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In a dead end

A dead end: That place of failure and despair that takes away from us all our dreams and desires, swallowing them into darkness. Once we are there, it seems to be no escape, our hands seem to be tied, our legs seem to be stuck into the ground while our heart seems to break apart. Everything seems to be over, but there is always a solution. The question is: Are we going to fight and find it or are we going to give up our dreams so easily?

 "A dead end can never be a one way street; you can always turn around and take another road." - Bo Bennett

 

How easy it is to dream, but how difficult it is to make them become true! The problem is not that they are impossible or unlikely to happen, the problem is that we give up very easily. But why? Because of failure. We are so afraid of it that we don’t even try to make them happen, or if we do, we give up in the first instance when we meet with failure. And that’s the moment when we get into a dead end, and every dream we have vanishes into the darkness of failure.

The problem with failure is that it is not easy to digest. The taste of failure doesn’t go away so easily from our mouth, that bitterness remains in our palate like needles digging into our tongue. The smell of failure is so profound and disgusting that penetrates so deeply that we can’t smell a jasmine even if we try. Failure poisons every part of our body, contaminates our soul, and breaks our heart. Failure rots us, contaminates us, breaks us, destroys us, paralyzes us and drown us. Failure kills us inside and destroys our dreams, desires and goals.  But, does failure defeat us?

 

 

 

“But man is not made for defeat. A man can be destroyed but not defeated.” – Ernest Hemingway

 

 

 

The answer is: No. Failure does not defeat us, but we are defeated when we give up. It is not failure what defines our future, it is us and how we deal with it what defines and creates our future. Failure corners us into a dead end but it does not block the entry. At any given moment we have the chance to turn around a find another way to get to our dreams. The problem is that failure seems to be our enemy when in fact it is only trying to help us. It is only trying to say to us that the path we follow is not the right one.

But we see failure as a dead end rather than an opportunity to do things in a different way. Our beliefs and fears about failure are so wrong that we have come to believe that failure is our worst enemy, when in fact we are our worst enemy. Failure challenges us, it tests us and brings us to the limit. It can destroy us, stealing us all our hopes of making one day all our dreams and goals become a reality, but what really defeat us is our choice of giving up. Failure puts us into a dead end but it is our choice to remain there or turn around and find another way.

 

 

 

“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” – Denis Waitley

 

 

 

Perhaps you already have been in a dead end or maybe you feel you are in a dead end now. I have experienced that, and I believe all of us, or at least those who have dared to follow their dreams have experienced failure once in their lives. The experience of being in that place of darkness, confusion and despair is awful. The feeling of sorrow invades our soul, the lights go out, the road disappears and suddenly all our dreams and goals are overshadowed by our sadness, pain, frustration and fears. It is hard to see with clarity in that moment of darkness, but it is there when we have to see beyond it.

It is in that moment when we have to see failure as an opportunity and not as a dead end. When you run into a dead end just simply turn around and find a better way. Embrace failure as an opportunity, and not as a punishment, and you will find the key to success. Learn from them, and once you do that, you will see them as they really are: an opportunity to reveal the greatness inside you, an opportunity to declare that your dreams are bigger than your fears, an opportunity to express that no matter how many times you fail, you will make your dreams come true. In the road to make our dreams come true we will face many dead ends, it depends on us whether we are going to give up and remain there or if we are going to find another way, the decision we make will determine either our victory or our defeat.

 

 

 

Then my friend, will you give up so easily or will you find another way to achieve your goals and dreams?

Take the First Step

In order to reach our destination, we must begin the journey by taking the first step. Any victory depends on that first step. It is the first action, the first move, the first try, what can lead us to the place where we want to get. That first step makes everything possible and our following actions make it all come true.

 "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." - Lao Tzu

 

Let’s analyse this: Everyone wants to win the jackpot, but how many of us actually goes and buy the ticket? The truth is that only a few of us do that, but why? The reason is simple: Our thoughts and beliefs creates boundaries between our dreams and our reality. We dream but believe they are impossible or too difficult to become a reality, so we give up even before trying.

If you believe that the chances of winning are almost zero it is very likely that you are not going to buy the ticket, so you are not even going to try, or you will try, and if you don’t win, you will use that as a way to prove that you were right about that winning was impossible, and you will finally give up. You can see here that the first step is crucial as it determines everything.

 

 

 

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt

 

 

 

But why the first step is so crucial? How is it possible that it can determine everything? Simple. There are two different outcomes that makes the first step so vital: If we decide to not take that first step, we decide to lose by default. But if we take that first step, it means that we are in the correct way to make our dreams become a reality. If we continue to move forward, step by step, not giving up, overcoming adversity, with perseverance, commitment and faith, it is likely that we reach the desired destination.

Therefore, the first step will be to buy the ticket. What I mean here is that we have to believe in our dreams and go out and make them happen. In order to make your dreams and goals become a reality, you will have to take the first action that will get you closer to the place where you want to be. The first step will determine whether your dream will remain a dream or if it will become true.

 

 

 

“Take the first step, and your mind will mobilize all its forces to your aid. But the first essential is that you begin. Once the battle is startled, all that is within and without you will come to your assistance.” – Robert Collier

 

 

 

No dream will become a reality if we do not take actions. It is beautiful to dream, but what is hard is to take actions to make them a reality. You are not going to win the jackpot if you don’t buy the ticket, that is to say, you are not going to get to the place where you want to be, or get what you want to have if you don’t take the first step. It is our decision to act what creates our destiny and it is our inaction what leaves everything to chance.

If you want to be a doctor, an engineer, a lawyer, a graphic designer, or whatever you want to be, you will have to take the first step and enrol in the university. If you want to learn a new language, you will have to take the first step and look for a course in your city or online. If you want to lose weight you will have to take the first step and make the decision to change your diet. If you hate your job and you want another, you will have to take the first step and find another one. If you want to be a professional athlete, you will have to go and train. If you want to quit smoking, you will have to decide to smoke less cigarettes a day or not buy any more cigarettes. There is always a first step that makes what we wish and dream more real.

 

 

 

 “The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and starting on the first one.” – Mark Twain

 

 

 

It is the first step what get us closer to our dream, and it is our perseverance and commitment to make it happen what makes it all possible. Every single person who has been successful at doing or getting something has once decided to take the first step and then work until they succeeded.  So, what is your dream? What do you want to do? Who do you want to be? What do you want to get? Where do you want to get? If you know the answers to those questions it means that the moment to start is right now. The key is to do step by step what we should do in order to achieve what we want. We have to make the decision to take the first step and start changing our lives.

 

 

My question now is: Have you taken the first step? If you have done it, congratulations! You are one step closer to your goal, keep moving and don’t give up, and if you haven’t done it yet, go ahead and fearlessly take the first step

Time is limited, use it wisely!

From the day we were born, we have been granted a wonderful gift from heaven, the gift of having time to experience this amazing, beautiful, magic, extraordinary and sometimes complicated life, but the time we have is limited and there is no way we can extend it.

 

The bad news is time flies, the good news is you are the pilot.

 

Life is an amazing gift, and so it is our precious time, without it we would not be able to be here to enjoy this wonderful experience to be alive. The problem with us is we are living our life as if it were endless, and so we waste our precious time as if we were able to recharge our life with more hours like we do in a shop with our mobile phone when we run out of credit, but time is something we cannot get back. So we should ask ourselves: How am I going to spend my time?, Am I going to enjoy every second of it or am I going to waste all of my time on this planet doing the things I don’t want to do?

Our time on earth is uncertain which gave us the wrong idea that we have enough time and so we waste most of our time doing what we don’t want in order to be able to buy our freedom later, so we can finally do what we always wanted to do. The truth is that most people’s hearts stop beating before they have been finally free to enjoy their lives, because there are only a few who have dared to release the chains of oppression and live free to follow their hearts and live a happy life.

 

 

 

 

“The true currency of life is time, not money, and we’ve all got a limited stock of that.” – Robert Harris

 

 

 

 

The problem with us is that we are always too busy doing the things we don’t want to do rather than being too busy doing those things we love to do and that’s why there is so much sadness and depression in human hearts, because we have agreed to be slaves of the society in which we live. A society that has taught us that spending our time working in someone else’s dream is good, and spending our time following our heart is bad. We have fallen in to the trap of thinking that spending our time doing what we don’t want is good because we get a reward for it; a miserable reward that most of the time consists in a charity and a few days off granted by those for whom you work for.

It is amazing how we have accepted the fact that life can only be truly lived on weekends, holidays, and special days. It is sad how we spend most of our time doing what we don’t want, having always excuses for not doing what we always wanted to do. It is incredible how we are always too busy making a living that we forget to live our lives, we forget to enjoy our family and friends, we forget to have time for ourselves doing the things we love, we forget about our goals and dreams for being too busy doing other less important things.

 

 

 

 

“Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.” – Harvey Mackay

 

 

 

 

When was the last time you did something you love? When was the last time you enjoyed the company of your family, your children or your friends? When was the last time you traveled to a new and different place? When was the last time you did something exciting? When was the last time you enjoyed a good chat with a friend? When was the last time you truly enjoyed the fact of being alive?

There is a true fact: We are truly happy when we spend our time doing the things we love, and so we should spend most of our time being happy doing the things we love and no the other way around. So, there are 24 hours in a day that means we have 168 hours per week or between 720 and 744 hours per month, and that will be around 8760 hours a year to enjoy the small and big things that this world has to offer. Life is short and time goes really fast, and we should spend most of our time being happy living the life of our dreams. Don’t you dare to waste another second of your life doing what you don’t want, remember that wasted time doesn’t come back, but the good news is that you still have time!

 

 

So go out my friend and enjoy your life, don’t waste it being sad and depressed, there is no time to be sad, there is only time to be happy!