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Dealing with the negative voices in our heads

We have all experienced negative voices in our heads. The kind of voices that abruptly appear in our minds, take over our thoughts and have the power to change our whole life experience in a second. These voices are the vilest critics, they will criticize, condemn, and judge us to the point that if we do not learn to silence them, we might end up believing them and this will become an obstacle to developing the greatness within us and will stop us from becoming the kind of person we are capable of becoming. Stay with me so we can see together how to understand and deal with our negative voices.

Believing in negative thoughts is the single greatest obstruction to success. Charles F. Glassman negative voices

Once the negative voices start talking the chaos begins, like an earthquake, they can have different intensities, from a simple tremor with minor consequences to a devastating tremor that can have a serious impact on our life. At any given moment and for no apparent reason they might simply show up, the voices are so deep and strong that somehow, they always find the way to disturb our peace. It brings sorrow, sadness, anger, and frustration. Those negative feelings product of those negative voices can last for seconds, minutes, hours, days and even years. 

The duration of the effect caused in us by these negative voices and thoughts depend on one thing and one thing only: Us. We cannot stop them from arising, but we can find a way to deal with them. The most important thing to understand is that every human on this planet goes through the same struggle of dealing with these negative voices. It is not an issue of the weakest but even the strongest ones suffer the same, the key is to become as wise as possible as to know the difference between their reality which is always obscure, negative and judgmental and the real truth which is the one you should discover, the truth that dwells within you, the truth of who you really are, and that is not something these voices know, but is something you must come to realize.

“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” – Mahatma Gandhi

These kind of voices are the ones telling us that we are worthless, that we are not capable of anything, that no one likes us, that people think we are stupid or that we are this and that, they try to convince us that we do everything wrong and that we are guilty of everything that is wrong in our lives. “No one loves you!” “No one likes you!” “You are a failure!” “You are useless!” “You are ugly!” “The world would be better without you!” “See how stupid you look now!” “I told you, this happened because you are pathetic” “You did a mistake like you always do!” “You are not smart enough and never will!” I could continue with all the different negative voices that have crossed my mind at least once. Do they look familiar to you? These or other kinds of negative voices have always crossed the mind of every single one of us in one way or another. 

The truth is that they are always telling us something beyond the words, there is a reason why they happen, and the key is to find the roots, where they originate, and then we will understand why, and once we know the why, we are going to be able to decrease the number of times they happen and when they do we will be ready to know how to use them in our favor. Normally they tend to be the product of our own fears, insecurities, frustrations, low self-esteem, past experiences and a wrong idea of life and who we really are due to the false concepts established in our society.

“All negativity is an illusion created by the limited mind to protect and defend itself.” – Ambika Wauters

How do I deal with them? As soon as they start talking, I try, quickly as possible to stop them, I do that not by avoiding them and pretending that they are not there, but I acknowledge them, I admit they are there, I listen to them, I allow myself to feel whatever I feel at that precise moment and then I decide. Do I let them take control, losing the ability to choose what to feel or do I show them who has the control here? I take the control back. I see them as something they exist but I know they do not define me. Normally I either think quietly and tell them to stop, sometimes I even scream, STOP! I analyze the situation and understand why they are telling me what they are telling me and then I make my own conclusions. 

There are always two possibilities, either they are right or have some kind of truth or they are completely wrong. If they are wrong, and you can clearly see that, then you have already all the power to silence those voices and keep moving forward without letting them interfere with your life, and you do this but expressing them silently or out loud the reasons why they are wrong, telling your own truth about what you believe, by confronting them with your truth, you take the power away from them and their voices will slowly fade away. On the other hand, if they are right or let’s say, there is some sort of truth on what they say, then it is important to find the positive side of everything. It is important, to be honest with your self and it is important to find the real truth. 

“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” – Willie Nelson

For example, if I made a mistake and these voices are telling me everything I did wrong and how terrible should I feel because of them, then I try to stop those voices. I silence the mind, I see what I have done, I understand that they are right about the fact that I did something I shouldn’t have done but I don’t keep listening to them, but rather I find the solution by focusing on how to make things right instead of focusing on what went wrong. Of course, It is not always possible to revert what you have done, but there is always a positive side of everything and by focusing on that, by learning, by doing things better, you give yourself the possibility to decide who you are and who do you want to become rather than staying stuck in who you are not by listening to those voices that condemn, judge and criticize you.

The key is to not let them define who you are. Yes, we make mistakes, we have imperfections, we might have a lot to learn, we can have low self-esteem, we can have thousand of fears and doubts, and those voices will use all of that against us, but in the end, it is you who you really define yourself. If you do not like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you look at it. Be the person that makes you happy, discover your own truth about yourself, so when these voices arise, you will have the right tools to fight back!

Beware of Toxic People

We live in a revolutionary era where humans are waking up and seeing the true reality around them. The current conditions of our planet and the different diseases caused by our negligent acts are no longer hidden or unknown. However, there is one overlooked source of pollution highly dangerous for all humans and it is created by toxic people. The venom of these people is extremely poisonous and cautious is advised.

 

 

"People inspire you or they drain you - pick them wisely." - Hans F. Hansen #toxic #people

 

 

Have you ever heard the phrase: “Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are”? I remember someone told that phrase to me once, it was a few years ago, I do not remember who was it, probably someone wise, and that person meant that our behaviors and habits can be influenced by those who we often surround ourselves with, for better or worst, and it is undeniable that no matter how incorruptible we think we are and how strong we think our character is, someone at some point can create a huge impact and change our behaviors, beliefs, and habits.

On the other hand, people can affect for better or worst the way we feel, for that reason, I can also say “Tell me with who you spend your time with and I will tell you how you feel” and that means that if you are surrounded with people with good energy, positive, happy and kind people you will end up feeling good even if it is only for a moment, on the contrary, if you surround yourself with negative, fully toxic people you will end up feeling bad.

 

 

“Toxic people will pollute everything around them. Don’t hesitate. Fumigate.” – Mandy Hale

 

 

This is the case when someone is sick and still goes out, for example, to work or to school, someone, who might have a weak immune system will end up having the same kind of virus. This is what happens when you are surrounded with toxic people, these people are already infected with anger, sadness, stress, pain, and fear, some of them do not even realize that or do not want to, the virus inside them has gained total control, and is highly contagious. For this reason, there are two options either we maintain distance from these people or we take extreme caution when treating with them especially when we are already not feeling good.

This does not mean that we should not help those who need it but something I learned is that nobody can help those who do not want to help themselves. For that reason, it is important to help each other, it is important to help those who scream for help even if it is in silence, because we can be the cure or relief that a toxic person is needing, but the important thing is to not let their venom get inside of us and it is wise to know when to stay and when to walk away.

 

 

“Walk with the dreamers, the believers, the courageous, the cheerful, the planners, the doers, the successful people with their heads in the clouds and their feet on the ground.” Wilfred Peterson

 

 

Therefore, it is important to surround ourselves as much as possible with non-toxic people, people who will bring us peace, joy, and happiness, it is also wise to spend as less time as possible with toxic people, it is not always possible to choose the people around us and toxic people are in every corner, from schools to jobs, in our own houses and neighborhoods but we can find a way to become as immune as possible to the venom released by them and become as wise as to know with whom we should spend most of our time with.

 

 

 

People can become a healthy nutrient for our souls and can help us maximize our own potential, at the same time, they can be the poison that will prevent us from reaching our full potential. They can be an important key to our success or the cause of our failure. Choose them wisely.

2017: A New Year, A New Opportunity, A New Beginning

We can almost see it, the 2017, the new year is about to arrive. It carries a big suitcase, and it is loaded with hopes, opportunities, challenges, adventures, goals, dreams and more. And I believe we all wonder the same questions… What thing in that suitcase has my name on it? What will the future hold? The answer is simple: The 2017 will bring us what is best for us and all those things that we are ready to receive. Are your arms open? Is your heart open? Are you ready to accept the new opportunities of this new year?

 

 

 

We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day

 

 

 

 

Every new year comes with new opportunities and challenges for every one of us. They come in different shapes, colors and sizes. They come in different ways and in different times, and we all receive at least one opportunity to improve our lives, to discover our true self, to develop our character, to become the best version of ourselves, to grow, to evolve. Those are purposes of these opportunities and challenges.

I said that this 2017 will bring us what is best for us and what we are willing to receive. What I mean with this is that God and life are always ready to give us what is best for us, that is to say, all the new opportunities that will push ourselves forward. The problem is that we are not always willing to receive the gift of a new challenge. The reason could be because of fear, doubts, uncertainty, maybe because we prefer to stay in our comfort zone or because the gift is not to our liking. So, we refuse to accept the new opportunities, letting them go, losing our chance to improve, develop, grow and evolve.

 

 

 

 

“Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering ‘it will be happier’…” – Alfred Tennyson

 

 

 

 

The new year can bring positive and “negative” things. With positive I mean a new job, a new relationship, an increase in your salary, a new trip, any kind of material possession, the achievement of a goal, a dream come true, a new home, another child, or any other positive thing that could happen to us. And with “negative” I mean those kinds of things that are opposite to the ones we call positive. For example, the loss of a job, more debts, the end of a relationship, the loss of any material possession, failure in any aspect of our lives.

What do we all want in this new year? We want more of the positive things and less of the negative ones. But what if the negative things have also a meaning? What if they happen for a reason that we do not yet comprehend? Well, the truth is that they also have a special meaning. The key is to discover its purpose, it could be for example, to make us learn a new lesson, or improve ourselves, to give us the chance to have better things, or simply because they want us to develop the greatness that is within us.

 

 

 

 

 

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – Viktor E. Frankl

 

 

 

 

Always remember, that it is not what happens outside of us, that is to say, our external circumstances what really matters, but how we respond to those circumstances is what matters the most. Regardless of what happens to us, at any given moment we have the opportunity to decide how we are going to feel and how are we going to respond to what is happening. Therefore, face this new year with courage and optimism, be ready to receive the new gifts of this 2017. When a new opportunity, whether positive or not so positive knocks at your door, take it, and give your best to create the outcomes you expect. Always remember that no matter what happens, you are the creator of your own destiny!

Let’s say goodbye to this wonderful 2016 that is about to end with happiness and gratitude, because no matter what happened, we survived and nobody can take from us the lessons we learned, the wonderful moments, and all the things we got from it. Let’s keep the good memories, the important lessons, and take them with us in this new year. Leave behind what doesn’t serve you, and with hope, courage and enthusiasm receive this 2017 with your arms open. Be ready to face any challenge, do not surrender in the face of adversity, transform the negative into positive, use any circumstance in your favor, and never lose the opportunity to create the life you imagine!

 

 

 

 

 

 

A new year is coming, and this 2017 brings 365 new opportunities, and if we are ready to take them they will help us become the person we are meant to become so we can create the life we yearn, the one we deserve and the one we are capable of living.  Happy New Year!

Nourishing Your Mind With Positive Thoughts

We are what we eat and so it is with our mind: we are what we think, depending on how you feed your mind, is what you are going to experience in your life. You can have a positive mind or you can have a negative mind, what makes the difference between one and the other is the choice you make when you feed it and what you decide to consume every day.

 

"If it doesn't nourish your soul, get rid of it."

 

 

What we eat and drink through our mouth on a daily basis has consequences in our body, either short-term or long-term:

  • We can eat spoiled food and feel sick right away or after a few days, or we can get very sick after eating unhealthy food on a daily basis for a long period of time.
  • We can also eat fresh food one day and feel great, or we can eat healthy food daily for a long period of time and feel better and better every day.

 

 

Well, with the mind is exactly the same, what we consume on a daily basis through our eyes and ears has consequences in our mind, heart and spirit, either short-term or long-term:

  • We can consume negativity either hearing or watching a self-destructive situation and feel bad right away or after a few days, or we can get very sad and depressed after having consumed negativity for a long period of time in our lives.
  • We can also consume positivity one day and feel awesome, or we can consume positivity on a daily basis for a long period of time and feel happier every day.

 

 

 

 

 

“There are realities we all share, regardless of our nationality, language, or individual tastes. As we need food, so do we need emotional nourishment: love, kindness, appreciation, and support from others.” – J. Donald Walters

 

 

 

 

 

Nourishing your mind with positive thoughts, it is as important as nourishing your body with fresh and healthy food, because if we fail to nourish our mind with positive thoughts, affirmations and beliefs, we put in danger our whole existence on this planet, and not because we run the risk dying, because that is something we cannot avoid, but because we run the risk of not having truly lived while we could, and you can never truly live if you carry a negative mind through your lifetime.

In order to nourish your mind, it is necessary avoiding contaminating your spirit with negativity. It can seem harmless, but most of the time it is not. Any negativity you consume every day, regardless of the amount, can have a huge impact in your mind, and if you are not aware of it, you will consume it day after day without realizing the damage that is causing you, and the result will be catastrophic, it will take over your mind, and it will rule your life and you will suffer from all the side effects: depression, sadness, anger and anguish.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Don’t feed your mind with negative thoughts. If you do, you will come to believe them.” – Catherine Pulsifer.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Would you go now to the kitchen and eat rotten food for dinner? I guess no, right? Because it will make you feel bad, and you will probably have diarrhea, nausea, fever and you will have to call somebody for help. So, why you read those magazines that poison your mind, and gives you wrong belief about yourself and your life, making you feel miserable? Or why you keep watching that TV show that plants seeds of hatred, wickedness and sadness in your mind? Or why you keep hanging out with those people whom only take out the worst of people included yourself, people whom only speak the language of hate, hopelessness, gossip, racism and evil? Or why you keep wasting your time consuming all the rubbish you see and hear in a TV show, a movie, in a song, or the rubbish you keep reading in Facebook, magazines, and books that only drains the happiness of your heart? If you don’t eat rotten food because it will make you sick, why do you consume all that rubbish that makes you feel bad?

 

If you feel happy, if you have the life of your dreams, if everything you consume is giving you happiness and peace, keep going that way then, but if you are not, you need to change your diet, and with that I mean what you watch and hear on a daily basis, even if you think that is not making you any damage, because it is probably affecting you in a way or another, as I said before we are what we think and believe, and those beliefs create our behavior, which gives us our perspective and our reality.

 

 

 

If you want to be happy, nourish your mind and soul with positive thoughts, and get rid of all the negativity around you. If you have positive thoughts about you and your life, it will give you positive feelings, and if you have positive feelings, your behavior will be positive, and so your entire reality will be much more positive.