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Taking Things for Granted: When the Important Things Become Invisible

The more we see something the more invisible it becomes to us. We take for granted things that we once desired, things that are essential for our well-being, valuable things, treasures, wonderful things and extraordinary people who enriches our lives. The problem is that the consumption society in which we live has made us blind. We have lost all sense with what is really important, and we have focused all our energy in less important things. The funny thing is we always realize how important something was when we lose it.  That is the moment when we learn to give something the value it deserved.

 

 

"It's not a bad idea to occasionally spend a little time thinking about things you take for granted. Plain everyday things." - Evan Davis

 

 

Once upon a time there was a magic world. It was full of wonders and treasures. It was so perfectly designed that only an expert craftsman could have made such a wonderful piece; it was so beautiful, so magnificent, so extraordinary… It was the best masterpiece ever created. This paradise called “Earth” was compound of minerals, water, mountains, oceans, trees, flowers, beautiful lands, lakes, beautiful creatures, fruits, seeds, vegetables, and above you could see during the day a blue sky, and a big sun or water falling from the sky, or wonderful snowflakes, and during the night you could see a shiny moon, and a dark night full of stars.

This world still exists; it is the world you live in. It is the jewel in which you are standing right now, a paradise that you missed by being too focused on other less important things. When was the last time you actually stopped everything you were doing and you contemplated what this world has to offer? When was the last time you enjoyed all the treasures of this planet? So many beautiful colours, aromas, flavours, sounds and textures and we took them for granted, how can we be so blind?

 

 

 

“The more often we see the things around us – even the beautiful and wonderful things – the more they become invisible to us. That is why we often take for granted the beauty of this world: the flowers, the trees, the birds, the clouds – even those we love. Because we see things so often, we see them less and less.” – Joseph B. Wirthlin

 

 

 

The main problem with us is that we are constantly craving things that we do not have, but we always forget the things we already have. Once we get what we want, another thing takes its place, and the thing we wanted in the first place quickly loses its value. This not only happens with material things, but with everything around us. We take for granted material possessions, we take for granted the food we eat, the water we drink, we take for granted our health, we take for granted the people we love, we take for granted the nature around us, and we take for granted our time on this earth.

It turns out that I smile a lot, and in these moments that is something unusual. I remember someone who once asked me: Why are you always smiling? To which I replied: because life is beautiful, and with a smile he nodded. I mean how could I not smile? Simply look around you. We have everything we need, life is more wonderful than hundreds of years ago, everything is much simpler, we live in a world of opportunities, and still we insist on being sad and angry either because we always search for more things we do not need, or because we are attached to things we no longer have, while we belittle the things we have.

 

 

 

“We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.” – Cynthia Ozick

 

 

 

The real problem of taking things for granted is that we forget to take care of them running the risk of losing them. That is why our planet is in jeopardy and with that our own existence, because we are so used to its beauty, so used of its existence, so used to its resources of water, air, and life that we are not paying attention to the damage we are causing to it. We take for granted our health that is why we not take care of our body putting in risk our own lives. We take for granted our family and that is why we forget to see them not knowing that one day they will not be here, we take for granted our partners that is why we do not give them the love they deserve forcing them to leave us. We take for granted our time, that is why we do not spend it on things that really matter, depleting the most important thing we have.

Close your eyes for a minute and imagine how your life would look like if you didn’t have the things you already have. Your family gone, friends gone, the person you love gone, the things you possess gone, your health gone, no more sun, no more rain, no more mountains, the trees gone, the birds and all animals extinct, your house gone, imagine that there is no water left nor food, no more air to breathe, no more of the things you once had, no more freedom, no more time.

 

 

 

“There’s a lot that is good in your life-don’t take it for granted. Don’t get so focused on the struggles that you miss the gift of today.” – Joel Osteen

 

 

 

That would be a nightmare, isn’t it? Do you want to know something? There are people who are already experiencing that nightmare. Here on this earth, while you take for granted all the things you have and you suffer for the things you don’t, there are people with less that you have, and if we are not careful with our actions, if we do not stop polluting our planet, killing every animal, cutting every tree, if we do not end with every war, this nightmare will become true, and we will lose it all, and thus we will realize that the things we took for granted, were the things that made our heart beat.

Let’s take at least 30 minutes a day to contemplate and be grateful for all the things we have. Let’s stop what we are doing and enjoy the company of our loved ones, let’s admire the nature around us, let’s enjoy the essential and wonderful things of our daily lives. Life is a wonderful place, you only need to become aware of it, enjoy it, love it, and protect it!

 

 

 

 

Be here, be present, enjoy the moment, be grateful with what you have, and smile because you can!

The Benefits of Living a Minimalist Lifestyle

Have you ever thought how would it be to live a minimalist lifestyle? Can you imagine how your life would be if you wouldn’t have the necessity to have more in order to be happier? Wouldn’t that be the key to a more fulfilled and balanced life? Wouldn’t that be freedom? Absolutely. Our life and our own minds would benefit from a minimalist lifestyle. Let’s analyze together the benefits of living a minimalist lifestyle.

 “The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.” - Socrates #minimalist

 

Nowadays we live in a world where we strive to have more. The problem is that we have accepted the idea that more equals more happiness, but the truth is, the more you want, the less happy you are, but how can this be true? Because in that way, we exchange our freedom for possessions, why? Because material possessions are not really paid with money, but with time, time that we spend from our life in order to get those possessions, and if we have less time to enjoy our life, how can we be really happy?

We have fallen into the trap of believing that the more we have, the more successful and happy our life will be, and if we look at it from a particular perspective, we can say that’s true. The problem is, that moment of satisfaction lasts as the blink of an eye. We feel happy, successful and fulfilled, but quickly that sensation starts to vanish, and we begin to feel the same feeling of emptiness, becoming addicts to the idea of having more and more, so we can feel one more time, fulfilled and happy

 

 

 

 “We really must understand that the lust for affluence in contemporary society is psychotic. It is psychotic because it has completely lost touch with reality. We crave things we neither need nor enjoy.” – Richard Foster

 

 

 

The ultimate problem is that the more we want, the more dependent we become, and what we own, begins to own us, and that way, the less free we become. Therefore, our happiness is compromised by the things we possess and do not possess. That way we always see the glass half-empty, giving us the feeling of dissatisfaction and emptiness, and so, desperately we go after more things in order to get back our happiness, which we recover momentarily.

As we can see, the idea that having more is the key to happiness is mistaken. What I mean is, that is okay to want to acquire more possessions in your life, but the idea that those things will make us have a fulfilled and happy life is wrong. If this were true, people who can have everything would be happy, and people with nothing would be miserable, and that is not exactly what happens in this world, just because possessions doesn’t determine our happiness. Therefore, possessions are not the key factor for a happy life.

 

 

 

“The things you own end up owning you. It’s only after you lose everything that you’re free to do anything.” – Tyler Durden (Fight Club)

 

 

 

The truth is that is okay to aim for a life where we can get everything we want, but we should never depend on material possessions, or any other superficial thing in our life, in order to be happy. That is exactly what I mean with living a minimalist lifestyle. It is to live in a way where our happiness, freedom and peace of mind does not depend on material things. It is being happy with what we already have, without having the necessity to obtain more things in order to be happy.

Living a minimalist lifestyle means to set away from our mind and daily life, everything that distract us from being happy and at peace. It is being free to feel good at any moment, without depending on external things. When we live in a minimalist way, we focus our mind in what it is really important, what gives us the power to control our feelings, and not letting other things to control us.

 

 

 

“The consumption society has made us feel that happiness lies in having things, and has failed to teach us the happiness of not having things.” – Elise Boulding

 

 

 

When we live a minimalist lifestyle we focus on the things that really matter. It is the best way to become our true self, because we are no longer distracted with other less important things, what can help us develop our true potential. The truth is, we do not need much to live a happy and fulfilled life, but what we need is less things that can distract our mind from the small and more essential things that really make a difference in our lives, those things fill our emptiness, complete our soul, without those things we are lost, and we will always fall in the game of having more things in order to complete it, and this is something that will never happen, because our soul is completed with those things that can’t be bought.

 

 

 

Let’s focus our mind on the important aspects of our lives, keeping the things that are really essential, feeling content with less, leaving behind all the unnecessary things that only forbid us from enjoying our lives.

Stop complaining and start enjoying life!

One of the reasons why we don’t enjoy life is because we are always complaining, and the act of complaining only makes us to have more and more things to complain about, and life can never be enjoyed if we forget to be happy in the act of complaining too much.

 

“If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.” – Maya Angelou

 

 

We are always complaining no matter the situation:

 

  • We complain because is winter and it’s too cold and we complain because is summer and it’s too hot.

 

  • We complain if we don’t have a job because we need more money and we complain if we have a job because the pay is too low, or because we don’t like what we are doing, or because we have to work many hours, or because we don’t like our boss.

 

  • We complain if we don’t have money and we complain if we have money because it’s not enough.

 

  • We complain if we can’t find a partner and we complain if we have partner because we want to live as single.

 

 

I could just go on and on with the infinite list of thing that humans complain all the time, but I will stop here so we can reflect about our behavior. It seems that there will always be something to complain about, so we have two options:

 

 

  1. To focus on the positive side of everything, being grateful for every little thing we have.
  2. To focus on the negative side of everything, complaining about everything we don’t have.

 

 

If you choose the first option you will always be happy and you will enjoy life no matter what happens and of course there will be times when you will complain and you will feel frustrated but it won’t last because you will use the most wonderful tool that you have: Gratitude, a tool that can change your life experience in a second and a tool that expresses to the world that you are happy with every aspect of your life even if is not perfect.

If you choose the second option you will always feel frustrated and miserable no matter what happens, because complaining gives us a distorted reality where everything seems to be against us when in fact is us that we are against ourselves. Complaining becomes a habit, a very harmful habit that only leads us to frustration and depression. Complaining only makes you to focus on the negative side of everything, making you unable to enjoy life.

 

 

 

“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” – Eckhart Tolle

 

 

 

If we are complaining, we are not being grateful and if we are not grateful for what we already have, how are we going to have more? The truth is that the act of complaining or being grateful is like two powerful magnets; whichever you choose is what you are going to experience in your life day after day.

In order to enjoy life, we should be grateful for everything in our life, and with this I don’t mean that you should settle with the life you have, accepting everything bad that happens to you, what I mean is that we should always go after the things we deserve, but we must be grateful and happy now, because we have everything humans need to survive and be happy everything else is secondary. If we are not able to see the blessings we have now and be happy, we are not going to be happy with more afterwards.

 

 

 

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

 

 

 

If you want to enjoy your life, stop complaining. Free yourself from that negative habit that does you no good. Complaining has never changed anything in a person’s life, but rather gave that person more reasons to complain and be frustrated. The day that you realize how many things you have especially the small and essential things, things that some people are struggling to get, those basic things that we need for our existence, you will realize how blessed you are and you will never complain again in your life.