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Polar Nights: Embracing Darkness

Another year has ended, and a new year has begun. We have left behind our past and we are focused on the new experiences to come, periods of darkness and light may come to your door, but here there is an important lesson for the new year that has begun, and you are the main star. Join me and together let’s find a new key to making this year the most wonderful of all!

 

 

"I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars." - Og Mandino

 

 

Living above the Article Circle, in a beautiful city called Tromsø, in Northern Norway, has not only provided me with fascinating landscapes, amazing nature and unique experiences but it has also taught me two important lessons: The Darkness is temporary, and the light will always find its way to shine again and the second lesson is: The darkness will remain as long as we decide to find our own light, because there is no brighter light than the one we have within ourselves, an unstoppable source of light capable of providing light in the darkest places. What do I mean with this? Let me explain you.

In Tromsø you can experience what is called “The Polar Nights”. During this period that begins on the 21 November and lasts until the 21 January, the Sun remains under the horizon, this means that for two months we cannot see the Sun, only having between 3 to 4 hours of daylight, a beautiful bluish color but no Sun, after those hours you experience full darkness. Can you imagine it? No sun, no light, only darkness. 

 

 

“The real meaning of enlightenment is to gaze with undimmed eyes on all darkness.” – Nikos Kazantzakis

 

 

During this period your body and mind feel tired, you lack Vitamin D, you might feel more depressed and with less energy. From the “Midnight Sun” with 24 hours of daylight in summer to almost 24 hours of darkness. Your mind loses track of time and space, you cannot focus, you are irritable and want to sleep the whole time, and you end up having two options: You either succumb to this period of darkness, ceasing to control your emotions letting sadness, anger, stress, and frustration be part of your daily life or you can decide to make the best out of this period, taking back the control of your emotions providing your own light along the way. 

This does not mean you will not feel sadness, frustration or anger, but you will know that you have the control to transform those emotions into the ones that will make you feel better. Here, in Tromsø, you can see during this period the Northern Lights, the magical green light shining in the dark sky, you can see the stars and the moon most of the time when there is clear sky, you can find the way to see beauty in such darkness, you get extra vitamins, you find the way to feel better, and the most important thing is that you have the power to find light within your own soul, and in the end, darkness is as beautiful as the most wonderful summer days. 

 

 

“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.” – Desmond Tutu

 

 

I learned that actually this period does not always happen between those two months, but it actually can happen at any time and everywhere, it is part of the cycle of life, we can experience during our whole lifetime several periods of “Polar Nights” where we enter a period of complete darkness and we might feel sadness, anger, frustration, we might feel tired and depressed and our whole life may seem to be out of our control, but the key is to see this period as an opportunity rather than a punishment, it is a period to reconnect with whom we really are, it is an opportunity to make our light shine and bring light were there is only darkness. The day you realize that you can control how you feel regardless of your current circumstances, it is the day that you will have mastered the key to a life of less suffering and more joy, less sadness, and more happiness. 

It is important to know that one day the sun will rise again, but, it is more important to know that in the end, it is not the current circumstances what really determines how we are gonna feel, because sadness, feelings of emptiness, depression can happen in the most brighter days, but it is our own strength, courage, perseverance and willing to sparkle the light in our own souls and bring light to our life.

 

 

 

If the sun does not shine, you shine, and if it shines, you shine brighter, because it is your own light, your true self, what makes this world a beautiful place. Shine like the stars, lit your soul and with the fire bring light and warmth to the human hearts! May this New Year be the year you make your soul shine! 

Release the pain and heal your heart

There are different moments in our lives where we are going to feel pain, it can be a superficial pain or a deeper pain, sometimes it can be for seconds, for hours, months or even years, and sometimes it never goes away, getting trapped in our hearts, contaminating our soul, and breaking our hearts, and the only way to stop it from hurting us is to release it from our hearts, letting it go away from our lives.

 "Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." - Joseph Campbell

 

There are three different kind of people: The ones that swallow the pain, digest it and throw it away from their mind and heart, the ones that swallow it, keeping it inside, letting it to destroy its heart, becoming its victim, and the ones that swallow it and let it spread through its veins like poison, contaminating its heart, becoming a reflection of its pain.

The first kind of people are not exempt of feeling pain, in fact it is very possible that they have felt it many times in their past, and they will probably feel it in their future, but what makes the difference between the other two type of people is that these people do not let it to control their lives. Therefore, once they feel it they find a way to remove it from their hearts as soon as possible.

 

 

 

“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.” – Walter Anderson

 

 

 

 

The second kind of people are the ones that feel pain but are not able to release it from their hearts, keeping it deep inside their hearts. The problem with doing this is that while they can have a smile in their faces, deep inside their hearts the pain kills them. These people do not release it in any way, but they keep it from themselves. The problem is that they become prisoners of it, destroying them inside day after day, and sometimes that pain becomes so intolerable that the person surrenders to it.

The third kind of people are almost the same as the second kind of people but there is one big difference between them. The main difference is that these people try to release it and stop their suffering by hurting others. The problem is that the pain they are feeling has consumed their hearts, and poisoned their minds. They are so destroyed inside that the only way they can rebel before so much pain is by becoming the definition of it themselves, causing others to feel it in order to heal themselves.

 

 

 

“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.” – Rumi 

 

 

 

As we can see pain is something that we must let go of from our hearts before it destroys the person we really are. It is not always possible to avoid feeling it, in fact, we should not force ourselves to not feel it, we must embrace it, taste it, digest it, learn from it and once we are ready we must let it go.

How do we release it then? Well, the answer will depend on the pain and the person, but the best way is knowing that the feeling of pain will not erase the fact that caused it in the first place. Therefore, we must focus in something else, something that makes us feel good, and we have to be patient and give ourselves time, knowing that sooner or later that pain will go away. Pain will bring us more pain and never joy, it won’t change what happened to us nor will change our future, it depends on us whether let it to destroy us, or destroy it ourselves.

 

 

 

My focus is to forget the pain of life. Forget the pain, mock the pain, reduce it and laugh.” – Jim Carrey

 

 

 

We can be the victims of our pain and let it control our lives, or we can be the creator of our own destiny. In the first option we will be at mercy of our pain, and in the second option we’ll decide what to do with our own lives. It won’t be easy, but it is possible. We cannot always avoid to feel pain, but we can always decide what we do with it. Transform it into something beautiful and you will change your world.

 

 

 

Today is the day where you can release the pain you are feeling, it is now the moment to decide to let it go, and start a new life!