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The Battle Between Us and Our Past

Sometimes in a person’s life, a battle takes place between him and his past. This battle occurs in that person’s present. The past controls and conditions its present, and the person becomes the victim of its past, and his whole life is covered with suffering. But is the past the true cause of suffering? If this battle is real, how can we win?

 

 

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Imagine with me for a moment that we are witnessing a trial, a fictional trial. Today the court is going to dictate the sentence. The victim is a woman, and the defendant its past. The woman accused it for destroying her life. According to her, everything that happened to her and every person involved in her past have caused a permanent damage in her life. She expressed that her present has been conditioned by the things that happened or didn’t happened and by the persons that caused them. She claimed that her past is the first and only cause of all suffering she experiences in her present.

The trial takes place, and after several hours of debate, it is time for the verdict. After reviewing the case very carefully, the court makes a decision. The defendant is exonerated from all charges and the victim is found guilty and it is convicted to a life in prison, with the exemption that she will not be behind the bars, but she will be attached to the defendant, her past, for the rest of her life. Having a life of misery and despair.

 

 

 

 

“Too often, we carry around those things from our past that hurt us the most. Don’t let past pain rob you of your present happiness. You had to live through it in the past, and that cannot be changed, but if the only place it lives today is in your mind, then forgive, let go, and be free.” – Doe Zantamata

 

 

 

 

In this trial, the past is accused of causing suffering and permanent damage in this woman’s present. Then, why it is exonerated from all charges? How come the victim is declared guilty and the accused innocent? Because they are not judging situations, experiences and people of her past, they are judging it for causing pain in her present, and for the court the only cause of suffering of this woman in her present is herself, for the past itself can’t cause suffering in a place where it doesn’t exist, and it cease to exist in the present, the only one who can keep the past alive in the present is oneself in one’s mind, therefore, if we remain attached to it in our present, we are guilty of our present suffering.

When we become victims of our past, we immediately condemn ourselves to a life in prison. When we refuse to let it go by remaining attached to it, we take the role of victims, and in the end, the only thing we get is more and more suffering. The truth is, we cannot change what happened, no matter how painful it might have been, but we can change our present. We can decide to let go of the past, quitting the role of victims, and releasing ourselves from the hard sentence.

 

 

 

“Today is a new day. Don’t let your history interfere with your destiny! Let today be the day you stop being a victim of your circumstances and start taking action towards the life you want. You have the power and the time to shape your life. Break free from the poisonous victim mentality and embrace the truth of your greatness. You were not meant for a mundane or mediocre life!” – Steve Maraboli

 

 

 

 

Our past may have been our worst nightmare, we may have suffered, things in our past may have damaged us, people may have hurt us, and we can have all the right to feel victims, but by being a victim with all our resentment and hate we are not going to change what happened, nor we are going to feel better, but slowly and painfully those feelings will consume our own souls. Our past might never be of our liking, and maybe we will never overcome all the things that happened to us, but if we do not cease to be its victims, if we do not let it go, we will carry it as a burden in our backs, condemning ourselves to a life of misery.

It is a hard battle the one that is carried out between you and your past, but the victory is possible. To obtain it, to finally defeat it, there is a few things you need to do, but the first thing is to stop fighting with it. Let it go, accept it, forgive, let go of resentment, learn, those are useful things you can do to cease with your suffering. End this useless battle, and take back the control of your feelings, emotions and your entire life.

 

 

 

 

 

Stop being a victim of your past, letting it go, cutting all attachments to it, cleansing your body, soul and mind from all resentment, and starting again, only then you will heal your heart, end with all suffering and you will become free to start a new life!

Is your past still present in your life?

Sometimes our past is more present than we think, and that is one of the reasons why we are still standing in the same place in our present. The problem is that everything that is related with our past, that we haven’t let go is still interfering with our present, and prevents us from moving forward. For that reason, in order to achieve our desired goals and dreams and create our future, we must first remove our past from our present.

 

 "Without freedom from the past, there is no freedom at all." - Jiddu Krishnamurti

 

How many things that are related with your past are still living in your present? And with that I do not only mean only material things, but memories, thoughts, feelings, people and experiences. What place does your past occupy in your present? Does it occupy a huge part or small part in your life? How much of it are still alive in your heart?

Try to reflect about your life and your present, try to relax and calm down from your daily obligations and pressures, and when you are ready look around you, and look inside of you: Can you see your past dominating your present? Are your past emotions and feelings blocking you from moving forward? Is stopping you from achieving your goals and desires? Are your past experiences and emotions influencing your present and making decisions for you?

 

 

 

 

“Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.” – Daphne Rose Kingma

 

 

 

If the answer is no, well done! You have done a great job getting rid from your past and you are living your present to the fullest, without being influenced by it. But if the answer is yes, my next question will be: Does your past serve you in your present? That is to say, it is giving you the results you have been looking for? It is useful in your present? It is helping you in any way or,  it is simply blocking you from getting the things you want to get?

The thing is our past does not have to be always a disadvantage in our present life, as long as the reason of being in our present is to take the best out of ourselves and give us strength. Our past, whether if was good or bad, is always a lesson, a lesson we should learn, so we can apply the knowledge acquired in our present, and at the same time, it should never be forgotten, so we do not repeat the same actions again. That is the important part of it, and the one that we should keep in our present, together with memories that lift our heart and brighten our days.

 

 

 

“The mental and physical space we create by letting go of things that belong in our past gives us the option to fill the space with something new.” – Susan Fay West

 

 

 

Everything from your past that not serves you in your present, does not bring any benefits in your life, any bad memory, or relationship, or good and bad experiences, every emotion, every person, as well as every thing including material things from our past that doesn’t help us in any way should be removed from our present to leave space for new and better things.

If our heart, mind and our environment is full of things from our past that does not make us grow, make us better, make us happy, or make us be the person we want to be and have the things we want to get, Why we should keep them if it is not only to sabotage our own lives? Why we should keep it alive when it kills our present and destroys our future? We have a chain around our necks that is leaving us without breath and that chain is our past, why keep living like that when we have the key to our own freedom?

 

 

 

“You’ve got to make a conscious choice every day to shed the old – whatever ‘the old’ means for you.” – Sarah Ban Breathnach

 

 

 

Today is the right day to clean your heart, mind and your whole life and take away from them all the things from your past that do not serve you anymore. Take all those  things, people, memories, experiences and feelings that do not make you happy, or make you grow, or make you the person you want to be, even those that may seem good, because everything that is from the past has nothing to do with your present, neither your future, they may have been bad or painful, or good or great but they are the past and we have to let them go, so we can move forward and leave space for those great things that are waiting for us.

What would be the first thing that does not serve you anymore in any way? What is that memory, thing, emotion or experience from your past that is stopping you from moving forward? Start with it, and without thinking it too much: just let it go!

 

 

 

It is time to grab a bag, put the things from our past that do not serve us in our present, and throw them away, and make space for all the great things that are yet to come!

A New Year: Hundreds of New Opportunities

Why the New Year is a motive to celebrate? Because life will give us 365 new opportunities to enjoy life and be happy, that is why in this time of the year our hearts are filled with dreams, desires and hope. Deep inside our hearts, we believe that this one could be the year where we can do everything we have always wanted to do, making our dreams and goals become a reality, and that is in fact true. The question will be: Are you 100% committed to give your best this year? The answer will determine your future.

 

"Tomorrow, is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one." - Brad Paisley 

 At 00:00 am on the first day of the year, we raise our glasses and make a toast for the New Year, and with joy we look into the future with hope. We remember the year that is gone but we look forward to the next year. Most of us think about all the things we wanted to do that we haven’t done in the last year and we wish that this year we can do all the things we have always wanted to do. That is the spirit of this time of the year, the spirit of believing that everything is possible.

The problem is that after a few days, that spirit is overshadowed by our daily routine, worries, fears and problems, and once again we leave aside all our goals, desires and dreams. Therefore, we leave everything to chance and when that happens there is a large percentage of probabilities that we are not going to do most of the things we wanted to do. That means, that we sabotage our own life, forbidding us to live the life of our dreams.

 

 

 

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney

 

 

 

The truth is we do not know all the things that will happen to us, but that doesn’t mean we should leave everything to chance, but we should do everything we can in order to create the kind of life that will bring us the greatest joy and happiness. Therefore, we must use these days to reflect about the year that is ending, that way we can welcome the New Year more prepared, being the creators of our future and not simply gambling about our life. It is important to know that we are where we are now because we wanted that way, therefore, if we want a different outcome, we should do something in a different way.

Let’s take this time to relax and reflect about this year. Have you done most of the things you have always wanted? Have you reached most of your goals? Have you invested most of the time in yourself? Have you been most of the time happy and joyful? What could you have done different? Have you learned something new? Have you grown up as a person? Are you happy with the person you have been? Have you worked hard in order to be a few step closer from your dream? Have you truly enjoyed your life? My friend, that is the most important question of all, so I will write it one more time: Have you truly enjoyed your life?

 

 

 

“Change your life today. Don’t gamble on the future, act now, without delay.” – Simone de Beauvoir

 

 

 

That is important, because no matter what happened, if you have been able to enjoy your life, that is all that matters. Life is meant to be happy with its good and bad things. The good things are the best but the bad things are lessons, opportunities and tests that life gives us in order to take out the best of ourselves. Think about all those questions, take your time to relax and reflect and then leave the past, forget what doesn’t serve you, remember the lessons, learn from your mistakes and keep all the good things from this year, and with hope and confidence move into this new year with joy.

Once we finish, we must focus on the year that is about to arrive, and the most important question will be: What do you really want to happen to you this year?  Once you know the answer, think about these questions: What can you do now to improve your future? What can you do this year to get closer to your dreams? Which is the first step? What can you do in order to become the best version of yourself? Think about the things that make you happy and then go out and make it happen. Think about them and write them, and take the actions that will make everything possible.

 

 

 

There is no right time, the time is always now. The good thing is that it doesn’t really matter in what time of the year we are, because every new day is a new opportunity to do the things we always wanted to do and be happy. There is no time to waste, time flies, time is limited, so go out and make this year a wonderful year!

Every Ending is Always a New Beginning

Every ending is always a new beginning. When something ends, something new begins and a new beginning is always a new opportunity. Learning to see the end of something as an opportunity rather than a punishment would help to change our whole life experience in the moment when we begin a new chapter in our lives.

 "There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." - C.S. Lewis #new #beginning

 

Every ending that I have experienced in my life was because something better was coming. If my life had never been full with endings and changes, everything that I have experienced in my life would have never happened. I am where I am now because something in my past have changed. Something that has ended in my past has allowed me to have new opportunities and challenges in my life, and the outcomes I got were always positive.

If you look into your past, everything that has ended has allowed you to be where you are now. In my case many things have ended: relationships, jobs, working visas, and those endings had led me to the place I am now. The life that I have is the result of many endings. Every single new opportunity and new challenge that I have experienced was possible because an ending had taken place in my past.

 

 

 

“For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.” – Romans 8:18

 

 

 

The problem is we normally see the end of something as the end of everything, especially when we were not looking for that ending. In those moments when something ends, it is very difficult to see a new beginning. For instance, when a relationship ends, we normally do not see that as a new beginning or as a new opportunity, we see that as a painful ending, and the sorrow and frustration we feel in our hearts in those cases consume our spirit, making it impossible for us to see that as new beginning.

Endings are most of the time very difficult to accept, even if we were looking for that ending, because it is always hard to start again. Some endings are easier to digest and other endings are so painful that tears our heart apart. Those kind of endings paralyzes our world, and nothing in our lives seems to make sense. But there is always a reason why things happen in the way they happened. Every ending, no matter how hard it is, it is always a new opportunity in disguise.

 

 

 

“New Beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.” – Lao Tzu

 

 

 

But how can we see an ending as a new beginning? How can we see an opportunity between so much sorrow, frustration and uncertainty? The answer is: by living in the present. There is no other way we can live. The past is gone and the future has not arrived yet. The only place where we can truly live is in our present. Therefore, we must focus all our energies not in trying to change our past but to focus all our energy in creating our present moment. This very moment is all we have, therefore, we must focus our mind in the things we would like to experience in our life rather in what we do not want. We cannot change what happened, but we can change how we experience what is going on in our present moment. This way, we would be able to see the opportunities that we were missing by only focusing in what is gone.

When something ends, something new begins. We must remember than when a door closes, others open. When a chapter ends, another begins, and is in our own hands the possibility to write a new and most wonderful story. Therefore, we must focus not in the old chapter, that has already been written, and we cannot change it, but we can always write a new one. This new chapter, this blank paper is our new opportunity, and we can create anything we want. We are the creators of our own destiny.

 

 

 

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Dan Millman

 

 

 

An ending is always a new beginning. Therefore, we have the opportunity to start again. We must let go of what is gone, to allow in our life what is waiting for us. Life is always changing, and that is what makes this life to be so rich and wonderful. Today you can make two decisions: You can decide to live tied to an end, living in your past with sorrow and pain, or you can decide to let go of what is gone and start a new life. You can choose to live in your present, and use it as a canvas to create the life that will bring you happiness and joy.

 

 

Trust life and believe that better things are coming. Embrace the end as a new beginning, and with faith and confidence keep moving in the direction of your dreams!

The Pursuit Of Happiness

Every human being on this earth has the same desire: to be happy. Happiness is a wish we all have in common, every human on this planet want to be happy, and everyone wishes to find eternal happiness but, what is it? Is it real? And if it does, how can be achieved?

 "Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence." - Aristotle

Understanding Happiness

 

I have always believed in happiness, but I have never been able to experience a long-lasting happiness but only for a short period of time until I found out the true meaning of it, what gave me the clue where to look for it. The problem was that I always looked for it in a place outside of me, and this was because I had the wrong idea of what happiness really meant and where can one find it.

In my pursuit of happiness I have always asked myself different questions: What is it? Is it real? Where can I find it? Is happiness a destination? Is it a place where one can get and stay there forever? Can I find a long-lasting happiness? Is it possible to be truly happy or is it just a creation of human imagination? These are some of the questions I have always asked myself trying to find out the definition of happiness and what I realized is that my concepts about it were completely wrong.

 

 

 

“Happiness is a journey, not a destination; happiness is to be found along the way not at the end of the road, for then the journey is over and it’s too late. The time for happiness is today not tomorrow.” – Paul H. Dunn

 

 

 

According to the dictionary: happiness is the state of being happy, and to be happy means, to be delighted or glad over a particular thing. However, people have given different meanings to happiness, what can be happiness for some people are sorrow for others. According to how we see the world, and what are our beliefs about life, it is what will form our definition of happiness. Thus, it is very complicated to define it in one particular way, as it is something that has as meanings as people on this planet.

Therefore, does happiness exist? In my opinion, according to my life experience, I believe it is something that truly exists, making it possible to achieve it. The problem with most of us is that our happiness disappears in the blink of an eye, sometimes it disappears even before we can truly enjoy being happy. For instance, when we go on holidays and our happiness is growing every second, and suddenly, in the right moment when we are reaching that moment of absolute bliss, our happiness is snatched from us for our daily routine. Our happiness is always so short that we distrust its existence and this is due to our confused ideas of what it really means.

 

 

 

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.” – Denis Waitley

 

 

 

Then, to understand more about it, let’s try to ask different questions and think about it, because as Claude Levi-Strauss said: “The wise man doesn’t give the right answers, he poses the right questions.”

I already expressed my opinion about the existence of happiness so, what is it? Where can we find it? Does it depends on life circumstances? Can happiness be something constant or it will always be interrupted? Is it based in our actions? Do we need to get something special or get to a particular place to experiment happiness? Does our past or our future influence our present happiness? Can an external factor affect our happiness?

What comes to your mind when you think about these questions? Why are you happy when you say you are happy? What is it that makes you feel happiness? And why are you sad when you say you are sad? Have you thought about it? Sometimes, it is in our own questions where we find the answers.

 

 

The key to being happy lies in understanding happiness. In my next post I will go deeply into the meaning of it. Until next time my friends!

Time is limited, use it wisely!

From the day we were born, we have been granted a wonderful gift from heaven, the gift of having time to experience this amazing, beautiful, magic, extraordinary and sometimes complicated life, but the time we have is limited and there is no way we can extend it.

 

The bad news is time flies, the good news is you are the pilot.

 

Life is an amazing gift, and so it is our precious time, without it we would not be able to be here to enjoy this wonderful experience to be alive. The problem with us is we are living our life as if it were endless, and so we waste our precious time as if we were able to recharge our life with more hours like we do in a shop with our mobile phone when we run out of credit, but time is something we cannot get back. So we should ask ourselves: How am I going to spend my time?, Am I going to enjoy every second of it or am I going to waste all of my time on this planet doing the things I don’t want to do?

Our time on earth is uncertain which gave us the wrong idea that we have enough time and so we waste most of our time doing what we don’t want in order to be able to buy our freedom later, so we can finally do what we always wanted to do. The truth is that most people’s hearts stop beating before they have been finally free to enjoy their lives, because there are only a few who have dared to release the chains of oppression and live free to follow their hearts and live a happy life.

 

 

 

 

“The true currency of life is time, not money, and we’ve all got a limited stock of that.” – Robert Harris

 

 

 

 

The problem with us is that we are always too busy doing the things we don’t want to do rather than being too busy doing those things we love to do and that’s why there is so much sadness and depression in human hearts, because we have agreed to be slaves of the society in which we live. A society that has taught us that spending our time working in someone else’s dream is good, and spending our time following our heart is bad. We have fallen in to the trap of thinking that spending our time doing what we don’t want is good because we get a reward for it; a miserable reward that most of the time consists in a charity and a few days off granted by those for whom you work for.

It is amazing how we have accepted the fact that life can only be truly lived on weekends, holidays, and special days. It is sad how we spend most of our time doing what we don’t want, having always excuses for not doing what we always wanted to do. It is incredible how we are always too busy making a living that we forget to live our lives, we forget to enjoy our family and friends, we forget to have time for ourselves doing the things we love, we forget about our goals and dreams for being too busy doing other less important things.

 

 

 

 

“Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.” – Harvey Mackay

 

 

 

 

When was the last time you did something you love? When was the last time you enjoyed the company of your family, your children or your friends? When was the last time you traveled to a new and different place? When was the last time you did something exciting? When was the last time you enjoyed a good chat with a friend? When was the last time you truly enjoyed the fact of being alive?

There is a true fact: We are truly happy when we spend our time doing the things we love, and so we should spend most of our time being happy doing the things we love and no the other way around. So, there are 24 hours in a day that means we have 168 hours per week or between 720 and 744 hours per month, and that will be around 8760 hours a year to enjoy the small and big things that this world has to offer. Life is short and time goes really fast, and we should spend most of our time being happy living the life of our dreams. Don’t you dare to waste another second of your life doing what you don’t want, remember that wasted time doesn’t come back, but the good news is that you still have time!

 

 

So go out my friend and enjoy your life, don’t waste it being sad and depressed, there is no time to be sad, there is only time to be happy!