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2017: A New Year, A New Opportunity, A New Beginning

We can almost see it, the 2017, the new year is about to arrive. It carries a big suitcase, and it is loaded with hopes, opportunities, challenges, adventures, goals, dreams and more. And I believe we all wonder the same questions… What thing in that suitcase has my name on it? What will the future hold? The answer is simple: The 2017 will bring us what is best for us and all those things that we are ready to receive. Are your arms open? Is your heart open? Are you ready to accept the new opportunities of this new year?

 

 

 

We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day

 

 

 

 

Every new year comes with new opportunities and challenges for every one of us. They come in different shapes, colors and sizes. They come in different ways and in different times, and we all receive at least one opportunity to improve our lives, to discover our true self, to develop our character, to become the best version of ourselves, to grow, to evolve. Those are purposes of these opportunities and challenges.

I said that this 2017 will bring us what is best for us and what we are willing to receive. What I mean with this is that God and life are always ready to give us what is best for us, that is to say, all the new opportunities that will push ourselves forward. The problem is that we are not always willing to receive the gift of a new challenge. The reason could be because of fear, doubts, uncertainty, maybe because we prefer to stay in our comfort zone or because the gift is not to our liking. So, we refuse to accept the new opportunities, letting them go, losing our chance to improve, develop, grow and evolve.

 

 

 

 

“Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering ‘it will be happier’…” – Alfred Tennyson

 

 

 

 

The new year can bring positive and “negative” things. With positive I mean a new job, a new relationship, an increase in your salary, a new trip, any kind of material possession, the achievement of a goal, a dream come true, a new home, another child, or any other positive thing that could happen to us. And with “negative” I mean those kinds of things that are opposite to the ones we call positive. For example, the loss of a job, more debts, the end of a relationship, the loss of any material possession, failure in any aspect of our lives.

What do we all want in this new year? We want more of the positive things and less of the negative ones. But what if the negative things have also a meaning? What if they happen for a reason that we do not yet comprehend? Well, the truth is that they also have a special meaning. The key is to discover its purpose, it could be for example, to make us learn a new lesson, or improve ourselves, to give us the chance to have better things, or simply because they want us to develop the greatness that is within us.

 

 

 

 

 

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – Viktor E. Frankl

 

 

 

 

Always remember, that it is not what happens outside of us, that is to say, our external circumstances what really matters, but how we respond to those circumstances is what matters the most. Regardless of what happens to us, at any given moment we have the opportunity to decide how we are going to feel and how are we going to respond to what is happening. Therefore, face this new year with courage and optimism, be ready to receive the new gifts of this 2017. When a new opportunity, whether positive or not so positive knocks at your door, take it, and give your best to create the outcomes you expect. Always remember that no matter what happens, you are the creator of your own destiny!

Let’s say goodbye to this wonderful 2016 that is about to end with happiness and gratitude, because no matter what happened, we survived and nobody can take from us the lessons we learned, the wonderful moments, and all the things we got from it. Let’s keep the good memories, the important lessons, and take them with us in this new year. Leave behind what doesn’t serve you, and with hope, courage and enthusiasm receive this 2017 with your arms open. Be ready to face any challenge, do not surrender in the face of adversity, transform the negative into positive, use any circumstance in your favor, and never lose the opportunity to create the life you imagine!

 

 

 

 

 

 

A new year is coming, and this 2017 brings 365 new opportunities, and if we are ready to take them they will help us become the person we are meant to become so we can create the life we yearn, the one we deserve and the one we are capable of living.  Happy New Year!

Improve your Strategies for Better Outcomes

Some of the circumstances that happen in our life are inevitable, some of them are simply a matter of luck, and some of them are the product of our actions. Our life is not already written, but it is easy to think it is, because that way we disclaim ourselves from any responsibility and we blame destiny for being the cause of our hardships. The truth is we create our life with our own actions, and if the outcomes we are getting are not the desired ones, it is time to improve our life strategies.

 

 "If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten." - Anthony Robins better outcomes

 

 

If we keep thinking the same thoughts, if keep having the same feelings, if we keep making the same actions and having the same behaviors, we are going to keep getting what we have always got. The question now is: Are you getting the outcomes you expect to get? If the answer is yes, congratulations! You’re heading in the right direction! If the answer is no, you will need to change your strategies, and do something in a different way until you get the desired outcomes.

If we are not getting what we want is probably because something is not working as it should, something we are doing is not helping us to get the outcomes we expect. Normally we blame life, our family, time, money, or anything we can put our blame on for not getting the outcomes we want, but the truth is, in most cases we are the cause of our own failure. Therefore, if we want better outcomes, if we want to succeed we will have to change something in order to be successful, and stop doing the kind of things that has only gave us failure.

 

 

 

“Achieve success in any area of life by identifying the optimum strategies and repeating them until they become habits.” – Charles J. Givens

 

 

 

The first and most important thing we should know in order to succeed is to know that we do not depend on our environment to succeed, but in having the ability to not fall in the trap of remaining captive in that environment. That is to say, no matter where we are right now, and which our external circumstances, we can always create a better tomorrow, and the key to do that is not to surrender to our current circumstances, and take responsibility for our own life, and create with our own actions the life we truly want to experience, and take all the right actions in order to get the desired outcomes.

If you want something different, if you want a better outcome for your life you need to change your current actions and improve your strategies. What are you doing now that is giving you results? What are you doing that is not giving you the outcomes you want? What are you not doing that can help you get the outcomes you desire? What kind of strategies have you been using that haven’t given you the outcomes you expected? What can you do today to improve them? Think about those questions, determine what you want, and discover what you can do that will help you get the outcomes you want. Read, ask, learn, make mistakes, take risks, try once more, improve, improve and improve until you are successful, but never give up!

 

 

 

“The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself.” – Mark Caine

 

 

 

There is always something you can do better, there is always something that you can improve, do not limit yourself by thinking that is nothing else you can do, or that you can’t aspire for more, you have greatness within you, and you can achieve anything if you work hard, if you are persevering, and if you never surrender to any hardship. You can always grow, learn, improve, evolve and succeed. Learn from past mistakes, learn from other people’s mistakes, ask questions, learn new things, improve yourself, develop your potential, and do not stop until you get the outcomes you want to get.

 

 

 

 

If what you have been thinking, feeling and doing has not given you the outcomes you wish to get, it is time to improve your strategies. Do not be afraid to change, do not be afraid to try something new, do not be afraid of failure, remember that failure is only real when you give up! Change your strategies, and get the outcomes you want!

Stop complaining and start enjoying life!

One of the reasons why we don’t enjoy life is because we are always complaining, and the act of complaining only makes us to have more and more things to complain about, and life can never be enjoyed if we forget to be happy in the act of complaining too much.

 

“If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.” – Maya Angelou

 

 

We are always complaining no matter the situation:

 

  • We complain because is winter and it’s too cold and we complain because is summer and it’s too hot.

 

  • We complain if we don’t have a job because we need more money and we complain if we have a job because the pay is too low, or because we don’t like what we are doing, or because we have to work many hours, or because we don’t like our boss.

 

  • We complain if we don’t have money and we complain if we have money because it’s not enough.

 

  • We complain if we can’t find a partner and we complain if we have partner because we want to live as single.

 

 

I could just go on and on with the infinite list of thing that humans complain all the time, but I will stop here so we can reflect about our behavior. It seems that there will always be something to complain about, so we have two options:

 

 

  1. To focus on the positive side of everything, being grateful for every little thing we have.
  2. To focus on the negative side of everything, complaining about everything we don’t have.

 

 

If you choose the first option you will always be happy and you will enjoy life no matter what happens and of course there will be times when you will complain and you will feel frustrated but it won’t last because you will use the most wonderful tool that you have: Gratitude, a tool that can change your life experience in a second and a tool that expresses to the world that you are happy with every aspect of your life even if is not perfect.

If you choose the second option you will always feel frustrated and miserable no matter what happens, because complaining gives us a distorted reality where everything seems to be against us when in fact is us that we are against ourselves. Complaining becomes a habit, a very harmful habit that only leads us to frustration and depression. Complaining only makes you to focus on the negative side of everything, making you unable to enjoy life.

 

 

 

“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” – Eckhart Tolle

 

 

 

If we are complaining, we are not being grateful and if we are not grateful for what we already have, how are we going to have more? The truth is that the act of complaining or being grateful is like two powerful magnets; whichever you choose is what you are going to experience in your life day after day.

In order to enjoy life, we should be grateful for everything in our life, and with this I don’t mean that you should settle with the life you have, accepting everything bad that happens to you, what I mean is that we should always go after the things we deserve, but we must be grateful and happy now, because we have everything humans need to survive and be happy everything else is secondary. If we are not able to see the blessings we have now and be happy, we are not going to be happy with more afterwards.

 

 

 

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

 

 

 

If you want to enjoy your life, stop complaining. Free yourself from that negative habit that does you no good. Complaining has never changed anything in a person’s life, but rather gave that person more reasons to complain and be frustrated. The day that you realize how many things you have especially the small and essential things, things that some people are struggling to get, those basic things that we need for our existence, you will realize how blessed you are and you will never complain again in your life.

Be careful of your thoughts

Be careful of your thoughts, they control your life, as they have all the power to create your reality. What you see in your life it’s merely a set of thoughts, and that is why people have different realities. Your reality is the product of your thinking.

 

"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." - Marcus Aurelius

 

We are thinking all the time, and how we feel in that moment depends in what is in our mind in that particular moment. Our thoughts can be positive or negative, but never both at the same time, what is going to give us our emotions, and our reality. So how you feel will be the result of what you were thinking. Remember that your thoughts have the power to control your emotions. So you will find that the key to control your emotions lies in your thoughts, if you want to change your reality, change the way you are thinking.

We can divide our thoughts in positive and negative thoughts, where our positive thoughts are those that make us feel good like thoughts of happiness, joy or gratitude, and then we have our negative thoughts that make us feel bad like sadness, anxiety or fear. So we can feel happy or we can feel sad, the choice is made by us depending in our thoughts, if you have positive thoughts you will feel happy, if you have negative thoughts you will feel miserable.

 

 

“If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.” – Peace Pilgrim

 

 

Everything is connected; your thoughts give you your emotions and feelings, what will form your behavior, and what will give your reality. So, to change our life experience, we must change our thinking, we must choose those thoughts based in positive things, so we can have better feelings and good emotions, what will make us to have a better behavior, what will give us a reality full of happiness and joy.

It takes only one thought to change everything, one different thought and you will not only change how you feel in a particular moment, but you will change your whole life experience. It takes only one positive thought to go from sadness to happiness; you just have to say to yourself that no matter what is happening right now, this is not the end, and you will be happy, because you deserve it.

 

 

“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” – Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

I can say from my own experience that this is not something easy to do, but I can also say that is possible. What we have to do is to control our thoughts, and not let our thoughts to control us, and the easiest way is to open our perspective, so we can see everything in a different way, and understand that what is happening to us is happening for a reason, a reason we must learn to comprehend, so we can learn to see the positive side of it, a positive side that is sometimes hard to see because of our limited perspective.

We must be aware of the power of our thoughts, so we can control it, especially the negative thoughts, otherwise it will control us and it will destroy us. The day we learn how to control our thoughts, we will be capable of choosing a positive thought rather than a negative thought, and so we will decide to be happy at every moment rather than be sad needlessly.

 

 

“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.” – Buddha

 

 

Always remember that your thoughts creates your reality, whatever you are thinking right now is what you are going to experience in your life. The negative thoughts will give you negative feelings, what will give you unfortunate situations, and everything around will seem to be against you, when in fact, is you the one who are against yourself, because you have chosen to have negative thoughts, negative emotions and negative behaviors what gave you your miserable and awful reality. But if you choose positive thoughts, you will have positive emotions and positive behaviors that will give you happy situations what is going to make you feel happy about your life because your reality will be amazing.

 

 

Look around you, if you can only see a miserable life, look again, there is always something to be happy for no matter what you are going through, take the negative thoughts away from your mind, and flood your mind with positive thoughts and you will see what you couldn’t see so far.

How can I stay positive? Part II

Stay Positive
Hi everyone and thank you for reading! I really hope that my words can help you to have a wonderful and happy life! 🙂 So here is the second part of: How can I stay positive?

 

I was writing on the first part about Gratitude, a very useful and effective way to stay positive, if you learn to be grateful even in the hardest time, you will change your daily life experience in a second.

 

And so here comes the second cure for our short perception disease:

FOCUS

The problem of negativity is that it has a lot of power, and it will control you and your emotions if you let it do that. The solution? Stay focus in anything that makes you happy, whatever makes you smile, do that! And whatever makes you sad let that go!

 

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” – Buddha

 

There are two types of situations in this world: The one we can change, and the one we can’t.

So if there is something that makes you be unhappy and you have the chance to change that, then change that, it might take time or not, depending on what you want, what is important is to be positive while you are doing that, knowing that someday, somehow, you will change that.
The other situation is the one that we cannot change, what is happening or what is going to happen is something that is a fact and you can’t do anything about it, so being negative and sad about, is not going to make any change, it will make you feel better? I guess that no, right? So why don’t you just focus on things that you can actually change, on things that makes you happy?

 

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates

 

The truth about everything is that what is happening out there it is already happening, you may be able to change that or maybe not, but how you feel about it is something that you can control, by allowing yourself to focus on what makes you smile, in those things that push you forward and cutting the ropes of what is holding you back. Let go those things, the ones you can’t change, and be positive, by focusing on what you can change, you need to stay positive, no matter what happens, there is always a motive to be happy.

 

“Always remember, your focus determines your reality.” – George Lucas

 

And here goes the third cure, a hard one, but a very effective one:

 

FAITH

Having faith is a very good way to stay positive, because by having faith is a way to say to yourself and express to the world that everything is possible, and maybe nothing seems good out there, but faith allows me to see light in the darkness, it is a way the soul has, to let you know that everything is going to be alright!
No matter in what you believe, the important thing is to not lose faith, if you lose that, you lose all kind of possibility to achieve what you want to achieve, because if you can’t see something as possible, if you can’t see that in your mind, and if you can’t feel it with all your heart and soul, then that is what are you going to experience.

 

“Faith is seeing light with your heart when all your eyes see is darkness.” – Anonymous

 

So no matter what is happening, have faith, anything you can imagine, you can achieve, it’s that simple, if you have faith even when your reality is not what you have dreamed of, have faith, because that’s what will make you feel better, and be positive, because you can’t see it now, but you know that is going to happen. So have faith and stay positive, knowing that nothing is going to remain as it is right now, no matter how bad it looks like.
And that lead us to the fourth and last cure and for that no less important, and that is:

 

ENERGY

Everything is energy, so if you want something, or if you want to change something, just give all energy to that, to things you want and love, to anything that makes you happy. The problem is that usually we give all the energy that we have to the things that we don’t want, and that is why we keep having the same feeling over and over again.
So if you want to stay positive in life, you need to give energy to positive things, because negativity is like a powerful magnet of energy, and if you let it control you, it will suck all your positive energy, leaving you weak, without any kind of strength to stay positive.

 

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy, this is physics.” – Albert Einstein.

 

Whatever energy you give to the world, is what you are going to receive, so if you allow a situation to consume you, you will only give negative emotions and actions, having as a result more and more negativity back to yourself.
So no matter what is happening, just look beyond that, look around and see all the things for what you should be grateful for, focusing only in the things that makes you happy, having faith, knowing that anything will be alright and giving positive energy, and so you will light up all the darkness that your eyes are seeing right now, and receiving more and more positive things back to you, that will light up your heart, and will fill your empty soul.

 

Stay positive, always.

How can I stay positive?

Stay Positive
People wonder every day, How can I stay positive? And my question is: How is it possible that you cannot stay positive? And the problem is that we have a very short perspective of what is really important and what is really happening.

 

There is a fact: We have eyes and we can see, but the reality we can see is actually far less than the real reality. We cannot see what is really happening, we see according to what we believe.

The problem is that we live in an upside down world, and we have put in first places in our list of happiness what should be in the last positions, and our wrong idea of a happy and joyful life is what have created all the pain, unhappiness, sadness, hate and suffering in the world, if we could just change our perspective about life, we could just change everything.

 

 

 “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer

 

 

 

We go after things that don’t matter, we struggle every day to get material things, forgetting what is really important and why are we here on this planet.

So no matter what is happening in your life, you have the power and the ability to be happy and to have everything you really want in life, you have to learn to see the positive side of everything, you may not be able to see it right now, but believe me, there is a positive side in everything, the trick is to enlarge our short and limited perspective of life, if you do, you will see what you haven’t seen so far, you will see a completely and amazing new reality.

 

 

 

“Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind, the goal is to find it.” – Buddha

 

 

 

So what is the first and one of the most important cures to our lack of wider perspective disease?

 

And the first cure, the most important one, the one that it can change your life in a second, the best solution to negativity and the first motive to stay positive and happy is:

 

GRATITUDE

 

And maybe you already know that or maybe you don’t, but the fact is, that if you are not being positive and if you are complaining about any kind of situation you may be going through is because you are not being truly grateful.

 

 

“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” – Abraham Lincoln

 

 

And what I really mean with this is that this cure doesn’t really work if you just say that you are grateful, you have to really feel it, with all your heart and soul.

There is so much in your life to be grateful for;tthe problem is that we are so used to that kind of things, that we don’t really pay too much attention to it, because we are too focused on things that don’t really matter.

The most important things you should be grateful for is for being alive, because if you are alive it means that you still have the opportunity to do a lot of things and that you still can enjoy the most beautiful things in the world, while other people are fighting to survive or also some of them don’t even have the half of what you have.

 

 

“The struggle ends when gratitude begins.” – Neale Donald Walsh

 

 

If we have love, we have everything. If you can enjoy a hug, a kiss, an act of kindness, a word of compassion, understanding, a smile, and a simple touch you have more than enough to be grateful  and happy for.

If you can breathe and your heart is beating, if you are able to give love and receive love in any way, if you have people who will always be there for you, if you have food in your fridge, drinking water from the tap, a roof, a bed, a cup of coffee in a winter night, a warm shower, clothes, and you have all the freedom to think, to speak, and to do whatever you want,  you are richer and have more power than you ever imagined., and no matter what other things can happen, you can be grateful for all that and be happy.

 

 

“If you want to find happiness, find gratitude.” – Steve Maraboli

 

We have to look at the things that are really important, and be grateful for that, knowing that we are blessed, as there a lot of people who don’t have even 1% of what you have right now.  So how can you stay positive? Look at those things, the ones that make you happy, the ones that are really important.

And then there are 3 more cures, that have really helped me to change my life:

Focus, Faith and Energy.

 

So if you want to know more about the next cures, don’t forget to come back later this week for the second part of How can I stay positive? 🙂