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Adversity: An Opportunity for Personal Development

Is in the moments of difficulty when a man can find the way to the discovery of his greatest self. When adversity knocks our door, we have different options:  We can embrace it and transform it into an opportunity for personal development, we can let it rule our feelings, emotions and our daily lives, limiting our possibility for development, growth and evolution, or we can do nothing about it, letting a great opportunity pass. What we choose to do in the face of adversity will determine our defeat or our victory.

 

 

"It is your reaction to adversity, not the adversity itself, that determines how your life’s story will develop." - Dieter F. Uchtdorf

 

 

The truth about adversity is that it possess within a seed that contains the key to our own personal growth. In those moments in our lives, when our external circumstances change, sometimes abruptly, sometimes expecting it, sometimes not, and adversity crosses our path, we feel lost, we feel confused, we do not know what to do, and we scream, we cry, it paralyzes us, and we get stuck. From one moment to another, adversity becomes real, the pain becomes real, but there is also an opportunity in all that struggle that becomes real. An opportunity to grow, to improve ourselves, to evolve and to become the best version of ourselves.

Adversity will challenge us, will make us suffer, will create chaos in our lives, it will make our world tremble, but it will push ourselves forward, it will stretch us to a point that will make us exceed our own limits, and will discover the greatness that we all carry within. We cannot avoid adversity, but we can embrace it and take the most out of it, and once again, the way to do that is by seeing it as an opportunity for spiritual growth and personal development.

 

 

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” – Maya Angelou

 

 

It is through the phase of adversity when one can reach its maximum potential. One day I was doing a tour in a winery and I remember when the guide told us about the vineyards located in high altitude. I am not a professional in the area but for what I learned, these vineyards produce a high quality wine, and the particular taste of this wines is caused by different factors, as temperature, the characteristics of the soil, thermal amplitude, and sunlight intensity. The grapes in those vineyards are exposed to different factors and they struggle to survive, and through adversity they develop a variety of exceptional characteristics that produce a unique wine.

What I learned about them? That if we not succumb, if we not surrender, but rather if we rise and face adversity with courage, commitment and perseverance, we will overcome adversity, becoming a better version of ourselves. It all depends on how we react in the face of adversity. It is our attitude and not our current circumstances what really shape our destiny. We cannot change what happened to us, but we can change the way we react to it.

 

 

“In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.” – Albert Einstein

 

 

Are we going to let it kill us, or are we going to do everything we can in order to transform it into an opportunity to become the best version of ourselves? Adversity can transform our lives into a hell, but that hell, no matter how horrible it is, cannot define who we are without our consent. You are the only one who can define who you really are. Your thoughts and your actions will give you a certain experience, and that experience will create your reality.

 

 

 

 

See the opportunity in every difficulty, and transform adversity into an opportunity to become the best version of yourself. Try to see everything with a different perspective, think positive thoughts, learn, improve yourself, do not give up, have faith, stay strong, do everything you can in order to change your reality, and you will become your own hero!

Life is Made Up of Choices

Life is made up of choices. In every single step of our lives we have the opportunity to choose. We create our world through the choices we make, therefore, our whole life is the result of the choices we have made. The main choice in our life is between choosing to feel good or to feel bad. Therefore, what are you going to choose today?

 "May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears." - Nelson Mandela

 

Every day we are faced with different types of choices and according to what we choose is the consequence we are going to have. There are some kind of circumstances that we are not able to control, these type of circumstances are inevitable, and there is no way we can choose the opposite, and then we have the other circumstances, those which are the results of the choices we have made. But no matter the type of circumstances, we will always have the opportunity to choose. Whatever happens to us, we have the choice to feel good or to feel bad.

The first kind of circumstances, those which we cannot avoid, are the kind of circumstances which we are not responsible for. For example, the death of a loved one. One day, we receive the awful notice that a person close to us has died. There is no way we could have done something to revert that situation. That circumstance is something that happened to us without calling it, therefore, we are not responsible for that, but we are responsible of one thing: the decision of choosing whether to let that circumstance to destroy us or not.

 

 

 

“When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It’s all a matter of perspective.” – Harvey Mackay

 

 

When an inevitable and unwanted circumstance happens we cannot choose another circumstance, another ending, or another story. There is no way we can go back in time and do something to revert what has happened. But when something like that happens we have different choices to make: We can either choose to let that situation to destroy us, or we can choose to keep fighting. We can choose to give up or we can choose to move on. We can choose to see the negative side or we can choose to see the positive side. We can choose to let the pain, anger and sadness we feel to consume us, or we can choose love to heal our hearts. We can choose to keep the poison running through our veins, rotting us on the inside, or we can choose to drain it all out, and clean our body and soul with love.

On the other hand, we have the kind of circumstances that are the results of the choices we have made. For example, when we have failed an exam because we have chosen not to study, or when we felt stomach ache because we have chosen to eat junk food instead of healthy food, or when somebody got cancer because he didn’t want to stop smoking, or when you have lost your partner because you have chosen to betray rather than love, or when we decided to live a life we do not want because we have chosen not to follow our dreams.

 

 

 

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” – Tony Robbins

 

 

When a circumstance of that kind happens, we can wish to have done something different but we cannot change what we have done. We are responsible for that, and we must take full responsibility, but at the same time we can make different choices: We can choose to not do anything about it, or we can choose to act. We can choose to let that situation to paralyze us or we can choose to move forward. We can choose to give up or we can choose to do our best to revert the situation, change the situation or accept the situation and move on. We can choose to see the negative side or we can choose to see the positive side. We can choose to feel negative emotions and let them to control us or we can choose to feel positive emotions. We can choose to keep looking to our past with sadness, pain, and anger or we can choose to look into our future with courage, commitment and confidence.

As you can see we cannot always change the situation, but we can always choose how we are going to deal with what has happened. We are responsible of our own choices, and we have always the opportunity to choose to feel good or to feel bad. According to what we do, what we say, what feel, and what we think in relationship with was has happened is what is going to determine our future.  We can choose to be positive and feel good or we can choose to be negative and feel bad. We can always choose to be sad or we can choose to be happy no matter what happens.

 

 

 

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

 

 

Always remember that not everything that will happen to you will be the consequence of your own choices, but at the same time, always remember that every choice you make today will have either a short-term or a long-term consequence in your life.  If you feel that your choices are not getting you closer to the place you want to be, or if you feel that they are not making you feel the way you want to feel, or if you feel that they are not making you be the person you would like to be, it is time for you to make a choice.

You can choose to keep making the same kind of negative choices, leaving everything to chance, or you can choose to stop and make the best possible choices, being the creator of your own destiny. Your happiness depends on the choices you make. If you feel happy, is probably because you are doing the right choices, but if you are not, you are probably doing the wrong ones. Everything is impossible until we make the choice to make the impossible possible.

 

 

 

Our life is the result of our choices, and we are what we choose to be. Everything is a choice, so no matter what happens to you, always make the choice to be happy today, tomorrow and always!