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Forcing Things will Never Be the Solution

Life is composed of simple and complex conflicts that affect our daily lives to a lesser o greater extent. Every single day of our lives, life challenges us, disturbing our peace with a new conflict, some of them require no more than a simple solution, others require a more advance solution and others require us to develop or discover a solution that is not found in any book.  However, there is one simple rule that can help us deal with our daily circumstances and that rule is: “Forcing things is never the solution”.

 

 

"Don't try to force anything. God opens millions of flowers everyday without forcing their buds."

 

 

How many times in our lives do we seek to resolve a conflict, repair something or change our current circumstances by forcing things? How many times we applied force on something and the outcome we got was the opposite of what we expected? For instance, many times in my life I have tried to fix something by using force, and I ended up with the broken pieces of what I was actually looking to repair. Several times I broke things, and I ended up with sorrow, disappointment and anger when I applied force in different situations in my life.

The thing is, the first solution that comes to our minds when we seek to solve an issue in our lives that has already resisted our previous attempts to fix it is force. For some reason we have come to believe that when something is not working in the way we wanted to, we must apply force in order to fix it and to satisfy our wishes. Forcing things becomes our solution. However, while applying force on something can sometimes be a solution, it is only a temporal solution and in the future it will go back to its previous state or it will cause an irreparable rupture.

 

 

“Beware of trying to accomplish anything by force.” – Angela Merici

 

 

Therefore, an important lesson I have learned through my life, the experiences I had and many failed attempts, is that forcing is not a solution, but the cause of the irreparable destruction of something and the everlasting pain caused in our own selves and others. Therefore, the main rule we need to learn in order to deal with our conflicts and current circumstances successfully is knowing that if we need to force something is because we are doing it in the wrong way, hence, if we would like to have a positive outcome, we need to stop using our force. Change the strategies, find a better solution, accept it, or let it go, but forcing something will cause nothing but harm.

You may be thinking: “Oh well, I applied many times my force and it turned out well.” While that might be true, it is also true that the amount of times something turns out well by using force is less than the amount of times that something doesn’t turns out well by using force. This being said, we can be certain that the odds of getting a negative outcome by using force are extremely high. If you are confused and doubtful about that statement, I encourage you to apply force to fix something and see what happens. In the end, the only way to discover if something is true or not is by your own personal experience.

 

 

“Never force anything. Give it your best shot, and then let it be. If it’s meant to be, it will be.”

 

 

However, life has always found its way to show us throughout our existence that everything that was meant to be, will be without the need to force it. If a relationship, a job, a career, or anything else in our daily lives needs to be forced and oppressed in any way possible, it will sooner or later break, vanish and it will cause disappointment and sorrow. Therefore, in order to get the outcome we expect, we need to find, design or discover the solution that will help us deal with a certain conflict, creating the outcome we desire. On the other hand, we need to understand that sometimes letting go is the only possible and efficient solution, and while it can create also sorrow and despair, we are giving life the chance to reward us with a new beginning.

If you are forcing something and it is not giving you the outcome you were expecting is either because it was not meant to be, or because you are doing it the wrong way. Stop, relax, think and change strategies. Accept what you cannot control, learn to let go, or discover the way to achieve your desired outcome in a more efficient way.

 

 

 

 

Use more your strength to deal with your life and less your force and oppression on things and people, and you will have found the key to resolve most of the simplest and complex conflicts of your daily life!

What is the true meaning of Christmas?

The year is almost over and with Christmas around the corner is easy to lose control. In this time of the year, specially the last days before Christmas people tend to be more stressed than relaxed. In these days, we have many things going in our heads, we are full of things to do, we need to organize everything with our families, prepare all the food possible, and one important task requires utmost urgency: Gifts. But why we truly celebrate Christmas? What is the true meaning of it?

 

 

 

“My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others.” - Bob Hope

 

 

 

For most people the first and most important thing to do before Christmas is to buy gifts. The little story about the old man who has a long white beard and is dressed in red and white made us believe that without gifts, Christmas is not Christmas. Therefore, it is necessary to buy gifts for all our friends and members of our family. So, it is time to go out to search and find them, but there is a little problem: Everyone left everything for the last minute as you did, and now you are trying to find gifts in a human tide.

The “Operation Gifts” becomes an impossible mission, there are a lot of people, endless queues, hundreds of different products at exorbitant prices, you don’t have enough time, and as you see the money flying from your wallet, and your card on fire, you know that it will be impossible to buy gifts for everyone. When you are about to lose hope, or go crazy, you find everything you “need” and you manage to go back home. Everyone put all the gifts in the Christmas tree, we celebrate, we eat, we drink, we open the gifts, and we say good-bye to Christmas until next year. But, what is the true meaning of Christmas?

 

 

 

 

“Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before! What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store. What if Christmas…perhaps…means a little bit more!” – Dr. Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas!

 

 

 

 

Some people may think about Santa Claus and gifts, others about eating a lot of food and drinking, and some about having a good time with their families and friends or maybe all together, but it’s that all? Well, there is something more. Christmas is in fact the day we commemorate the birth of Jesus Christ. Yes, I know. Most people know that. But, then why when the day comes, everyone forgets about it? I mean, imagine that is your birthday, everyone buys gifts, prepare food and gather together to celebrate it but you are not invited, in fact, nobody remembers about you. Sad, isn’t it?

Where do I want to go with this? That Christmas is a day to remember and commemorate the most wonderful thing that we have as human beings, and that my friends is called love. That is what Jesus taught us: To love unconditionally, to love with no boundaries, to love our neighbor as ourselves. Regardless if you are a believer or not, if you are going to celebrate Christmas, do not let Santa Claus, materialism and this society that made us addict to consumerism make you forget what is really important about Christmas: Love.

 

 

 

 

“Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love.” – Hamilton Wright Mabie

 

 

 

 

Therefore, do not feel pressured by this society to buy the best and most expensive gifts, or to spend a lot of money in high amounts of food, do not feel stressed because you have the need to go to certain places and meet with people you don’t want to. Don’t even feel depressed because you are alone that day. Don’t feel sad because your kids are not getting any gifts, that is not the meaning of Christmas, that is what this society made us believe, because the real meaning of it is to be grateful, for the things we have, and for the opportunity to love and be loved. Enjoy this moment, regardless of your current circumstances. Simply raise your glass and make a toast for today you are alive!

 

 

 

 

 

What is the meaning of Christmas? To remember that love conquers hate. May today all our actions and thoughts, and all the things we eat, the music we hear and the things we say may reflect only love, for love is what saved us and what will save us forever. Merry Christmas!

A Short Story About the Power of Understanding – Part II

In the previous part I started writing a little story that I imagined one night while I was watching the stars. This short story is about the power of understanding. It is a way to see how different everything could be if we could be less judgmental and more understanding with each other. Hope you enjoy it!

 

 

"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." - Carl Jung  

 

 

He started seeing flashing images, they were passing quickly through his eyes like a movie. As the images were passing, he started to recognize the kid in the images, it was the life of this kid in little images. As they were passing, the little kid was getting older, and suddenly he recognized completely who it was: It was his neighbor, a shy and quiet boy of about 20 years of age. The man has always criticized and judged this boy, because he was different, he always referred him as the “suicide boy” because he was lonely and never smiled. The images keep passing through his eyes, until they stopped.

 

The man remained motionless for almost 15 minutes, and suddenly, he broke into tears. What he saw in those images was the 20 years of life of this boy. The magic about the shoes he tried was that not only made him see the life of the boy he always criticized but he could felt what he also felt in different moments of his life. He understood why he was the way he was. This boy has been through a lot of hardship in his short life. And in the present, he was taking care of her sick and drunk mother, because his father ran away when he was born.  Suddenly, he realized that this boy, his neighbor, was worthy of being respected.

 

He tried the second pair first, and afterwards the third pair of shoes, both fit him perfectly. He saw the images that appeared. Those two pairs were the lives of two different people he knew. People who he always criticized most of the time.  One was the life of the secretary of her boss. He always criticized her for the way she looked, the way she acted, the way she spoke, he always judged her because she was a very reserved and quiet girl, who looked like a nun. It turns out that this girl has suffered abuse from his father when she was a child, and she has been afraid of men ever since.

 

The third pair of shoes was the life of his father. He has always been very critic with him. His father was always a strict, cold and distant man. He didn’t know much about his father’s life, they never really had a relationship, and they haven’t talked in the last years. He always criticized his father for not being a good, loving and understanding father. But what he saw in those images broke his heart into pieces.

 

It turned out that his father has had a rough life. His grandfather, his father’s dad, was very severe with his son. He has been the only son out of 4 daughters, and his father was very hard on him, always receiving psychological and physical abuse from his part. “This will make you a man, and you are the only one, you must take care of your sisters”, he used to say. This man now understood that his father was the way he was because of his own father. He saw in the images that his father always took care of his 4 sisters after their father’s death, and he always took care of him. The man felt ashamed of himself for being so cruel with his father, because he was always distant and cold, but deep inside him he was good man. A father to be proud of.

 

The man feeling a mixed of emotions tried to find again an exit door, he also went to the front to see if he could open the door, but it was still locked. Tired and hopeless, he went back to the rear of the store. He realized that he hasn’t tried the fourth pair of shoes. Already feeling devastated he was afraid of what he could see in those last pair of shoes. His curiosity was stronger so he decided to try them on.

 

He started seeing the images passing through his eyes. Immediately he recognized the person in those images: It was himself, and those were his memories. He saw the person he was and he saw the person he has become. A selfish and judgmental person that has always been criticizing people without even knowing them. He started crying, he couldn’t recognize himself. “Who have I become?” He said with tears in his eyes. The images keep passing before his eyes. He couldn’t tolerate seeing himself in those images. He felt ashamed, and for a moment he even despised himself. “Please God I don’t want to be this person anymore, I can be better than this, I can change.” He cried out loud.

 

Suddenly, the images stopped. He took out the shoes. The lights went on, and he went to the front door. It was open. He went out the door and left the shop. He opened his eyes, he was lying on his bed, it was all a dream, a dream that came true. He wanted to change, God gave him hand. He reborn, he changed, he evolved, and his life was never the same again.

 

 

 

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” – John Watson

 

 

 

With this little story that I imagined in my mind, I could understand how different everything is when we get to know the story of a person. Once we know what they have been through, once we feel what they felt, everything changes. But do we need to go through that to be understanding and compassionate? The answer is no. We need to understand that everyone is fighting their own battler, becoming more understanding and less judgmental. We do not change people by criticizing them, nor we change our lives. We need less critics, and more people willing to become the best version of themselves so they can be ready to help others do the same. Together we can make this world a better place, it all starts with us and with the person we choose to be every single day of our lives.

 

 

 

 

The next time you criticize and judge others, try to put yourself in that person shoes first. Try to understand others as you would like them to understand you. Understanding is the key to a better world. Will you help create it?

A Short Story About the Power of Understanding

When it comes to criticize and judge others, we are all experts. Without mercy we go through life like judges criticizing and condemning others, but what would happen if we could spend the same energy we spend on judging others, in trying to understand them? Could it be possible that our understanding could change the way we see others? What if we would have the chance to walk in someone else’s shoes?

 

 

"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." - Carl Jung

 

 

A few days ago, in one of those beautiful summer nights where the sky is clear and full of stars, and the temperature is pleasant, I was quietly sitting on an armchair in my balcony gazing at the stars. For some reason, every time I look at the sky I start to reflect about a certain topic, as if there were something up there, probably God, watching me and whispering something to me. In that night I started wondering about how much people tended to criticize others. I think because we can’t cope with our own life, we tend to focus on others rather than ourselves to feel less miserable.

While I was thinking about it I imagined how would it be to walk in someone else’s shoes. How would it be for one moment be in someone else’s skin and see life through that person’s eyes, and feel what that person feels. I was thinking that probably would increase our understanding for others, and we would become less judgmental. Our hearts would open, and we would change the way we treat others, becoming more understanding and compassionate, having more empathy and being less ruthless judges.

 

 

 

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” – Dale Carnegie

 

 

 

I always try to find examples that will help me clear my concerns. It is so that I imagined a little story about a man of about 30 years who used to criticize others constantly. It didn’t matter if you didn’t have reasons to criticize someone, this man always found a reason to criticize someone. Day and night, he was always criticizing and gossiping about other people, and no matter how annoying and despicable he was, he will always find followers who will applaud him.

One day, he went to a near shoe repair shop to collect one of the shoes he had left for repair. He entered into the shop, and suddenly a strong wind closed the door abruptly. He rang the bell, which was over the counter, to call the cobbler. No signs of him, he rang it one more time. He waited a few more minutes and decided to leave the store. He tried to open the door, but it was locked. “Maybe it was because of the wind” he thought. Tried a few more times without success.

“How will I get out? Maybe there is an alternative exit at the rear of the store” he thought. He went there to find a way to get out, and maybe he could also find the cobbler. As he was walking through the alley behind the counter the light slowly started to fade. Suddenly it was so dark he couldn’t see a thing. He was trying to find the light switch when something bright started shining. He went to see what it was, and he found four pair of shoes shining like stars.

He was amazed, he has never seen something like it. He took one of the shoes to see it closer, they were common shoes, but the light that shine through them with no apparently reason made them special. After seeing it carefully, he started using it as a lantern. He searched all around the place for the cobbler and the exit door. There were none of them. He searched every corner of that room, but there where no way out.

He decided to sit down and wait. “Maybe the cobbler went out to do something and he forgot to close the door, probably he will return soon” he thought. He waited half an hour, one hour, the cobbler never came. He was tired, hungry, and bored as hell. Where could he be? The man wondered. He took one of the shining shoes and tried it on, it was his size. He tried the other one. He stood up, and in that moment a miracle happened.

 

 

To be continued… 🙂 

¡Es Tiempo de Una Revolución de Amor!

Los humanos enfrentan un grave problema, la sociedad en la que viven está en estado de descomposición, sus cerebros han sido lavados, y el mayor problema de todos es la falta de amor. Necesitamos amar de nuevo, necesitamos recordar lo que es verdaderamente esencial, ¡es tiempo de una revolución de amor!

 

 

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El virus que ha sido implantado en nuestras mentes ha exterminado la mayoría de las cosas más valiosas que tenemos como seres humanos como, por ejemplo: La habilidad de amar, la habilidad de amarnos a nosotros mismos, a nuestro mundo, a nuestra naturaleza, y a cada ser humano sobre este planeta. Hemos perdido el poder para crear todo aquello que deseamos, y hemos olvidado quien somos en realidad, y cuál es el verdadero propósito por el cual estamos aquí.

El gran problema de todos es que le hemos cambiado el significado al amor, olvidándonos de lo que realmente significa. El mundo está bajo tanto dolor en este momento, y no solo porque los humanos solo están amando de una forma superficial y egoísta, sino porque que le dan amor cada día a cosas sin valor, y ahí es donde se encuentra la peor de las enfermedades: El amor al dinero.

 

 

 

 

“Sólo cuando el último árbol esté muerto, el último río envenenado, y el último pez atrapado, te darás cuenta que no puedes comer dinero.” – Sabiduría Indoamericana

 

 

 

 

Estamos más enamorados del dinero que de cualquier otra cosa en el mundo. ¿Y como puedo saber eso? Porque solo basta con mirar el mundo, y lo que sucede actualmente, para saber que lo que digo es verdad. El problema es que las personas están tan ciegas, que no pueden ver la realidad. Los humanos han perdido el sentido común, convirtiéndose en victimas de su locura, de su enfermedad por el dinero, o el poder, realizando las peores de las atrocidades y todo en el nombre del dinero. Nuestro amor por el dinero es la primera causa del dolor y sufrimiento, y la causa de la destrucción lenta y letal de la existencia humana.

El mundo está muriendo, estamos empujando constantemente nuestros recursos al límite, poniendo nuestra propia existencia en peligro. El mundo, nuestro hogar necesita de amor, y no el tipo de amor barato y podrido que damos día a día, sino que necesitamos amor real, amor del bueno. Debemos aprender a amar de nuevo, y esparcirlo a donde vayamos, para así poder sanar nuestros corazones y el mundo entero. La solución es enfocar nuestra vista en lo que realmente importa, aprender a amarnos a nosotros mismos, para así amar a otros, debemos aprender que no estamos separados, por lo tanto, lo que le hacemos a otros, nos lo hacemos a nosotros mismos.

 

 

 

 

“El planeta no necesita más gente exitosa. Lo que el planeta necesita desesperadamente son más pacificadores, sanadores, restauradores, contadores de historias y amantes de todos los tipos”. – Dalai Lama

 

 

 

 

Hay algunas preguntas sobre el comportamiento humano que han estado en mi mente, y las cuales no puedo entender:

 

¿Cómo es posible que todavía existan personas matándose entre sí, personas robándole cosas a otras personas, personas sin casa, sin nada que comer, sin agua potable, sin acceso a educación, salud y sin ningún derecho a tener una vida decente?

¿Cómo es posible que sepamos que estamos destruyendo nuestro planeta, nuestro hogar, y el hogar de miles de criaturas, sabiendo que estamos jugando a la ruleta rusa con nuestra propia existencia y así y todo no hacemos nada para cambiarlo? Hemos sido bendecidos con un maravilloso planeta y sin embargo lo destruimos día a día con nuestras imprudentes acciones.

¿Cómo puede ser que luego de miles de millones de años de vida en la tierra todavía sigamos separándonos por nacionalidad, raza, religión, genero, edad y estatus social, otorgando derechos humanos dependiendo de dónde pertenezca cada persona?

¿Cómo puede ser posible que todavía existan personas privadas de su libertad? ¿Cómo es posible que todavía en este Siglo XXI exista la esclavitud?

¿Cómo puede ser posible que hayamos sido beneficiados con un maravilloso cuerpo, el cual nos permite experimentar el maravilloso regalo de la vida en la tierra y sin embargo lo destruimos día a día consumiendo toda la basura que podamos, sin importar ni un poco nuestra salud hasta llegado el momento en el que no hay vuelta atrás?

¿Cómo es posible que hayamos sido bendecidos con una mente extraordinaria, teniendo el poder, las habilidades, y los conocimientos para crear cosas maravillosas y sin embargo lo usamos para destruir?

¿Cómo es posible que tengamos un hermoso corazón con una enorme capacidad para sentir y dar amor y elegimos odiar y lastimar?

 

 

 

 

“Al final, no recordamos las palabras de nuestros enemigos sino el silencio de nuestros amigos.” – Martin Luther King

 

 

 

 

Y como dije anteriormente, la respuesta a todas estas preguntas es que hemos perdido el sentido común, hemos invertido las verdaderas prioridades con cosas menos importantes, nos hemos olvidado del amor, y nos hemos vueltos tan ciegos que no podemos ver lo que realmente sucede, y si lo podemos ver, hacemos la vista a un lado rápidamente, porque no queremos nada que nos distraiga de nuestra desesperada carrera por obtener más dinero, poder, cosas materiales, y un estatus social que nos destaque del resto. Nuestro egoísmo nos ha vuelto extremadamente superficiales, y así perdimos noción de lo que es realmente importante, permitiéndole al mal sacar de nosotros lo peor de uno, y así lo esparcimos por el mundo, lo que ha causado toda esta realidad de odio, sufrimiento, locura y dolor.

Y lo que hace que toda esta situación se vuelva más enferma, es que hemos aceptado esta realidad como un hecho imposible de cambiar, tomando el camino más fácil y cobarde, ya que requiere de coraje ir en contra de la corriente, de lo común, de lo establecido, y hacer lo que se deba hacer para cambiar el mundo. Es más fácil quejarse, que hacer algo al respecto.

 

 

 

 

“Yo sola no puedo cambiar el mundo, pero puedo tirar una piedra al agua para crear muchas ondas.” – Madre Teresa

 

 

 

 

Pero hoy podemos cambiar la historia, hoy podemos crear un futuro mejor. No te conformes con este mundo que te pintaron como el real, como el ideal, este sistema perverso nos ha confundido, nos ha enloquecido. Pero sé que dentro tuyo lo sabes, y quieres un mundo mejor, anhelas un mundo mejor. Si en algún punto de tu corazón sientes que la vida no te satisface, no te rindas, hay esperanzas. La vida puede ser mejor que esta siniestra realidad que consume nuestras almas.

Lo que el mundo y la humanidad necesita es que las personas se unan, necesitamos un grupo de soldados con corazón, dispuestos a dar amor, listos para crear y no para destruir, dando todo el amor posible y lo mejor de sí para abrirle los ojos a la humanidad, y para así poder cambiar nuestra realidad y todo el destino de la raza humana.

 

 

 

 

 

Es hora amigos míos, es hora de darle al mundo lo que más le falta, es hora de detener toda tristeza, dolor y sufrimiento en el mundo, debemos recordarles a los humanos que el amor existe, y así curaremos este infierno que nos rodea. Unámonos en esta revolución, en el nombre de Dios, en el nombre del amor, y salgamos sin miedo y con coraje a conquistar los corazones humanos con amor. ¡Es tiempo de una Revolución de Amor!

Taking Things for Granted: When the Important Things Become Invisible

The more we see something the more invisible it becomes to us. We take for granted things that we once desired, things that are essential for our well-being, valuable things, treasures, wonderful things and extraordinary people who enriches our lives. The problem is that the consumption society in which we live has made us blind. We have lost all sense with what is really important, and we have focused all our energy in less important things. The funny thing is we always realize how important something was when we lose it.  That is the moment when we learn to give something the value it deserved.

 

 

"It's not a bad idea to occasionally spend a little time thinking about things you take for granted. Plain everyday things." - Evan Davis

 

 

Once upon a time there was a magic world. It was full of wonders and treasures. It was so perfectly designed that only an expert craftsman could have made such a wonderful piece; it was so beautiful, so magnificent, so extraordinary… It was the best masterpiece ever created. This paradise called “Earth” was compound of minerals, water, mountains, oceans, trees, flowers, beautiful lands, lakes, beautiful creatures, fruits, seeds, vegetables, and above you could see during the day a blue sky, and a big sun or water falling from the sky, or wonderful snowflakes, and during the night you could see a shiny moon, and a dark night full of stars.

This world still exists; it is the world you live in. It is the jewel in which you are standing right now, a paradise that you missed by being too focused on other less important things. When was the last time you actually stopped everything you were doing and you contemplated what this world has to offer? When was the last time you enjoyed all the treasures of this planet? So many beautiful colours, aromas, flavours, sounds and textures and we took them for granted, how can we be so blind?

 

 

 

“The more often we see the things around us – even the beautiful and wonderful things – the more they become invisible to us. That is why we often take for granted the beauty of this world: the flowers, the trees, the birds, the clouds – even those we love. Because we see things so often, we see them less and less.” – Joseph B. Wirthlin

 

 

 

The main problem with us is that we are constantly craving things that we do not have, but we always forget the things we already have. Once we get what we want, another thing takes its place, and the thing we wanted in the first place quickly loses its value. This not only happens with material things, but with everything around us. We take for granted material possessions, we take for granted the food we eat, the water we drink, we take for granted our health, we take for granted the people we love, we take for granted the nature around us, and we take for granted our time on this earth.

It turns out that I smile a lot, and in these moments that is something unusual. I remember someone who once asked me: Why are you always smiling? To which I replied: because life is beautiful, and with a smile he nodded. I mean how could I not smile? Simply look around you. We have everything we need, life is more wonderful than hundreds of years ago, everything is much simpler, we live in a world of opportunities, and still we insist on being sad and angry either because we always search for more things we do not need, or because we are attached to things we no longer have, while we belittle the things we have.

 

 

 

“We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.” – Cynthia Ozick

 

 

 

The real problem of taking things for granted is that we forget to take care of them running the risk of losing them. That is why our planet is in jeopardy and with that our own existence, because we are so used to its beauty, so used of its existence, so used to its resources of water, air, and life that we are not paying attention to the damage we are causing to it. We take for granted our health that is why we not take care of our body putting in risk our own lives. We take for granted our family and that is why we forget to see them not knowing that one day they will not be here, we take for granted our partners that is why we do not give them the love they deserve forcing them to leave us. We take for granted our time, that is why we do not spend it on things that really matter, depleting the most important thing we have.

Close your eyes for a minute and imagine how your life would look like if you didn’t have the things you already have. Your family gone, friends gone, the person you love gone, the things you possess gone, your health gone, no more sun, no more rain, no more mountains, the trees gone, the birds and all animals extinct, your house gone, imagine that there is no water left nor food, no more air to breathe, no more of the things you once had, no more freedom, no more time.

 

 

 

“There’s a lot that is good in your life-don’t take it for granted. Don’t get so focused on the struggles that you miss the gift of today.” – Joel Osteen

 

 

 

That would be a nightmare, isn’t it? Do you want to know something? There are people who are already experiencing that nightmare. Here on this earth, while you take for granted all the things you have and you suffer for the things you don’t, there are people with less that you have, and if we are not careful with our actions, if we do not stop polluting our planet, killing every animal, cutting every tree, if we do not end with every war, this nightmare will become true, and we will lose it all, and thus we will realize that the things we took for granted, were the things that made our heart beat.

Let’s take at least 30 minutes a day to contemplate and be grateful for all the things we have. Let’s stop what we are doing and enjoy the company of our loved ones, let’s admire the nature around us, let’s enjoy the essential and wonderful things of our daily lives. Life is a wonderful place, you only need to become aware of it, enjoy it, love it, and protect it!

 

 

 

 

Be here, be present, enjoy the moment, be grateful with what you have, and smile because you can!

Honesty: One of the Most Treasured Values of Human Being

On the road to becoming the best version of ourselves, honesty should be an important value to keep in mind. The problem is that we live in a society that reward us from telling lies and punishes us for being honest. Telling lies has become a normal habit between human beings and we have accepted it as a valid behavior. Honesty is a value that we all praise but it is normally forgotten, it has become the rarest value in a human being. But can we revert this or are we condemned to a life of lies? The answer is yes. yes, we can! and all depend on us.

 

 

"When you tell a lie, you steal someone’s right to the truth." - Khaled Hosseini #honesty

 

 

Why we have left honesty buried in oblivion? Is it to protect others or is to protect ourselves? Is it to be accepted by this society? Or is it because of fear? Why is it sometimes so hard to be honest? Why we are so easy to corrupt? Why do we easily forget honesty? I believe the main problem is because we have forgotten about who we really are and why we are really here. We have silenced the voice of our own souls, living the lie created by this society. We were not born liars, cheaters, fake, we learned to be this way. They manipulated us, they distort reality.

Since we were kids we have listened to lies. When we were children they told us stories that were fake, they tried to scary us with things that didn’t exist, they never explained why something was happening, but they tried to hide it with a nice little story. As grown-up, lies were almost everywhere. Lies in the television, in magazines, in newspapers, people cheating each other, advertising trying to sell you something with a lie, beautiful images of models and fantastic products that never looked like in the pictures, lies from politicians, lies between friends, family, colleagues, lies everywhere.

 

 

 

“If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything.” – Mark Twain

 

 

 

So we learned to lie, we accepted it as normal. Nowadays, cheating has become a normal behavior. I heard some people saying: “It’s life, it’s normal, people cheat, people lie, people is fake, and so do you.” And the classic one: “If you can’t beat them, join them.” Well, I totally disagree with this quote. I believe that if we surrender to this world that constantly try us to be something else, we lose who we really, and if we are not ourselves, we are nothing, or we are simply bones covered with flesh surviving in this world, waiting to die.

Nobody wants to be cheated, nobody likes lies, so why we do not start by being a source of honesty instead of lies? We can begin by being honest to our own selves. That is where the lie begins, we do not cheat others more than we cheat ourselves. Therefore, if we could learn to be honest with our own selves, we can be honest with others. This won’t avoid others from being dishonest but at least you will be your true self, you won’t be corrupted by this society, and that is a great achievement.

 

 

 

“Every lie is two lies — the lie we tell others and the lie we tell ourselves to justify it.” – Robert Brault

 

 

 

But we should always be honest? Even if that hurts other people? Yes, but there could be some exceptions. We have to try to tell always the truth, but there could be moments when our truth doesn’t need to be revealed. To be more clear I will give you an example. Imagine that today is your birthday and someone gives you a gift that you don’t like, would it be necessary to say: Hey, thanks but no thanks, this gift is really disgusting. The truth is honesty doesn’t mean to be rude. You don’t have to lie and say that is the best gift ever, but you could thank for the intention.

At the same time, honesty doesn’t mean that you have to go through life telling others your opinion about them, not everyone expects your opinions, so better don’t say it, and if they ask, so say the truth without being rude. When the truth is not really relevant, and if it keeping it to yourself will be more beneficial than saying it, that could be the only exception. But do not confuse this with lying to protect others or to avoid hurting others. A lie, sooner or later will do more harm than the worst truths.

 

 

 

“There is always a way to be honest without being brutal.” – Arthur Dobrin

 

 

 

Therefore, if honesty and kindness go together they will never cause harm, or not as much as the biggest lie. The problem with lies is that the longer you wait, the bigger it becomes. We can’t go back in time and change what we did or said, but we can always choose to say the truth, a lie never expires, it will always be there, and the only way to destroy it is with the truth. Do not be afraid of telling the truth, and be ready to accept a truth instead of wishing to get beautiful lies. They can hurt, but once you know it, you are free to reinvent your life, while living a lie will only convince you that the illusion you live is real, living forever in a fantasy.

 

 

 

 

Start being honest with yourself today. That is the first step to becoming the best version of yourself. Be kind, be gentle, and say the truth to the people around you with compassion, not to hurt them but to free them, not to destroy them but to love them, even if they don’t love you back. Let’s become honest and free our conscious from the torture of our lies!

Learning to Let Go of Attachment

Most of our struggles come from our attachment to things, people, situations and many other things. The problem is we become dependent on those things in order to survive, putting ourselves in a place of extreme vulnerability. In the case that we lose what we are attached to, a life of distress and struggle is inevitable. Therefore, to avoid so much suffering, we must detach ourselves from everything that we can lose, and free ourselves from any attachment.

 

 The root of suffering is attachment. Buddha

 

 

Living attached to places, things, people, jobs, situations, and any other thing is the key to a life of struggle. I know, it sounds pretty extreme, but the truth is, the more attached we are, the more we suffer, because the more attached we are, the more we fear, and the more we fear, the more we suffer. We depend so much in something, that the merely idea of losing it tears our heart apart. The problem is when our happiness lasts as long as the things we are attached to do not change, do not transform in something else, or cease to exist.

Every attachment limits us, submits us, controls us, and completely dominates us. It limits us because it doesn’t let us be completely ourselves, because sometimes being ourselves would mean the inevitable loss of that we are attached to, submits us because it makes us do certain things in order to avoid losing it, it controls us because it makes us behave in a special way, and dominates us because all our existence depends on the lasting of the things we are attached to.

 

 

 

“Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities.” – Dalai Lama

 

 

 

Does that mean that we can’t have any kind of feelings? Can’t we love, or be passionate about something, or like something very much? How can we be happy if we can’t just simply be humans? Well, that’s the thing, we are humans, we feel, and that is the beauty to be alive. Having all those wonderful emotions makes us feel alive, and gives meaning to our lives. The problem starts when we become dependents of relationships, material goods, jobs, places, outcomes or situation in order to keep feeling the way we feel.

Therefore, it is not feeling in a special way about someone or something the problem, because the problem is when our happiness depends on that. If the lack of something or someone or if the change of something in our lives creates suffering in us, then is our attachment what is truly bringing us sorrow, it is not love, or the passion we have about something, but is our dependence, our attachment . There is something worth remembering and that is the difference between attachment and a connection where an attachment creates in us the fear of losing something, while a connection gives and receives at the same time, feeding your soul.

 

 

 

“Renew, release, let go. Yesterday’s gone. There’s nothing you can do to bring it back. You can’t “should’ve” done something. You can only DO something. Renew yourself. Release that attachment. Today is a new day!” – Steve Maraboli

 

 

 

So what to do then? Free yourself from any attachment. Don’t limit yourself thinking that you can’t have a life, that you can’t be happy or successful if you don’t posses a certain thing, if you are not with a special person, if you are not doing a special thing, or if you not live in a certain place. If you have come to the place you are now, it is not because of someone or something, it’s because of you. You are the creator of your own life, therefore, if there is someone you need to depend on, it’s yourself. Without you, there is nothing, so don’t seek somewhere else what you have to seek within yourself.

A connection, a special bond between you and what you like and love is inevitable, it is not avoiding that connection what we should seek to achieve, but not depending on it to survive. We should not let our attachment confuse us, believing that we need someone or something in order to be happy, having the idea that those things, that job, that place, that situation or relationship is the determining factor of our happiness. A job, a career, a place, any material thing, a person, or a special situation can bring us joy and happiness, but those feelings should never be conditioned for the lack of those things.

 

 

 

“Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you.” – Ali ibn abi Talib

 

 

 

There is nothing greater thing than being free, and the freedom that we obtain by letting go of attachment is something that truly benefits us. So the key is not in being cold, without feelings, but learning to love, without needing anything in return, being free to be whoever you want, and do whatever you want without being limited from any attachment. The most important thing is living in the moment, whatever happened in the past cannot be changed, whatever will happen in the future didn’t happen yet, so why ruining your life by being attached to a past that is gone or to a future that hasn’t arrived yet? Life changes all the time, knowing that nothing is permanent, living in the moment, and cutting the ropes to any attachment is the key for a happy life.

 

 

 

 

Give to your passions, give to every people, and give to everything you want the power of your love, but do not give them the power to destroy you! Learn to let go of attachment, and give yourself the gift of living a happy life!

Why Am I a Vegetarian?

Every time I say I am a vegetarian, people ask: Why? Well, Mahatma Gandhi once said: “Be the change you wish to see in the world” and that’s why I’ve decided to become a vegetarian, because I believe we can live in a world in peace, but peace is something we all create, and to demand peace, we must first start by being the source of it, and that includes the things we feel, think, say and do. And choosing life before death in our dishes is a way of making peace.

 “Non-violence leads to the highest ethics, which is the goal of all evolution. Until we stop harming all other living beings, we are still savages.” - Thomas A. Edison #vegetarian #vegetarianism

 

I believe freedom makes us happy, and happiness brings us peace, and a world without freedom, nor peace cannot survive, and the lack of all those things create violence, and today there is violence everywhere, and that violence is bringing our existence to an end. How can we expect to live in a world in peace when we are constantly creating violence? There is violence in our daily lives, in our jobs and schools, there is violence in our homes, there is violence in the programs we watch, in the books and newspaper we read, in the games we play, in the music we hear, and there is violence in the food we eat.

We are covered with the blood of those who suffer: People, animals, and our precious world. When we choose to close our eyes against the suffering of other beings, we choose to be accomplices of the injustices of this world. But why does this happen? Because we are too worried in our own businesses that we forgot to remember the ones next to us. We have become so selfish that we do not care if in order to satisfy our own needs, we make others suffer.

 

 

 

“A man can live and be healthy without killing animals for food; therefore, if he eats meat, he participates in taking animal life merely for the sake of his appetite. And to act so is immoral.” – Leo Tolstoy

 

 

 

That is why we constantly do things that only benefits us, for example: eating dead animals. In my case, I have been the human grave of many animals. I tasted them, and I ate them for many years; I were always aware of their suffering but it was too complicated for me to change my lifestyle, so I decided to keep being the coffin of the remains of dead animals. The funny thing was that I always proclaimed myself as an animal lover, I was against those who cause them pain, but I was eating them, and that is pretty much the same as killing them; because of me they die, because of my needs and pleasures they are slaughtered, because of me they suffer.

And that is the worst part of all: Our hypocrisy. We proclaim ourselves as animal lovers; we kiss and hug our dogs and cats, but we go to a zoo, and admire the beautiful animals caged sleeping on their own excrement. We watch hunters killing without mercy, taking photos of themselves with the corpses of dead animals and we get angry, we see what other heartless people do to animals in meat trades and we get mad. We see a beautiful video of a sweet little pig and we all die of tenderness.

 

 

 

“Until he extends the circle of his compassion to all living things, man will not himself find peace.”  – Albert Schweitzer

 

 

 

And then what? What happens when we have that little pig killed and dismembered in our dishes? Do we get angry or upset? Do we get sad? Or do we eat it with pleasure and joy?  “Well, I have to eat, and I do not see that piece of meat as an animal but as food, and meat is good for our health, and it tastes good, and being a vegetarian is boring.” Excuses, and more excuses that people use in order to justify the slaughter of animals.

We are fast to judge others for their actions while we close our eyes while doing ours. People look at me weird, they laugh, they do not understand and ask me all the time: Why are you a vegetarian? And the answer is: Because I believe that every being on this planet should be free without being afraid that others will take away their freedom. Nobody, not a single person or animal should be enslaved, caged, tortured, or killed for the satisfaction of another being. We all deserve freedom and peace, and that are our main given rights. At the same time, this is not only about us or animals, it is about our planet, which is being killed by our deadly habits.

 

 

 

“I choose not to make a graveyard of my body for the rotting corpses of dead animals.” – George Bernard Shaw

 

 

 

This is not about being a vegetarian or not. This is about peace; this is about freedom. If you deserve those things, what made you think that other beings do not deserve the same rights? Who are we to choose who dies and who lives? And if you don’t care about animals, do you care about your home? And with home I mean your planet, without it we cease to exist. Once again, it is our habits and behaviors that are killing our world and their creatures, therefore, we are slowly committing suicide, and destroying the home of the next generation. We cause our own destruction, we take away our peace and we end with our freedom.

What I mean is that I have chosen this way of life not to be a super hero or the savior of the world, but because I wanted my actions to match my ideals. I wanted to leave my selfishness and hypocrisy aside, just because they do not identify my true self. I want peace for me, and for all the beings in this world. And I believe we must start by being the change we want to see in the world.

 

 

 

“Now I can look at you in peace; I don’t eat you any more.” – Franz Kafka

 

 

 

Therefore, I encourage you to leave aside the person that you are not, and become the person you are capable of becoming. I don’t try to make you vegetarian, I do not want to change you neither judge you, I just want you to be the source of the things you are looking for. Do you want love, kindness, compassion, peace? Do not wait that to come to you, go out and be all of that!

 

 

 

 

May your actions represent your ideals, your passions, your true self. Always remember that every little thing can make a huge difference in our daily lives and the life of others! No matter how crazy it sounds, together we can make a change, let’s make this world a better world for all! For a non-violent, without suffering nor pain, and more peaceful world!

Kindness: The Universal Language of Love

What if I tell you that there is a way to understand each other regardless our nationality? What if I tell you that there is a language that everyone already knows that we can use to speak to each other? What if I tell you that there is a language that can bring us love and heal our hearts? Would you believe me? Well, that language actually exists, is the universal language of love, and it is called kindness, and it can change the way we live our lives.

 

 “Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” - Mark Twain

 

 

We live in a world where its inhabitants are every day more connected through devices but every day more disconnected as human beings. We have all the resources to stay connected, to be together, but still, we insist on separate ourselves from each other. The real problem is that we cannot understand or comprehend each other. The reason? Simple: In the midst of the chaos of our society we have lost ourselves, and we have forgotten who we really are: kind, compassionate and loving beings.

There are thousands of different language in the world, but still, we cannot understand each other. You may be thinking that the problem is that we do not share the same language, but the problem is not that there are many different languages, the real problem is that we do not know, that we all speak the same language, and that language is kindness.

 

 

 

“A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees.” – Amelia Earhart

 

 

 

But kindness, a language? Yes, and let me tell you why. A language is a way of communication, which can be expressed in many ways. Therefore, we can say that kindness is a way to express love. Every simple word or act of kindness is a way to demonstrate love to another. Kindness is something that everyone can understand regardless culture, age, nationality or race. It is a language that can be spoken in many ways, and always will be heard.

The problem is that every day we are contaminated with other less important things in our daily routine, that we forget who we are, that is why we forget to speak the language of kindness. We underestimate the power of a simple word or act of kindness. The truth is that kindness speaks louder than any other language in the world, and it has the power to heal hearts, and bring joy and happiness to the person who speaks it, and the person who is ready to listen to it.

 

 

 

“Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.” – Barbara de Angelis

 

 

 

We can feel the power of kindness at any moment, for example: How do you feel when someone is kind to you? How do you feel when a stranger, someone you have never seen before, for no apparent reason, gives you a kind smile, or say a kind word? I guess you feel great, isn’t it? Even if it is for a second, a simple act or word of kindness has the power to fill our hearts with joy. Anytime, anywhere, with whomever we are, every act of kindness is never wasted.

Every time we are kind to someone else, even if we feel that the other person doesn’t care, deep inside their hearts they care, because the language of kindness is something that penetrates any barriers we can have, and gets deep inside our hearts, filling it with love and happiness.

 

 

 

“If we all do one random act of kindness daily; we just might set the world in the right direction.” – Martin Kornfeld

 

 

 

Kindness can be expressed even without words, that is why anyone can understand it, because a simple act, a simple touch, a simple smile, can speak louder than words. It doesn’t matter where we are from, nor our age, culture, gender, language, it doesn’t matter if we are deaf or blind, if we do not know how to read or write, because the language of kindness will always be understood. The kindness we give is a gift for others and a gift for ourselves, and the ripples it creates are bigger than we can imagine.

 

 

 

Why don’t you try to make one act of kindness a day, for a week, and see for yourself how wonderful it is? It is time to make kindness our first language, and change the way we live!