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The Rebellious Act of Liking Yourself

We live in a world so obsessed with external appearances that the package has become more important than the content. Nowadays looking good on the outside has become our main priority, our obsession, and the only reason is to be accepted in this society that condemns you or glorifies you for your appearance. Therefore, liking yourself in a society that plays with your self-esteem and expect you to feel ugly is a rebellious act that gives you freedom!

 

 In a society that profits from your self doubt liking yourself is a rebellious act. Caroline Caldwell

 

 

This society wants us to believe that in order to be successful we need to look beautiful on the outside. Since we are born we are exposed to different sources which its only purpose is to make us feel ugly. They created the concept that ugly equals unhappiness, and beauty equals happiness and success. It seems that you can only love yourself if you are beautiful on the outside, and that, of course, never happens, and why? because if you finally love yourself, the business would be over, and where there is no business, there is no money.

Our minds have been infected with this virus from the day one. When we are born they cut us our hair, they make a hole in our ears so we can look pretty with cute little earrings, they dress us like dolls, and they make us to act as princesses and princes. As we grew, they gave us skinny, blonde, and blue-eyed Barbie’s to play with, and as we continue to grow that infernal virus sickened our mind with make-up, plastic surgery, reality shows with all good-looking people, movies with beautiful actors, music played by pretty boys and girls, and TV commercials that constantly wash our brains, day in and day out.

 

 

 

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

The problem is that we have accepted the concept that we need to look pretty in order to feel happy. We believe that eventually we are going to love ourselves once we look beautiful on the outside, so we buy all the crap that we can find in order to feel happy and like ourselves, but this never ends, we never feel completely happy with ourselves and we want more, we want to look as the girls in the magazines, and the problem is that they do not even look like that in the reality. We chase a fake stereotype of beauty that doesn’t exist.

The problem is that they make us believe that it exists, so we never stop buying the crap they sell, submitting ourselves to this maniac marketing that owns us. There is always something new, a new type of plastic surgery, a new revolutionary product that will make you look 20 years younger, and wonderful tanning product that will make you look tanned the 365 days of a year, a new make-up that transforms your face into a fake and unnatural doll. There always will be something that you will need in order to look beautiful and feel happy. This never stops, never.

 

 

 

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise L. Hay

 

 

 

Therefore, if you want to be beautiful, start by liking yourself just the way you are, love the real you without any artificial product or special clothes or anything, simply love what society calls “imperfections” because they are not, they are perfect, you are perfect just the way you are. Beauty is a concept that society created in order to set a standard, and profit from it, but everyone is beautiful, we are unique, original, one of a kind, we do not need to be someone else to be beautiful, being ourselves and liking ourselves is what makes us beautiful.

What I mean is that is completely okay to buy and wear all the products you want, as long as your happiness doesn’t depend from it. Change your hair color, wear make-up, make a diet, go to the gym, buy new clothes, use your favorite cream, but do it because you like it, not to impress others, not to be accepted, not to belong, not to feel happy or be successful because you will never be completely happy if you depend on all that to feel good with yourself. Wake up in the morning, go to the mirror, and look yourself without make-up, with your disheveled hair, with your Minnie mouse pajamas, look at your face with your wrinkles, pimples, look at your body with all your “imperfections” and smile at you, because you are beautiful. Love yourself in that very moment and you will find freedom to be yourself without needing anything in order to be it.

 

 

 

“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

 

 

 

They once said: “beauty hurts” – No my friend, beauty doesn’t hurt, what it hurts is not being able to look yourself in the mirror, and like what you are seeing simply because you don’t look like the girl in the magazine. Not being able to see your true beauty, makes you miserable, and it doesn’t matter how hard you try to look “beautiful” you will always feel miserable, and that hurts thousands of times more than walking with high heels, plastic surgery or waxing. Can you understand the real problem here? It is you! It is the way you see yourself, change the eyes with which you see yourself, fall in love with your true self and you will change your whole life… and you will save a lot of money too! 😉

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you look yourself at the mirror and you like what you see, do you think you will care what others think? Absolutely no! that is called self-confidence and that is liking yourself! You don’t need anything to be beautiful, you already are, just remember that and be free to be your authentic, wonderful, and beautiful self!

Jealousy is a destructive emotion

Jealousy is a destructive emotion and it can only generate destructive outcomes. The truth is jealousy never bring anything good, as it consumes our mind and our reality becomes a nightmare.

 

"There is no greater glory than love, nor any greater punishment than jealousy." - Lope De Vega

 

Jealousy is a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves and our whole life because it shows how much we lack. Jealousy is poison to our spirit and is extremely toxic, as it contaminates our soul and heart. There are many reasons why we are jealous, for my experience I believe that the main reasons are due to our lack of self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-love, and when this happens, we let fear to control our life, and we become insecure, doubtful, anxious, depressed and miserable, everything that jealousy needs to grow every day.

Jealousy has the power to control our thoughts, emotions, actions and our whole life. When jealousy seizes your mind, you lose the control of your own thoughts and emotions, and your perspective which gives your reality, becomes unreal. Jealousy is a disease that causes torment and pain for those who suffer it. Once we let jealousy to control our life, our whole reality becomes a nightmare, and not only for us but for those around us who are also the victims of our jealousy.

 

 

 

 

Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy – in fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other.” – Robert A. Heinlein

 

 

 

 

 

So jealousy is the way we have to defend ourselves against external threats, but in fact the worst threat lies within ourselves, and is called fear, and fear gives us wrong beliefs about life, people and ourselves, and so we live in a fictional reality that makes us to have the emotion that we were trying to avoid: unhappiness.

When you are jealous, you live in a world that is not real, because you don’t see the world with your eyes open, you see it with your eyes covered by your fears, and the reality you see in your mind is most of the time inaccurate, and so are your feelings and emotions.

The truth is jealousy puts us in the place of suffering we were trying to avoid, and we don’t get anything good out of it. Jealousy takes from us any opportunity to be in peace and happy with ourselves, and with everyone around us. No matter the situation, no matter how good your life can be, if you suffer from jealousy, your life will be your worst nightmare, because once jealousy poisons your mind and spirit you will live in a distorted reality, and you will see ghosts and demons where there are only angels, pushing away everything that is good for you.

 

 

 

 

“Never underestimate the power of jealousy and the power of envy to destroy. Never underestimate that.” – Oliver Stone

 

 

 

 

Jealousy is the cause why you are not living a truly happy and peaceful life, because it consumes your mind and your life. Every opportunity to achieve your goals, every chance to live the life of your dreams getting what you always wanted, vanishes in the darkness of your fears. If you want to be happy you will have to face your fears and challenge them.

If someone we love leaves us or does something that hurts us, or if we are betrayed or if we can’t get something we always wanted can be very painful but nothing can be more painful as being trapped in a nightmare world created by our mind, poisoned by our jealousy encouraged by our fears, insecurities, doubts and anxieties.

If you know who you really are, what you are capable of achieving, if you know how beautiful and amazing you are, you will never doubt from yourself again, and that my friends, is the first step to remove jealousy from your life. It is something you must work every day, you must learn to love yourself and believe in you, once you do that, you will find peace again and you will see life as it really is.

 

 

 

 

“You can be the moon and still be jealous of the stars.” – Gary Allan

 

 

 

 

At least that was my experience because one day I decided that in order to be successful I needed to believe in myself, and I found out that my beliefs about me and life were wrong, I underestimate me, and let my past, situations and people to define me, which created insecurity, disgust, anxiety, resentment and fears, and I became dependent of others for being happy, and then I fed my jealousy so much that they took my life, and so I believed in myself, and I took back the control of my own life, and I defeated all fears.

 

 

Believe in yourself and be confident about your potential, it is important for you to see it, once you see it, you will not care if others do the same, you don’t have to show nothing to anyone, you are worth, and you know that, so don’t be jealous of no one!