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We Change the World with One Small Action at a Time

Every revolution begins with a small step. Every small action or thought carries the seed of our own success. It is by one small action, by one small thought what can put the world upside down, it is the small details what creates a huge difference and impact on the way human beings live and experience life. One small change can push us forward in the right direction, and the effect will expand and continue without stopping, creating many ripples. Every small action combined will create an impact of massive proportions. Will you accept the challenge? 

 

 

"Great things are done by a series of small things brought together." - Vincent Van Gogh

 

 

One of the main reasons why we tend to fail on the road to success is that we become overwhelmed by how difficult it is to achieve what one desires. The goal normally seems unreachable, rough, distant, or impossible, and because of that, we tend to give up before we even start. Once I wrote that the smalls steps are the ones that push us closer to our dreams and goals making the impossible possible, the unreachable reachable, because the truth is that it is the small actions, carried out day and night, the small thoughts, the small details on every aspect of our lives what creates a revolution, what gives us the power to recreate ourselves anew and gives us the control to create the destiny we wish to obtain.

The problem is that small does not mean easy, and that is what normally tends to stop us from doing that little thing that can change our lives and the lives of others around us. It is important to know that it won’t be easy, nothing that can help us change our life, nothing that can create the life we want to experience and nothing that can give us the reality we wish to experience is going to be easy, therefore, we have to be willing to commit ourselves fully on this project, and accept the fact that the road will be hard and painful, but the result will be worth it.

 

 

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” – Margaret Mead

 

 

What is the main obstacle that can stop us from doing that small change that can change our life and the lives of others? Fear. Fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of the unknown. We are afraid of being rejected by those who think different, we are afraid of being humiliated, we are afraid of not fitting in, we are afraid of failing in the road to our goals and dreams, and we are afraid of not being able to reach the utmost goal what can give us utter disappointment, we are afraid of what will come next, of what is waiting on the other side once we have decided to walk into the unknown.  

Here you can see that the first limitation we find is our own minds dominated by the power of our fears. It is fear the main cause of failure and the one capable to limit the potential we have to create the life we wish to experience and the change we want to create in the world. Knowing this, it is important to not let fear to control our lives, and we do that not by running away, but by facing them and we do so by one small change in our thoughts. Change your thoughts, begin with a small action, face your fears and change the world.

 

 

“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.” – Mother Teresa

 

 

I sometimes find people trying to convince me that small changes are worthless and that the world will never be changed, no matter how hard I try. Looking it from their side, you can see that the phrase “change the world” seems pretty big, and you can see that a small action is far from creating the utmost goal of changing the world, and that is easier to do nothing than to face what seems to be a complete failure.

However, if you look it from the perspective of those who believe they can make a difference, you understand that perhaps the utmost goal will not be achieved by one person and on a specific time, and maybe not even long after we have left this world, but you do not let that to limit you because you know that it is the small actions of every human repeated every day and when they are put together makes the impossible possible.

 

 

“While it may seem small, the ripple effects of small things is extraordinary.” – Matt Bevin

 

 

Everything created by humans was once started by one small thought and action, one small change. Every building was once a drawing on a paper, every small action put together by many different people created the drawing into a reality. The key is to believe that it can be done, and with commitment, perseverance and by one good example we can change the world. You can be today the kind of person that decides to do nothing to change their life and the life of others because it is hard or impossible, and waste your potential or you can be that one person that can begin to change the world one action at a time. Remember that it does not matter how little you think you are doing, every small action is never wasted, in fact, it is by our daily positive, kind, and loving actions what make us heroes. 

 

 

 

 

The world needs more people willing to change the world for the better, we all need more people willing to create a better tomorrow for all of us. Start now, join our side, and together let’s change the world! 

Beware of Toxic People

We live in a revolutionary era where humans are waking up and seeing the true reality around them. The current conditions of our planet and the different diseases caused by our negligent acts are no longer hidden or unknown. However, there is one overlooked source of pollution highly dangerous for all humans and it is created by toxic people. The venom of these people is extremely poisonous and cautious is advised.

 

 

"People inspire you or they drain you - pick them wisely." - Hans F. Hansen #toxic #people

 

 

Have you ever heard the phrase: “Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are”? I remember someone told that phrase to me once, it was a few years ago, I do not remember who was it, probably someone wise, and that person meant that our behaviors and habits can be influenced by those who we often surround ourselves with, for better or worst, and it is undeniable that no matter how incorruptible we think we are and how strong we think our character is, someone at some point can create a huge impact and change our behaviors, beliefs, and habits.

On the other hand, people can affect for better or worst the way we feel, for that reason, I can also say “Tell me with who you spend your time with and I will tell you how you feel” and that means that if you are surrounded with people with good energy, positive, happy and kind people you will end up feeling good even if it is only for a moment, on the contrary, if you surround yourself with negative, fully toxic people you will end up feeling bad.

 

 

“Toxic people will pollute everything around them. Don’t hesitate. Fumigate.” – Mandy Hale

 

 

This is the case when someone is sick and still goes out, for example, to work or to school, someone, who might have a weak immune system will end up having the same kind of virus. This is what happens when you are surrounded with toxic people, these people are already infected with anger, sadness, stress, pain, and fear, some of them do not even realize that or do not want to, the virus inside them has gained total control, and is highly contagious. For this reason, there are two options either we maintain distance from these people or we take extreme caution when treating with them especially when we are already not feeling good.

This does not mean that we should not help those who need it but something I learned is that nobody can help those who do not want to help themselves. For that reason, it is important to help each other, it is important to help those who scream for help even if it is in silence, because we can be the cure or relief that a toxic person is needing, but the important thing is to not let their venom get inside of us and it is wise to know when to stay and when to walk away.

 

 

“Walk with the dreamers, the believers, the courageous, the cheerful, the planners, the doers, the successful people with their heads in the clouds and their feet on the ground.” Wilfred Peterson

 

 

Therefore, it is important to surround ourselves as much as possible with non-toxic people, people who will bring us peace, joy, and happiness, it is also wise to spend as less time as possible with toxic people, it is not always possible to choose the people around us and toxic people are in every corner, from schools to jobs, in our own houses and neighborhoods but we can find a way to become as immune as possible to the venom released by them and become as wise as to know with whom we should spend most of our time with.

 

 

 

People can become a healthy nutrient for our souls and can help us maximize our own potential, at the same time, they can be the poison that will prevent us from reaching our full potential. They can be an important key to our success or the cause of our failure. Choose them wisely.

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Day after day we deliberately accept in our minds the venom of poisonous people with devastating consequences. Once in our minds, this venom annihilates our self-confidence and destroys our self-esteem and feelings of anger, hatred and resentment flood our minds. Cause: taking things too personally. Cure: living without the influence of other people’s opinions.  Are you taking things personally? Are you letting other people’s opinion and behaviors define your true self?

 

 

Don’t take anything personally, nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. Don Miguel Ruiz

 

 

 

We go through life as we had a target hanging from our necks. We feel as if we were inoffensive deer grazing peacefully in the woods surrounded by heartless hunters waiting for the perfect moment to pull the trigger. Suddenly, that moment comes, the world freezes, the watch stops, and bang! Perfect shot, straight into our heads, we lie motionless, presumed deceased. The world begins to move again, we breathe, we are alive, we survived, but the scars are bleeding, the pain increases, and suddenly the pain becomes anger and the anger commence to rule our lives. Resentment becomes our ally.

The problem is that our constantly need for acceptance and our desperate search for everyone’s approval has become a necessity in order to maintain an acceptable reputation to society, and this reputation, or our own reputation about our own selves is severely affected when we encounter ourselves being the target of someone’s attacks, that is the main reason why we take things so personally, because that person is preventing us from achieving our goal of being accepted by every single human in our society. It damages our ego, diminishes our self-confidence and put ourselves at the edge of collapse.

 

 

“What other people think of you is not your business. If you start to make that business your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life.” – Deepak Chopra

 

 

Therefore, taking things personally and unhappiness are connected. But, is there such thing as an everlasting happiness? Well, There are many keys and ideas of how can one be happy, but this question continues to be an existential doubt for most of us. However, through the years we have discovered important keys to unhappiness. One of them is taking things personally, when we do this, we expose ourselves, we put ourselves in a place of extreme vulnerability, putting our own happiness in someone else’s hands. When we take things personally, we condemn ourselves to a life of misery and resentment, we sabotage our own capabilities of achieving all our dreams and goals, and we deny ourselves the possibility of having a happy life.

When someone attacks you in any way in the end they never have something personal with you but rather they have something personal with themselves. The only time when you can take things personally is when you have attacked them or hurt them in any way first. For example, let’s imagine the case where you insult someone else’s mother, if the person gives you a punch in the face, you can take it personally, nevertheless, in the end, it always comes down to the fact that someone’s reaction and behavior against others is never something personal with them but with their own selves, no matter if they think they have an excuse for acting that way.

 

 

“There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.” — Miguel Ruiz.

 

 

Not taking things personally from the people that surrounds you is not something we can learn overnight, but is rather an every day commitment, but there is nothing more rewarding that gaining that level of freedom and become immune to other people’s opinions, immune to other people’s criticism, immune to other people’s judgements, immune to other people’s aggression. The real truth is that other people’s behaviors and attitudes toward you do not define nor categorize you, not damage your reputation, do not condemn you, but they rather do all of that onto them. Every actions and behaviors, every thoughts and opinions of others are only a reflection of their own souls, they do not indicate who you are, but they indicate who they are. Therefore, do not take things personally, and you will have found the key to your own personal development, you will broaden your limitations and you will declare, loudly and fearless to the world:  “I do not seek to belong, I do not seek to be accepted, nobody defines me nor limits me, I am immune to the poisonous souls that seek to destroy me, I am an utterly and completely free soul.”

 

 

 

 

Learn to not take things personally, release your soul from the need to get everyone’s approval and become immune to other people’s criticism, opinions and behaviors and you will have discovered one of the keys to success and your personal development. 

A Smile a Day Keeps the Doctor Away

The type of society in where we live and the way we live our life provoked the extermination of smiles. In this abnormal society, the abnormal behaviors became the new normal. Therefore, in this sad, bitter, and full of struggle world, a smile has become something odd. What we are not aware of is that it can actually heal everything that is wrong with the world. One single smile brings many benefits and can change the way we experience our lives!

 

 

"Let your smile change the world, but don't let the world change your smile"

 

 

We are living our lives in a hectic, chaotic and stressful way, we are immersed in a way of living that limits our capacity to smile, only reserving it for special occasions. We smile when we are happy or for any other special reason. The problem is that in our daily lives those reasons are a few or nonexistent, but that is because we tend to focus on the negative rather than being grateful and happy about the big or small things that truly enriches our lives, that is why someone that smiles a lot creates some kind of contradiction in the average man. People believe that someone that smiles more than normal without apparent reason is either faking it or hiding something.

One of the things that I believe defines me is my smile. When depression and sadness flooded my heart, my smile was a way to prevent them from destroying me, but it wasn’t fake, I mean, I didn’t use it as a way to hide my real emotions, I forced myself to do it even when I wasn’t feeling happy as a way to feel better and as a way to show the world that I could keep smiling despite all the sadness and struggle. It was the way I had, and that I still have to see the beauty of life, to focus on the positive, and to be happy.

 

“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

 

Someone can smile at least once in a week, right? But, wouldn’t it be nice to be able to do it more often and feel the emotions that go along with it no matter what is happening around you? Wouldn’t it be great to be happy for no reason? Wouldn’t that be something normal? Well, in this world, it seems that smiling too often is something that can make you look weird, insane or drugged.

I remember when somebody told me: Why are you always smiling? What kind of drugs do you take? My answer was: I don’t need drugs, or any other thing to be happy and smile. I smile because I have lots of reason for doing it, just being alive is a good reason. Then, I remember when somebody told me: You are always happy and smiling, why? My answer was: Look around you, look what you have, look what life offers you everyday, don’t you see? Life with its bad and good things is beautiful, and that is a good reason to smile. I remember that person’s answer: Do you know something? You’re absolutely right!

 

“Your smile will give you a positive countenance that will make people feel comfortable around you.” – Les Brown

 

I discovered that the more I smile the less I feel anger, stress or depression. Smiling changed the way I felt and the way I experienced my life, but how a simple smile can make so much good? Well, even if it is for a second, it can bring light, hope, peace and happiness in a person’s life, and at the same time brings all those things to you too, because one single smile can release feel-good neurotransmitters as dopamine, endorphins and serotonin.

These chemicals have the power to make you feel good. They can relieve stress, lowers blood pressure, and lifts your mood. They are better than any anti-depressant, they don’t have side effects and need no prescription. Our brain does not recognize a fake smile from an authentic one, so smiling even when you are not in the mood can help you feel a little better. Therefore, smile as much as you can, even if you have to fake it, sooner or later you will feel happier and it will become 100% authentic. If it is free, good for your body and soul, and can make your world look a little better, why not give it a try?

 

“Smile, it is the key that fits the lock of everybody’s heart.” – Anthony J. D’Angelo

 

Smiling is contagious, even when people may think you are crazy for smiling a lot, in some way they will feel better around you, because as it can lift your mood, it can also lift the mood of everyone around you. A smile is not a random action that goes unnoticed, it is actually a powerful message, that knows no gender, race, age or religion. Even if it looks like people don’t understand why you smile, deep inside them it will always be understood as a sign of kindness, hope, love, compassion and strength.

 

 

 

 

In a world full of darkness, light it up with your smile, change your life and the life of others, and never let anything change your smile! As someone once said: “Smile and the world smiles with you”!

The Consequences of Our Actions

Our actions and their consequences shape our future. Every action causes a consequence either long-term or short-term. Some of them are reversible, and some are irreversible. Some are insignificant, having no important impact in our lives, but some consequences can change our lives for the better or for worst. Therefore, it is very important to remember that we cannot scape from the consequences of our actions. We create our destiny day after day, decision after decision and action after action.

 

 

 

"While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of our actions." – Stephen R. Covey

 

 

 

Our life is basically the result of our actions, and in some cases is also composed by the result of the actions of other people. The consequences of our actions create our reality and shape our future, and they are most of them under our control. Then, we have the actions of other people, we cannot control them but we can control how we react against the consequences of their actions, and once again what we think, feel and do will produce a certain consequence in our lives, what will give us a certain experience. In the end, our own decisions and actions create our daily experience.

Most of the time we can be aware of the consequence of an action. If we drink too much we know we are going to get drunk, if we do not sleep enough we know we are going to feel tired, if we eat spoiled food we know we are going to get sick, but the problem is that sometimes, we do not have the power to know the consequence that will be produced by a certain action, what creates uncertainty, and that is why sometimes is very hard to make a decision. It is then, very important to make good choices, thinking in the consequence that we are going to get in the future as result of an action we take today, creating the kind of life we would like to experience.

 

 

“Nobody ever did, or ever will, escape the consequences of his choices.” – Alfred A. Montapert

 

 

We should not always be afraid of consequences. If they are favorable they can bring us a wonderful experience, but if they are not, they somehow have the power to teach us a lesson. For example, when a child wants to do something that won’t have a good consequence in its life, like touching the oven when its mother is cooking. As kids we are not aware of the consequences of our actions, so we normally do something even when the consequences are not going to be favorable, but after experiencing the awful consequence of touching the hot oven and getting burn one learn a very valuable lesson, but we are not going to avoid the pain of the burn.

What I mean with this is that sometimes the consequences of our actions will bring us the chance to grow and evolve, but at the same time we will not be able to avoid the outcome of that consequence. Whatever you do now will have a consequence in the future, so in order to avoid regret is good to avoid doing those kind of things that we already know that won’t produce a positive consequence for our lives, and if we do not know what could happen, if the odds are more in our favor, if the chances of positive consequences are high and the negatives low, then we should move on and take the risk.

 

 

“In nature there are neither rewards nor punishments; there are consequences.” – Robert Green Ingersoll

 

 

Therefore, take the kind of actions that will lead you to the place you want to be, and will bring you the kind of things you would like to get. We have right now, in this very moment the opportunity to create the life we want, we can start shaping the future we yearn, and we do that with every choice, and action after action. Whatever you want to experience tomorrow, start creating it now. When we make an action that won’t produce a favorable consequence, even though it will teach us a lesson and it will, in some way, help us to grow and evolve, we limit ourselves from living a wonderful, joyful and happy life, and we risk losing very valuable things in our lives.

 

 

 

Take the actions that will produce the consequences you would like to experience and you will have the opportunity to live the life you have always imagined!

Take a break to enjoy the moment!

Tick-tock, tick-tock. The clock hands keep spinning, faster and faster, they never stop. Second after second our life goes by very quickly. The time does not give us respite, consuming our existence minute after minute. We are always rushing against the clock, the day seem to have less than 24 hours and our days go by very quickly. Plans after plans, our schedule is full. The stress is high and the joy is low. Life goes by very fast, time never stops, and I wonder: When was the last time you took a break to enjoy your wonderful life?

 

 

 

"Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." - John Lennon #break

 

 

 

We live in a hectic world where our minds rarely takes a break. Our daily routines and chores keep us busy and our worries, problems, tasks and plans prevent our mind from stopping. We live under so much tension and our minds working at such high revolutions tend to collapse and that is the moment when the stress takes over our soul, mind and body. We cease to be in control of our own feelings and emotions, becoming puppets of our hectic and stressful life, losing every possibility to experience joy and happiness in our daily lives. Can we revert this? Absolutely. In order to regain our freedom to feel happy and joyful we should take a break to truly experience the wonderful fact of being alive.

The truth is that our time on earth goes very fast and is very short, but the problem is not that our existence is short, but that we do not seize every second of our life because we tend to be very busy making plans. Our minds tends to dwell more in our future that in our present, and a man can only truly live in his present. The now, this very moment is your life, the past are only a set of memories, and the future is an illusion. The only thing that is real, the only thing that we can truly experience, feel and touch is our present. What is happening right now, in this moment is all we have, and every second of it is worth living, because every second of our life is unique experience.

 

 

“I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is.” – Alan Watts

 

 

How many moments do we miss each day by being too busy making other plans? When was the last time you really enjoyed the company of family and friends without thinking about tomorrow’s plans? When was the last time you looked at the sky, watched the stars and admired the moon with a quiet mind? When was the last time you enjoyed the pleasant warm of a sunny day without thinking about the things you needed to do later? When was the last time you simply enjoyed the fact of being alive without being worried about the future? When was the last time you were relaxed, at peace, simply connecting with your soul, you deepest self? When was the last time you were truly present? How many times does your mind stay focused in this very moment without traveling constantly to the future? When was the last time you took a break from your hectic life and  simply took the time to enjoy the simplest and deepest things of your surroundings?

Taking a break a couple of minutes a day to contemplate our surroundings, to enjoy the company of others, to do the things that makes us happy, or to simply enjoy a wonderful time with our own selves can bring us to a state of ecstasy that will flood our soul and mind with a tremendous positive energy that will change the way we experience our lives. Disconnecting yourself from technology, from work, school, from your debts, your worries, and other plans can sometimes be the solution to the stress that contaminates our soul and mind day after day. Do not let your life slip from your hands, rather take the time to enjoy the beautiful moments that never come back like a tea with your mother, a walk in the beach, a kiss with your partner, a game with your kids, a beautiful sunset, a dinner with your friends or all those unique moments that we take for granted and that enriches our lives.

 

 

“True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future.” –  Lucius Annaeus Seneca

 

 

The clock of life keeps ticking, and it could stop at any moment. Nothing can guarantee us that it will keep ticking tomorrow, that is how unpredictable our life is. Therefore, we should seize every second of our life as if it was the last. While making plans and thinking about the future gives our life a meaning, enjoying every moment of our life, enjoying our present without always making other plans is the way to truly enjoy our life to the fullest.

 

 

 

From time to time take a break from your hectic life. Stop, breath, relax and simply enjoy this moment, because this moment is your life, don’t let it go, rather seize every second of it!

It is Time to Build your Own Dreams!

A new year has begun. A new opportunity is awaiting you. The past is gone, and the present is all we have. In this given moment we have the chance to begin again, and the opportunity to create something new, or to dream a new dream, or to do something we have never done, and we have the big opportunity to create the life we have always imagined. In this new year, are you going to begin to create your dream or continue building it? or are you going to lose another opportunity to make your dreams come true? Now is the right time to start building your dreams and create the life you have always imagined!

 

 

 

"If you don't build your dream someone will hire you to help build theirs." - Tony A. Gaskins Jr

 

 

 

 

The celebrations are over. The New year’s eve has past. We have celebrated with our family and friends, and we welcomed this new year with hope and enthusiasm. We started the new year full of feelings and emotions, full of hope and optimism, full of new dreams, goals and desires. The first couple of weeks we feel motivated, we are full of enthusiasm, and something about this new year makes us believe that this will be the year that we will make all the things we have always wanted to do.

We start living the first month of this new year with happiness and passion, hopeful and full of faith. But as time goes by, all those beautiful emotions we had on New Year’s eve, all hopes, dreams, desires, all enthusiasm and optimism start to fade away. We begin to immerse ourselves in the darkness of our daily routines and day after day our dreams begin to go back to the drawer of oblivion. An a couple of months later, all those wonderful feelings we once had are replaced with stress, despair, tiredness, and frustration.

 

 

 

“What this power is I cannot say; all I know is that it exists and it becomes available only when a man is in that state of mind in which he knows exactly what he wants and is fully determined not to quit until he finds it.” – Alexander Graham Bell

 

 

 

Then, the year ends and now we do begin to dream again, we believe that the new year will bring us all the things we have always wanted, and once again, all those emotions we once had, begin to appear once again in our hearts putting us in the most wonderful of the states. But I wonder, is this kind of life that looks like if we were living on a roller coaster the meaning of life, the purpose of our existence? Is that our destiny? Once again, as an unstoppable dreamer that I am, I have to say no. Life is something we create, with our thoughts, and actions and with the attitude we adopt day by day.

Therefore, we should not wait any longer to start building our dreams. Life goes fast and if we are not careful we will end up building someone else’s dreams and we will call that “our job” protecting it more than our own dreams. The truth is that this system was created in a way that it makes it almost impossible to live without it. It made us so dependent, that we normally tend to deny all our own dreams because we have the need to serve this system in order to survive. The good news are that we can find the way to depend less from it and be more free, and the way to do it is by finding the time to build our own dreams.

 

 

 

“A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.” – Colin Powell

 

 

 

A day has 24 hours, a week has 168 hours, and a month has around 730 hours, and that means we have always time to do at least one thing per day that will push as closer to our dreams. Therefore, we should start by discovering our dreams and goals and set up all the steps we need to do along the year to make them a reality. How do we increase the chances to make that happen? By doing more of what will push us closer to them and doing less of the things that don’t serve us. For example, watching less television, spending less time doing nothing, spending less money on things that we don’t need, and so on. Remember that all those people who have created the life they have imagined, have had the same amount of time than you. It is all a matter of priorities. No matter how busy you are, or how much work do you have, use any spare time to build you dreams.

 

 

 

 

Do little, do much, but never stop doing. Use the time that God has given you in your favor and not against. The key is to start now, wherever you are, with whatever you have. Start building your own dreams before you end spending all your life building other people dreams. Go out and create the life you dream!

2017: A New Year, A New Opportunity, A New Beginning

We can almost see it, the 2017, the new year is about to arrive. It carries a big suitcase, and it is loaded with hopes, opportunities, challenges, adventures, goals, dreams and more. And I believe we all wonder the same questions… What thing in that suitcase has my name on it? What will the future hold? The answer is simple: The 2017 will bring us what is best for us and all those things that we are ready to receive. Are your arms open? Is your heart open? Are you ready to accept the new opportunities of this new year?

 

 

 

We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day

 

 

 

 

Every new year comes with new opportunities and challenges for every one of us. They come in different shapes, colors and sizes. They come in different ways and in different times, and we all receive at least one opportunity to improve our lives, to discover our true self, to develop our character, to become the best version of ourselves, to grow, to evolve. Those are purposes of these opportunities and challenges.

I said that this 2017 will bring us what is best for us and what we are willing to receive. What I mean with this is that God and life are always ready to give us what is best for us, that is to say, all the new opportunities that will push ourselves forward. The problem is that we are not always willing to receive the gift of a new challenge. The reason could be because of fear, doubts, uncertainty, maybe because we prefer to stay in our comfort zone or because the gift is not to our liking. So, we refuse to accept the new opportunities, letting them go, losing our chance to improve, develop, grow and evolve.

 

 

 

 

“Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering ‘it will be happier’…” – Alfred Tennyson

 

 

 

 

The new year can bring positive and “negative” things. With positive I mean a new job, a new relationship, an increase in your salary, a new trip, any kind of material possession, the achievement of a goal, a dream come true, a new home, another child, or any other positive thing that could happen to us. And with “negative” I mean those kinds of things that are opposite to the ones we call positive. For example, the loss of a job, more debts, the end of a relationship, the loss of any material possession, failure in any aspect of our lives.

What do we all want in this new year? We want more of the positive things and less of the negative ones. But what if the negative things have also a meaning? What if they happen for a reason that we do not yet comprehend? Well, the truth is that they also have a special meaning. The key is to discover its purpose, it could be for example, to make us learn a new lesson, or improve ourselves, to give us the chance to have better things, or simply because they want us to develop the greatness that is within us.

 

 

 

 

 

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – Viktor E. Frankl

 

 

 

 

Always remember, that it is not what happens outside of us, that is to say, our external circumstances what really matters, but how we respond to those circumstances is what matters the most. Regardless of what happens to us, at any given moment we have the opportunity to decide how we are going to feel and how are we going to respond to what is happening. Therefore, face this new year with courage and optimism, be ready to receive the new gifts of this 2017. When a new opportunity, whether positive or not so positive knocks at your door, take it, and give your best to create the outcomes you expect. Always remember that no matter what happens, you are the creator of your own destiny!

Let’s say goodbye to this wonderful 2016 that is about to end with happiness and gratitude, because no matter what happened, we survived and nobody can take from us the lessons we learned, the wonderful moments, and all the things we got from it. Let’s keep the good memories, the important lessons, and take them with us in this new year. Leave behind what doesn’t serve you, and with hope, courage and enthusiasm receive this 2017 with your arms open. Be ready to face any challenge, do not surrender in the face of adversity, transform the negative into positive, use any circumstance in your favor, and never lose the opportunity to create the life you imagine!

 

 

 

 

 

 

A new year is coming, and this 2017 brings 365 new opportunities, and if we are ready to take them they will help us become the person we are meant to become so we can create the life we yearn, the one we deserve and the one we are capable of living.  Happy New Year!

What is the true meaning of Christmas?

The year is almost over and with Christmas around the corner is easy to lose control. In this time of the year, specially the last days before Christmas people tend to be more stressed than relaxed. In these days, we have many things going in our heads, we are full of things to do, we need to organize everything with our families, prepare all the food possible, and one important task requires utmost urgency: Gifts. But why we truly celebrate Christmas? What is the true meaning of it?

 

 

 

“My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others.” - Bob Hope

 

 

 

For most people the first and most important thing to do before Christmas is to buy gifts. The little story about the old man who has a long white beard and is dressed in red and white made us believe that without gifts, Christmas is not Christmas. Therefore, it is necessary to buy gifts for all our friends and members of our family. So, it is time to go out to search and find them, but there is a little problem: Everyone left everything for the last minute as you did, and now you are trying to find gifts in a human tide.

The “Operation Gifts” becomes an impossible mission, there are a lot of people, endless queues, hundreds of different products at exorbitant prices, you don’t have enough time, and as you see the money flying from your wallet, and your card on fire, you know that it will be impossible to buy gifts for everyone. When you are about to lose hope, or go crazy, you find everything you “need” and you manage to go back home. Everyone put all the gifts in the Christmas tree, we celebrate, we eat, we drink, we open the gifts, and we say good-bye to Christmas until next year. But, what is the true meaning of Christmas?

 

 

 

 

“Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before! What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store. What if Christmas…perhaps…means a little bit more!” – Dr. Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas!

 

 

 

 

Some people may think about Santa Claus and gifts, others about eating a lot of food and drinking, and some about having a good time with their families and friends or maybe all together, but it’s that all? Well, there is something more. Christmas is in fact the day we commemorate the birth of Jesus Christ. Yes, I know. Most people know that. But, then why when the day comes, everyone forgets about it? I mean, imagine that is your birthday, everyone buys gifts, prepare food and gather together to celebrate it but you are not invited, in fact, nobody remembers about you. Sad, isn’t it?

Where do I want to go with this? That Christmas is a day to remember and commemorate the most wonderful thing that we have as human beings, and that my friends is called love. That is what Jesus taught us: To love unconditionally, to love with no boundaries, to love our neighbor as ourselves. Regardless if you are a believer or not, if you are going to celebrate Christmas, do not let Santa Claus, materialism and this society that made us addict to consumerism make you forget what is really important about Christmas: Love.

 

 

 

 

“Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love.” – Hamilton Wright Mabie

 

 

 

 

Therefore, do not feel pressured by this society to buy the best and most expensive gifts, or to spend a lot of money in high amounts of food, do not feel stressed because you have the need to go to certain places and meet with people you don’t want to. Don’t even feel depressed because you are alone that day. Don’t feel sad because your kids are not getting any gifts, that is not the meaning of Christmas, that is what this society made us believe, because the real meaning of it is to be grateful, for the things we have, and for the opportunity to love and be loved. Enjoy this moment, regardless of your current circumstances. Simply raise your glass and make a toast for today you are alive!

 

 

 

 

 

What is the meaning of Christmas? To remember that love conquers hate. May today all our actions and thoughts, and all the things we eat, the music we hear and the things we say may reflect only love, for love is what saved us and what will save us forever. Merry Christmas!

The Battle Between Us and Our Past

Sometimes in a person’s life, a battle takes place between him and his past. This battle occurs in that person’s present. The past controls and conditions its present, and the person becomes the victim of its past, and his whole life is covered with suffering. But is the past the true cause of suffering? If this battle is real, how can we win?

 

 

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Imagine with me for a moment that we are witnessing a trial, a fictional trial. Today the court is going to dictate the sentence. The victim is a woman, and the defendant its past. The woman accused it for destroying her life. According to her, everything that happened to her and every person involved in her past have caused a permanent damage in her life. She expressed that her present has been conditioned by the things that happened or didn’t happened and by the persons that caused them. She claimed that her past is the first and only cause of all suffering she experiences in her present.

The trial takes place, and after several hours of debate, it is time for the verdict. After reviewing the case very carefully, the court makes a decision. The defendant is exonerated from all charges and the victim is found guilty and it is convicted to a life in prison, with the exemption that she will not be behind the bars, but she will be attached to the defendant, her past, for the rest of her life. Having a life of misery and despair.

 

 

 

 

“Too often, we carry around those things from our past that hurt us the most. Don’t let past pain rob you of your present happiness. You had to live through it in the past, and that cannot be changed, but if the only place it lives today is in your mind, then forgive, let go, and be free.” – Doe Zantamata

 

 

 

 

In this trial, the past is accused of causing suffering and permanent damage in this woman’s present. Then, why it is exonerated from all charges? How come the victim is declared guilty and the accused innocent? Because they are not judging situations, experiences and people of her past, they are judging it for causing pain in her present, and for the court the only cause of suffering of this woman in her present is herself, for the past itself can’t cause suffering in a place where it doesn’t exist, and it cease to exist in the present, the only one who can keep the past alive in the present is oneself in one’s mind, therefore, if we remain attached to it in our present, we are guilty of our present suffering.

When we become victims of our past, we immediately condemn ourselves to a life in prison. When we refuse to let it go by remaining attached to it, we take the role of victims, and in the end, the only thing we get is more and more suffering. The truth is, we cannot change what happened, no matter how painful it might have been, but we can change our present. We can decide to let go of the past, quitting the role of victims, and releasing ourselves from the hard sentence.

 

 

 

“Today is a new day. Don’t let your history interfere with your destiny! Let today be the day you stop being a victim of your circumstances and start taking action towards the life you want. You have the power and the time to shape your life. Break free from the poisonous victim mentality and embrace the truth of your greatness. You were not meant for a mundane or mediocre life!” – Steve Maraboli

 

 

 

 

Our past may have been our worst nightmare, we may have suffered, things in our past may have damaged us, people may have hurt us, and we can have all the right to feel victims, but by being a victim with all our resentment and hate we are not going to change what happened, nor we are going to feel better, but slowly and painfully those feelings will consume our own souls. Our past might never be of our liking, and maybe we will never overcome all the things that happened to us, but if we do not cease to be its victims, if we do not let it go, we will carry it as a burden in our backs, condemning ourselves to a life of misery.

It is a hard battle the one that is carried out between you and your past, but the victory is possible. To obtain it, to finally defeat it, there is a few things you need to do, but the first thing is to stop fighting with it. Let it go, accept it, forgive, let go of resentment, learn, those are useful things you can do to cease with your suffering. End this useless battle, and take back the control of your feelings, emotions and your entire life.

 

 

 

 

 

Stop being a victim of your past, letting it go, cutting all attachments to it, cleansing your body, soul and mind from all resentment, and starting again, only then you will heal your heart, end with all suffering and you will become free to start a new life!