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Should we go back to normal?

Due to the Coronavirus outbreak, our normal lives have changed and our reality has ceased to be what it was, but in the midst of this crisis, the humanity has been provided with something very special: More time. In our hectic lives filled by long working hours, studies, tasks, social gatherings and responsibilities time is a luxury. Now, most of us have been forced to stay home due to the COVID-19 outbreak that has severely affected humans around the world, but this situation has given us time, perhaps not time to travel, to go to festivals, events, concerts, shopping malls, parks or time to gather with friends and family but we have got time to think, meditate and reflect, and the question is, should we really go back to “normal” after the pandemic?

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It was almost the end of the high season here in the north of Norway. Many travelers from around the world come during winter to visit and discover this magical winter wonderland. For me, working in the tourism area, having 10 hours shifts, time was definitely a luxury. All of a sudden, from one day to another, it was over. Not because the season was over but because our lives had a radical change due to the Coronavirus pandemic. The borders were closed and a 14 days quarantine was established for those visiting the country. That meant the abrupt temporary closing of all tourism offices in the city and around the world. Just like that, I went from having almost no time to have all the time in the world.

It is not uncommon to feel disoriented when your life changes abruptly and one immediately and desperately rush to go back to normal, that means, back to what we know, what gives us that sense of security, our comfort zone. However, I decided to embrace this opportunity. I finally had time, something I was desperately looking for. I had time to relax, to have a proper breakfast, to enjoy the beautiful view from my window, to exercise, to make all kind of homemade meals, watch a good movie, play board games, read, chill in the sofa for hours with my cat on my lap, have a nice and long talk with the people around me at my house or via the internet, but above all, I had time to think, to wonder, to contemplate, to consider, to reflect.

“Crises and deadlocks when they occur have at least this advantage, that they force us to think.” – Jawaharlal Nehru

One day I was wondering what will happen to the world after the pandemic is over, the question resounding in my head was: How do we go back to normal after the Coronavirus? All the possible scenarios in my head sounded complicated, unrealistic or completely crazy. But then I started considering the fact that maybe going back to “normal” is not the best idea. Perhaps, humanity can use this crisis as a benefit, as a way to change everything for the better. Perhaps, we can have good use of the time that was given to us to reconsider what normal really is and take this time to change the way we think, we behave and we act in our daily lives.

It is in the time of crisis when our lives are shaped, and we can be active participants in the shaping of our new lives by giving our best to shape it in the way we want it to be. The truth is that while there are some circumstances that cannot be controlled we can always do something to improve our current circumstances and our future. Therefore, it is important to not miss the opportunity we have to change those things that are not so “normal” and to learn the lessons behind this crisis. We have now the chance to improve our life and the life of others.

“In every crisis, doubt or confusion, take the higher path – the path of compassion, courage, understanding and love.” – Amit Ray

We have the time to decide if we really want to go back to our normal lives or what we considered normal, we can decide now to change something about our life, to improve ourselves, to change bad habits and behaviors, for example, this crisis has taught us that in order to succeed and to guarantee our existence we need to take care of each other regardless our nationality, social status, genre, and age. It is now more than ever that we need to take care of ourselves and others in order to avoid more unnecessary deaths, more suffering and put an end to this crisis. This invisible enemy called COVID-19 has taught us that in the end, if we are not together as one no matter where we come from, we will cease to exist. This virus has taught us that kindness, respect, compassion, and love between humans was, is and will always be the key to our success. Separated we are weak, insignificant, vulnerable, but united we are strong and powerful.

Let’s use this time to think about what are the things worth returning to such as being around your family and friends, traveling around the world, going to your favorite festival, to the movies or train and enjoy your favorite sport, enjoying nature and life with freedom and let’s also think about those things we might want to change such as being more compassionate and kind with others and the planet, to take care of our health and the health of others, to appreciate more the little things being more grateful with everything we have, to value our time on earth knowing that one day we are here and the other we might not, to understand how important it is to spend time at home with our family, kids, pets, having time to cook, to play, to love each other rather than always rushing after things that do not really matter.

“The World is my country, all mankind are my brethren, and to do good is my religion.” – Thomas Paine

The truth is that most of what we call “normal” is not so normal at all and it is indeed destroying ourselves, all other beings in the world and the planet more than the Coronavirus. Therefore, it is time now to reconsider our actions. Our selfishness, jealousy, negativity, our greed, criticism, racism our bad habits and consumerism is separating our selves from each other and we are slowly destroying animals and the environment, therefore, what we do now to change what we have accepted as normal will determine our future and the lessons learned during this period can help to our evolution, uniting us as humans and being prepared for any other crisis.

Let’s use this extra time to our benefit by thinking and focusing on which parts of your normal life you want to return, which parts are worth returning to and how do you want the “new normal” to look like. Life as we knew changed and will never be the same, let’s create together a brand new destiny!

The Scope of our Words

We constantly speak or write, and many words come out from our mouth in one day. Some of them just fade away or are simply forgotten, but some of them keep resonating in someone else’s mind for hours, days, months and even years. The truth is the scope of our words can be higher than we think.

 "Speak clearly, if you speak at all; carve every word before you let it fall." - Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

 

The words we speak can be more powerful than we imagine, depending on what we say, they can be a wonderful tool or a lethal weapon. Even one word can create a huge impact in the life of other people. The problem is that sometimes we underestimate their power, and we do not measure the scope of our words. Therefore, we must be careful with the ones we choose, especially with those harmful words that can act as a deadly weapon for someone and hurt them forever.

We speak or write, and we use different words in order to communicate something to another, and according to what we say, they can sometimes encourage, inspire, help, teach, heal and help others, and at the same time they can destroy, hurt, damage, or kill other people. The words we speak can lift someone else up or they can put someone else down. They can do good, or they can do evil, and it is in our hands which one to choose.

 

 

 

“Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill.” – Buddha

 

 

 

If we could imagine what our words can cause in someone else’s life, we would probably choose them better. The problem is that sometimes when we speak, we do not think, especially when our emotions speak for us, and the problem is not when those emotions are good, but when they are not, because it is in that moment when we can cause a huge pain.

Have you ever been angry and told someone something you regretted? Probably yes. The problem was that our emotions, that is to say, our anger spoke for us, and most of the cases we didn’t even want to say what we just said but the damage was done. The same happens in the opposite way when someone says something to us and those words create a huge pain in our hearts. Some of those words are forgiven, some of them are forgotten, and some of them are stored deep inside a person’s heart.

 

 

 

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napoleon Hill

 

 

 

The good thing about words is that they can influence someone, and make someone believe those words are real, changing its life completely. The bad thing is when those words are used for evil, and they make other people do evil, or to follow the wrong path, or make someone believe that those harmful words about himself are real. For example, many times in my past, people said different words to me that really made a hole in my heart: You’re ugly, you’re good for nothing, you’re not smart, you will fail, you can’t do that, you are this and that, and I believed them.

The problem is that sometimes those words are spoken by people you really care, and they can be really painful because it is easy to avoid listening to those you don’t care but it’s hard to not listen to those you love. For that reason, we should always be careful with the words we choose in our daily lives, in our relationships, with our friends and colleagues, with our parents and children and with every single person we surround ourselves with.

 

 

 

“Be careful what you say. You can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later, the wounds are still there.” -Joel Osteen

 

 

 

Why would you say someone that he or she is ugly, stupid, or a loser, if you really don’t want them to believe that they are so? Maybe, because you think they won’t believe that? And what if they do? What if that person believes in what you said and act upon it? What if you really hurt someone with the power of your lethal words? Because that is what you can cause, and you may not know that, but you could break someone’s heart with just one word.

We could create the same effect but in the opposite way, and use them to lift a person up, make them love themselves, bring them peace, make them believe that they are awesome and unique, make them feel good about themselves so they can know how amazing and beautiful they are, we can change their perspective and make them know that they deserve all the good in the world so they can know that everything is possible, that they can do it, that they can be successful.

 

 

 

“Kind words do not cost much. They never blister the tongue or lips. They make other people good-natured. They also produce their own image on men’s souls, and a beautiful image it is.” – Blaise Pascal

 

 

 

The truth is, what other people say about you is their opinion and not yours, what they say is their vision of the world, or maybe is their own broken heart speaking, or their anger, or maybe is just what they feel, and we cannot avoid it. We can either choose to let their words destroy us, or use it as strength to keep getting better and keep moving forward. But in case we meet someone that cannot do that, why don’t we avoid hurting others, and choose to not hurt them with our words? Or at least, why don’t we say what we have to say in a more peaceful way?

 

 

 

Therefore, why don’t use our words as a tool rather than a weapon, and use it to inspire, help, heal and encourage people speaking words of love, and change our lives and the lives of others!