One of the reasons why we don’t enjoy life is because we are always complaining, and the act of complaining only makes us to have more and more things to complain about, and life can never be enjoyed if we forget to be happy in the act of complaining too much.
We are always complaining no matter the situation:
- We complain because is winter and it’s too cold and we complain because is summer and it’s too hot.
- We complain if we don’t have a job because we need more money and we complain if we have a job because the pay is too low, or because we don’t like what we are doing, or because we have to work many hours, or because we don’t like our boss.
- We complain if we don’t have money and we complain if we have money because it’s not enough.
- We complain if we can’t find a partner and we complain if we have partner because we want to live as single.
I could just go on and on with the infinite list of thing that humans complain all the time, but I will stop here so we can reflect about our behavior. It seems that there will always be something to complain about, so we have two options:
- To focus on the positive side of everything, being grateful for every little thing we have.
- To focus on the negative side of everything, complaining about everything we don’t have.
If you choose the first option you will always be happy and you will enjoy life no matter what happens and of course there will be times when you will complain and you will feel frustrated but it won’t last because you will use the most wonderful tool that you have: Gratitude, a tool that can change your life experience in a second and a tool that expresses to the world that you are happy with every aspect of your life even if is not perfect.
If you choose the second option you will always feel frustrated and miserable no matter what happens, because complaining gives us a distorted reality where everything seems to be against us when in fact is us that we are against ourselves. Complaining becomes a habit, a very harmful habit that only leads us to frustration and depression. Complaining only makes you to focus on the negative side of everything, making you unable to enjoy life.
“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” – Eckhart Tolle
If we are complaining, we are not being grateful and if we are not grateful for what we already have, how are we going to have more? The truth is that the act of complaining or being grateful is like two powerful magnets; whichever you choose is what you are going to experience in your life day after day.
In order to enjoy life, we should be grateful for everything in our life, and with this I don’t mean that you should settle with the life you have, accepting everything bad that happens to you, what I mean is that we should always go after the things we deserve, but we must be grateful and happy now, because we have everything humans need to survive and be happy everything else is secondary. If we are not able to see the blessings we have now and be happy, we are not going to be happy with more afterwards.
“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar
If you want to enjoy your life, stop complaining. Free yourself from that negative habit that does you no good. Complaining has never changed anything in a person’s life, but rather gave that person more reasons to complain and be frustrated. The day that you realize how many things you have especially the small and essential things, things that some people are struggling to get, those basic things that we need for our existence, you will realize how blessed you are and you will never complain again in your life.