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A Smile a Day Keeps the Doctor Away

The type of society in where we live and the way we live our life provoked the extermination of smiles. In this abnormal society, the abnormal behaviors became the new normal. Therefore, in this sad, bitter, and full of struggle world, a smile has become something odd. What we are not aware of is that it can actually heal everything that is wrong with the world. One single smile brings many benefits and can change the way we experience our lives!

 

 

"Let your smile change the world, but don't let the world change your smile"

 

 

We are living our lives in a hectic, chaotic and stressful way, we are immersed in a way of living that limits our capacity to smile, only reserving it for special occasions. We smile when we are happy or for any other special reason. The problem is that in our daily lives those reasons are a few or nonexistent, but that is because we tend to focus on the negative rather than being grateful and happy about the big or small things that truly enriches our lives, that is why someone that smiles a lot creates some kind of contradiction in the average man. People believe that someone that smiles more than normal without apparent reason is either faking it or hiding something.

One of the things that I believe defines me is my smile. When depression and sadness flooded my heart, my smile was a way to prevent them from destroying me, but it wasn’t fake, I mean, I didn’t use it as a way to hide my real emotions, I forced myself to do it even when I wasn’t feeling happy as a way to feel better and as a way to show the world that I could keep smiling despite all the sadness and struggle. It was the way I had, and that I still have to see the beauty of life, to focus on the positive, and to be happy.

 

“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

 

Someone can smile at least once in a week, right? But, wouldn’t it be nice to be able to do it more often and feel the emotions that go along with it no matter what is happening around you? Wouldn’t it be great to be happy for no reason? Wouldn’t that be something normal? Well, in this world, it seems that smiling too often is something that can make you look weird, insane or drugged.

I remember when somebody told me: Why are you always smiling? What kind of drugs do you take? My answer was: I don’t need drugs, or any other thing to be happy and smile. I smile because I have lots of reason for doing it, just being alive is a good reason. Then, I remember when somebody told me: You are always happy and smiling, why? My answer was: Look around you, look what you have, look what life offers you everyday, don’t you see? Life with its bad and good things is beautiful, and that is a good reason to smile. I remember that person’s answer: Do you know something? You’re absolutely right!

 

“Your smile will give you a positive countenance that will make people feel comfortable around you.” – Les Brown

 

I discovered that the more I smile the less I feel anger, stress or depression. Smiling changed the way I felt and the way I experienced my life, but how a simple smile can make so much good? Well, even if it is for a second, it can bring light, hope, peace and happiness in a person’s life, and at the same time brings all those things to you too, because one single smile can release feel-good neurotransmitters as dopamine, endorphins and serotonin.

These chemicals have the power to make you feel good. They can relieve stress, lowers blood pressure, and lifts your mood. They are better than any anti-depressant, they don’t have side effects and need no prescription. Our brain does not recognize a fake smile from an authentic one, so smiling even when you are not in the mood can help you feel a little better. Therefore, smile as much as you can, even if you have to fake it, sooner or later you will feel happier and it will become 100% authentic. If it is free, good for your body and soul, and can make your world look a little better, why not give it a try?

 

“Smile, it is the key that fits the lock of everybody’s heart.” – Anthony J. D’Angelo

 

Smiling is contagious, even when people may think you are crazy for smiling a lot, in some way they will feel better around you, because as it can lift your mood, it can also lift the mood of everyone around you. A smile is not a random action that goes unnoticed, it is actually a powerful message, that knows no gender, race, age or religion. Even if it looks like people don’t understand why you smile, deep inside them it will always be understood as a sign of kindness, hope, love, compassion and strength.

 

 

 

 

In a world full of darkness, light it up with your smile, change your life and the life of others, and never let anything change your smile! As someone once said: “Smile and the world smiles with you”!

Take a break to enjoy the moment!

Tick-tock, tick-tock. The clock hands keep spinning, faster and faster, they never stop. Second after second our life goes by very quickly. The time does not give us respite, consuming our existence minute after minute. We are always rushing against the clock, the day seem to have less than 24 hours and our days go by very quickly. Plans after plans, our schedule is full. The stress is high and the joy is low. Life goes by very fast, time never stops, and I wonder: When was the last time you took a break to enjoy your wonderful life?

 

 

 

"Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." - John Lennon #break

 

 

 

We live in a hectic world where our minds rarely takes a break. Our daily routines and chores keep us busy and our worries, problems, tasks and plans prevent our mind from stopping. We live under so much tension and our minds working at such high revolutions tend to collapse and that is the moment when the stress takes over our soul, mind and body. We cease to be in control of our own feelings and emotions, becoming puppets of our hectic and stressful life, losing every possibility to experience joy and happiness in our daily lives. Can we revert this? Absolutely. In order to regain our freedom to feel happy and joyful we should take a break to truly experience the wonderful fact of being alive.

The truth is that our time on earth goes very fast and is very short, but the problem is not that our existence is short, but that we do not seize every second of our life because we tend to be very busy making plans. Our minds tends to dwell more in our future that in our present, and a man can only truly live in his present. The now, this very moment is your life, the past are only a set of memories, and the future is an illusion. The only thing that is real, the only thing that we can truly experience, feel and touch is our present. What is happening right now, in this moment is all we have, and every second of it is worth living, because every second of our life is unique experience.

 

 

“I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is.” – Alan Watts

 

 

How many moments do we miss each day by being too busy making other plans? When was the last time you really enjoyed the company of family and friends without thinking about tomorrow’s plans? When was the last time you looked at the sky, watched the stars and admired the moon with a quiet mind? When was the last time you enjoyed the pleasant warm of a sunny day without thinking about the things you needed to do later? When was the last time you simply enjoyed the fact of being alive without being worried about the future? When was the last time you were relaxed, at peace, simply connecting with your soul, you deepest self? When was the last time you were truly present? How many times does your mind stay focused in this very moment without traveling constantly to the future? When was the last time you took a break from your hectic life and  simply took the time to enjoy the simplest and deepest things of your surroundings?

Taking a break a couple of minutes a day to contemplate our surroundings, to enjoy the company of others, to do the things that makes us happy, or to simply enjoy a wonderful time with our own selves can bring us to a state of ecstasy that will flood our soul and mind with a tremendous positive energy that will change the way we experience our lives. Disconnecting yourself from technology, from work, school, from your debts, your worries, and other plans can sometimes be the solution to the stress that contaminates our soul and mind day after day. Do not let your life slip from your hands, rather take the time to enjoy the beautiful moments that never come back like a tea with your mother, a walk in the beach, a kiss with your partner, a game with your kids, a beautiful sunset, a dinner with your friends or all those unique moments that we take for granted and that enriches our lives.

 

 

“True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future.” –  Lucius Annaeus Seneca

 

 

The clock of life keeps ticking, and it could stop at any moment. Nothing can guarantee us that it will keep ticking tomorrow, that is how unpredictable our life is. Therefore, we should seize every second of our life as if it was the last. While making plans and thinking about the future gives our life a meaning, enjoying every moment of our life, enjoying our present without always making other plans is the way to truly enjoy our life to the fullest.

 

 

 

From time to time take a break from your hectic life. Stop, breath, relax and simply enjoy this moment, because this moment is your life, don’t let it go, rather seize every second of it!

Kindness: The Universal Language of Love

What if I tell you that there is a way to understand each other regardless our nationality? What if I tell you that there is a language that everyone already knows that we can use to speak to each other? What if I tell you that there is a language that can bring us love and heal our hearts? Would you believe me? Well, that language actually exists, is the universal language of love, and it is called kindness, and it can change the way we live our lives.

 

 “Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” - Mark Twain

 

 

We live in a world where its inhabitants are every day more connected through devices but every day more disconnected as human beings. We have all the resources to stay connected, to be together, but still, we insist on separate ourselves from each other. The real problem is that we cannot understand or comprehend each other. The reason? Simple: In the midst of the chaos of our society we have lost ourselves, and we have forgotten who we really are: kind, compassionate and loving beings.

There are thousands of different language in the world, but still, we cannot understand each other. You may be thinking that the problem is that we do not share the same language, but the problem is not that there are many different languages, the real problem is that we do not know, that we all speak the same language, and that language is kindness.

 

 

 

“A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees.” – Amelia Earhart

 

 

 

But kindness, a language? Yes, and let me tell you why. A language is a way of communication, which can be expressed in many ways. Therefore, we can say that kindness is a way to express love. Every simple word or act of kindness is a way to demonstrate love to another. Kindness is something that everyone can understand regardless culture, age, nationality or race. It is a language that can be spoken in many ways, and always will be heard.

The problem is that every day we are contaminated with other less important things in our daily routine, that we forget who we are, that is why we forget to speak the language of kindness. We underestimate the power of a simple word or act of kindness. The truth is that kindness speaks louder than any other language in the world, and it has the power to heal hearts, and bring joy and happiness to the person who speaks it, and the person who is ready to listen to it.

 

 

 

“Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.” – Barbara de Angelis

 

 

 

We can feel the power of kindness at any moment, for example: How do you feel when someone is kind to you? How do you feel when a stranger, someone you have never seen before, for no apparent reason, gives you a kind smile, or say a kind word? I guess you feel great, isn’t it? Even if it is for a second, a simple act or word of kindness has the power to fill our hearts with joy. Anytime, anywhere, with whomever we are, every act of kindness is never wasted.

Every time we are kind to someone else, even if we feel that the other person doesn’t care, deep inside their hearts they care, because the language of kindness is something that penetrates any barriers we can have, and gets deep inside our hearts, filling it with love and happiness.

 

 

 

“If we all do one random act of kindness daily; we just might set the world in the right direction.” – Martin Kornfeld

 

 

 

Kindness can be expressed even without words, that is why anyone can understand it, because a simple act, a simple touch, a simple smile, can speak louder than words. It doesn’t matter where we are from, nor our age, culture, gender, language, it doesn’t matter if we are deaf or blind, if we do not know how to read or write, because the language of kindness will always be understood. The kindness we give is a gift for others and a gift for ourselves, and the ripples it creates are bigger than we can imagine.

 

 

 

Why don’t you try to make one act of kindness a day, for a week, and see for yourself how wonderful it is? It is time to make kindness our first language, and change the way we live!

Do We Live, or We Merely Exist?

Do we live, or we merely exist? Depending on whether we are free or not it is what will determine the answer. But how do we know that? Because freedom makes us happy, thus, if we are happy we are free and if we are free it means that we are truly living our life, otherwise we only exist.

 

 “What light is to the eyes, what air is to the lungs, what love is to the heart, liberty is to the soul of man.”  - Robert Green Ingersoll

 

The other day I was reading an article about pigeons, and I read something that really caught my attention. The article said that wild pigeons have a life expectancy of around 5 years while pigeons in captivity can live around 15 years or more, and after reading that, I wondered: It is better to live longer with everything you need to survive but with no freedom, or it is better to live less, with a not so comfortable life, but being free?

Trying to give an answer, I said to my self – Okay, the truth is I can’t think as pigeon, I can’t know what is better for them and what they would prefer, but I can think as a human, and as we are free beings, so are pigeons. We both have something in common, and that is the need to be free, and I believe every being has the same need. None of us would prefer to be kept in captivity or in an “all-inclusive prison” in order to live more comfortable for many years, or at least is not what we humans want, or… maybe yes?

 

 

 

“None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free.” – Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

 

 

I hesitated for a couple of minutes and then I asked myself another questions: It is not in that way how most of human beings on this earth actually live? Don’t we live in captivity? I mean, don’t we constantly fall in the trap of living as prisoners in our comfort zone? Because that is what our comfort zone is, it is the cage where we lock ourselves in with the purpose of surviving. In fact, that is what we do, we survive, we exist, but do we truly live?

The truth is that living in our comfort zone only gives us the feeling of being truly alive and free, what in fact is only an illusion, that is why it is so easy for us to live there, pretending to be happy, because it gives us the idea that there we can have everything we want in order to live a comfortable, happy, and peaceful life, but in order to survive we refuse to live the life we want because doing that would mean leaving our comfort zone, which would mean that we would have to put ourselves at risk, where everything we have can vanish in the blink of an eye.

 

 

 

“Freedom means you are unobstructed in living your life as you choose. Anything less is a form of slavery.” – Wayne Dyer

 

 

 

Wild or in captivity? Uncomfortable or comfortable? Free or caged? What would you choose if you knew you were going to die in a year? Would you still be doing what you are doing now? Because if you don’t, that means you already live in captivity. The truth is our future is not guaranteed, and no matter how safe we think we are, any time can be our time. What matters is to live our life, and not simply survive. Otherwise, what would be the point of this life?

I mean, how many years a human being can live? 50? 60? 80 years? I mean, what is the point of living 80 years if you haven’t lived at all? Maybe you have experienced a safe and comfortable life, and that’s totally fine, but if you haven’t pursued a dream, or you haven’t dared to go for a new adventure, or if you haven’t followed your heart, or if you didn’t do something that has required you to leave your comfort zone at least once in a while, if you haven’t experienced the feeling of happiness that comes from being free to do whatever you want without letting your fears, other people, situations, and anything to stop you, then you haven’t lived at all.

 

 

 

The truth about everything is that your life is yours, and nobody but you has the power to decide what to do with it, and the best for you, me and everyone is to do what makes us happy. But always remember that being in captivity is not living, is merely exist, but being free is living.

The Power of a Compliment

Normally we ignore the power of a compliment, not knowing how deep and magical a simple compliment can be. Unfortunately the act of praising is easily forgotten in the chaos of our daily life. The truth is that a single kind word, a simple, genuine and unexpected compliment can change a person’s day.

 "A compliment is verbal sunshine." - Robert Orben

 

A single compliment is like a caress for the soul. It can bring joy, strength and courage to human souls. To give someone else a compliment is a way to recognize another person for something in particular, and it is a way to show others love and kindness, what always generate a good impact in someone else’s life and never the opposite. Think about it this way, most of us have received a compliment at least once in our lives. Do you remember how you felt when that happened? It feels great, isn’t it?

That’s the power of a compliment; it always makes someone happier and not the opposite. A compliment can make someone else’s day, and if we can make someone happy, why wouldn’t we? But for a compliment to be effective, it must meet the following requirements: It has to be kind, show respect, be genuine and be totally honest otherwise the effect will be the opposite. After all, a compliment is a kind and sincere word expressed by a person to praise, to lift and to make other person happy.

 

 

 

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” – Leo Buscaglia

 

 

 

If you haven’t figured out yet, I’m not only talking about compliments that focus on someone else’s appearance, but I’m talking about those compliments that focus in something much deeper and essential as the spirit, behaviors and attitudes of human beings. In a world where superficiality wins, is great to be recognized by doing things right. Every small word of kindness is always appreciated and the impact can be greater than expected.

On the other hand, a compliment is not only beneficial for the other person but for you as well, because as you already might know: what goes around comes around. If you have the habit to give compliments, you are very likely to be the person who will also receive compliments. There is also another benefit you will receive by giving others a compliment, what can generate an impact in your life. That benefit is the reward you get from praising others for a job well done, because when you give a compliment for it, you encourage that person, and it is very sure that person will continue or even improve on doing something.

 

 

 

“Kind words do not cost much. Yet they accomplish much.” – Blaise Pascal

 

 

 

For instance, if one of your employees has done a good job, and you recognize the effort, telling a few kind words like – Well done today! How do you think that person is going to feel? And how do you think it will act in the future? Definitely the result of those simple words will create a huge impact. The person will appreciate those words and will feel good about it, what will act as a motivation to keep the good work. The reward for you will be to have a happy employee who will keep the good work. The same example acts for everything, parents with their children, relationships between couples, or siblings, or friends, colleagues, employees and customers, and with everyone you surround yourself with. If you give sincere compliments to people around you, it will generate a positive impact in their lives and yours as well.

That’s what I have experienced many times, for example, one day I was working as a waitress for a special event in a Hotel, there were more than 400 people and my colleagues and managers were more stressed than ever, the work was hard and tiring, and after a several hours I began to feel fatigue all over my body, but that didn’t erase my smile from my face, but I was indeed tired, and I desperately needed some peace of mind. When everything finished and every guest was leaving, an old man came and said to me – Thank you for tonight, you have done a great job! I know this is hard work and I hope you get some kind of reward for it, and he left. What he didn’t know was that his own compliment was a reward to me. He made me feel that all the hard work was worth it, what motivated me to keep doing a good job.

 

 

A single compliment can be simple words for you, but huge words for someone else. A compliment it is a gift you give to another and it can mean nothing to you but a lot for someone else. Therefore, do not underestimate the power of a compliment. Do not let a day pass without giving someone else a sincere compliment, no matter how big or small, you may not know it, but you can brighten someone else’s day!

 

What is Success?

Is success the road to happiness? How can we achieve success? Is there perhaps a special recipe for it? What should we do to be successful? In order to answer these questions we must ask ourselves this question first: What is success? In the answer to that question we can find the key to our success.

  “The whole secret of a successful life is to find out what is one's destiny to do, and then do it.”  - Henry Ford #success #quotes

 

Have you ever thought about the real meaning of success? And what will make you a successful person? Have you ever wonder why you want to succeed? Do you think success is the road to happiness? The truth is that our own definition of success determines whether we are successful or not.

I have always wondered about success, as I grew up with the belief that happiness was the result of success, therefore I always believed that in order to live a happy life one should succeed first. Years later, I not only realized that my belief was wrong, but I also found out that my ideas about success and how to be successful were also wrong, and that was the reason why I struggled and struggled to be successful always failing at it.

 

 

 

“Our greatest fear should not be of failure, but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter.” – Francis Chan

 

 

 

The problem is that our society teaches us that success is equal to having money, or having fame, or power or material things, or a particular social status, or a degree, a good job, a special talent, or a good-looking appearance, or all of the above. Therefore, we go through our life seeking for those things in order to achieve success, but would that be a real success? Can we consider success as being the act of achieving superficial things? Or is it success something more profound?

Therefore, the rule N.1 to achieve success would be to investigate, define and understand the meaning of the word success. According with the dictionary, success means: The favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one’s goals. Therefore, if success is the achievement of one’s goals, wouldn’t anyone who has achieved its goals be a successful person? Even if those goals don’t involve power, fame or fortune? Or in the end, it’s all about how we measure success? That is to say that success can only be measured in a superficial way?

 

 

 

“Stop chasing the money and start chasing the passion.” – Tony Hsieh

 

 

 

Let’s think about this: There are two people with law degree, who would have wanted to study something different. One of them works in a prestigious law firm, while the other one have decided to make his hobby a profession; he quit his job to travel the world. The first of them has his life assured with a degree, a great job, and an excellent salary but the second one doesn’t, he lives day by day, doing what he loves. Therefore, who is successful?

I guess most of the people, judging for the way their lives look like; they would determine that the first one is the one who is successful. But what if they could see deeper? What if you could see and feel what they feel deep inside their hearts? What if you could feel the pain and suffering of the first person for not doing the things he would love to do? And what if you could feel the joy and happiness of the second person? Would you change your mind?

 

 

 

“The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself.” – Mark Caine

 

 

 

Once again everything depends on your own definition of success and your personal goals, dreams and desires and what you do or cease to do to achieve those things determines your success. Therefore, if you want to be successful, find your own definition for success, find what would be true success for your and make it happen. Success is being who you really are, always believing in yourself, doing what you love regardless how many material things you possess.

In my case, I discovered that success is doing what you love, success is being happy for who you are and what you have. Success is facing challenges every day, not giving up, rising every time you fall. Success means to conquer your fears, without letting them to conquer you. Success is not allowing adversity to defeat you. Success is being who you really are whenever you want it, without being limited for others opinions about you.

 

 

“Success? I don’t know what that word means. I’m happy. But success, that goes back to what in somebody’s eyes success means. For me, success is inner peace. That’s a good day for me.” – Denzel Washington

 

 

Successful people are those who have always believed in themselves, successful people are doers, dreamers, believers, adventurers, risk takers, and they never give up. Successful people are those who have dared to follow their own dreams. Successful people are all the children and adults, women and men, rich and poor, famous or unknown, with a degree or not, who are out there being happy, doing what they love, chasing their dreams, being who they really are, without trying to please everybody.

 

 

To conclude – Is success the road to happiness? As Albert Schweitzer once said – “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” If you want to be successful: Be happy, do what you love, follow your dreams and make them happen and above all be whoever you want to be, otherwise you will succeed being someone else, having a life you don’t want.

The pursuit of happiness – Part II

Happiness is a treasure that every human being on this earth seeks to find. Fortunately for all of us, happiness is not something exclusive for the minority but it’s something everyone can have. The problem is our lack of understanding of happiness which has given us wrong ideas about what really means and how can be achieved.

 "The happiest people seem to be those who have no particular reason for being happy except that they are so." - William Ralph Inge #happiness

 

Defining Happiness

 

In my previous post I asked different questions, which can be very helpful to understand and define happiness, because in order to achieve true happiness we must understand it, so we can define better what it really means, because if you possess the knowledge about something, but you can’t understand it in full, then you will never know how it works, which will result in the inability to experience it in the best way possible. For instance, you can have the knowledge of how to ride a bike but if you don’t completely understand how it works, you won’t be able to experience riding a bike.

So we already started asking questions about happiness, we no longer accept the story that someone told us about happiness as being something that can be found in the outside world, we all have experience happiness through external factors but we want more, we want a deeper sense of happiness. Therefore, we have questions, because we want to know the secret of happiness and we want to be truly happy now and forever. That’s why are you here, isn’t it? So let’s get started!

 

 

 

“Happiness is the only sanction of life; where happiness fails, existence remains a mad and lamentable experiment.” – George Santayana

 

 

 

As I wrote in my previous post, happiness according to the dictionary means “the feeling of being happy” and to be happy means “to be delighted or glad over a particular thing” and the etymological meaning of happiness means “good fortune” but how can I explain exactly what it means? The truth is I can’t, because as I wrote before, happiness has as meanings as people on this planet, if you ask ten people from all over the world in one day for one week – What is happiness for you? You will have 70 different answers, where you’ll agree with some of them and others you won’t.

The truth is we all want to be happy but we all have different ideas of what happiness means, so every book you read, every person you listen to will have a different meaning of it. The society in which we live, our family, friends and our culture are key factors, which determine our ideas of happiness. We are being most of the time influenced by our environment, which in most cases defines our beliefs about happiness, and it’s there where we can find the problem, because we accept happiness as a concept created by someone else, such as the idea that money is equal to success and those together gives as result happiness. And so we seek money to be happy and when we have it, we want more and that happens with many other aspects of our lives where we look for happiness everywhere else except in ourselves, and my friends, there is the key for a long-term happiness – True happiness can only be found in oneself.

 

 

 

“Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response.” – Mildred Barthel

 

 

 

So you may be wondering – Okay all of this is very nice but I need the meaning of happiness, I need to know what happiness means, so I can experience it! Well, the answer for a long-term happiness can be found within your heart. You must find your own meaning of happiness, you must find what gives your life a purpose and that way you will be forever happy, your heart already knows the answer, you just need to listen to it without being influenced by external factors. The true meaning of happiness is the meaning you choose to give it, if you haven’t found it yet, must be because you have been always looking in a place outside of you.

The truth is – the recipe for a long-term happiness lies within ourselves, and so it cannot be found somewhere else, and it cannot be found in our past or in a future, because is not a place where we can get or something we can find, happiness is merely a choice, regardless our external circumstances, it is something you choose every second of your life, and your thoughts about something is what makes you happy, not the situation itself. Happiness is the way you see life, we all have different glasses through which we see the world, and according to what we see, and to our beliefs is what we are going to define as happiness. True happiness is when you see the world through positive lenses, being grateful for every single thing you see, choosing to be happy rather than rely on external factors to be so.

 

 

Happiness is real and exists within you, for that reason a long-term happiness is possible, nobody can take it from you except yourself. Happiness is the simple choice to be grateful for every little thing you have and for every circumstance of your life. Choose to be happy now and forever!

Worry serves no useful purpose

We all share one particular habit, but not the kind of habit that is good for our health but rather the opposite, the habit that we all have in common is called “worry” and it serves no useful purpose at all.

 

Don't worry about a thing, cause every little thing is gonna be alright.

 

 We have the bad habit of worrying too much, as if worrying about something could be used as a magic wand to change what is going on or what we think is going on. The truth is nobody has ever changed something that happened in the past or something that is supposed to happen in the future through worrying, because the only thing that can be affected thanks to our worries is our present.

When we worry we don’t change anything that has happened in the past neither we change something that is going to happen in the future, the only thing we change is our present but not in a very positive way, because when we worry we make our present a nightmare through our thoughts of what is going to happen which most of the time they are not 100% accurate. This way we put ourselves in a place where we suffer needlessly, worrying about something that most of the time is never going to happen.

 

 

 

 

“Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose” – Eckhart Tolle

 

 

 

 

How many times have you been worried about something in the past? And how many times it really happened? And if that actually happened, was as bad as it seemed? Was it worth so much worry and anxiety? Was it worth wasting so much time of your life worrying about something that was out of your control? I guess no, or I least that is what I believe, because when I look back into my past, I can see I have wasted a lot of my precious time worrying about things that never happened, and those things that actually happened it turns out that were not as bad as they seemed.

Worry is useless, worry can’t change anything that happened in your past, and it can’t change anything that may or may not happen in your future, worry can only do one thing: it can steal your joy and happiness from your heart without reason. The problem with worry is that makes you feel as if those things for which you are worried about are already real in your present, which in fact is not more than an illusion, but worry makes your problems become a reality, even if they don’t exist. Worry only makes you focus on what you don’t want rather than letting you focus on the outcomes you would like to happen.

 

 

 

 

“Why worry? If you’ve done the very best you can, worrying won’t make it any better” – Walt Disney

 

 

 

 

Worry can’t help us in any way, it can’t solve our problems, but you can do your best to get the best result possible. If there is something you would like to change and if you are able to do that, then change it, do what it takes to have the outcome you would like to have, focus on those things you would like to happen in your life, and don’t focus on those things you don’t want, on the other hand if you can’t do anything to change your situation, why worry then? Would it make things any better? Definitely no, it won’t make things any better, but it will make it worse because it will embitter your present, stealing your happiness and ruining your day.

 

 

 

Worry doesn’t change anything but complicates your life even more, use your imagination to create the positive outcomes you would like to have in your life, do everything you can, but always remember to have faith and trust life, because no matter what happens everything will be alright!

What is Love?

We live in a world where humans have been separated from each other, but there is something that unites us despite our nationality, breed, gender or age, and we call it love. We speak different languages but we all speak the language of love. We all have experienced love, we all talk about love but: What is love? And what is its true meaning?

 

 

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds." - The Notebook

 

 

We never ask ourselves this question, or at least the majority of us, and I wasn’t the exception. One day a friend of mine asked to me, and when I tried to answer, I was not really sure about the correct answer, so I started a research to know exactly what love means. I started thinking about love and what it was for me, and then I looked for what other people said about love, I looked for the meaning in books, magazines, movies, and everywhere I could, and I found different meanings, what it made me think, that we are a little bit confused about the true meaning of love.

The truth is everyone has a different opinion about the meaning of love, and according to their point of view about life those meanings are totally valid, and I’m not an expert about love to say which answer is right and which one is wrong, and I think anyone is, but judging by how humans interact with each other, I can say we are confused about the true meaning of love, because love can have many meanings, but love should never be defined as painful, love is synonym of happiness, and not unhappiness.

 

 

 

“Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.” – Wayne Dyer

 

 

 

Humans over the years have always tried to define love in different ways, we find the word love in everything we see and hear, love has always been used as inspiration for movies, books, songs, and the meanings of love have always been as different as people on this planet. People from around the world with different languages and cultures, religious people, philosophers, scientists, psychologists, writers, Actors, and musicians have always tried to find and express the real meaning of love.

But the truth is, love is something that cannot be defined, categorized or described in any way, love is not a product we can buy in a store, it is not something we can find in a shelf, it is not something we can touch, love is something that can only be experienced, love goes beyond our understanding, and it is not something that can be easily explained in a few words in a dictionary, blog, book or anywhere, love can only be understood when we experience it.

 

 

 

“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.” – Thomas Merton

 

 

 

 So you may be wondering – Okay, if I can only experience it, how can I know that what I am experiencing right now it is actually this thing we call love if I don’t know what love really means?

 

 

And that is a very good question, because there we find the problem of our existence. There is so much despair and sadness in this world due to our misconception of love. Our beliefs about love are mistaken and therefore our experience of what we call love is also mistaken. And all this happened because we never really tried to understand what love really means, and when we try to do and experience something we don’t really understand there are very high chances to do it in the wrong way.

This is what is happening right now – Our wrong concept about love has confused us, and that has created so much hate, pain and sadness in our life. We don’t really understand what love means, so we have given to it wrong meanings:

 

 

Love is about possession of a person or an object, love is wanting others to be who you want them to be, love is giving someone our heart allowing a person to break it into pieces whenever they want, love means being what we are not, in order to be accepted for others, Love means to satisfy your own needs at the expense of other, love is the feeling we have only when the other person act, think, feel as we want, love means accepting others to treat us as they please, love is material things, Love is about fame, power and money, Love is only about sex, Love is superficial, Love is painful, Love is bad, Love is a waste of time!

 

 

As I said before, I’m not an expert and I think in terms of love no human being is, at least not yet, we can all have different and valid meanings, but what we should understand is that love is happiness, not the opposite, our wrong beliefs about it makes us think it is not, as we can see in the examples I gave, our concepts about love are mistaken, and that has created all the sadness and pain in our hearts.

 

 

So, what is love?

 

 

Definitely is not what I wrote before, but rather the opposite. The dictionary says love is: “A strong feeling of affection and sexual attraction for someone”, but at least in my opinion, love is much more than that, it is much more than just a word, an emotion or a feeling.

 

 

Love is caring of you and others, love is unconditional, love gives without expecting anything in return, love is wanting others to be the person they want to be, not the person you want them to be, love is about helping others be the best version of themselves they can be, love is a mutual agreement of giving the best they can for the benefit of both and others, love is when someone else’s happiness is your happiness, love is helping others, love is respect and understanding to each other, even if we think different. Love always constructs and never destroys, Love heals and never hurts, Love is not a finished product, love is something your work each day, love is being happy for the success of others, love is being in the good and the bad moments, love is timeless, love has no boundaries, love doesn’t require anything, love is a connection between human beings, love is not attachment to something or someone because love is free, love is peaceful, love is loyal, love is not when our happiness depends on the thoughts and action of others, love is blind, it cannot see appearances, because it can only see what is invisible for the human eye, love is what makes us better human beings, because love is what we are made of, and love should be our guide!

 

Stop complaining and start enjoying life!

One of the reasons why we don’t enjoy life is because we are always complaining, and the act of complaining only makes us to have more and more things to complain about, and life can never be enjoyed if we forget to be happy in the act of complaining too much.

 

“If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.” – Maya Angelou

 

 

We are always complaining no matter the situation:

 

  • We complain because is winter and it’s too cold and we complain because is summer and it’s too hot.

 

  • We complain if we don’t have a job because we need more money and we complain if we have a job because the pay is too low, or because we don’t like what we are doing, or because we have to work many hours, or because we don’t like our boss.

 

  • We complain if we don’t have money and we complain if we have money because it’s not enough.

 

  • We complain if we can’t find a partner and we complain if we have partner because we want to live as single.

 

 

I could just go on and on with the infinite list of thing that humans complain all the time, but I will stop here so we can reflect about our behavior. It seems that there will always be something to complain about, so we have two options:

 

 

  1. To focus on the positive side of everything, being grateful for every little thing we have.
  2. To focus on the negative side of everything, complaining about everything we don’t have.

 

 

If you choose the first option you will always be happy and you will enjoy life no matter what happens and of course there will be times when you will complain and you will feel frustrated but it won’t last because you will use the most wonderful tool that you have: Gratitude, a tool that can change your life experience in a second and a tool that expresses to the world that you are happy with every aspect of your life even if is not perfect.

If you choose the second option you will always feel frustrated and miserable no matter what happens, because complaining gives us a distorted reality where everything seems to be against us when in fact is us that we are against ourselves. Complaining becomes a habit, a very harmful habit that only leads us to frustration and depression. Complaining only makes you to focus on the negative side of everything, making you unable to enjoy life.

 

 

 

“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” – Eckhart Tolle

 

 

 

If we are complaining, we are not being grateful and if we are not grateful for what we already have, how are we going to have more? The truth is that the act of complaining or being grateful is like two powerful magnets; whichever you choose is what you are going to experience in your life day after day.

In order to enjoy life, we should be grateful for everything in our life, and with this I don’t mean that you should settle with the life you have, accepting everything bad that happens to you, what I mean is that we should always go after the things we deserve, but we must be grateful and happy now, because we have everything humans need to survive and be happy everything else is secondary. If we are not able to see the blessings we have now and be happy, we are not going to be happy with more afterwards.

 

 

 

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

 

 

 

If you want to enjoy your life, stop complaining. Free yourself from that negative habit that does you no good. Complaining has never changed anything in a person’s life, but rather gave that person more reasons to complain and be frustrated. The day that you realize how many things you have especially the small and essential things, things that some people are struggling to get, those basic things that we need for our existence, you will realize how blessed you are and you will never complain again in your life.