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Should we go back to normal?

Due to the Coronavirus outbreak, our normal lives have changed and our reality has ceased to be what it was, but in the midst of this crisis, the humanity has been provided with something very special: More time. In our hectic lives filled by long working hours, studies, tasks, social gatherings and responsibilities time is a luxury. Now, most of us have been forced to stay home due to the COVID-19 outbreak that has severely affected humans around the world, but this situation has given us time, perhaps not time to travel, to go to festivals, events, concerts, shopping malls, parks or time to gather with friends and family but we have got time to think, meditate and reflect, and the question is, should we really go back to “normal” after the pandemic?

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It was almost the end of the high season here in the north of Norway. Many travelers from around the world come during winter to visit and discover this magical winter wonderland. For me, working in the tourism area, having 10 hours shifts, time was definitely a luxury. All of a sudden, from one day to another, it was over. Not because the season was over but because our lives had a radical change due to the Coronavirus pandemic. The borders were closed and a 14 days quarantine was established for those visiting the country. That meant the abrupt temporary closing of all tourism offices in the city and around the world. Just like that, I went from having almost no time to have all the time in the world.

It is not uncommon to feel disoriented when your life changes abruptly and one immediately and desperately rush to go back to normal, that means, back to what we know, what gives us that sense of security, our comfort zone. However, I decided to embrace this opportunity. I finally had time, something I was desperately looking for. I had time to relax, to have a proper breakfast, to enjoy the beautiful view from my window, to exercise, to make all kind of homemade meals, watch a good movie, play board games, read, chill in the sofa for hours with my cat on my lap, have a nice and long talk with the people around me at my house or via the internet, but above all, I had time to think, to wonder, to contemplate, to consider, to reflect.

“Crises and deadlocks when they occur have at least this advantage, that they force us to think.” – Jawaharlal Nehru

One day I was wondering what will happen to the world after the pandemic is over, the question resounding in my head was: How do we go back to normal after the Coronavirus? All the possible scenarios in my head sounded complicated, unrealistic or completely crazy. But then I started considering the fact that maybe going back to “normal” is not the best idea. Perhaps, humanity can use this crisis as a benefit, as a way to change everything for the better. Perhaps, we can have good use of the time that was given to us to reconsider what normal really is and take this time to change the way we think, we behave and we act in our daily lives.

It is in the time of crisis when our lives are shaped, and we can be active participants in the shaping of our new lives by giving our best to shape it in the way we want it to be. The truth is that while there are some circumstances that cannot be controlled we can always do something to improve our current circumstances and our future. Therefore, it is important to not miss the opportunity we have to change those things that are not so “normal” and to learn the lessons behind this crisis. We have now the chance to improve our life and the life of others.

“In every crisis, doubt or confusion, take the higher path – the path of compassion, courage, understanding and love.” – Amit Ray

We have the time to decide if we really want to go back to our normal lives or what we considered normal, we can decide now to change something about our life, to improve ourselves, to change bad habits and behaviors, for example, this crisis has taught us that in order to succeed and to guarantee our existence we need to take care of each other regardless our nationality, social status, genre, and age. It is now more than ever that we need to take care of ourselves and others in order to avoid more unnecessary deaths, more suffering and put an end to this crisis. This invisible enemy called COVID-19 has taught us that in the end, if we are not together as one no matter where we come from, we will cease to exist. This virus has taught us that kindness, respect, compassion, and love between humans was, is and will always be the key to our success. Separated we are weak, insignificant, vulnerable, but united we are strong and powerful.

Let’s use this time to think about what are the things worth returning to such as being around your family and friends, traveling around the world, going to your favorite festival, to the movies or train and enjoy your favorite sport, enjoying nature and life with freedom and let’s also think about those things we might want to change such as being more compassionate and kind with others and the planet, to take care of our health and the health of others, to appreciate more the little things being more grateful with everything we have, to value our time on earth knowing that one day we are here and the other we might not, to understand how important it is to spend time at home with our family, kids, pets, having time to cook, to play, to love each other rather than always rushing after things that do not really matter.

“The World is my country, all mankind are my brethren, and to do good is my religion.” – Thomas Paine

The truth is that most of what we call “normal” is not so normal at all and it is indeed destroying ourselves, all other beings in the world and the planet more than the Coronavirus. Therefore, it is time now to reconsider our actions. Our selfishness, jealousy, negativity, our greed, criticism, racism our bad habits and consumerism is separating our selves from each other and we are slowly destroying animals and the environment, therefore, what we do now to change what we have accepted as normal will determine our future and the lessons learned during this period can help to our evolution, uniting us as humans and being prepared for any other crisis.

Let’s use this extra time to our benefit by thinking and focusing on which parts of your normal life you want to return, which parts are worth returning to and how do you want the “new normal” to look like. Life as we knew changed and will never be the same, let’s create together a brand new destiny!

How can I stay positive? Part II

Stay Positive
Hi everyone and thank you for reading! I really hope that my words can help you to have a wonderful and happy life! 🙂 So here is the second part of: How can I stay positive?

 

I was writing on the first part about Gratitude, a very useful and effective way to stay positive, if you learn to be grateful even in the hardest time, you will change your daily life experience in a second.

 

And so here comes the second cure for our short perception disease:

FOCUS

The problem of negativity is that it has a lot of power, and it will control you and your emotions if you let it do that. The solution? Stay focus in anything that makes you happy, whatever makes you smile, do that! And whatever makes you sad let that go!

 

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” – Buddha

 

There are two types of situations in this world: The one we can change, and the one we can’t.

So if there is something that makes you be unhappy and you have the chance to change that, then change that, it might take time or not, depending on what you want, what is important is to be positive while you are doing that, knowing that someday, somehow, you will change that.
The other situation is the one that we cannot change, what is happening or what is going to happen is something that is a fact and you can’t do anything about it, so being negative and sad about, is not going to make any change, it will make you feel better? I guess that no, right? So why don’t you just focus on things that you can actually change, on things that makes you happy?

 

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates

 

The truth about everything is that what is happening out there it is already happening, you may be able to change that or maybe not, but how you feel about it is something that you can control, by allowing yourself to focus on what makes you smile, in those things that push you forward and cutting the ropes of what is holding you back. Let go those things, the ones you can’t change, and be positive, by focusing on what you can change, you need to stay positive, no matter what happens, there is always a motive to be happy.

 

“Always remember, your focus determines your reality.” – George Lucas

 

And here goes the third cure, a hard one, but a very effective one:

 

FAITH

Having faith is a very good way to stay positive, because by having faith is a way to say to yourself and express to the world that everything is possible, and maybe nothing seems good out there, but faith allows me to see light in the darkness, it is a way the soul has, to let you know that everything is going to be alright!
No matter in what you believe, the important thing is to not lose faith, if you lose that, you lose all kind of possibility to achieve what you want to achieve, because if you can’t see something as possible, if you can’t see that in your mind, and if you can’t feel it with all your heart and soul, then that is what are you going to experience.

 

“Faith is seeing light with your heart when all your eyes see is darkness.” – Anonymous

 

So no matter what is happening, have faith, anything you can imagine, you can achieve, it’s that simple, if you have faith even when your reality is not what you have dreamed of, have faith, because that’s what will make you feel better, and be positive, because you can’t see it now, but you know that is going to happen. So have faith and stay positive, knowing that nothing is going to remain as it is right now, no matter how bad it looks like.
And that lead us to the fourth and last cure and for that no less important, and that is:

 

ENERGY

Everything is energy, so if you want something, or if you want to change something, just give all energy to that, to things you want and love, to anything that makes you happy. The problem is that usually we give all the energy that we have to the things that we don’t want, and that is why we keep having the same feeling over and over again.
So if you want to stay positive in life, you need to give energy to positive things, because negativity is like a powerful magnet of energy, and if you let it control you, it will suck all your positive energy, leaving you weak, without any kind of strength to stay positive.

 

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy, this is physics.” – Albert Einstein.

 

Whatever energy you give to the world, is what you are going to receive, so if you allow a situation to consume you, you will only give negative emotions and actions, having as a result more and more negativity back to yourself.
So no matter what is happening, just look beyond that, look around and see all the things for what you should be grateful for, focusing only in the things that makes you happy, having faith, knowing that anything will be alright and giving positive energy, and so you will light up all the darkness that your eyes are seeing right now, and receiving more and more positive things back to you, that will light up your heart, and will fill your empty soul.

 

Stay positive, always.

How can I stay positive?

Stay Positive
People wonder every day, How can I stay positive? And my question is: How is it possible that you cannot stay positive? And the problem is that we have a very short perspective of what is really important and what is really happening.

 

There is a fact: We have eyes and we can see, but the reality we can see is actually far less than the real reality. We cannot see what is really happening, we see according to what we believe.

The problem is that we live in an upside down world, and we have put in first places in our list of happiness what should be in the last positions, and our wrong idea of a happy and joyful life is what have created all the pain, unhappiness, sadness, hate and suffering in the world, if we could just change our perspective about life, we could just change everything.

 

 

 “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer

 

 

 

We go after things that don’t matter, we struggle every day to get material things, forgetting what is really important and why are we here on this planet.

So no matter what is happening in your life, you have the power and the ability to be happy and to have everything you really want in life, you have to learn to see the positive side of everything, you may not be able to see it right now, but believe me, there is a positive side in everything, the trick is to enlarge our short and limited perspective of life, if you do, you will see what you haven’t seen so far, you will see a completely and amazing new reality.

 

 

 

“Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind, the goal is to find it.” – Buddha

 

 

 

So what is the first and one of the most important cures to our lack of wider perspective disease?

 

And the first cure, the most important one, the one that it can change your life in a second, the best solution to negativity and the first motive to stay positive and happy is:

 

GRATITUDE

 

And maybe you already know that or maybe you don’t, but the fact is, that if you are not being positive and if you are complaining about any kind of situation you may be going through is because you are not being truly grateful.

 

 

“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” – Abraham Lincoln

 

 

And what I really mean with this is that this cure doesn’t really work if you just say that you are grateful, you have to really feel it, with all your heart and soul.

There is so much in your life to be grateful for;tthe problem is that we are so used to that kind of things, that we don’t really pay too much attention to it, because we are too focused on things that don’t really matter.

The most important things you should be grateful for is for being alive, because if you are alive it means that you still have the opportunity to do a lot of things and that you still can enjoy the most beautiful things in the world, while other people are fighting to survive or also some of them don’t even have the half of what you have.

 

 

“The struggle ends when gratitude begins.” – Neale Donald Walsh

 

 

If we have love, we have everything. If you can enjoy a hug, a kiss, an act of kindness, a word of compassion, understanding, a smile, and a simple touch you have more than enough to be grateful  and happy for.

If you can breathe and your heart is beating, if you are able to give love and receive love in any way, if you have people who will always be there for you, if you have food in your fridge, drinking water from the tap, a roof, a bed, a cup of coffee in a winter night, a warm shower, clothes, and you have all the freedom to think, to speak, and to do whatever you want,  you are richer and have more power than you ever imagined., and no matter what other things can happen, you can be grateful for all that and be happy.

 

 

“If you want to find happiness, find gratitude.” – Steve Maraboli

 

We have to look at the things that are really important, and be grateful for that, knowing that we are blessed, as there a lot of people who don’t have even 1% of what you have right now.  So how can you stay positive? Look at those things, the ones that make you happy, the ones that are really important.

And then there are 3 more cures, that have really helped me to change my life:

Focus, Faith and Energy.

 

So if you want to know more about the next cures, don’t forget to come back later this week for the second part of How can I stay positive? 🙂