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A Short Story About the Power of Understanding – Part II

In the previous part I started writing a little story that I imagined one night while I was watching the stars. This short story is about the power of understanding. It is a way to see how different everything could be if we could be less judgmental and more understanding with each other. Hope you enjoy it!

 

 

"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." - Carl Jung  

 

 

He started seeing flashing images, they were passing quickly through his eyes like a movie. As the images were passing, he started to recognize the kid in the images, it was the life of this kid in little images. As they were passing, the little kid was getting older, and suddenly he recognized completely who it was: It was his neighbor, a shy and quiet boy of about 20 years of age. The man has always criticized and judged this boy, because he was different, he always referred him as the “suicide boy” because he was lonely and never smiled. The images keep passing through his eyes, until they stopped.

 

The man remained motionless for almost 15 minutes, and suddenly, he broke into tears. What he saw in those images was the 20 years of life of this boy. The magic about the shoes he tried was that not only made him see the life of the boy he always criticized but he could felt what he also felt in different moments of his life. He understood why he was the way he was. This boy has been through a lot of hardship in his short life. And in the present, he was taking care of her sick and drunk mother, because his father ran away when he was born.  Suddenly, he realized that this boy, his neighbor, was worthy of being respected.

 

He tried the second pair first, and afterwards the third pair of shoes, both fit him perfectly. He saw the images that appeared. Those two pairs were the lives of two different people he knew. People who he always criticized most of the time.  One was the life of the secretary of her boss. He always criticized her for the way she looked, the way she acted, the way she spoke, he always judged her because she was a very reserved and quiet girl, who looked like a nun. It turns out that this girl has suffered abuse from his father when she was a child, and she has been afraid of men ever since.

 

The third pair of shoes was the life of his father. He has always been very critic with him. His father was always a strict, cold and distant man. He didn’t know much about his father’s life, they never really had a relationship, and they haven’t talked in the last years. He always criticized his father for not being a good, loving and understanding father. But what he saw in those images broke his heart into pieces.

 

It turned out that his father has had a rough life. His grandfather, his father’s dad, was very severe with his son. He has been the only son out of 4 daughters, and his father was very hard on him, always receiving psychological and physical abuse from his part. “This will make you a man, and you are the only one, you must take care of your sisters”, he used to say. This man now understood that his father was the way he was because of his own father. He saw in the images that his father always took care of his 4 sisters after their father’s death, and he always took care of him. The man felt ashamed of himself for being so cruel with his father, because he was always distant and cold, but deep inside him he was good man. A father to be proud of.

 

The man feeling a mixed of emotions tried to find again an exit door, he also went to the front to see if he could open the door, but it was still locked. Tired and hopeless, he went back to the rear of the store. He realized that he hasn’t tried the fourth pair of shoes. Already feeling devastated he was afraid of what he could see in those last pair of shoes. His curiosity was stronger so he decided to try them on.

 

He started seeing the images passing through his eyes. Immediately he recognized the person in those images: It was himself, and those were his memories. He saw the person he was and he saw the person he has become. A selfish and judgmental person that has always been criticizing people without even knowing them. He started crying, he couldn’t recognize himself. “Who have I become?” He said with tears in his eyes. The images keep passing before his eyes. He couldn’t tolerate seeing himself in those images. He felt ashamed, and for a moment he even despised himself. “Please God I don’t want to be this person anymore, I can be better than this, I can change.” He cried out loud.

 

Suddenly, the images stopped. He took out the shoes. The lights went on, and he went to the front door. It was open. He went out the door and left the shop. He opened his eyes, he was lying on his bed, it was all a dream, a dream that came true. He wanted to change, God gave him hand. He reborn, he changed, he evolved, and his life was never the same again.

 

 

 

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” – John Watson

 

 

 

With this little story that I imagined in my mind, I could understand how different everything is when we get to know the story of a person. Once we know what they have been through, once we feel what they felt, everything changes. But do we need to go through that to be understanding and compassionate? The answer is no. We need to understand that everyone is fighting their own battler, becoming more understanding and less judgmental. We do not change people by criticizing them, nor we change our lives. We need less critics, and more people willing to become the best version of themselves so they can be ready to help others do the same. Together we can make this world a better place, it all starts with us and with the person we choose to be every single day of our lives.

 

 

 

 

The next time you criticize and judge others, try to put yourself in that person shoes first. Try to understand others as you would like them to understand you. Understanding is the key to a better world. Will you help create it?

A Short Story About the Power of Understanding

When it comes to criticize and judge others, we are all experts. Without mercy we go through life like judges criticizing and condemning others, but what would happen if we could spend the same energy we spend on judging others, in trying to understand them? Could it be possible that our understanding could change the way we see others? What if we would have the chance to walk in someone else’s shoes?

 

 

"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." - Carl Jung

 

 

A few days ago, in one of those beautiful summer nights where the sky is clear and full of stars, and the temperature is pleasant, I was quietly sitting on an armchair in my balcony gazing at the stars. For some reason, every time I look at the sky I start to reflect about a certain topic, as if there were something up there, probably God, watching me and whispering something to me. In that night I started wondering about how much people tended to criticize others. I think because we can’t cope with our own life, we tend to focus on others rather than ourselves to feel less miserable.

While I was thinking about it I imagined how would it be to walk in someone else’s shoes. How would it be for one moment be in someone else’s skin and see life through that person’s eyes, and feel what that person feels. I was thinking that probably would increase our understanding for others, and we would become less judgmental. Our hearts would open, and we would change the way we treat others, becoming more understanding and compassionate, having more empathy and being less ruthless judges.

 

 

 

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” – Dale Carnegie

 

 

 

I always try to find examples that will help me clear my concerns. It is so that I imagined a little story about a man of about 30 years who used to criticize others constantly. It didn’t matter if you didn’t have reasons to criticize someone, this man always found a reason to criticize someone. Day and night, he was always criticizing and gossiping about other people, and no matter how annoying and despicable he was, he will always find followers who will applaud him.

One day, he went to a near shoe repair shop to collect one of the shoes he had left for repair. He entered into the shop, and suddenly a strong wind closed the door abruptly. He rang the bell, which was over the counter, to call the cobbler. No signs of him, he rang it one more time. He waited a few more minutes and decided to leave the store. He tried to open the door, but it was locked. “Maybe it was because of the wind” he thought. Tried a few more times without success.

“How will I get out? Maybe there is an alternative exit at the rear of the store” he thought. He went there to find a way to get out, and maybe he could also find the cobbler. As he was walking through the alley behind the counter the light slowly started to fade. Suddenly it was so dark he couldn’t see a thing. He was trying to find the light switch when something bright started shining. He went to see what it was, and he found four pair of shoes shining like stars.

He was amazed, he has never seen something like it. He took one of the shoes to see it closer, they were common shoes, but the light that shine through them with no apparently reason made them special. After seeing it carefully, he started using it as a lantern. He searched all around the place for the cobbler and the exit door. There were none of them. He searched every corner of that room, but there where no way out.

He decided to sit down and wait. “Maybe the cobbler went out to do something and he forgot to close the door, probably he will return soon” he thought. He waited half an hour, one hour, the cobbler never came. He was tired, hungry, and bored as hell. Where could he be? The man wondered. He took one of the shining shoes and tried it on, it was his size. He tried the other one. He stood up, and in that moment a miracle happened.

 

 

To be continued… 🙂 

Honesty: One of the Most Treasured Values of Human Being

On the road to becoming the best version of ourselves, honesty should be an important value to keep in mind. The problem is that we live in a society that reward us from telling lies and punishes us for being honest. Telling lies has become a normal habit between human beings and we have accepted it as a valid behavior. Honesty is a value that we all praise but it is normally forgotten, it has become the rarest value in a human being. But can we revert this or are we condemned to a life of lies? The answer is yes. yes, we can! and all depend on us.

 

 

"When you tell a lie, you steal someone’s right to the truth." - Khaled Hosseini #honesty

 

 

Why we have left honesty buried in oblivion? Is it to protect others or is to protect ourselves? Is it to be accepted by this society? Or is it because of fear? Why is it sometimes so hard to be honest? Why we are so easy to corrupt? Why do we easily forget honesty? I believe the main problem is because we have forgotten about who we really are and why we are really here. We have silenced the voice of our own souls, living the lie created by this society. We were not born liars, cheaters, fake, we learned to be this way. They manipulated us, they distort reality.

Since we were kids we have listened to lies. When we were children they told us stories that were fake, they tried to scary us with things that didn’t exist, they never explained why something was happening, but they tried to hide it with a nice little story. As grown-up, lies were almost everywhere. Lies in the television, in magazines, in newspapers, people cheating each other, advertising trying to sell you something with a lie, beautiful images of models and fantastic products that never looked like in the pictures, lies from politicians, lies between friends, family, colleagues, lies everywhere.

 

 

 

“If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything.” – Mark Twain

 

 

 

So we learned to lie, we accepted it as normal. Nowadays, cheating has become a normal behavior. I heard some people saying: “It’s life, it’s normal, people cheat, people lie, people is fake, and so do you.” And the classic one: “If you can’t beat them, join them.” Well, I totally disagree with this quote. I believe that if we surrender to this world that constantly try us to be something else, we lose who we really, and if we are not ourselves, we are nothing, or we are simply bones covered with flesh surviving in this world, waiting to die.

Nobody wants to be cheated, nobody likes lies, so why we do not start by being a source of honesty instead of lies? We can begin by being honest to our own selves. That is where the lie begins, we do not cheat others more than we cheat ourselves. Therefore, if we could learn to be honest with our own selves, we can be honest with others. This won’t avoid others from being dishonest but at least you will be your true self, you won’t be corrupted by this society, and that is a great achievement.

 

 

 

“Every lie is two lies — the lie we tell others and the lie we tell ourselves to justify it.” – Robert Brault

 

 

 

But we should always be honest? Even if that hurts other people? Yes, but there could be some exceptions. We have to try to tell always the truth, but there could be moments when our truth doesn’t need to be revealed. To be more clear I will give you an example. Imagine that today is your birthday and someone gives you a gift that you don’t like, would it be necessary to say: Hey, thanks but no thanks, this gift is really disgusting. The truth is honesty doesn’t mean to be rude. You don’t have to lie and say that is the best gift ever, but you could thank for the intention.

At the same time, honesty doesn’t mean that you have to go through life telling others your opinion about them, not everyone expects your opinions, so better don’t say it, and if they ask, so say the truth without being rude. When the truth is not really relevant, and if it keeping it to yourself will be more beneficial than saying it, that could be the only exception. But do not confuse this with lying to protect others or to avoid hurting others. A lie, sooner or later will do more harm than the worst truths.

 

 

 

“There is always a way to be honest without being brutal.” – Arthur Dobrin

 

 

 

Therefore, if honesty and kindness go together they will never cause harm, or not as much as the biggest lie. The problem with lies is that the longer you wait, the bigger it becomes. We can’t go back in time and change what we did or said, but we can always choose to say the truth, a lie never expires, it will always be there, and the only way to destroy it is with the truth. Do not be afraid of telling the truth, and be ready to accept a truth instead of wishing to get beautiful lies. They can hurt, but once you know it, you are free to reinvent your life, while living a lie will only convince you that the illusion you live is real, living forever in a fantasy.

 

 

 

 

Start being honest with yourself today. That is the first step to becoming the best version of yourself. Be kind, be gentle, and say the truth to the people around you with compassion, not to hurt them but to free them, not to destroy them but to love them, even if they don’t love you back. Let’s become honest and free our conscious from the torture of our lies!

The Scope of our Words

We constantly speak or write, and many words come out from our mouth in one day. Some of them just fade away, or are simply forgotten, but some of them keep resonating in someone else’s mind for hours, days, months and even years. The truth is the scope of our words can be higher than we think.

 "Speak clearly, if you speak at all; carve every word before you let it fall." - Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

 

The words we speak can be more powerful than we imagine, depending on what we say, they can be a wonderful tool or a lethal weapon. Even one word can create a huge impact in the life of other people. The problem is that sometimes we underestimate their power, and we do not measure the scope of our words. Therefore, we must be careful with the ones we choose, especially with those harmful words that can act as a deadly weapon for someone and hurt them forever.

We speak or write, and we use different words in order to communicate something to another, and according to what we say, they can sometimes encourage, inspire, help, teach, heal and help others, and at the same time they can destroy, hurt, damage, or kill other people. The words we speak can lift someone else up or they can put someone else down. They can do good, or they can do evil, and it is in our hands which one to choose.

 

 

 

“Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill.” – Buddha

 

 

 

If we could imagine what our words can cause in someone else’s life, we would probably choose them better. The problem is that sometimes when we speak, we do not think, especially when our emotions speaks for us, and the problem is not when those emotions are good, but when they are not, because it is in that moment when we can cause a huge pain.

Have you ever been angry and told someone something you regretted? Probably yes. The problem was that our emotions, that is to say, our anger spoke for us, and most of the cases we didn’t even wanted to say what we just said but the damage was done. The same happens in the opposite way, when someone says something to us and those words creates a huge pain in our hearts. Some of those words are forgiven, some of them are forgotten, and some of them are stored deep inside a person’s heart.

 

 

 

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napoleon Hill

 

 

 

The good thing about words is that they can influence someone, and make someone believe those words are real, changing its life completely. The bad thing is when those words are used for evil, and they make other people do evil, or to follow the wrong path, or make someone believe that those harmful words about himself are real. For example, many times in my past, people said different words to me that really made a hole in my heart: You’re ugly, you’re good for nothing, you’re not smart, you will fail, you can’t do that, you are this and that, and I believed them.

The problem is that sometimes those words are spoken by people you really care, and they can be really painful, because it is easy to avoid listening to those you don’t care but it’s hard to not listen to those you love. For that reason, we should always be careful with the words we choose in our daily lives, in our relationships, with our friends and colleagues, with our parents and children and with every single person we surround ourselves with.

 

 

 

“Be careful what you say. You can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later, the wounds are still there.” -Joel Osteen

 

 

 

Why would you say someone that he or she is ugly, stupid, or a loser, if you really don’t want them to believe that they are so? Maybe, because you think they won’t believe that? And what if they do? What if that person believes in what you said and act upon it? What if you really hurt someone with the power of your lethal words? Because that is what you can cause, and you may not know that, but you could break someone’s heart with just one word.

We could create the same effect but in the opposite way, and use them to lift a person up, make them love themselves, bring them peace, make them believe that they are awesome and unique, make them feel good about themselves so they can know how amazing and beautiful they are, we can change their perspective and make them know that they deserve all the good in the world, so they can know that everything is possible, that they can do it, that they can be successful.

 

 

 

“Kind words do not cost much. They never blister the tongue or lips. They make other people good-natured. They also produce their own image on men’s souls, and a beautiful image it is.” – Blaise Pascal

 

 

The truth is, what other people say about you is their opinion and not yours, what they say is their vision of the world, or maybe is their own broken heart speaking, or their anger, or maybe is just what they feel, and we cannot avoid it. We can either choose to let their words destroy us, or use it as strength to keep getting better, and keep moving forward. But in case we meet someone that cannot do that, why don’t we avoid hurting others, and choose to not hurt them with our words? Or at least, why don’t we say what we have to say in a more peaceful way?

 

 

 

Therefore, why don’t use our words as a tool rather than a weapon, and use it to inspire, help, heal and encourage people speaking words of love, and change our lives and the lives of others!

Kindness: The Universal Language of Love

What if I tell you that there is a way to understand each other regardless our nationality? What if I tell you that there is a language that everyone already knows that we can use to speak to each other? What if I tell you that there is a language that can bring us love and heal our hearts? Would you believe me? Well, that language actually exists, is the universal language of love, and it is called kindness, and it can change the way we live our lives.

 

 “Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” - Mark Twain

 

 

We live in a world where its inhabitants are every day more connected through devices but every day more disconnected as human beings. We have all the resources to stay connected, to be together, but still, we insist on separate ourselves from each other. The real problem is that we cannot understand or comprehend each other. The reason? Simple: In the midst of the chaos of our society we have lost ourselves, and we have forgotten who we really are: kind, compassionate and loving beings.

There are thousands of different language in the world, but still, we cannot understand each other. You may be thinking that the problem is that we do not share the same language, but the problem is not that there are many different languages, the real problem is that we do not know, that we all speak the same language, and that language is kindness.

 

 

 

“A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees.” – Amelia Earhart

 

 

 

But kindness, a language? Yes, and let me tell you why. A language is a way of communication, which can be expressed in many ways. Therefore, we can say that kindness is a way to express love. Every simple word or act of kindness is a way to demonstrate love to another. Kindness is something that everyone can understand regardless culture, age, nationality or race. It is a language that can be spoken in many ways, and always will be heard.

The problem is that every day we are contaminated with other less important things in our daily routine, that we forget who we are, that is why we forget to speak the language of kindness. We underestimate the power of a simple word or act of kindness. The truth is that kindness speaks louder than any other language in the world, and it has the power to heal hearts, and bring joy and happiness to the person who speaks it, and the person who is ready to listen to it.

 

 

 

“Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.” – Barbara de Angelis

 

 

 

We can feel the power of kindness at any moment, for example: How do you feel when someone is kind to you? How do you feel when a stranger, someone you have never seen before, for no apparent reason, gives you a kind smile, or say a kind word? I guess you feel great, isn’t it? Even if it is for a second, a simple act or word of kindness has the power to fill our hearts with joy. Anytime, anywhere, with whomever we are, every act of kindness is never wasted.

Every time we are kind to someone else, even if we feel that the other person doesn’t care, deep inside their hearts they care, because the language of kindness is something that penetrates any barriers we can have, and gets deep inside our hearts, filling it with love and happiness.

 

 

 

“If we all do one random act of kindness daily; we just might set the world in the right direction.” – Martin Kornfeld

 

 

 

Kindness can be expressed even without words, that is why anyone can understand it, because a simple act, a simple touch, a simple smile, can speak louder than words. It doesn’t matter where we are from, nor our age, culture, gender, language, it doesn’t matter if we are deaf or blind, if we do not know how to read or write, because the language of kindness will always be understood. The kindness we give is a gift for others and a gift for ourselves, and the ripples it creates are bigger than we can imagine.

 

 

 

Why don’t you try to make one act of kindness a day, for a week, and see for yourself how wonderful it is? It is time to make kindness our first language, and change the way we live!

Our Example: Our Legacy

It is known that words are the most basic and simple form of giving a message because the most powerful message is given by our example, and through it we can change everything for better or worse. Our example is our legacy, it makes the real difference in our world, therefore, what example are you going to give?

 

"Be the change you wish to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi #example #bethechange

 

An example knows no boundaries and knows no languages, it is the most powerful source of knowledge and education. It is through our example that we give the kind of message that will last in people’s minds. A person can take that example, and follow it or they can avoid them, and do the opposite, it is their decision, but is your responsibility to be the example you would like to see in them and in the world.

Day after day, we go through life complaining about the behaviours of others, we constantly criticize and judge others but we never look ourselves in the mirror. The truth is if we tried to be the example of person we would like to see in the world, every human being on this planet would be different, but the problem is we are more focused in changing others than changing ourselves in the first place, and the result is many critics, but few people who actually do something to change the world they live in.

 

 

“Setting an example is not the main means of influencing others; it is the only means.” – Albert Einstein

 

 

 

How can we pretend others act in the way we would like them to act if we are not capable of acting in the way we would like them to act? To make it simpler: How other people will act in a different way if you behave exactly as them? Your example is their example, and their example is your example, everything is connected. The funny thing is that we all consider ourselves as the preachers of truth, values, honesty, love, and morality, and so we go through life, teaching and preaching to others and judging and condemning them for their behaviours but we never stop and reflect about our own behaviours, because if we did that, we would realize how far is our example of being the kind of example we are always talking about.

Parents that fight in front of their children, parents who are dishonest between each other, parents who have bad habits, parents that are aggressive and disrespectful with their children, how can they pretend their kids to not be like them? Just saying things like do not do that, do not say that, do not behave like that? Of course not! They will have to be the example of person that they would like their children to be. Well the same happens everywhere. In churches, in schools, in universities, in work places, in politics, and in every single place of this world there have been people whose examples have helped to make this world a complete nightmare and at the same time there are people who their examples have helped to make this world a better place.

 

 

 

“People may doubt what you say, but they will believe what you do.” – Lewis Cass

 

 

The questions we should analyse now are: What example, that is to say, what message are we giving to the world? Are we being an example of love, kindness, compassion, honesty, respect and understanding or are we being an example of the opposite? Are we being the change we would like to see in the world or are we being the creators of our own destruction? What kind of example are we giving? What legacy are we leaving?

We have to learn something: Our criticism does not lead us anywhere, it does not change anything, but it is our good example what can change the whole world and if it cannot change the world at least will contribute to make this world a better place, and at least one person around you will learn from your example and it will adopt it as their own, and if we all do that, imagine what would happen. This world would definitely be what it was intended to be: A heaven on earth. Be an example not by being perfect, but just being the best version of yourself in every situation you can.

 

 

 

Do you want a better world? Fantastic! Now your first responsibility is to be the change you want to see in the world. Be an example to follow for those around you, for those you know and do not know, for those you love and those who don’t, for your friends and your enemies, this will be your legacy for the born and unborn. Be the source of love, values, kindness and loyalty and see how the world changes!

Lack of Empathy: The Murderer of our Humanity?

Our lack of empathy, that is to say, our lack of ability to recognize and understand the feelings of another, is killing the humanity that is left in our society. Everything that is happening in the world just made me realize one thing: We have learned nothing.

 

"Could a greater miracle take place than for us to look through each other's eyes for an instant?" - Henry David Thoreau #empathy

 

Our own world has been the witness of our own destruction through the years. For years the human beings has been fighting for different reasons, most of them has been the cause of our own separation, where most of the time was generated through the efforts of those who govern us, who have always planted seeds of hate in human hearts, only to satisfy their own ambitious and selfish needs.

Through the years, all those people, the ones with the power, have taken the time to think the best way to control the whole world, and the best plan was launched: Separating people from each other by Nationality, Race, Gender and Religion and voilà! Here goes the most brilliant and evil plan of all times: People just hate and kill each other all by themselves. They took us our ability to think, and we became their slaves. Therefore, this caused one thing: hatred increased while love declined, which caused our lack of empathy, and the creators of such amazing plan? Well, they have always won the game.

 

 

 

“The secret of freedom lies in educating people, whereas the secret of tyranny is in keeping them ignorant.” – Maximilien Robespierre

 

 

 

So, what is empathy? The dictionary says that empathy is: The ability to understand and share the feelings of another. Therefore, how can our lack of empathy be the murderer of our humanity? Simple: if we can’t understand what someone else is feeling, if we can’t put ourselves in some else’s shoes or at least try to feel what that person is feeling, then there is no way we can feel the sadness and suffering from others, what will either cause our disinterest in the suffering of others, generating our inaction, or it will make us act in an evil way against others, being unable to understand and share their suffering.

Therefore, when we lack empathy, everything that makes us humans disappears, because where there is no love, hatred thrives, and it is in that moment when all the worst atrocities happen. We destroy our planet, our nature, we kill all animals, we poison every ocean, lake and river, we cut all our trees, and we hate and kill each other without mercy and compassion and everything thanks to our lack of empathy and lack of love.

 

 

 

“Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule.” – Buddha

 

 

 

What is happening with the refugees is a clear example of our lack of empathy. In the last few days I read articles and comments from people from all countries around the world about immigration and refugees enough to make me sick. Our lack of empathy and our dehumanization is evident, there is no way we can hide the fact that we became so individualistic, that we don’t care anything about anyone except ourselves. The mere thought that someone with a different culture, religion or language will come to our little fantasy world were everything seems to be fine drives us crazy; taking out the worst in us, when it should be the other way around, since we do not own the world.

That’s why in the beginning I said that we have learned nothing. Why? Well, if we compare our past history and our present moment we can see that every death, every suffering, pain and fight from the past, and every human who have fought to restore the peace have taught us nothing, or in better words, we didn’t want to learn and so, we repeat those destructive behaviors from our past over and over again.

 

 

 

“Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” – George Santayana

 

 

 

I wonder if there is any way we can revert the destiny of our humanity. I dare to say – Yes, there is, and the cure to all evil is love. The seeds of hate have been planted thousands of years ago, but that doesn’t mean that love is already extinct, because love will never die, but we have to plant love once again, wherever we go, to everyone we can. Without love humanity cannot survive, and our existence will be condemned by our own actions.

We are all human beings, no matter our nationality, religion, language, race, or culture and that means we all have the same rights, where the right to live counts as the most fundamental of all, we are all the same and we are all one. Every person should be treated as a human, not matter where they come from. Everything that happens to another may someday happen to us.

 

 

 

Let’s restore our humanity, let’s recover our empathy, and with love and compassion let’s help other humans in need. We could be them, so let’s be kind and have respect, and in return we will have everything anyone can ask for: a world full of love and peace.

The Power of a Compliment

Normally we ignore the power of a compliment, not knowing how deep and magical a simple compliment can be. Unfortunately the act of praising is easily forgotten in the chaos of our daily life. The truth is that a single kind word, a simple, genuine and unexpected compliment can change a person’s day.

 "A compliment is verbal sunshine." - Robert Orben

 

A single compliment is like a caress for the soul. It can bring joy, strength and courage to human souls. To give someone else a compliment is a way to recognize another person for something in particular, and it is a way to show others love and kindness, what always generate a good impact in someone else’s life and never the opposite. Think about it this way, most of us have received a compliment at least once in our lives. Do you remember how you felt when that happened? It feels great, isn’t it?

That’s the power of a compliment; it always makes someone happier and not the opposite. A compliment can make someone else’s day, and if we can make someone happy, why wouldn’t we? But for a compliment to be effective, it must meet the following requirements: It has to be kind, show respect, be genuine and be totally honest otherwise the effect will be the opposite. After all, a compliment is a kind and sincere word expressed by a person to praise, to lift and to make other person happy.

 

 

 

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” – Leo Buscaglia

 

 

 

If you haven’t figured out yet, I’m not only talking about compliments that focus on someone else’s appearance, but I’m talking about those compliments that focus in something much deeper and essential as the spirit, behaviors and attitudes of human beings. In a world where superficiality wins, is great to be recognized by doing things right. Every small word of kindness is always appreciated and the impact can be greater than expected.

On the other hand, a compliment is not only beneficial for the other person but for you as well, because as you already might know: what goes around comes around. If you have the habit to give compliments, you are very likely to be the person who will also receive compliments. There is also another benefit you will receive by giving others a compliment, what can generate an impact in your life. That benefit is the reward you get from praising others for a job well done, because when you give a compliment for it, you encourage that person, and it is very sure that person will continue or even improve on doing something.

 

 

 

“Kind words do not cost much. Yet they accomplish much.” – Blaise Pascal

 

 

 

For instance, if one of your employees has done a good job, and you recognize the effort, telling a few kind words like – Well done today! How do you think that person is going to feel? And how do you think it will act in the future? Definitely the result of those simple words will create a huge impact. The person will appreciate those words and will feel good about it, what will act as a motivation to keep the good work. The reward for you will be to have a happy employee who will keep the good work. The same example acts for everything, parents with their children, relationships between couples, or siblings, or friends, colleagues, employees and customers, and with everyone you surround yourself with. If you give sincere compliments to people around you, it will generate a positive impact in their lives and yours as well.

That’s what I have experienced many times, for example, one day I was working as a waitress for a special event in a Hotel, there were more than 400 people and my colleagues and managers were more stressed than ever, the work was hard and tiring, and after a several hours I began to feel fatigue all over my body, but that didn’t erase my smile from my face, but I was indeed tired, and I desperately needed some peace of mind. When everything finished and every guest was leaving, an old man came and said to me – Thank you for tonight, you have done a great job! I know this is hard work and I hope you get some kind of reward for it, and he left. What he didn’t know was that his own compliment was a reward to me. He made me feel that all the hard work was worth it, what motivated me to keep doing a good job.

 

 

A single compliment can be simple words for you, but huge words for someone else. A compliment it is a gift you give to another and it can mean nothing to you but a lot for someone else. Therefore, do not underestimate the power of a compliment. Do not let a day pass without giving someone else a sincere compliment, no matter how big or small, you may not know it, but you can brighten someone else’s day!

 

Self-Care vs. Selfishness

We usually confuse self-care with selfishness and the other way around, this is a common mistake we make in our daily life, and not being able to see the difference is what is causing a huge disaster in humanity.

 

 

“A man is called selfish not for pursuing his own good, but for neglecting his neighbor's.” – Richard Whately

 

 

It is hard for us to see the difference between them because they have the same meaning except for one simple detail, which makes a huge difference. Both self-care and selfishness mean the care of oneself, loving ourselves in the first place. The difference that changes everything is that selfishness is only concerned with one’s own benefits regardless of others, while self-care is concerned with one’s own benefits and the benefits of others, loving ourselves in the first place and meeting our own needs, so we can be ready to benefit others.

The selfish people are only worried in their own interests, because they only look to satisfy their own needs at the expense of others. They never think about others, they don’t care about other’s needs, because most of the time they are thinking only in themselves, so they forget to look after people around them. The selfish people don’t care if they hurt others in the process of getting what they need to meet their needs and desires. They think they are the center of the world, and they want everyone to agree with that.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

 

 

 

 

 

On the other hand, self-care people are worried about their own interests and the interest of others, and they want to meet their own needs and desires but not at the expense of others. They want to become better persons every day, they love themselves, and they do things to benefit themselves, but that doesn’t mean that they forget about everyone around them. They do follow their dreams and desires, but without trampling over others in order to achieve what they want. Self care people want to meet their own needs, but they try to look for the best way to avoid hurting others in the process of meeting their needs.

So now you can see that there is a difference between self-care and selfishness, and where one helps to construct a better world, the other helps to construct a better world but only for themselves. Probably both will lead to happiness, but only those who are not selfish will find eternal happiness, and those people will definitely help to change other people’s lives, and making other people happy, what will make them even happier, because everything you shall give, you shall receive, multiplied.

 

 

 

 

 

“Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live; it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.” – Oscar Wilde

 

 

 

 

 

 

The world desperately needs less selfish people; there is so much despair and sadness because of this selfish humanity. This amazing world with all its beauty is dying thanks to the selfishness of human beings, because we are not only worried about meeting our own needs in order to survive, we are also too worried about meeting unnecessary needs at any cost, that we forgot about taking care of our planet, destroying everything that was given to us.

We are also too worried thinking only in ourselves that we forgot about people around us, we are too worried in getting a better position at our job that we don’t care if we have to destroy everyone around us to get it. We are too worried about getting more money, to buy more and more things for us even when we don’t need them that we forgot about the man whom is sitting in the street asking for a miserable coin to buy something to eat.

We are too worried about our own satisfaction that we don’t care if we cheat our partner, because you think your satisfaction is more important that being loyal to the person who loves you! We are too worried because we didn’t had the guts to follow our dreams, so we force others to do it for us, even when they don’t want to do that. We are too worried about meeting our own needs that we don’t care if we become rapists in order to satisfy that need, we are too worried in ourselves, that we don’t care if we steal, or if we have to kill others in order to meet our needs, goals and desires. And all of this happens because of our selfishness, because we only think in our own benefit.

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Selfish persons are incapable of loving others, but they are not capable of loving themselves either.” – Erich Fromm

 

 

 

 

So which one are you going to choose?  The key is to find a balance. We must love ourselves first, and follow our heart, and make our dreams a reality and do everything that makes us happy, because that is the only way we can help others and make others happy, but we should never do that in order to meet our own needs and desires at expense of the unhappiness of others. We should put ourselves in the first place as long as it benefits all of us.

Love Revolution

The human beings are facing a serious problem; the society in which we live is rotting, our brains have been washed, and the big issue of all is our lack of love, we need to love again, we need a love revolution!

 

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The virus that has been implanted in our brains have killed most of the most valuable things that we have as human beings: the ability to love ourselves, our world, our nature, and every single human being in this world, we have lost the power to create everything we want, and we have forgotten who we really are and why we are really here.

The greatest problem of all is that we have changed the meaning of love, forgetting what love really means. The world is under so much pain right now, because human beings are not only loving in a very selfish and superficial way, giving love to things with no value, and there we can find the worst of all diseases: the love for money.

 

 

 

“Only when the last tree has died, and the last river has been poisoned, and the last fish has been caught will we realize we can’t eat money.” – Cree Indian Proverb

 

 

We are more in love with money, that any other thing in the world. And how can I know that? Because you just need to see the world, and what is happening right now, to see that what I’m saying it’s true! The problem is that the people are so blind, that they cannot see what is really happening. Humans have lost their common sense, becoming victims of their madness for money and power, making the worst atrocities and all in the name of money. Our love for money is the first cause of the pain, suffering and destruction of human existence.

The world is dying, we are pushing and pushing all our resources to the limit, jeopardizing our existence. The world, our home, desperately needs love, but not the cheap and rotten love we give every day but we need real and pure love. We need to learn how to love again and spread love to the world, so we can heal our hearts and the whole world. The solution is to focus in what really matters, learning to love ourselves again, and everyone out there, we need to understand again that we are not separated from each other, and what we do to others, we do to ourselves too.

 

 

 

“The planet does not need more successful people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds.” – Dalai lama

 

 

 

There are some questions about human behavior that have been in my mind, which I cannot understand:

 

How is it possible that are still people out there killing each other, people stealing, people with no home, with nothing to eat, with no drinking water, with no access to education, health and with no kind of right to have a decent life?

How is it possible that we know that we are destroying our planet, knowing that the result will be the end of life on earth and we don’t do anything about it?

How is it possible that we keep separating people for nationality, race, religion, gender, age and social status giving human rights depending where you belong, having some of them more rights than others to have a decent life?

How is it possible that there are people still deprived of their freedom? How is it possible that slavery still exists?

How is possible that we have been blessed with a wonderful planet which have all the resources for the survival of the human beings and we destroy it every day by our careless actions?

How is it possible that we have been blessed with a magnificent human body, which allows us to experience the wonderful gift of the life on earth and we destroy it by consuming all the crap we consume each day, without taking care of it until it’s too late?

How is it possible that we have been blessed with an extraordinary mind, having all the power, abilities and skills to do and create wonderful things and we use it to destroy?

How is it possible that we have a beautiful heart with the wonderful ability to feel and to give love, and we use it to hate and hurt?

 

 

 

“In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

 

 

And as I said before, the answer to all this questions is that we have lost out common sense, we mixed up the real priorities in life with less important things, we forgot about love, and we have become so blind that we can’t see what is happening, and if we can see it, we just don’t care, because we don’t want anything to distract us from our desperate race after money, power, material things, and a social status that will make us stand out from the rest. We have become so superficial that we forgot what is really important in life, allowing the evil in all of us, to bring the worst of ourselves, and give it back to the world, what have created a reality of hate, suffering, insanity and pain.

And what it makes this entire situation sicker, is that we have accepted that reality as an unchangeable fact, taking the easy and cowardly way, as it takes a lot of courage to go against the flow and do what it takes to change the world. It’s easier to complain than do something to change it.

 

 

 

“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.” – Mother Theresa

 

 

But today we can change history, we can create a better future. Don’t settle with this world believing what they told you about it, that this is the real one, the ideal, this perverse system has confused us, maddened us. But I know that deep inside yourself you know that, you want a better world, you yearn another world. If deep inside your heart you feel that this life doesn’t bring you joy and happiness, don’t settle, there is still hope. Life can be better that this sinister reality that consume our souls.

So, what the world and humanity need is that the people gather together, we need a group of soldiers with heart willing to love, being ready to build and not to destroy, giving all the love they can, to open the eyes of human beings, so we can change our reality and the whole destiny of the human race.

 

 

 

 

It is time my friends, to give the world what is lacking the most, it is time to stop with all sadness and pain and suffering in the world, we need to make humans remember that love exists, and so heal this hell that surround us. Let’s gather together in this revolution, in the name of God, in the name of love, and let’s go out fearless and courageous to conquer human’s hearts with love. It is time for a LOVE REVOLUTION!