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Taking Responsibility For Your Life

It is not what happens to us but how we deal with what happens what shapes our life experience. The keyword is responsibility. And as boring as it sounds, it is the degree of responsibility we choose to take in our daily life decisions, the kind of thoughts we choose to have and, the kind of actions we choose to take what can truly change our life. 

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Throughout our life, we will be the victims of many unfair and unpleasant situations. We will face challenges, we will fail and we will be rejected, we might be humiliated, hurt, and we will have one hundred reasons to feel that the world is against us. Therefore, we will have one hundred reasons to feel sad, depressed, stressed, overwhelmed, and angry. However, an endless pity party will take us nowhere. The responsibility to take the control of our life by controlling our thoughts, feelings, and actions will take us to new and wonderful places.

When I was younger I tended to think that somehow the world and everyone in it was conspiring against me. That everyone was rude and mean to me. I always thought how difficult was to be myself and live in such a cruel world. In a way, I always blamed everything and everyone for the wrong decisions I took. Therefore, I made other people and situations guilty of my own failure. Today those thoughts changed. But, what has changed? Did people stop conspiring against me or the world became less cruel? Not exactly. What changed is the way I looked at the world. I took responsibility for my own life, and by doing so, I ceased being the victim of the circumstances by becoming the architect of my own destiny. 

“When you think everything is someone’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.” – Dalai Lama

Victims of circumstances

The thing is that you, me, and everyone can be victims of different life circumstances that are not entirely our responsibility. Circumstances that do not depend on our actions and that are entirely dependent on randomness, on other people’s decisions and attitudes, on culture, or simply human stupidity. And yes, we have all the right to feel victims and feel unhappy, depressed, lonely, and unworthy. But in the end, it is our responsibility to think, decide, and act in the best way possible to change our life around. In the end, no one can break, destroy or hurt our own minds as much as our own thoughts. 

What we think and do, how we react, and how we choose to deal with what happened to us is entirely our own responsibility, even if other people, circumstances, and merely unfair life events are the culprits of our suffering. We have the responsibility to change our own thoughts, to choose a different path, to decide how we think and how we live our lives, and what to do with what was presented to us by life itself. Yes, this path is difficult, it requires learning, it requires effort, it requires us to stand up and move forward and fight exhaustion. However, this is the path that could possibly change your life for the better.

“The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them.” – Steve Maraboli

Changing your life

The key is to not let yourself become an indefinite victim of the circumstances, even if you have all the right to feel that way. And it is totally fine if you want to adopt that role indefinitely. But in order to move forward in life, feel better, improve yourself and achieve wonderful things you need to step out from that role and take responsibility for your own life. No matter what happened, it is important to do your best. Choose the best decisions that will bring you what you want and deserve.

If you want a better life, better outcomes, if you want to feel better or whatever is it that you want, but someone or something has stopped you from achieving what you wanted to achieve, or has stolen your happiness, or has limited you in any possible way, then it is time for you to take the responsibility for your own life. Go and create the life you want to experience even if it is difficult. It is you who can reprogram your brain and tell it yes, yes I can do this. Yes, I was beaten up, but I will not give up, and I will move forward no matter how hard it gets.

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” – Eleanor Roosevelt 

Accept full responsibility

When I decided to put an end to my self-pity party and took responsibility for my own life, my whole experience changed.  It is not easy but you learn day by day, out of your own mistakes and failures. You develop new skills by facing challenges, by pushing the limits, by being punched in the face by life situations and people. That is how you evolve and you become the best version of yourself.

But again, you can still refuse to accept full responsibility and continue being a victim of the circumstances. I am sure you have good reasons to do so. I understand life can be cruel, unjust and that can be painful. But, there is another path if you wish to accept it. And out of my own experience, you could achieve wonderful things. Simply decide to take responsibility for your life. Make the kind of decisions that will create a better life experience.

Give it a try! There are better and more wonderful experiences than those you could have ever imagined. 

Life Always Gives a Second Chance

The beauty of life is that always gives a second chance. At any given moment, life can surprise us with another chance, giving as the possibility to try something one more time, to recreate ourselves anew and to start again. The problem is that either we miss that chance by remaining attached to a past failure, to a story without a happy ending, or because we consciously deny accepting that chance, condemning ourselves to a life of failure. As always, life is made up of choices, and our success depends on seizing the chances that life gives us.

 

 

Life always offers you a second chance, It's called tomorrow. Nicholas Sparks

 

 

Our past could be full of failure, we could have made many mistakes, we could have made wrong choices, life could have taken away from us people we loved, and things we loved, relationships could have ended abruptly, we could have never succeed at having something or doing a special thing, the life we used to have could have vanished in the blink of an eye, we could have lost many things, but life is fairer than we think, because it always gives us a second chance, and sometimes even a third and a fourth, whether we deserve it or not.

No matter what happened in our past, and how many mistakes we have made, life will give us a second chance, but something we need to remember is that a second chance does not delete the consequences of our past. Any decision, behavior or action from our past will have a consequence, but a second chance means that we have the possibility to do things in another way. We can change ourselves for a better version; we can make different choices, learn from our mistakes, and do everything in a different way that will benefit us and everyone around us. That is exactly what a second chance is, the possibility to create a better tomorrow.

 

 

 

“If you are still breathing, you have a second chance.” – Oprah Winfrey

 

 

 

But what happens if I didn’t make anything wrong? What happens if life was simply unfair with me and has taken away from me something I loved? What happens when someone loses a loved one, or its job, or house or anything they really loved? What happens when somebody goes through a very painful situation? Will this second chance give us the possibility to get back what we used to have? Well that depends, sometimes a second chance doesn’t mean that we are going to have exactly what we used to have only because something better is waiting for us. I learned from my own experience that life never takes, without giving something in return. Sometimes things happen so we can have another chance to have a better life, and become the person we were supposed to become. That is why it’s important to believe in life, and wait for that second chance, to recreate our lives, because if we are living in the past, we will never have the opportunity to see this second opportunity, it will pass in front of our eyes, and we are going to be too blinded by our past to see it.

The key is to detach yourself from the past and everything that can’t be changed, and trust life and God that will give you a second chance, to a start a better life, to discover something about you that you didn’t know before, to see life in a different way, to become the best version of yourself, and to give you the life that you truly deserve. It is only a matter of giving life the chance to show us that wonderful things are waiting for us. If we’re breathing means that we are alive, and if we are live, opportunities are endless.

 

 

 

“Not everyone gets a second chance. If you do get one, take advantage of it because it’s a gift, and it may be something better than you had before!” – Nishan Panwar

 

 

 

Life will always give you a second chance, and when that happens, seize it, because this could be your very chance that will give you the life you are truly capable of living. Let go of the past, forget about the things you cannot change, focus on the things you can change, and learn from any mistake you have made, and when you have that second chance in front of your face don’t give it a second thought, simply take it and change your whole life!

 

 

 

Life wants us to succeed, the question is: do you want to succeed? Every day life will present us a second chance that will challenge us in every possible aspect of our life. That second chance could be the opportunity that will change your entire life, seize it!