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Stop complaining and start enjoying life!

One of the reasons why we don’t enjoy life is because we are always complaining, and the act of complaining only makes us to have more and more things to complain about, and life can never be enjoyed if we forget to be happy in the act of complaining too much.

 

“If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.” – Maya Angelou

 

 

We are always complaining no matter the situation:

 

  • We complain because is winter and it’s too cold and we complain because is summer and it’s too hot.

 

  • We complain if we don’t have a job because we need more money and we complain if we have a job because the pay is too low, or because we don’t like what we are doing, or because we have to work many hours, or because we don’t like our boss.

 

  • We complain if we don’t have money and we complain if we have money because it’s not enough.

 

  • We complain if we can’t find a partner and we complain if we have partner because we want to live as single.

 

 

I could just go on and on with the infinite list of thing that humans complain all the time, but I will stop here so we can reflect about our behavior. It seems that there will always be something to complain about, so we have two options:

 

 

  1. To focus on the positive side of everything, being grateful for every little thing we have.
  2. To focus on the negative side of everything, complaining about everything we don’t have.

 

 

If you choose the first option you will always be happy and you will enjoy life no matter what happens and of course there will be times when you will complain and you will feel frustrated but it won’t last because you will use the most wonderful tool that you have: Gratitude, a tool that can change your life experience in a second and a tool that expresses to the world that you are happy with every aspect of your life even if is not perfect.

If you choose the second option you will always feel frustrated and miserable no matter what happens, because complaining gives us a distorted reality where everything seems to be against us when in fact is us that we are against ourselves. Complaining becomes a habit, a very harmful habit that only leads us to frustration and depression. Complaining only makes you to focus on the negative side of everything, making you unable to enjoy life.

 

 

 

“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” – Eckhart Tolle

 

 

 

If we are complaining, we are not being grateful and if we are not grateful for what we already have, how are we going to have more? The truth is that the act of complaining or being grateful is like two powerful magnets; whichever you choose is what you are going to experience in your life day after day.

In order to enjoy life, we should be grateful for everything in our life, and with this I don’t mean that you should settle with the life you have, accepting everything bad that happens to you, what I mean is that we should always go after the things we deserve, but we must be grateful and happy now, because we have everything humans need to survive and be happy everything else is secondary. If we are not able to see the blessings we have now and be happy, we are not going to be happy with more afterwards.

 

 

 

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

 

 

 

If you want to enjoy your life, stop complaining. Free yourself from that negative habit that does you no good. Complaining has never changed anything in a person’s life, but rather gave that person more reasons to complain and be frustrated. The day that you realize how many things you have especially the small and essential things, things that some people are struggling to get, those basic things that we need for our existence, you will realize how blessed you are and you will never complain again in your life.

Be careful of your thoughts

Be careful of your thoughts, they control your life, as they have all the power to create your reality. What you see in your life it’s merely a set of thoughts, and that is why people have different realities. Your reality is the product of your thinking.

 

"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." - Marcus Aurelius

 

We are thinking all the time, and how we feel in that moment depends in what is in our mind in that particular moment. Our thoughts can be positive or negative, but never both at the same time, what is going to give us our emotions, and our reality. So how you feel will be the result of what you were thinking. Remember that your thoughts have the power to control your emotions. So you will find that the key to control your emotions lies in your thoughts, if you want to change your reality, change the way you are thinking.

We can divide our thoughts in positive and negative thoughts, where our positive thoughts are those that make us feel good like thoughts of happiness, joy or gratitude, and then we have our negative thoughts that make us feel bad like sadness, anxiety or fear. So we can feel happy or we can feel sad, the choice is made by us depending in our thoughts, if you have positive thoughts you will feel happy, if you have negative thoughts you will feel miserable.

 

 

“If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.” – Peace Pilgrim

 

 

Everything is connected; your thoughts give you your emotions and feelings, what will form your behavior, and what will give your reality. So, to change our life experience, we must change our thinking, we must choose those thoughts based in positive things, so we can have better feelings and good emotions, what will make us to have a better behavior, what will give us a reality full of happiness and joy.

It takes only one thought to change everything, one different thought and you will not only change how you feel in a particular moment, but you will change your whole life experience. It takes only one positive thought to go from sadness to happiness; you just have to say to yourself that no matter what is happening right now, this is not the end, and you will be happy, because you deserve it.

 

 

“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” – Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

I can say from my own experience that this is not something easy to do, but I can also say that is possible. What we have to do is to control our thoughts, and not let our thoughts to control us, and the easiest way is to open our perspective, so we can see everything in a different way, and understand that what is happening to us is happening for a reason, a reason we must learn to comprehend, so we can learn to see the positive side of it, a positive side that is sometimes hard to see because of our limited perspective.

We must be aware of the power of our thoughts, so we can control it, especially the negative thoughts, otherwise it will control us and it will destroy us. The day we learn how to control our thoughts, we will be capable of choosing a positive thought rather than a negative thought, and so we will decide to be happy at every moment rather than be sad needlessly.

 

 

“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.” – Buddha

 

 

Always remember that your thoughts creates your reality, whatever you are thinking right now is what you are going to experience in your life. The negative thoughts will give you negative feelings, what will give you unfortunate situations, and everything around will seem to be against you, when in fact, is you the one who are against yourself, because you have chosen to have negative thoughts, negative emotions and negative behaviors what gave you your miserable and awful reality. But if you choose positive thoughts, you will have positive emotions and positive behaviors that will give you happy situations what is going to make you feel happy about your life because your reality will be amazing.

 

 

Look around you, if you can only see a miserable life, look again, there is always something to be happy for no matter what you are going through, take the negative thoughts away from your mind, and flood your mind with positive thoughts and you will see what you couldn’t see so far.

Happy New Year!

I would like to wish you a Happy New Year. The 2015 has arrived, and with that 365 days that give us 365 new chances to make our dreams a reality.

 

It doesn’t matter what happened in our life in 2014, that is now our past, so we have the chance to start again, to dream a new dream and to keep moving forward. Every New Year, life gives us the opportunity to reborn anew, to recreate ourselves and be a much better version than we have ever been before.

We have everything we need to become whoever we want to become and to achieve whatever we want to achieve, we have the power to create the reality we want, the one we deserve and the one we are capable of living. We must find that power within ourselves, we must find what motivates us, our purpose, our passion, and no matter what kind of situation we are going through, we must follow our heart and intuition no matter how hard our life gets, we must never give up!

I will repeat that again because it is very important for us to not forget those words: Never give up! Because I can guess that after so many years, most of you are still standing in the same place, wondering why you haven’t achieved your goals yet, and the answer is because you give up, and the worst thing is that most of you have quitted even before you start. So this year you have a new chance to do what you haven’t done before, decide that you will do whatever you can and that no matter what you will never give up again.

I know that some of you are looking at this New Year with fear, either because your last year was too good, or because it was awful, you are afraid because you don’t know if this new year is going to be as good as the old one, so because of fear, you remain attached to your past, not allowing yourself the opportunity to have a better one, or maybe your past year was not so good, and the fear you have inside doesn’t let you see the new opportunity you have now, blinded by insecurities and doubts.

So no matter how bad or how good your 2014 has been, there is always positive things to take from it even those positive things we take from awful situations, there is always something you can keep in your heart, the rest of it can go away and never come back to your mind, heart and soul.

So with the positive experiences from your past year, you can start this 2015 with confidence, using those experiences and feelings as a motivation, knowing you have inside all you need, and that you can and you definitely will make all your dreams come true.

We have a new chance, let’s take our pen and write down everything we want to achieve in this year, and read it whenever you can, and with confidence let’s go out and fight for the life we deserve. Every day, every minute, every second a miracle can happen. We have come this far in our life, after all we have been through, so let’s face this 2015 with no fear, and let’s go out and get the life we deserve.

 

Have a wonderful New Year! 🙂

Attitude is everything

Attitude is everything; and will determine your reality. Whatever is happening to you, it will have a lot of power or nothing at all, depending on how you react to it and how you let that situation to affect you.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to itIt’s that simple, we have the power within ourselves to decide how a situation is going to affect our life, and our attitude against a situation, will give us our feelings and emotions, and that will give us our reality. A situation by itself has no power at all; we give the power to it through our thoughts.

 

 

“The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem. Do you understand?” – Captain Jack Sparrow

 

 

No matter what is happening in our life, we can decide how we are going to react to it, allowing a situation to affect us or not. Our attitude is something we can change at any time, it might not be something easy to do, but is completely under our control, what gives us the power to decide how we are going to react to something and therefore how we are going to feel about it.

 

 

“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” – Winston Churchill

 

 

There are moments where we might be able to change what is happening, and there are moments where we can’t do anything with what is happening to us, whatever the situation, you and only you can allow a situation to control your emotions.

It doesn’t matter what kind of person we are, everyone is going to have different situations in their lives that will make them miserable or successful, what it’s going to make the difference between them is their attitude.

 

 

“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” – Carlos Castenada

 

 

There are different people who have been through the same situation, but their realities were totally different, because their attitudes were completely different from each other. What really matters here is to not give up against a situation, do not let a situation to determine your thoughts, feelings and emotions, do not let a situation control your reality, it is your attitude what has all the power to change everything in a second.

Life would be much easier if we could learn how to control a situation by changing our attitude, instead of letting a situation to control us and our entire reality. You can accept a situation and be miserable or you can change your attitude and be happy, the choice is yours.

We can be the victims of a situation, and let it to rule our life, or we can be the creator of our own destiny, by choosing how we are going to think, and feel, and what are we going to do about what is happening to us right now, knowing that we have the power to decide how our reality is going to be no matter what is happening.

 

 

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou

 

 

Attitude is everything, depending on how you react to what is happening, is what will give your inner reality, regardless of what is really happening outside of you. Remember that you have the power to turn a situation around, what you have to do is to change your attitude, and you will change your world.

Forgiveness will set you free

Forgiveness wil set you free

 

Forgiveness will set you free, once you choose to forgive, you choose to separate yourself from any negative outcome you had in the past, that still resounds in your present, forgiveness is not something you give to others, forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself.

 

 

We have wrong beliefs about what forgiveness really mean, and that is why we doubt every time we want to forgive. What we need to understand is that forgiveness is something you do for you; it seems as it something that you only do for another, but in fact, the result of forgiveness is something that will benefit you more than anyone else.

 

We see forgiveness as a gift to another, while that can have some benefits to others, and it can give some kind of peace in someone else’s life, it will never let someone to be free from being guilty, that is something that they have to do for themselves, they have to forgive themselves in order to be free.

 

“Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” –Jonathan Lockwood Huie.

 

We see the act of forgiveness as an act of weakness, but in fact it requires a lot of courage and strength to forgive, it’s the way that you have to step aside from the victim role, and see everything with a different perspective, and it will give you the power to control a situation, without giving it the opportunity to control your thoughts, emotions and life.

 

What someone does to another, is a way to reflect how they feel deep inside their heart, because when you feel happy, and you love yourself, there is no way that you can hurt someone else, it is always the one who has a broken heart, the one who breaks someone else’s heart.

 

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.”- Thich Nhat Hanh

 

So the best way to forgive, in fact the way we have to never have a motive to forgive again, it is by never taking something personally, even though an action seems to be against you, for the only purpose of hurting you, it is something never really done against you, but rather something that people do for themselves.

 

Think it this way: all of us have done something against someone, so first of all, nobody is innocent, so anybody can find a good motive to do something according to their belief, but what I want you to understand is that when you do something bad to another human being, you do that against you too, because what you give, you receive, is that simple, nobody that do a negative action can have positive feeling about it, the negativity and positivity simply do not go together.

 

“Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior, forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart.” – Unknown

 

So knowing that, it is a very useful way to not take anything personally, what it will give you the opportunity to see everything from another perspective, you will not see yourself as a victim any more, and you will understand what is really happening and why is it happening.

 

By allowing yourself to seeing everything from another perspective, will give you a different reality, and you will understand them and forgive them, because you know that whatever somebody is doing to you, it is doing to himself too, because as I said before you can never do a negative action against someone and expect a positive result out of it, so that person is the first victim of all the pain that he is causing.

 

“The weak can never forgive; forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” – Mahatma Gandhi

 

So allow yourself the gift of forgiveness, do not let any situation stop you from moving forward, and set you free from all pain and sadness from the past, using that as strength and as a motivation to keep getting better, because you do not want to be like them, and you don’t want them to win, being their victim, and you either want to be condemned for something you have done in the past, believe me, you are better than that!

 

Forgive others and forgive yourself from any past situation and you will be free!