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What is Love?

We live in a world where humans have been separated from each other, but there is something that unites us despite our nationality, breed, gender or age, and we call it love. We speak different languages but we all speak the language of love. We all have experienced love, we all talk about love but: What is love? And what is its true meaning?

 

 

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds." - The Notebook

 

 

We never ask ourselves this question, or at least the majority of us, and I wasn’t the exception. One day a friend of mine asked to me, and when I tried to answer, I was not really sure about the correct answer, so I started a research to know exactly what love means. I started thinking about love and what it was for me, and then I looked for what other people said about love, I looked for the meaning in books, magazines, movies, and everywhere I could, and I found different meanings, what it made me think, that we are a little bit confused about the true meaning of love.

The truth is everyone has a different opinion about the meaning of love, and according to their point of view about life those meanings are totally valid, and I’m not an expert about love to say which answer is right and which one is wrong, and I think anyone is, but judging by how humans interact with each other, I can say we are confused about the true meaning of love, because love can have many meanings, but love should never be defined as painful, love is synonym of happiness, and not unhappiness.

 

 

 

“Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.” – Wayne Dyer

 

 

 

Humans over the years have always tried to define love in different ways, we find the word love in everything we see and hear, love has always been used as inspiration for movies, books, songs, and the meanings of love have always been as different as people on this planet. People from around the world with different languages and cultures, religious people, philosophers, scientists, psychologists, writers, Actors, and musicians have always tried to find and express the real meaning of love.

But the truth is, love is something that cannot be defined, categorized or described in any way, love is not a product we can buy in a store, it is not something we can find in a shelf, it is not something we can touch, love is something that can only be experienced, love goes beyond our understanding, and it is not something that can be easily explained in a few words in a dictionary, blog, book or anywhere, love can only be understood when we experience it.

 

 

 

“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.” – Thomas Merton

 

 

 

 So you may be wondering – Okay, if I can only experience it, how can I know that what I am experiencing right now it is actually this thing we call love if I don’t know what love really means?

 

 

And that is a very good question, because there we find the problem of our existence. There is so much despair and sadness in this world due to our misconception of love. Our beliefs about love are mistaken and therefore our experience of what we call love is also mistaken. And all this happened because we never really tried to understand what love really means, and when we try to do and experience something we don’t really understand there are very high chances to do it in the wrong way.

This is what is happening right now – Our wrong concept about love has confused us, and that has created so much hate, pain and sadness in our life. We don’t really understand what love means, so we have given to it wrong meanings:

 

 

Love is about possession of a person or an object, love is wanting others to be who you want them to be, love is giving someone our heart allowing a person to break it into pieces whenever they want, love means being what we are not, in order to be accepted for others, Love means to satisfy your own needs at the expense of other, love is the feeling we have only when the other person act, think, feel as we want, love means accepting others to treat us as they please, love is material things, Love is about fame, power and money, Love is only about sex, Love is superficial, Love is painful, Love is bad, Love is a waste of time!

 

 

As I said before, I’m not an expert and I think in terms of love no human being is, at least not yet, we can all have different and valid meanings, but what we should understand is that love is happiness, not the opposite, our wrong beliefs about it makes us think it is not, as we can see in the examples I gave, our concepts about love are mistaken, and that has created all the sadness and pain in our hearts.

 

 

So, what is love?

 

 

Definitely is not what I wrote before, but rather the opposite. The dictionary says love is: “A strong feeling of affection and sexual attraction for someone”, but at least in my opinion, love is much more than that, it is much more than just a word, an emotion or a feeling.

 

 

Love is caring of you and others, love is unconditional, love gives without expecting anything in return, love is wanting others to be the person they want to be, not the person you want them to be, love is about helping others be the best version of themselves they can be, love is a mutual agreement of giving the best they can for the benefit of both and others, love is when someone else’s happiness is your happiness, love is helping others, love is respect and understanding to each other, even if we think different. Love always constructs and never destroys, Love heals and never hurts, Love is not a finished product, love is something your work each day, love is being happy for the success of others, love is being in the good and the bad moments, love is timeless, love has no boundaries, love doesn’t require anything, love is a connection between human beings, love is not attachment to something or someone because love is free, love is peaceful, love is loyal, love is not when our happiness depends on the thoughts and action of others, love is blind, it cannot see appearances, because it can only see what is invisible for the human eye, love is what makes us better human beings, because love is what we are made of, and love should be our guide!

 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Happy Valentine’s Day! Let today be the day we remember love and let’s spread it to everyone around us, let’s take this day into our hearts day after day for the rest of our lives because love is all there is.

 

Happy Valentine's Day!

 

Love should be the most important thing we should remember this day. It doesn’t matter what is our marital status, there is always someone who we can give our love. Most of the time we underestimate the power of love because we are not aware of the extent of our love, even with a small amount of our love we can heal someone else’s heart and make someone happy.

Love is not about gifts, love is those little things that make a huge difference, and love is about giving the best of ourselves to others in order to make them happy. Love cannot be measured in the amount of gifts we give, nor be measured by the amount of money we spend on those gifts, because love can only be measured in the amount of small actions we make day after day to benefit others.

 

Somehow we got stuck in the system in which we live that has taught us that love should be remembered only once a year, and should be celebrated spending money in material things what actually it cannot be further from the true meaning of love. The truth is we don’t need to buy things in order to show our love, because love should be demonstrated with our daily actions, from the smallest to the biggest action.

Like it or not, this special day exists in most of the people calendar around the world, and usually it cannot be ignored due to the consumer society in which we live. Every February when it gets close to St. Valentine’s Day everyone seems to remember love, and you can see everywhere how love begins to be commercialized as if it were a product we can buy in a store

 

The truth is that every day is St. Valentine’s Day, and it should be celebrated at every moment year-round. Love is something that should be demonstrated to our loved ones every single day of our lives. I’m not saying that we should not buy gifts on the 14th, in fact I believe that buying someone a gift is a beautiful gesture, but I also believe that gifts should be given at any time and not because we are forced to do so because it is a specific day of the year.

Love is priceless, and everyone on this planet have access to it, and that my friends is the most wonderful gift we have! There is nothing greater than love, because love is all there is. Let’s celebrate love today, and every single day of our lives, it doesn’t matter if we are in a relationship or not, love should be always be celebrated, even if it is only with ourselves, because it is something that exists within us and it’s everlasting.

 

Happy Valentine’s Day! ♥

Forgiveness will set you free

Forgiveness wil set you free

 

Forgiveness will set you free, once you choose to forgive, you choose to separate yourself from any negative outcome you had in the past, that still resounds in your present, forgiveness is not something you give to others, forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself.

 

 

We have wrong beliefs about what forgiveness really mean, and that is why we doubt every time we want to forgive. What we need to understand is that forgiveness is something you do for you; it seems as it something that you only do for another, but in fact, the result of forgiveness is something that will benefit you more than anyone else.

 

We see forgiveness as a gift to another, while that can have some benefits to others, and it can give some kind of peace in someone else’s life, it will never let someone to be free from being guilty, that is something that they have to do for themselves, they have to forgive themselves in order to be free.

 

“Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” –Jonathan Lockwood Huie.

 

We see the act of forgiveness as an act of weakness, but in fact it requires a lot of courage and strength to forgive, it’s the way that you have to step aside from the victim role, and see everything with a different perspective, and it will give you the power to control a situation, without giving it the opportunity to control your thoughts, emotions and life.

 

What someone does to another, is a way to reflect how they feel deep inside their heart, because when you feel happy, and you love yourself, there is no way that you can hurt someone else, it is always the one who has a broken heart, the one who breaks someone else’s heart.

 

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.”- Thich Nhat Hanh

 

So the best way to forgive, in fact the way we have to never have a motive to forgive again, it is by never taking something personally, even though an action seems to be against you, for the only purpose of hurting you, it is something never really done against you, but rather something that people do for themselves.

 

Think it this way: all of us have done something against someone, so first of all, nobody is innocent, so anybody can find a good motive to do something according to their belief, but what I want you to understand is that when you do something bad to another human being, you do that against you too, because what you give, you receive, is that simple, nobody that do a negative action can have positive feeling about it, the negativity and positivity simply do not go together.

 

“Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior, forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart.” – Unknown

 

So knowing that, it is a very useful way to not take anything personally, what it will give you the opportunity to see everything from another perspective, you will not see yourself as a victim any more, and you will understand what is really happening and why is it happening.

 

By allowing yourself to seeing everything from another perspective, will give you a different reality, and you will understand them and forgive them, because you know that whatever somebody is doing to you, it is doing to himself too, because as I said before you can never do a negative action against someone and expect a positive result out of it, so that person is the first victim of all the pain that he is causing.

 

“The weak can never forgive; forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” – Mahatma Gandhi

 

So allow yourself the gift of forgiveness, do not let any situation stop you from moving forward, and set you free from all pain and sadness from the past, using that as strength and as a motivation to keep getting better, because you do not want to be like them, and you don’t want them to win, being their victim, and you either want to be condemned for something you have done in the past, believe me, you are better than that!

 

Forgive others and forgive yourself from any past situation and you will be free!