intelligent and get all the best grades you will fail miserably, and that belief has put a high level of pressure in our daily lives, because in order to avoid failure, we push ourselves in a very dangerous way, most of the time refusing to be what we were meant to be and becoming the type of person imposed by society in order to be successful.

 

 

“Neither a lofty degree of intelligence nor imagination nor both together go to the making of genius. Love, love, love, that is the soul of genius.” – Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart

 

 

The truth is that saying that a genius is that one who has only certain specific characteristics and abilities, only limits the true greatness in every human being, because by saying that, we limit the person who has not those characteristics and abilities, giving them the idea that they are simply mediocre beings, and they live their lives limiting their true potential. For example, I always believed that because I was not good at school, especially in mathematics, I was good for nothing. I always wished to be like the “genius” ones. I lost faith in myself and I settle for a life that was far less the one I deserved.

One day I started to believe in myself, and I discovered all those talents and skills that were hidden overshadowed by my fears, beliefs, and limiting thoughts about myself. When I ceased to let the opinions and belief of others to define me, I began to discover my true potential, and when you are no longer limited by the established standards by this society , you begin to redefine yourself, and you create a new version of yourself. In my case, I discovered those things that made me a genius. Now I do not let my lack of knowledge in something, or my poor mathematics or history skills or whatever it is to define me, I do not let a grade or a person qualify me or categorize me according to my capabilities.

 

 

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

 

 

When you cease to seek the approval of others, when you release yourself from the stressful act of fitting in, when you cease to be the person you are supposed to become, and you stop worrying about being “perfect” or letting the opinions and beliefs of others to define you, you will have the opportunity to discover your true talents, abilities and skills. Therefore, do not aim to become the standard of human perfection, but aim for what you are good at, if you don’t know what that is, go find it, work hard, improve, evolve and become the best version of yourself!

 

 

 

 

 

Do not beat yourself up if you can’t do everything perfectly, remember that every human has its own talents and skills, and in the end, everyone is a genius. Fish maybe cannot climb a tree but they have the ability to live underwater. Therefore, do not compare yourself with other people “genius” but rather follow your own heart, be whoever you want to be, discover your greatness and be the genius that you truly are!

 

When There is Teamwork, Success is Inevitable

True success in every aspect of our lives can only be achieved through teamwork. If humans are willing to work together as a team, if they cooperate and work together as one for the benefit of all, they can overcome any obstacle, win any battle and obtain ultimate success. There is nothing more powerful than a group of humans willing to work together as a team, when individuals become part of a group, when humans gather together and work for their own benefit as well as the benefits of others the opportunities for success are endless and ultimate peace can finally be achieved.

 

 

 

"Unity is strength... when there is teamwork and collaboration, wonderful things can be achieved." - Mattie Stepanek

 

 

 

Why is it that ultimate peace is so unreachable? Peace is something we all seek to obtain, peace of mind, peace in our homes, in our jobs, in our communities, peace in our hearts and world peace, but for some reason, we always fail to achieve it. There are many reasons of why this happens, but one them is that we have forgotten to live together as a team. We live in a very individualistic world where everyone is after their own benefits at the expenses of others. Life has become a huge competition and we live our lives as if we were participants of the “Hunger Games”.

While competition in sports, games and other cases can be necessary, exciting and fun, competition in all aspects of our lives can be deadly. When members of a family compete between each other, when colleagues at work compete between each other, when friends compete within each other, when humans of different nationalities, religion and cultures compete within each other, as individuals, for the merely purpose of obtaining one’s own personal satisfaction or benefit, refusing to be part of a group, we choose to put ourselves in the path to darkness, and hatred, fear, resentment, pain and suffering are its consequences.

 

 

“The only competition worthy of a wise man is with himself.” – Washington Allston

 

 

Therefore, competition is a double-edged sword, while it can be sometimes fun and encourage teamwork, gives adrenaline, and can makes us better person than we were yesterday, if it is used in the wrong way, it can only destroy, create pain, and snatch our peace. The truth is that life is not a competition, no good can be obtained in fighting between each other, and in ceasing to work as a big team, for the benefits of those in our same group, and the benefits of others. Success can be obtained working together without needing to trample on others to achieve it.

What I am trying to express is that is not wrong to look after your own benefit, it is not wrong to go after your own dreams and desires, and fight for what you love and makes you happy, for that reason, if you want to obtain success as an individual compete with the person you were yesterday, no with others, evolve, grow, learn, work hard, be better than you were yesterday, and become the best version of yourself, and life will take care of the rest. However, remember that true success and ultimate peace in our lives and in the whole world can only be achieved through teamwork. No evil can stop a bunch of human beings willing to do good, working as a team.

 

 

“A boat doesn’t go forward if each one is rowing their own way.” – Swahili Proverb

 

 

If peace seems so unreachable is because we have separated each other, forgetting that we are part of a whole. In the end we are all the same, with particular characteristics, desires, dreams and personalities, but we belong to each other, and together we can make the impossible possible. Let’s gather together and work together as a team in our homes, in our schools, in our jobs and in every aspect of our lives, let’s help each other, let’s live in peace and remember that teamwork is key to ultimate success. No home, no relationship, no company, no country, can be truly successful without team work. Our merely existence depends on teamwork, without it we are nothing. Either we succeed as a team or we fail as individuals.

 

 

 

 

As individuals we are finite, as a team we are eternal. As individuals we can be strong, unique and fantastic, but as a team we are powerful and unbeatable!

 

Great Spirits Will Always Encounter Fierce Opposition

We constantly live our lives fighting a battle between who we really and who we are supposed to be. We were taught that in order to be successful we must belong and fit in this society. The truth is, when we deny our true identity, even if we had success and we were accepted by the majority, we will fail, but when we rise and declare who we really are and we face our doubts, fears, criticism and opposition courageously in the name of our highest ideals and values, and dare to be our true self and live our purpose nobody can ever limit us nor stop us and that is one of the keys to success.

 

 

 

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds." - Albert Einstein

 

 

 

One of the easiest ways to avoid criticism and opposition and be accepted is to remain in the side of the majority, thus, say what the say, do what they say, and behave as they behave. Refuse to be yourself and the person you think you are, and become the stereotype of perfection imposed by society.  The weirdos, the crazy ones, the unconventional human beings, those who think differently, those who don’t fit in, those who dream big, those who are constantly looking to improve themselves and be better persons are always marginalized and encounter a violent opposition.

However, if you want to make an impact, if you want to become a revolutionary, if you want to change the world, or if you simply want to be yourself and not being the perfect stereotype of person imposed by society, you need to be willing to separate yourself from some people and get ready to face opposition. In order to push the human race forward one must be willing to break the rules and refuse to accept the status quo. Therefore, evolution is the daily sum of revolutionary acts which challenges what is established and accepted by society, expanding humans’ perspectives, horizons and limitations, creating beliefs and ideas capable of changing the world for the better.

 

 

“Can you remember who you were, before the world told you who you should be?” – Danielle LaPorte

 

 

The question is: Are you willing to step aside from the majority in the name of your values, ideals and express your true self freely? If the answer is yes, are you then ready to face opposition, humiliation and solitude? The journey to become the best version of yourself, your true self and create a better world for everyone is not easy, but in the end, it will be worth it. There will be times where you will encounter yourself walking alone, there will be times where you will face humiliation  and opposition, there will be times where nobody will understand you, the temptation to give up and return to the “acceptance zone” will be strong, when this happens, don’t let your fears, doubts and other people’s opinion take your sight off from your higher values, goals and dreams.

The thing is, in this world it is much easier to belong, to be accepted and recognized as a member of the group of those who has been accepted by society. Nobody wants to be rejected, rejection is a strong feeling, that not many people can cope with. However, if we learn to love ourselves as we are and be confident about the person we truly are, we will walk our path in this life without fear of rejection, because once you accept yourself, you will never ever need the necessity to be accepted by others, and their opinions, thoughts and criticism will never be a limitation to become the person you know you can be, your true self, your best version.

 

 

“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.” – Mark Twain

 

 

Whether you are at school, or at the university, or at work, or any other place you might be, never feel ashamed to be who you really are, never fear the bullies. If you are different, if you are shy, if you don’t follow trend, if you are not the smartest, or the prettiest, if you are not the popular, or most funny, if you have big and “impossible” dreams and goals, if your beliefs are different than what is accepted, and most of all, if you know you are being your true self, and with true self I mean you best version of yourself, the person capable of changing those around you and make this world a better place for all, if deep inside yourself you know that what you are doing is the best you can do for you and for others, so be not afraid to affirm and declare the person you really are and go with confidence in the direction of the achievement of your personal growth and evolution, and with your example change the world and open the eyes of those who cannot see that violence, hatred, intolerance and ignorance will never be bring us peace, love nor success!

 

 

 

 

 

Discover your true self, love and accept the person you really are regardless if you are accepted by other people or not, never cease to improve yourself, release your true potential, stay true to your values and ideals, do not let your soul and your true self be corrupted by the fear of being rejected, do not feel ashamed for who you really are, and with courage and confidence go out, make your dreams become a reality, make an impact, be the best version of your self and change the world! 

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Day after day we deliberately accept in our minds the venom of poisonous people with devastating consequences. Once in our minds, this venom annihilates our self-confidence and destroys our self-esteem and feelings of anger, hatred and resentment flood our minds. Cause: taking things too personally. Cure: living without the influence of other people’s opinions.  Are you taking things personally? Are you letting other people’s opinion and behaviors define your true self?

 

 

Don’t take anything personally, nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. Don Miguel Ruiz

 

 

 

We go through life as we had a target hanging from our necks. We feel as if we were inoffensive deer grazing peacefully in the woods surrounded by heartless hunters waiting for the perfect moment to pull the trigger. Suddenly, that moment comes, the world freezes, the watch stops, and bang! Perfect shot, straight into our heads, we lie motionless, presumed deceased. The world begins to move again, we breathe, we are alive, we survived, but the scars are bleeding, the pain increases, and suddenly the pain becomes anger and the anger commence to rule our lives. Resentment becomes our ally.

The problem is that our constantly need for acceptance and our desperate search for everyone’s approval has become a necessity in order to maintain an acceptable reputation to society, and this reputation, or our own reputation about our own selves is severely affected when we encounter ourselves being the target of someone’s attacks, that is the main reason why we take things so personally, because that person is preventing us from achieving our goal of being accepted by every single human in our society. It damages our ego, diminishes our self-confidence and put ourselves at the edge of collapse.

 

 

“What other people think of you is not your business. If you start to make that business your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life.” – Deepak Chopra

 

 

Therefore, taking things personally and unhappiness are connected. But, is there such thing as an everlasting happiness? Well, There are many keys and ideas of how can one be happy, but this question continues to be an existential doubt for most of us. However, through the years we have discovered important keys to unhappiness. One of them is taking things personally, when we do this, we expose ourselves, we put ourselves in a place of extreme vulnerability, putting our own happiness in someone else’s hands. When we take things personally, we condemn ourselves to a life of misery and resentment, we sabotage our own capabilities of achieving all our dreams and goals, and we deny ourselves the possibility of having a happy life.

When someone attacks you in any way in the end they never have something personal with you but rather they have something personal with themselves. The only time when you can take things personally is when you have attacked them or hurt them in any way first. For example, let’s imagine the case where you insult someone else’s mother, if the person gives you a punch in the face, you can take it personally, nevertheless, in the end, it always comes down to the fact that someone’s reaction and behavior against others is never something personal with them but with their own selves, no matter if they think they have an excuse for acting that way.

 

 

“There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.” — Miguel Ruiz.

 

 

Not taking things personally from the people that surrounds you is not something we can learn overnight, but is rather an every day commitment, but there is nothing more rewarding that gaining that level of freedom and become immune to other people’s opinions, immune to other people’s criticism, immune to other people’s judgements, immune to other people’s aggression. The real truth is that other people’s behaviors and attitudes toward you do not define nor categorize you, not damage your reputation, do not condemn you, but they rather do all of that onto them. Every actions and behaviors, every thoughts and opinions of others are only a reflection of their own souls, they do not indicate who you are, but they indicate who they are. Therefore, do not take things personally, and you will have found the key to your own personal development, you will broaden your limitations and you will declare, loudly and fearless to the world:  “I do not seek to belong, I do not seek to be accepted, nobody defines me nor limits me, I am immune to the poisonous souls that seek to destroy me, I am an utterly and completely free soul.”

 

 

 

 

Learn to not take things personally, release your soul from the need to get everyone’s approval and become immune to other people’s criticism, opinions and behaviors and you will have discovered one of the keys to success and your personal development. 

Forcing Things will Never Be the Solution

Life is composed of simple and complex conflicts that affect our daily lives to a lesser o greater extent. Every single day of our lives, life challenges us, disturbing our peace with a new conflict, some of them require no more than a simple solution, others require a more advance solution and others require us to develop or discover a solution that is not found in any book.  However, there is one simple rule that can help us deal with our daily circumstances and that rule is: “Forcing things is never the solution”.

 

 

"Don't try to force anything. God opens millions of flowers everyday without forcing their buds."

 

 

How many times in our lives do we seek to resolve a conflict, repair something or change our current circumstances by forcing things? How many times we applied force on something and the outcome we got was the opposite of what we expected? For instance, many times in my life I have tried to fix something by using force, and I ended up with the broken pieces of what I was actually looking to repair. Several times I broke things, and I ended up with sorrow, disappointment and anger when I applied force in different situations in my life.

The thing is, the first solution that comes to our minds when we seek to solve an issue in our lives that has already resisted our previous attempts to fix it is force. For some reason we have come to believe that when something is not working in the way we wanted to, we must apply force in order to fix it and to satisfy our wishes. Forcing things becomes our solution. However, while applying force on something can sometimes be a solution, it is only a temporal solution and in the future it will go back to its previous state or it will cause an irreparable rupture.

 

 

“Beware of trying to accomplish anything by force.” – Angela Merici

 

 

Therefore, an important lesson I have learned through my life, the experiences I had and many failed attempts, is that forcing is not a solution, but the cause of the irreparable destruction of something and the everlasting pain caused in our own selves and others. Therefore, the main rule we need to learn in order to deal with our conflicts and current circumstances successfully is knowing that if we need to force something is because we are doing it in the wrong way, hence, if we would like to have a positive outcome, we need to stop using our force. Change the strategies, find a better solution, accept it, or let it go, but forcing something will cause nothing but harm.

You may be thinking: “Oh well, I applied many times my force and it turned out well.” While that might be true, it is also true that the amount of times something turns out well by using force is less than the amount of times that something doesn’t turns out well by using force. This being said, we can be certain that the odds of getting a negative outcome by using force are extremely high. If you are confused and doubtful about that statement, I encourage you to apply force to fix something and see what happens. In the end, the only way to discover if something is true or not is by your own personal experience.

 

 

“Never force anything. Give it your best shot, and then let it be. If it’s meant to be, it will be.”

 

 

However, life has always found its way to show us throughout our existence that everything that was meant to be, will be without the need to force it. If a relationship, a job, a career, or anything else in our daily lives needs to be forced and oppressed in any way possible, it will sooner or later break, vanish and it will cause disappointment and sorrow. Therefore, in order to get the outcome we expect, we need to find, design or discover the solution that will help us deal with a certain conflict, creating the outcome we desire. On the other hand, we need to understand that sometimes letting go is the only possible and efficient solution, and while it can create also sorrow and despair, we are giving life the chance to reward us with a new beginning.

If you are forcing something and it is not giving you the outcome you were expecting is either because it was not meant to be, or because you are doing it the wrong way. Stop, relax, think and change strategies. Accept what you cannot control, learn to let go, or discover the way to achieve your desired outcome in a more efficient way.

 

 

 

 

Use more your strength to deal with your life and less your force and oppression on things and people, and you will have found the key to resolve most of the simplest and complex conflicts of your daily life!