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Dealing with the negative voices in our heads

We have all experienced negative voices in our heads. The kind of voices that abruptly appear in our minds, take over our thoughts and have the power to change our whole life experience in a second. These voices are the vilest critics, they will criticize, condemn, and judge us to the point that if we do not learn to silence them, we might end up believing them and this will become an obstacle to developing the greatness within us and will stop us from becoming the kind of person we are capable of becoming. Stay with me so we can see together how to understand and deal with our negative voices.

Believing in negative thoughts is the single greatest obstruction to success. Charles F. Glassman negative voices

Once the negative voices start talking the chaos begins, like an earthquake, they can have different intensities, from a simple tremor with minor consequences to a devastating tremor that can have a serious impact on our life. At any given moment and for no apparent reason they might simply show up, the voices are so deep and strong that somehow, they always find the way to disturb our peace. It brings sorrow, sadness, anger, and frustration. Those negative feelings product of those negative voices can last for seconds, minutes, hours, days and even years. 

The duration of the effect caused in us by these negative voices and thoughts depend on one thing and one thing only: Us. We cannot stop them from arising, but we can find a way to deal with them. The most important thing to understand is that every human on this planet goes through the same struggle of dealing with these negative voices. It is not an issue of the weakest but even the strongest ones suffer the same, the key is to become as wise as possible as to know the difference between their reality which is always obscure, negative and judgmental and the real truth which is the one you should discover, the truth that dwells within you, the truth of who you really are, and that is not something these voices know, but is something you must come to realize.

“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” – Mahatma Gandhi

These kind of voices are the ones telling us that we are worthless, that we are not capable of anything, that no one likes us, that people think we are stupid or that we are this and that, they try to convince us that we do everything wrong and that we are guilty of everything that is wrong in our lives. “No one loves you!” “No one likes you!” “You are a failure!” “You are useless!” “You are ugly!” “The world would be better without you!” “See how stupid you look now!” “I told you, this happened because you are pathetic” “You did a mistake like you always do!” “You are not smart enough and never will!” I could continue with all the different negative voices that have crossed my mind at least once. Do they look familiar to you? These or other kinds of negative voices have always crossed the mind of every single one of us in one way or another. 

The truth is that they are always telling us something beyond the words, there is a reason why they happen, and the key is to find the roots, where they originate, and then we will understand why, and once we know the why, we are going to be able to decrease the number of times they happen and when they do we will be ready to know how to use them in our favor. Normally they tend to be the product of our own fears, insecurities, frustrations, low self-esteem, past experiences and a wrong idea of life and who we really are due to the false concepts established in our society.

“All negativity is an illusion created by the limited mind to protect and defend itself.” – Ambika Wauters

How do I deal with them? As soon as they start talking, I try, quickly as possible to stop them, I do that not by avoiding them and pretending that they are not there, but I acknowledge them, I admit they are there, I listen to them, I allow myself to feel whatever I feel at that precise moment and then I decide. Do I let them take control, losing the ability to choose what to feel or do I show them who has the control here? I take the control back. I see them as something they exist but I know they do not define me. Normally I either think quietly and tell them to stop, sometimes I even scream, STOP! I analyze the situation and understand why they are telling me what they are telling me and then I make my own conclusions. 

There are always two possibilities, either they are right or have some kind of truth or they are completely wrong. If they are wrong, and you can clearly see that, then you have already all the power to silence those voices and keep moving forward without letting them interfere with your life, and you do this but expressing them silently or out loud the reasons why they are wrong, telling your own truth about what you believe, by confronting them with your truth, you take the power away from them and their voices will slowly fade away. On the other hand, if they are right or let’s say, there is some sort of truth on what they say, then it is important to find the positive side of everything. It is important, to be honest with your self and it is important to find the real truth. 

“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” – Willie Nelson

For example, if I made a mistake and these voices are telling me everything I did wrong and how terrible should I feel because of them, then I try to stop those voices. I silence the mind, I see what I have done, I understand that they are right about the fact that I did something I shouldn’t have done but I don’t keep listening to them, but rather I find the solution by focusing on how to make things right instead of focusing on what went wrong. Of course, It is not always possible to revert what you have done, but there is always a positive side of everything and by focusing on that, by learning, by doing things better, you give yourself the possibility to decide who you are and who do you want to become rather than staying stuck in who you are not by listening to those voices that condemn, judge and criticize you.

The key is to not let them define who you are. Yes, we make mistakes, we have imperfections, we might have a lot to learn, we can have low self-esteem, we can have thousand of fears and doubts, and those voices will use all of that against us, but in the end, it is you who you really define yourself. If you do not like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you look at it. Be the person that makes you happy, discover your own truth about yourself, so when these voices arise, you will have the right tools to fight back!

Challenges are Opportunities in Disguise

Challenges are opportunities in disguise, they seem to be against us but in fact they are on our side. Challenges are opportunities that life gives us so we can become the best version of ourselves, they release the greatness and power that lies in all of us which we don’t even know we had.

 “Being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional.” - Roger Crawford

 

Challenges are opportunities perfectly disguised as obstacles, and that’s why most of the time we see them as something that is against us, but challenges are given to us by life for a special purpose, they have a reason to exist, and they hold a treasure within. Challenges have the power to change us, because they push us so close to the edge that we have no choice but to jump into the unknown.

It was in that particular moment, when we were plummeting into the ground, when we found our biggest strength, and so what seemed to be the end of everything, was actually the beginning of a completely new life. It was in that moment of chaos when you found a treasure hidden within you, because while you were falling down, you suddenly opened your arms, and they became wings, and so you learned to fly and you reborn again as a new person.

 

 

 

“We were all born with a certain degree of power. The key to success is discovering this innate power and using it daily to deal with whatever challenges come our way.” – Les Brown

 

 

 

It’s normal to feel overwhelmed by the different challenges that life gives us, and that is why it is so easy to surrender to them. Normally, when we face a new challenge, we rapidly seek an escape, we look for an alternative route, we seek the easy way out and we call that “success” which in fact is not more than another way to surrender, because the only way to be successful is by facing our easy and sometimes difficult challenges.

Challenges are an important part of life; they mean that we have left our comfort zone towards the unknown, and is in that place where everything can be possible. Challenges give a special meaning to our normal life, they make us grow, and they change us for the better. After facing a challenge, we never keep being the same person we were before it, because challenges change us, or in other words, they bring to light the power and strength that was deeply hidden somewhere within ourselves.

 

 

 

“Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.” Bernice Johnson Reagon

 

 

 

Challenges are opportunities to improve yourself, and there is a great feeling that comes to your heart when you come out victorious of them. It doesn’t matter how small or how big the challenge is, it always makes you a better person than you were before, and the reward you get out of them is extraordinary. There is a great sense of happiness that spreads throughout your body when you overcome those things that you once thought you couldn’t, but to get to that moment you first need to face the challenges, even if you feel powerless and hopeless.

In my life I faced many challenges, for instance this blog. Writing a blog without any experience and decide to write it in English in order to reach more people, even though my first language is Spanish was a huge challenge for me. My first thought was to give up, because I was afraid of many things, for example not being able to write well in English, and the possible opinions of others really freaked me out. My second thought was to write the blog only in Spanish, but that would mean taking the easy way out, and therefore I decided to face the challenge of becoming a blogger and write in English, and after 9 months here I am, happier than ever and feeling stronger than ever before. I faced my fears, I overcame the challenge, and I improved myself, especially my English. 🙂

 

 

Embrace your challenges; embrace the opportunity that life gives you through challenges, so you can become a better version of yourself. Face them without fear, and let them release the greatness within you!

Why Do We Fall?

We fall because there is something there we are supposed to find, otherwise we wouldn’t have fallen. Sometimes we lack something in our lives we don’t even know we are missing, we realize that when we fall. It is in that place of darkness and suffering where we find the light we were looking for, it is in that place where we find ourselves.

 

It's not how many times you fall that matters, it's how many times you get back up."

 

Falling is part of life, because it is not something you can avoid, because the only way you can avoid falling is by doing nothing and being no one. So falling isn’t as bad as it seems, it is actually the opposite because once you rise back you will never be the same again, you will be different, for the better. Falling doesn’t mean you have to live the rest of your life in that place, it depends on you to get up again and keep moving forward, or give up and stay in that place of suffering and despair for the rest of your life.

You can’t decide not to fall, but you can decide whether you will surrender and stay there forever, or you will stand up and you will keep moving forward. Falling do not define yourself, what defines you is the decision you make, you can either define yourself as a victim of life’s circumstances making yourself a loser, or you can define yourself as the creator of your destiny making yourself a winner.

 

 

 

 

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” – Confucius

 

 

 

 

Life can be mean, but it always has a purpose by doing what it does, most of the time we cannot understand it due to our limited perspective as human beings, but in the darkness there is always a hidden gift waiting to be discovered, the key is to find it. It is all about learning to see in the dark, if you can do that, if you can see the light in the darkness, you whole life will change. You will no longer see falling as punishment but rather an opportunity to improve yourself, because you will be able to see that sometimes we fall, so we can become a better version of ourselves.

Okay I know, falling is painful but it depends on you if you are going to let the pain you are feeling destroy you, or if you are going to embrace the pain, and use it as a trigger for the greatness you have within yourself, what will reveal the wonderful power and potential in you, that you don’t even know you had, and believe me, we have within ourselves a powerful spirit capable of doing anything we want, the problem is we don’t know that until life puts us to a test. It is when we fall to that dark and hopeless place where we have the wonderful opportunity to reveal the greatness we have inside of us. It is in that place where your old self dies, and your new self comes to life.

 

 

 

“Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves up.” – Alfred – Batman.

 

 

 

Falling is painful but not lethal, falling is not a punishment but an opportunity, it is you and only you who can decide if you are going to remain in that place of darkness and pain for the rest of your life, or if you are going to learn to see the light in the dark, releasing the wonderful potential you have within yourself. You can get up, you can start again, you can rise like the sun does every morning, you don’t have to be in the dark forever, cowards do that, and you are much better than that!

 

 

Arise my friend and keep fighting, until you beat life with a knock out, you can do it, because you are a winner!