Tag Archives: To be happy

The pursuit of happiness – Part II

Happiness is a treasure that every human being on this earth seeks to find. Fortunately for all of us, happiness is not something exclusive for the minority but it’s something everyone can have. The problem is our lack of understanding of happiness which has given us wrong ideas about what really means and how can be achieved.

 "The happiest people seem to be those who have no particular reason for being happy except that they are so." - William Ralph Inge #happiness

 

Defining Happiness

 

In my previous post I asked different questions, which can be very helpful to understand and define happiness, because in order to achieve true happiness we must understand it, so we can define better what it really means, because if you possess the knowledge about something, but you can’t understand it in full, then you will never know how it works, which will result in the inability to experience it in the best way possible. For instance, you can have the knowledge of how to ride a bike but if you don’t completely understand how it works, you won’t be able to experience riding a bike.

So we already started asking questions about happiness, we no longer accept the story that someone told us about happiness as being something that can be found in the outside world, we all have experience happiness through external factors but we want more, we want a deeper sense of happiness. Therefore, we have questions, because we want to know the secret of happiness and we want to be truly happy now and forever. That’s why are you here, isn’t it? So let’s get started!

 

 

 

“Happiness is the only sanction of life; where happiness fails, existence remains a mad and lamentable experiment.” – George Santayana

 

 

 

As I wrote in my previous post, happiness according to the dictionary means “the feeling of being happy” and to be happy means “to be delighted or glad over a particular thing” and the etymological meaning of happiness means “good fortune” but how can I explain exactly what it means? The truth is I can’t, because as I wrote before, happiness has as meanings as people on this planet, if you ask ten people from all over the world in one day for one week – What is happiness for you? You will have 70 different answers, where you’ll agree with some of them and others you won’t.

The truth is we all want to be happy but we all have different ideas of what happiness means, so every book you read, every person you listen to will have a different meaning of it. The society in which we live, our family, friends and our culture are key factors, which determine our ideas of happiness. We are being most of the time influenced by our environment, which in most cases defines our beliefs about happiness, and it’s there where we can find the problem, because we accept happiness as a concept created by someone else, such as the idea that money is equal to success and those together gives as result happiness. And so we seek money to be happy and when we have it, we want more and that happens with many other aspects of our lives where we look for happiness everywhere else except in ourselves, and my friends, there is the key for a long-term happiness – True happiness can only be found in oneself.

 

 

 

“Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response.” – Mildred Barthel

 

 

 

So you may be wondering – Okay all of this is very nice but I need the meaning of happiness, I need to know what happiness means, so I can experience it! Well, the answer for a long-term happiness can be found within your heart. You must find your own meaning of happiness, you must find what gives your life a purpose and that way you will be forever happy, your heart already knows the answer, you just need to listen to it without being influenced by external factors. The true meaning of happiness is the meaning you choose to give it, if you haven’t found it yet, must be because you have been always looking in a place outside of you.

The truth is – the recipe for a long-term happiness lies within ourselves, and so it cannot be found somewhere else, and it cannot be found in our past or in a future, because is not a place where we can get or something we can find, happiness is merely a choice, regardless our external circumstances, it is something you choose every second of your life, and your thoughts about something is what makes you happy, not the situation itself. Happiness is the way you see life, we all have different glasses through which we see the world, and according to what we see, and to our beliefs is what we are going to define as happiness. True happiness is when you see the world through positive lenses, being grateful for every single thing you see, choosing to be happy rather than rely on external factors to be so.

 

 

Happiness is real and exists within you, for that reason a long-term happiness is possible, nobody can take it from you except yourself. Happiness is the simple choice to be grateful for every little thing you have and for every circumstance of your life. Choose to be happy now and forever!

The Pursuit Of Happiness

Every human being on this earth has the same desire: to be happy. Happiness is a wish we all have in common, every human on this planet want to be happy, and everyone wishes to find eternal happiness but, what is it? Is it real? And if it does, how can be achieved?

 "Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence." - Aristotle

Understanding Happiness

 

I have always believed in happiness, but I have never been able to experience a long-lasting happiness but only for a short period of time until I found out the true meaning of it, what gave me the clue where to look for it. The problem was that I always looked for it in a place outside of me, and this was because I had the wrong idea of what happiness really meant and where can one find it.

In my pursuit of happiness I have always asked myself different questions: What is it? Is it real? Where can I find it? Is happiness a destination? Is it a place where one can get and stay there forever? Can I find a long-lasting happiness? Is it possible to be truly happy or is it just a creation of human imagination? These are some of the questions I have always asked myself trying to find out the definition of happiness and what I realized is that my concepts about it were completely wrong.

 

 

 

“Happiness is a journey, not a destination; happiness is to be found along the way not at the end of the road, for then the journey is over and it’s too late. The time for happiness is today not tomorrow.” – Paul H. Dunn

 

 

 

According to the dictionary: happiness is the state of being happy, and to be happy means, to be delighted or glad over a particular thing. However, people have given different meanings to happiness, what can be happiness for some people are sorrow for others. According to how we see the world, and what are our beliefs about life, it is what will form our definition of happiness. Thus, it is very complicated to define it in one particular way, as it is something that has as meanings as people on this planet.

Therefore, does happiness exist? In my opinion, according to my life experience, I believe it is something that truly exists, making it possible to achieve it. The problem with most of us is that our happiness disappears in the blink of an eye, sometimes it disappears even before we can truly enjoy being happy. For instance, when we go on holidays and our happiness is growing every second, and suddenly, in the right moment when we are reaching that moment of absolute bliss, our happiness is snatched from us for our daily routine. Our happiness is always so short that we distrust its existence and this is due to our confused ideas of what it really means.

 

 

 

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.” – Denis Waitley

 

 

 

Then, to understand more about it, let’s try to ask different questions and think about it, because as Claude Levi-Strauss said: “The wise man doesn’t give the right answers, he poses the right questions.”

I already expressed my opinion about the existence of happiness so, what is it? Where can we find it? Does it depends on life circumstances? Can happiness be something constant or it will always be interrupted? Is it based in our actions? Do we need to get something special or get to a particular place to experiment happiness? Does our past or our future influence our present happiness? Can an external factor affect our happiness?

What comes to your mind when you think about these questions? Why are you happy when you say you are happy? What is it that makes you feel happiness? And why are you sad when you say you are sad? Have you thought about it? Sometimes, it is in our own questions where we find the answers.

 

 

The key to being happy lies in understanding happiness. In my next post I will go deeply into the meaning of it. Until next time my friends!