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The Consequences of Our Actions

Our actions and their consequences shape our future. Every action causes a consequence either long-term or short-term. Some of them are reversible, and some are irreversible. Some are insignificant, having no important impact in our lives, but some consequences can change our lives for the better or for worst. Therefore, it is very important to remember that we cannot scape from the consequences of our actions. We create our destiny day after day, decision after decision and action after action.

 

 

 

"While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of our actions." – Stephen R. Covey

 

 

 

Our life is basically the result of our actions, and in some cases is also composed by the result of the actions of other people. The consequences of our actions create our reality and shape our future, and they are most of them under our control. Then, we have the actions of other people, we cannot control them but we can control how we react against the consequences of their actions, and once again what we think, feel and do will produce a certain consequence in our lives, what will give us a certain experience. In the end, our own decisions and actions create our daily experience.

Most of the time we can be aware of the consequence of an action. If we drink too much we know we are going to get drunk, if we do not sleep enough we know we are going to feel tired, if we eat spoiled food we know we are going to get sick, but the problem is that sometimes, we do not have the power to know the consequence that will be produced by a certain action, what creates uncertainty, and that is why sometimes is very hard to make a decision. It is then, very important to make good choices, thinking in the consequence that we are going to get in the future as result of an action we take today, creating the kind of life we would like to experience.

 

 

“Nobody ever did, or ever will, escape the consequences of his choices.” – Alfred A. Montapert

 

 

We should not always be afraid of consequences. If they are favorable they can bring us a wonderful experience, but if they are not, they somehow have the power to teach us a lesson. For example, when a child wants to do something that won’t have a good consequence in its life, like touching the oven when its mother is cooking. As kids we are not aware of the consequences of our actions, so we normally do something even when the consequences are not going to be favorable, but after experiencing the awful consequence of touching the hot oven and getting burn one learn a very valuable lesson, but we are not going to avoid the pain of the burn.

What I mean with this is that sometimes the consequences of our actions will bring us the chance to grow and evolve, but at the same time we will not be able to avoid the outcome of that consequence. Whatever you do now will have a consequence in the future, so in order to avoid regret is good to avoid doing those kind of things that we already know that won’t produce a positive consequence for our lives, and if we do not know what could happen, if the odds are more in our favor, if the chances of positive consequences are high and the negatives low, then we should move on and take the risk.

 

 

“In nature there are neither rewards nor punishments; there are consequences.” – Robert Green Ingersoll

 

 

Therefore, take the kind of actions that will lead you to the place you want to be, and will bring you the kind of things you would like to get. We have right now, in this very moment the opportunity to create the life we want, we can start shaping the future we yearn, and we do that with every choice, and action after action. Whatever you want to experience tomorrow, start creating it now. When we make an action that won’t produce a favorable consequence, even though it will teach us a lesson and it will, in some way, help us to grow and evolve, we limit ourselves from living a wonderful, joyful and happy life, and we risk losing very valuable things in our lives.

 

 

 

Take the actions that will produce the consequences you would like to experience and you will have the opportunity to live the life you have always imagined!

Take a break to enjoy the moment!

Tick-tock, tick-tock. The clock hands keep spinning, faster and faster, they never stop. Second after second our life goes by very quickly. The time does not give us respite, consuming our existence minute after minute. We are always rushing against the clock, the day seem to have less than 24 hours and our days go by very quickly. Plans after plans, our schedule is full. The stress is high and the joy is low. Life goes by very fast, time never stops, and I wonder: When was the last time you took a break to enjoy your wonderful life?

 

 

 

"Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." - John Lennon #break

 

 

 

We live in a hectic world where our minds rarely takes a break. Our daily routines and chores keep us busy and our worries, problems, tasks and plans prevent our mind from stopping. We live under so much tension and our minds working at such high revolutions tend to collapse and that is the moment when the stress takes over our soul, mind and body. We cease to be in control of our own feelings and emotions, becoming puppets of our hectic and stressful life, losing every possibility to experience joy and happiness in our daily lives. Can we revert this? Absolutely. In order to regain our freedom to feel happy and joyful we should take a break to truly experience the wonderful fact of being alive.

The truth is that our time on earth goes very fast and is very short, but the problem is not that our existence is short, but that we do not seize every second of our life because we tend to be very busy making plans. Our minds tends to dwell more in our future that in our present, and a man can only truly live in his present. The now, this very moment is your life, the past are only a set of memories, and the future is an illusion. The only thing that is real, the only thing that we can truly experience, feel and touch is our present. What is happening right now, in this moment is all we have, and every second of it is worth living, because every second of our life is unique experience.

 

 

“I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is.” – Alan Watts

 

 

How many moments do we miss each day by being too busy making other plans? When was the last time you really enjoyed the company of family and friends without thinking about tomorrow’s plans? When was the last time you looked at the sky, watched the stars and admired the moon with a quiet mind? When was the last time you enjoyed the pleasant warm of a sunny day without thinking about the things you needed to do later? When was the last time you simply enjoyed the fact of being alive without being worried about the future? When was the last time you were relaxed, at peace, simply connecting with your soul, you deepest self? When was the last time you were truly present? How many times does your mind stay focused in this very moment without traveling constantly to the future? When was the last time you took a break from your hectic life and  simply took the time to enjoy the simplest and deepest things of your surroundings?

Taking a break a couple of minutes a day to contemplate our surroundings, to enjoy the company of others, to do the things that makes us happy, or to simply enjoy a wonderful time with our own selves can bring us to a state of ecstasy that will flood our soul and mind with a tremendous positive energy that will change the way we experience our lives. Disconnecting yourself from technology, from work, school, from your debts, your worries, and other plans can sometimes be the solution to the stress that contaminates our soul and mind day after day. Do not let your life slip from your hands, rather take the time to enjoy the beautiful moments that never come back like a tea with your mother, a walk in the beach, a kiss with your partner, a game with your kids, a beautiful sunset, a dinner with your friends or all those unique moments that we take for granted and that enriches our lives.

 

 

“True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future.” –  Lucius Annaeus Seneca

 

 

The clock of life keeps ticking, and it could stop at any moment. Nothing can guarantee us that it will keep ticking tomorrow, that is how unpredictable our life is. Therefore, we should seize every second of our life as if it was the last. While making plans and thinking about the future gives our life a meaning, enjoying every moment of our life, enjoying our present without always making other plans is the way to truly enjoy our life to the fullest.

 

 

 

From time to time take a break from your hectic life. Stop, breath, relax and simply enjoy this moment, because this moment is your life, don’t let it go, rather seize every second of it!

It is Time to Build your Own Dreams!

A new year has begun. A new opportunity is awaiting you. The past is gone, and the present is all we have. In this given moment we have the chance to begin again, and the opportunity to create something new, or to dream a new dream, or to do something we have never done, and we have the big opportunity to create the life we have always imagined. In this new year, are you going to begin to create your dream or continue building it? or are you going to lose another opportunity to make your dreams come true? Now is the right time to start building your dreams and create the life you have always imagined!

 

 

 

"If you don't build your dream someone will hire you to help build theirs." - Tony A. Gaskins Jr

 

 

 

 

The celebrations are over. The New year’s eve has past. We have celebrated with our family and friends, and we welcomed this new year with hope and enthusiasm. We started the new year full of feelings and emotions, full of hope and optimism, full of new dreams, goals and desires. The first couple of weeks we feel motivated, we are full of enthusiasm, and something about this new year makes us believe that this will be the year that we will make all the things we have always wanted to do.

We start living the first month of this new year with happiness and passion, hopeful and full of faith. But as time goes by, all those beautiful emotions we had on New Year’s eve, all hopes, dreams, desires, all enthusiasm and optimism start to fade away. We begin to immerse ourselves in the darkness of our daily routines and day after day our dreams begin to go back to the drawer of oblivion. An a couple of months later, all those wonderful feelings we once had are replaced with stress, despair, tiredness, and frustration.

 

 

 

“What this power is I cannot say; all I know is that it exists and it becomes available only when a man is in that state of mind in which he knows exactly what he wants and is fully determined not to quit until he finds it.” – Alexander Graham Bell

 

 

 

Then, the year ends and now we do begin to dream again, we believe that the new year will bring us all the things we have always wanted, and once again, all those emotions we once had, begin to appear once again in our hearts putting us in the most wonderful of the states. But I wonder, is this kind of life that looks like if we were living on a roller coaster the meaning of life, the purpose of our existence? Is that our destiny? Once again, as an unstoppable dreamer that I am, I have to say no. Life is something we create, with our thoughts, and actions and with the attitude we adopt day by day.

Therefore, we should not wait any longer to start building our dreams. Life goes fast and if we are not careful we will end up building someone else’s dreams and we will call that “our job” protecting it more than our own dreams. The truth is that this system was created in a way that it makes it almost impossible to live without it. It made us so dependent, that we normally tend to deny all our own dreams because we have the need to serve this system in order to survive. The good news are that we can find the way to depend less from it and be more free, and the way to do it is by finding the time to build our own dreams.

 

 

 

“A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.” – Colin Powell

 

 

 

A day has 24 hours, a week has 168 hours, and a month has around 730 hours, and that means we have always time to do at least one thing per day that will push as closer to our dreams. Therefore, we should start by discovering our dreams and goals and set up all the steps we need to do along the year to make them a reality. How do we increase the chances to make that happen? By doing more of what will push us closer to them and doing less of the things that don’t serve us. For example, watching less television, spending less time doing nothing, spending less money on things that we don’t need, and so on. Remember that all those people who have created the life they have imagined, have had the same amount of time than you. It is all a matter of priorities. No matter how busy you are, or how much work do you have, use any spare time to build you dreams.

 

 

 

 

Do little, do much, but never stop doing. Use the time that God has given you in your favor and not against. The key is to start now, wherever you are, with whatever you have. Start building your own dreams before you end spending all your life building other people dreams. Go out and create the life you dream!

Face your Fears!

At least once in our lives we will be challenged to face our fears in order to grow up, evolve, in order to get what we yearn, achieve our goals and make our dreams become a reality. The victory is not guaranteed, but if we let our fears win, if we refuse to leave our comfort zone, if we decide not to pursue our dreams, if we succumb to our fears, one things is guaranteed: Our own defeat and the death of our dreams. Therefore, if we want to make our dreams become a reality we should face all our fears!

 

 

 

 

Our fears have the ability to paralyze us. They create a burden between us and our dreams. They limit us, they stop us, they steal our hopes, they snatch our dreams. There are many reasons for which most of the people haven’t achieved their dreams and one of them is because of their fears. The fear of the unknown, the fear of losing something, the fear of failure, the fear of what people would think of them if they fail, or if they succeed. These and many other fears that have sabotaged our own dreams.

As I look back into my past I can see how many times I refused to do something I wanted to do, or I gave up a certain goal, or I stopped pursing a special dream and all because of my fears. “What if I can’t do it?” “What if I fail?” “What if I am not good enough?” “What would people think of me if I do it?” “What if I lose?” “What if, what if, what if…” I hear those questions resonating in my head as it was yesterday when I said them. That was not my true self speaking, those words were my fears speaking for me. “What if”: That is how fears start confusing ourselves, that is their language.

 

 

 

 

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

 

 

 

 

Therefore, in order to face our fears and achieve all our dreams we must first detect when our fears have taken the control of our own minds. Why is important to do that? Because once we detect that our fears are controlling our thoughts, we can quickly take back the control and start thinking for ourselves. If we are not careful our fears will take the control of our minds and they will decide for us, and they will shape our destiny. We should face them and challenge them, and prove them wrong.

Life is like a box of chocolates, there are different shapes, different fillings, different tastes, some are sweet, some are bitter, you can like them all or only a few, but you end enjoying all the box. One thing is certain in this world: Nothing is sure, and you will never know the taste of what is inside the box until you begin to try it. For one moment to another our life could take an unexpected turn, and everything could change. Therefore, if we go safely, if we do not take risks, if we remain in our comfort zone we will never truly end enjoying our lives, we will simple exist, and all our dreams will be buried into oblivion.

 

 

 

 

“He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

 

Most of the time our fears are not real. For example: Every time I turn off the light I think something horrible is going to appear, but it never happens. The reason is because what I imagine that is going to happen is not real, it is all in my mind. Our fears are founded by the environment where we were born. It happens with all our fears, and we can overcome them if we are willing to face them.

I was once afraid of spiders, one day I wondered why? Why I am so afraid of something that never did something to me? The problem is that I was programmed to fear them, I decided to overcome that fear, and I faced what I feared the most. It was hard in the beginning, but day after day my fear has started to vanish.

 

 

 

 

“Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.” – Judy Blume

 

 

 

 

It happened with my fear of living in another country, with another culture and language. My fears tried to stop me, at some point they wanted to protect me, so they wanted me to stay in my comfort zone. One day I woke up, and I said to myself: “You know what, if you are going to fear something, fear the idea of living a miserable life for the rest of your life for not having pursued your dreams.” That day I silenced my fears, and I took the first step in the direction of my dreams. It is when you decide to face them, when your life gets another meaning. Do what you fear the most and grow, improve, reborn, evolve.

 

 

 

 

All your dreams, all the things you want, all your desires are on the other side of your fears. Don’t let them stop you, don’t let them snatch your dreams, face them, challenge them, and defeat them!

Life Goes On Like The Flowing River

Life is like a river, it is always flowing, it can flow slowly or it can flow quickly, it can change courses but nothing can stop the river from flowing. The same happens with life, there are no external circumstances that can stop it from flowing. One thing is sure: Life always goes on. We have different options: We can go with the flow and move on with life, we can stay still like a rock while life passes over us or we can fight against the current. Are you going to move on with life to a better future or will you stay stuck in that dark and hopeless place? You create your own luck, you create your future, you choose.

 

 

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No matter what happens in your life, it always goes on. According to Wikipedia the earth has 4.6 billion years but life on earth started a little bit later around 3.8 billion years ago, and humans has been on earth only a few hundred thousand of years ago. From the beginning there have been a lot of different circumstances that affected life on earth in many ways, but in one way or another it always managed to move on.

Since they are born humans go through a lot of different circumstances throughout their lives. Like a river faces different external conditions, so does life, and so we are exposed to many changes throughout our lives. These kind of changes have different impacts on a person’s life, it doesn’t really depend on the circumstance but it depends on the way a person reacts to that particular circumstance.

 

 

 

 

“When the pretty birds have flown, and you feel hurt and alone, be strong and carry on, and remember that life goes on.” – Mouloud Benzadi

 

 

 

 

In this beautiful and sometimes turbulent river called life there will be different situations along the way, sometimes the external conditions will be favorable for us and it will push us forward in the streams of life but sometimes they will not be favorable and like a very hard punch in the face it will hit us making us fall, and we are going to feel nothing but pain. But it will paralyze us? It will destroy us? The truth is there is no answer, because we determine the answer according to our reaction to what happened and our following actions. But is it possible to move on? Yes, definitely.

Whatever has happened to us there is no way we can go back to the past and change it. No matter how hard we fight with the current, we will never go back to the point we want to get in order to change something, therefore the only way we can do something to change our current situation is to move forward. Our present is the place where we create the foundations of our future. Every day of your life you can decide to start again.

 

 

 

 

“Accidents happen. Our bones shatter, our skin splits, our hearts break. We burn, we drown, we stay alive.” – Moïra Fowley-Doyle

 

 

 

 

We can fight with the current and end up being exhausted, we can refuse to move on, staying stuck in a miserable life forever or we can decide to move forward at the rhythm of the current. Life always goes on and we have the power to decide what to do with our own lives. Are we going to let an external situation whatever it is to define us? To paralyze us? To destroy us and all our goals and dreams? Or are we going to be the creators of our destiny believing in God, believing in ourselves? We decide. Life with or without us will go on.

Nothing will remain as it is, life flows like a river, it changes, it evolves. It always goes on, and if we move forward with it, no matter how dark it is at the moment, always remember that the sun never disappears, it only hides, and sooner or later the bright of a sunny morning will come through your window.

 

 

 

 

Leave the past, live the present, create your future and always move forward in the direction of your dreams!  

 

Are You Committed to Change Your Life?

If we would spend the same amount of energy we spend on complaining on creating the life we want, how different our life would be. The problem is we are not always as committed on changing our lives as we are on complaining about the things we do not like about it. The good news is that the life we yearn, the things we want, and absolutely everything is possible, we only need to be willing to daily commit to create the life we want to experience. Are you committed to change your life?  

 

 

"When confronted with a challenge, the committed heart will search for a solution. The undecided heart searches for an escape." - Andy Andrews

 

 

There are many things we may not like about our lives, but instead of doing something in order to change it, we spend our precious time complaining about the things we do not like. We tend to focus on the problem, and not in the solution. We surrender to a miserable life, instead of fighting for the life we really want. We do not commit to change our lives because we are already too committed on complaining about the different things in our lives that we despise.

Why? Because is easier that way, it is hard to change your life. It requires us to leave our comfort zone, which in fact is not so comfortable at all, but in this place we have everything we need to survive, so we refuse to do something to change our current situation, becoming the eternal complainers. But can you imagine how different our lives would be if we would simply decide to do something to change our lives? The first thing we need to know is that if we are not really committed on doing something in order to change it everything will remain as it is and nothing will change.

 

 

 

“Commitment is that turning point in your life when you seize the moment to alter your destiny.” – Denis Waitley

 

 

 

I found many times people being frustrated because they are upset with their jobs, or their current financial situation, people who are not happy with the things they are doing, with the career they have chosen, people who are unhappy with the relationship they are having with their partners, people who are depressed and sad because they are not living the life they want or doing the things they love, people who are unsatisfied with their health condition, people who is frustrated because they are failing in their tests at school or university, people who indeed have reasons to complain and feel miserable but people who haven’t done anything to change their lives.

I found myself many times being that kind of people, being the complainer not the doer. I always thought how easy my life would be if I could have the same luck as Aladdin and find a special lamp that I could rub so a genie can come out to offer me three wishes. Frustrated and disappointed because such a fantasy would never come true, I suddenly discovered that I could be my own genie. I mean, I always believed that God was ready to help me, so why I wasn’t doing anything to change my life? Because I never believed in myself. So one day I decided to become my own genie, quitting the habit of complaining, becoming the creator of my destiny.

 

 

 

“Commitment unlocks the doors of imagination, allows vision, and gives us the right stuff to turn our dream into reality.” – James Womack

 

 

 

You too can become your own genie in the lamp. The first decision you need to make is to decide what you really want and take the first step in the direction of your goal. They say Rome wasn’t built in a day, so don’t be discouraged if you can’t change your life overnight. If you are really committed to make it happen, and if you take the right steps towards your dreams, you will eventually turn your life around. Do you want different results? Change your actions! The same behavior will give us the same outcomes. You don’t like your job? Change it! You are not doing well at school or at college? Study more! You don’t have enough money? Spend less! You want to travel? Do it! I know, it’s not so easy as it sounds, but if you focus on finding the way to change the things you are not happy with, you will eventually do it! And the key is: commitment.

Focus on the solution, not the problem. Cease to complain and take the reins of your own life, and create new and better outcomes. When do you should start? Today! What do you do? Decide what you want. What to do next? Take the first step! It doesn’t matter what you do to begin, the thing is to begin. Start building the life you want with whatever you have right now, as you move forward you will encounter new opportunities, people who will be ready to help you, tools that will help you build your dream, and if you are truly committed, sooner or later, life will welcome you with a new tomorrow.

 

 

 

“Most people fail, not because of lack of desire, but because of lack of commitment.” – Vince Lombardi

 

 

 

It’s not so hard as it seems, in fact, is much simpler than we think. The key is to do what we have to do in order to make it happen, that is the only way to get what we want. Whatever we are unhappy with our lives right now, complaining won’t change anything. Sometimes we can easily fix what is going wrong with our lives but sometimes it will require from us a bigger commitment, and sometimes the only way to improve our lives, to get what we want, and have the life we desire is to make a complete radical change. Start now, start today, and step by step create the life you want to experience. Everything is possible for those who dare to dream and are committed enough to make it happen!

 

 

 

 

Don’t give up, don’t give in, create the life you believe in. If you are really committed to change your life, there is nothing that can stop you!

Follow Your Passion

We spend most of our time immersed in an endless race. We go through life chasing something, believing that it will give us everything we want. This thing is called money, and we believe that this will help us make all our dreams come true. We make money our first priority, we chase it at all costs, and in the end of this race we pay a high price for it and we lose it all. We realize that money made us blind, it made us follow the wrong path, and we have killed our own dreams, burned our desires, and extinguished the flame of our passion. To avoid this before is too late we must change our direction, and follow our passion, not money.

 

 

 

Somehow we have come to believe that having money is what will make us happy and successful. They told us a wonderful story about money, they painted a fantastic picture in our minds, what gave us the idea that money will allow us to buy every possession in this world, and so acquire an everlasting happiness, and we believed it. The problem with this is that we started chasing money instead our passion, not knowing that we were heading straight to our decay.

The problem when we chase money is that we fall into a big trap. This trap attracts us making us believe that money is the solution to all our problems, and the key to a happy and fulfilled life, so we start chasing it, falling into the trap, right into its claws, and slowly devours our souls alive. It consumes every part of us, and it makes us so addict, so dependent that we need it in order to survive, making us believe that in fact, money makes us happy, and the lack of it makes us miserable, and deaf and blind we defend this idea until we die.

 

 

“Chase your passion, not your pension.” – Denis Waitley

 

 

 

But how many successful people do you see out there? And with successful I do not mean having money, because having money does not always equals success, but I mean people living their passion, people who have achieved their dreams and desires, people who is happy living the life they want, people who is truly alive. How many people do you see happy doing what they are doing? Not many isn’t it?

The problem with most of us is that we chase money, we get it, and we settle. As long as we can acquire material possessions we are going to have the idea that we are happy the way we are, even if that happiness depends on something as ephemeral as money. We live under a system that makes us believe that money is the key to a happy life, so we do not follow what makes us really happy, we follow money, believing that one day we are going to be free enough to start chasing our passion, and that day never comes.

 

 

 

“There is no passion to be found playing small, in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” – Nelson Mandela

 

 

 

Therefore, it is important to chase your passion. Your passion is your purpose, is doing what you love, what makes you happy. No matter what that is, you can always make a living doing what you love. Money shouldn’t be our main purpose, if that is your main reason of your existence then you haven’t figured out yet why you are really here, and you are limiting yourself from living a wonderful life.

If you chase money, you will always be chasing it, but if you chase your passion, money will follow. People chase money, they get it, they lose it, they get more, they lose more, they get it back, they throw it away, they think again how to get more, and they bury themselves more and more in this madness. This never stops, that is why most people are living a miserable life, and the problem is not that they have or not money, the problem is what they lose, what they hide, what they sacrifice, what they kill, what they destroy, what they forget for money.

 

 

 

“If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.” – Bishop T.D. Jakes

 

 

 

What is your passion? What makes you happy? What do you love to do? What is your dream? Take a time to think about it, this is really important my friend. Discover your purpose, find your passion, and go out and chase it, chase it under the sun, under the storm, through light or through darkness, when you feel strong or weak, not matter how hard it gets, or how far you are from reaching your goal, no matter how impossible it looks like, always follow your passion, and everything else, including money will follow. Do not settle, do not limit yourself, do not be the killer of your own dreams.

 

 

 

 

Decide what you want to do and do it. Be the best at it, fail, try again, fail better, and never stop. Chase your passion with confidence and commitment and live the life of your dreams!

 

Honesty: One of the Most Treasured Values of Human Being

On the road to becoming the best version of ourselves, honesty should be an important value to keep in mind. The problem is that we live in a society that reward us from telling lies and punishes us for being honest. Telling lies has become a normal habit between human beings and we have accepted it as a valid behavior. Honesty is a value that we all praise but it is normally forgotten, it has become the rarest value in a human being. But can we revert this or are we condemned to a life of lies? The answer is yes. yes, we can! and all depend on us.

 

 

"When you tell a lie, you steal someone’s right to the truth." - Khaled Hosseini #honesty

 

 

Why we have left honesty buried in oblivion? Is it to protect others or is to protect ourselves? Is it to be accepted by this society? Or is it because of fear? Why is it sometimes so hard to be honest? Why we are so easy to corrupt? Why do we easily forget honesty? I believe the main problem is because we have forgotten about who we really are and why we are really here. We have silenced the voice of our own souls, living the lie created by this society. We were not born liars, cheaters, fake, we learned to be this way. They manipulated us, they distort reality.

Since we were kids we have listened to lies. When we were children they told us stories that were fake, they tried to scary us with things that didn’t exist, they never explained why something was happening, but they tried to hide it with a nice little story. As grown-up, lies were almost everywhere. Lies in the television, in magazines, in newspapers, people cheating each other, advertising trying to sell you something with a lie, beautiful images of models and fantastic products that never looked like in the pictures, lies from politicians, lies between friends, family, colleagues, lies everywhere.

 

 

 

“If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything.” – Mark Twain

 

 

 

So we learned to lie, we accepted it as normal. Nowadays, cheating has become a normal behavior. I heard some people saying: “It’s life, it’s normal, people cheat, people lie, people is fake, and so do you.” And the classic one: “If you can’t beat them, join them.” Well, I totally disagree with this quote. I believe that if we surrender to this world that constantly try us to be something else, we lose who we really, and if we are not ourselves, we are nothing, or we are simply bones covered with flesh surviving in this world, waiting to die.

Nobody wants to be cheated, nobody likes lies, so why we do not start by being a source of honesty instead of lies? We can begin by being honest to our own selves. That is where the lie begins, we do not cheat others more than we cheat ourselves. Therefore, if we could learn to be honest with our own selves, we can be honest with others. This won’t avoid others from being dishonest but at least you will be your true self, you won’t be corrupted by this society, and that is a great achievement.

 

 

 

“Every lie is two lies — the lie we tell others and the lie we tell ourselves to justify it.” – Robert Brault

 

 

 

But we should always be honest? Even if that hurts other people? Yes, but there could be some exceptions. We have to try to tell always the truth, but there could be moments when our truth doesn’t need to be revealed. To be more clear I will give you an example. Imagine that today is your birthday and someone gives you a gift that you don’t like, would it be necessary to say: Hey, thanks but no thanks, this gift is really disgusting. The truth is honesty doesn’t mean to be rude. You don’t have to lie and say that is the best gift ever, but you could thank for the intention.

At the same time, honesty doesn’t mean that you have to go through life telling others your opinion about them, not everyone expects your opinions, so better don’t say it, and if they ask, so say the truth without being rude. When the truth is not really relevant, and if it keeping it to yourself will be more beneficial than saying it, that could be the only exception. But do not confuse this with lying to protect others or to avoid hurting others. A lie, sooner or later will do more harm than the worst truths.

 

 

 

“There is always a way to be honest without being brutal.” – Arthur Dobrin

 

 

 

Therefore, if honesty and kindness go together they will never cause harm, or not as much as the biggest lie. The problem with lies is that the longer you wait, the bigger it becomes. We can’t go back in time and change what we did or said, but we can always choose to say the truth, a lie never expires, it will always be there, and the only way to destroy it is with the truth. Do not be afraid of telling the truth, and be ready to accept a truth instead of wishing to get beautiful lies. They can hurt, but once you know it, you are free to reinvent your life, while living a lie will only convince you that the illusion you live is real, living forever in a fantasy.

 

 

 

 

Start being honest with yourself today. That is the first step to becoming the best version of yourself. Be kind, be gentle, and say the truth to the people around you with compassion, not to hurt them but to free them, not to destroy them but to love them, even if they don’t love you back. Let’s become honest and free our conscious from the torture of our lies!

Our Need for Security

One of the things that people constantly seek, either consciously or unconsciously is security. We have the need to feel safe because that guarantees us our survival. Certainty makes us feel comfortable, while uncertainty makes our world tremble, putting us in a place of extreme vulnerability. This need for security can truly guarantee us our very existence, it will make us feel comfortable, it will make us feel safe. But does it really guarantees us freedom, peace, happiness, success and everything we might want in life? Stay with me, and let’s find out together!

 

 

"No amount of security is worth the suffering of a mediocre life chained to a routine that has killed your dreams." - Maya Mendoza

 

 

We always seek for security because we think that it will give us freedom, we believe that having a lifetime security will mean having a lifetime freedom, a lifetime happiness, or a lifetime success. We think that it will guarantee us true success, we think that we will be free to do everything we love and make all our dreams become a reality. A lifetime security is possible when we choose to live a life inside our comfort zone, a place where we feel safe and at ease.

While living in our comfort zone, can bring us security and give us the idea that we are free, happy and successful, it is in fact only an illusion. Why? because choosing a lifetime security only enslaves us, taking us all our freedom. When we put security as priority over our dreams, that is when we become prisoners of a system that teach us that the only thing that matters is a lifetime security, it told us that dreams are impossible or that they are not worth the risk. So, we look for security in every aspect of our lives: we look for a job security, for a house, a car, and everything that will make us feel safe, we don’t question anything, we simply settle.

 

 

 

“Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth.” – John F. Kennedy

 

 

 

But what is wrong about this? Why is wrong to look for security? what is the problem of living in our comfort zone? There is no problem at all. In fact, it is in our own instincts, it is in our very nature as human beings. The problem only starts when we settle to a life that is far less than the one we are capable of living, limiting our own extraordinary capabilities. The problem is when we achieve a life that gives us security, and that stop us from achieving more. We become so dependent on that life, that we fight to protect it against everything including our own dreams, because our dreams are always a threat to our security.

That is the reason why so many people give up on their dreams. The fear of leaving the place of conformity to enter to unknown territories scares them to the point that they decide to stick to their ordinary life, where they are comfortable and they feel safe. And if you want to achieve the life we have always imagined, if we want to make all our dreams become a reality, we will have to be ready to feel uncomfortable. That place of security will bring us everything we need to survive, but the life we want, and truly deserve, it is only possible outside our comfort zone.

 

 

 

“The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” – Michelangelo

 

 

 

Most of the people who have already achieved their dreams, or those people who are known for being extremely successful, have one thing in common: They were in a place of absolutely uncertainty when they decided to go for their dreams. Therefore, we can see that actually our place of security, our comfort zone is what truly limits us, because it makes us feel safe, so we do not do anything in order to not lose that security we have. It is only when we are in a place of mystery, uncertainty, and discomfort when our true character is shaped. It is in that moment that we become free to become the person we were meant to be and do everything we have always imagined.

 

 

 

 

 

May your need for security do not limit you from living the life that you are capable of living. Do not settle for a life that you do not love only because it gives you security. You can, and you will live the life of your dreams if you dare to leave your comfort zone!

Is Life a Competition?

Since we were children we are taught to compete. Day after day the habit of competing with others is shaped. When we less expect it that habit is created, and our whole life becomes a competition, a competition where we need to beat others in order to be successful. But is life really a competition? Do we need to compete in order to be successful? It is the act of competing with others what give us true victory? Can the result of a competition really define a human being? Let’s find out together more about competition, its definition, level of importance and impact on human beings.

 

 

 

 

According to the dictionary, a competition is “a situation in which someone is trying to win something or be more successful than someone else” In other words, we can define competition as being an opportunity to get a special prize that might have a special significance, or the opportunity to defeat others to declare oneself as being more successful or superior than someone else. Therefore, does this mean that we must focus on defeating others to be successful? It is by doing so, that one truly achieves victory? It is true that through competing with others one evolves, becomes superior, and achieves greatness?

Well, that will depend on the way we see it, that is to say, our own perspective, belief and idea of what a competition truly means. Two different beliefs are going to determine the true meaning of competition and the answers to those questions: 1. The belief that life is a competition, where you have to defeat others in every possible aspect of your life. 2. The belief that life is not a competition at all, and if there is one competition that is with the person you were yesterday.

 

 

 

“The only competition worthy of a wise man is with himself.” – Washington Allston

 

 

 

The first belief will define competition as the possibility to beat others to be successful, believing that through defeating others one gets true victory, what makes them more superior, what makes them evolve, and so achieve greatness.  The second belief will define competition as being merely the chance to be better than you were yesterday, believing that one is successful, evolves and achieves greatness by becoming the best version of oneself.

The people who have the first belief will focus on winning others. That will be their maximum goal, beating others will become their main desire, and the defeat of others will be their victory.  Those who have the second belief will focus on being better than they were yesterday, and becoming the best version of themselves will be their ultimate goal, and victory for them will mean being the person they were meant to be without needing to defeat others for being so.

 

 

 

“You are never really playing an opponent. You are playing yourself, your own highest standards, and when you reach your limits, that is real joy.” – Arthur Ashe

 

 

 

As we can see competition is a word that can have many different meanings. The true is that nowadays people have accepted the first belief, because that is what this society taught us. It taught us that we need to compete, and in every competition, we have to win others in order to be successful. And this is not about sports, this is not a simple game, this is about life. Somehow, they transformed life into a competition. We compete not to become the best version of ourselves, but to simply defeat others, what gave us a wrong idea of life.

Every aspect of our life has become a competition. In every place there is an ongoing competition: In workplaces, schools, universities, homes, neighborhoods, bars, parks, and every corner of this world. We compete to see who has the best car, smartphone, house, clothes, shoes, we compete to see who has the best body, who looks better, who is more beautiful, we compete to see who has the best job, the best position, the best salary, we compete to see who has the best grades, or the most important degree, or anything that will put us in a “high status position”,  we compete to see who has the best birthday, wedding, funeral, it doesn’t matter, the fact is that we have to be better than others, that gives a fake sensation of happiness and success, that seems to fill our empty souls.

 

 

 

“Real learning comes about when the competitive spirit has ceased.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti

 

 

 

But, do we ever feel complete? No, not really, and that is why we never stop competing. We desperate need to be better than others to feel successful. What we don’t know is that the only person we need to be better than is the person we were yesterday. Being the person we were meant to be, doing the things we love without needing others approval, without needing to beat others, gives us freedom, and that makes us truly successful, that is how you really win this competition called “Life”, which in fact is not a competition at all, or not against others, but a competition against the person we were yesterday. Winning this game, means defeating the person that we are not, becoming the person that we really are, and that means becoming the best version of ourselves.

If you want to improve yourself, to develop your true potential, if you want to succeed at life, you will have to fight to become the person you are capable of becoming, if you believe in yourself and you think you are good enough to be the person you have imagined, then there is no need to compete with others, because you will realize that you don’t have competition, and if you don’t have competition, against whom are you going to compete with?

 

 

 

 

 

Life is not a competition, and if there is one competition, that is against ourselves. We create our own success by exceeding our own standards not by defeating others. So let’s go out and become the best version of ourselves!