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Our Greatest Limitations are Found in our Own Minds

There are no bigger limitations than the ones we create with our own minds. All the time, we are limiting ourselves through the limiting beliefs we put in our minds. Those limitations are most of the time an illusion, being the creation of our own thoughts, and they are only real inside the confines of our own minds. In order to achieve your desired dreams and goals, you will have to discover your own limitations, challenge them and exceed them!

 

 "You are confined only by the walls you build yourself." - Andrew Murphy #limitations

 

 

Our imaginary limitations are the reason of our failure, if our dreams haven’t become a reality yet is because we have let them to stop us from achieving our desired dreams and goals. It is not our external limitations what makes us fail, but is our own limiting beliefs what really defeat us. The beliefs that we have in our mind about ourselves and life is what gives us our reality. It is our own misconceptions about our potential what truly limit us from achieving our goals.

The problem is that is easier for us to claim that we are being realistic when we say that we can’t do something, when in fact we are only using it as an excuse for not doing the things we would love to do. The truth is, if we haven’t done what we always wanted to do, if we haven’t gotten to the place where we have always wanted to get, if we haven’t reached our true potential or if we haven’t got the things we have always wanted to get is very probable that our own imaginary limitations have stopped us and paralyzed us, and that created our reality; but is not accurate to say that we are being realistic when in fact, what really stopped us was our own created limitations, and not our external circumstances. The problem it is not that we cannot do something, the problem is that we believe it.

 

 

 

“Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless.” – Jamie Paolinetti

 

 

 

What I mean is that reality is relative, my reality can be very different from your reality, and I can have the same external limitations as you do, but I could create a different outcome, and what will make the difference is whether I decide to create my own limitations, believe them and let them stop me, or if I’m going to use them as way to improve myself. When you decide that nothing can stop you, you destroy any imaginary limitations about yourself and you recreate your beliefs about who you really are, what gives you the power you need to make everything become a reality.

If the environment in where we find ourselves would be a limiting factor, no one would have never reached their goals. If age, time, money, abilities, other people beliefs about you, criticism, your external appearance, momentary failures, past situations, the place where you have born, or any other condition would be a true limitation then this world only would belong to a few and the rest of us would be condemned to a life of misery, but that is not the true, but unfortunately is what is happening in this world, because most of the people have believed that only a few are touched with a magic wand, and they are the only ones who are able to reach success and touch the glory, we have accepted that concept as real and we gave up, and all thanks to the real limitations which are the ones that we have created with our own limiting beliefs.

 

 

 

“Limitations can only be true as long as we believe in them. Believe in yourself instead. Amazing things will happen.” – Doe Zantamata

 

 

 

There are people who have made their dreams become a reality with less than you have, there are people who have born in poverty, who have born with an illness, there are people who have been through very hard times, and they still have managed to achieve their dreams and goals. It wasn’t a matter of luck but a matter of willingness, and they didn’t let any limitations to stop them. If I have made many of my goals become a reality was because I didn’t let my external circumstances, but specially my own created limitations to stop me. And the key to make all your limiting beliefs disappear is by believing in yourself. There is no stronger force than believing you can reach your goals and desires no matter what obstacles appears in your life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Discover your own limitations, find the way to exceed them and achieve all your goals and dreams. Because everything is possible for those who dare to dream and never ever give up. No matter how limited you think you are, if you believe you can, and if you never surrender to those limitations and you keep trying you will be victorious!

The Rebellious Act of Liking Yourself

We live in a world so obsessed with external appearances that the package has become more important than the content. Nowadays looking good on the outside has become our main priority, our obsession, and the only reason is to be accepted in this society that condemns you or glorifies you for your appearance. Therefore, liking yourself in a society that plays with your self-esteem and expect you to feel ugly is a rebellious act that gives you freedom!

 

 In a society that profits from your self doubt liking yourself is a rebellious act. Caroline Caldwell

 

 

This society wants us to believe that in order to be successful we need to look beautiful on the outside. Since we are born we are exposed to different sources which its only purpose is to make us feel ugly. They created the concept that ugly equals unhappiness, and beauty equals happiness and success. It seems that you can only love yourself if you are beautiful on the outside, and that, of course, never happens, and why? because if you finally love yourself, the business would be over, and where there is no business, there is no money.

Our minds have been infected with this virus from the day one. When we are born they cut us our hair, they make a hole in our ears so we can look pretty with cute little earrings, they dress us like dolls, and they make us to act as princesses and princes. As we grew, they gave us skinny, blonde, and blue-eyed Barbie’s to play with, and as we continue to grow that infernal virus sickened our mind with make-up, plastic surgery, reality shows with all good-looking people, movies with beautiful actors, music played by pretty boys and girls, and TV commercials that constantly wash our brains, day in and day out.

 

 

 

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

The problem is that we have accepted the concept that we need to look pretty in order to feel happy. We believe that eventually we are going to love ourselves once we look beautiful on the outside, so we buy all the crap that we can find in order to feel happy and like ourselves, but this never ends, we never feel completely happy with ourselves and we want more, we want to look as the girls in the magazines, and the problem is that they do not even look like that in the reality. We chase a fake stereotype of beauty that doesn’t exist.

The problem is that they make us believe that it exists, so we never stop buying the crap they sell, submitting ourselves to this maniac marketing that owns us. There is always something new, a new type of plastic surgery, a new revolutionary product that will make you look 20 years younger, and wonderful tanning product that will make you look tanned the 365 days of a year, a new make-up that transforms your face into a fake and unnatural doll. There always will be something that you will need in order to look beautiful and feel happy. This never stops, never.

 

 

 

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise L. Hay

 

 

 

Therefore, if you want to be beautiful, start by liking yourself just the way you are, love the real you without any artificial product or special clothes or anything, simply love what society calls “imperfections” because they are not, they are perfect, you are perfect just the way you are. Beauty is a concept that society created in order to set a standard, and profit from it, but everyone is beautiful, we are unique, original, one of a kind, we do not need to be someone else to be beautiful, being ourselves and liking ourselves is what makes us beautiful.

What I mean is that is completely okay to buy and wear all the products you want, as long as your happiness doesn’t depend from it. Change your hair color, wear make-up, make a diet, go to the gym, buy new clothes, use your favorite cream, but do it because you like it, not to impress others, not to be accepted, not to belong, not to feel happy or be successful because you will never be completely happy if you depend on all that to feel good with yourself. Wake up in the morning, go to the mirror, and look yourself without make-up, with your disheveled hair, with your Minnie mouse pajamas, look at your face with your wrinkles, pimples, look at your body with all your “imperfections” and smile at you, because you are beautiful. Love yourself in that very moment and you will find freedom to be yourself without needing anything in order to be it.

 

 

 

“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

 

 

 

They once said: “beauty hurts” – No my friend, beauty doesn’t hurt, what it hurts is not being able to look yourself in the mirror, and like what you are seeing simply because you don’t look like the girl in the magazine. Not being able to see your true beauty, makes you miserable, and it doesn’t matter how hard you try to look “beautiful” you will always feel miserable, and that hurts thousands of times more than walking with high heels, plastic surgery or waxing. Can you understand the real problem here? It is you! It is the way you see yourself, change the eyes with which you see yourself, fall in love with your true self and you will change your whole life… and you will save a lot of money too! 😉

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you look yourself at the mirror and you like what you see, do you think you will care what others think? Absolutely no! that is called self-confidence and that is liking yourself! You don’t need anything to be beautiful, you already are, just remember that and be free to be your authentic, wonderful, and beautiful self!

Beware of Dream Killers

Along the path, through our whole lifetime, we are going to encounter people who are going to say that we can’t do something, they will laugh at our dreams, they will criticize us, they will underestimate our abilities, and they will try to stop us from achieving our goals. These people are dream killers, they will try to convince you that your dreams are impossible, and you’re going to prove them wrong!

 

“Don't ever let someone tell you, you can't do something. Not even me. You got a dream, you got to protect it. People can’t do something themselves, they're gonna tell you that you can’t do it. You want something, go get it. Period.” - Will Smith (Pursuit of Hapyness) #dream #killers

 

It is not something personal with you, in fact, it has nothing to do with you, but it is something personal with themselves. These people have become dream killers because in some way, someone has made them believe that dreams are impossible to achieve. Another dream killer has made the same fine work with them before, and convinced them that their dreams are impossible, it made them believe that they can’t do it, and they believed it, and so they gave up on their dreams.

But who are these dream killers? In fact, a dream killer it is not only a person but an experience, a feeling, an emotion. Negative people, non-believers, haters, doubters, negative emotions, negative thoughts, fears, doubts, failure, lack of confidence, all of these are dream killers, and if we are not careful they will convince us that we cannot do it, and in that moment we will give up all we have ever dreamed of.

 

 

 

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” – Mark Twain

 

 

 

Therefore, how can you deal with these dream killers? – First, you will have to know that their reality does not have to be your reality. What these people tell you is their own vision, their own perspective about life, their own beliefs, but the truth is you create your own life, and that is all that matters. Second, you can use their negativity and transform it. But, how? Well, you can use it as motivation. You can use it as a powerful fuel, that will explode your heart, making you run with courage and confidence in the direction of your dreams.

Use it as a way to demonstrate them that they were wrong, because at the end, our experience can create miracles in someone else’s life. Therefore, use the sword which they use to try to kill your dreams in their favor, and cut the veil they have in their own eyes. Free them from the ropes that are stopping them from achieving their own dreams. Because if you make your dreams become a reality, perhaps, you can convince them that they can do it too.

 

 

 

“When people seek to undermine your dreams, predict your doom or criticize you, remember that they are telling you their story, not yours.” – Cynthia Occelli

 

 

 

All these dream killers that I mentioned before will try to stop you, they will talk, they will confuse you, but you don’t have to listen to them, but you have to listen to your own heart. If every time you close your eyes, and you think about your dream, your heart sets on fire, then go out and make them happen. You will never regret trying, but you will regret not trying. The truth is if other people could do it, we can do it. Surround yourself with successful people, learn from their mistakes, improve yourself, work hard, and above all always believe one very important thing: That no matter what the dream killers tell you, what matters is what you believe and if you believe you can do it, if you believe in your dream, if you believe in yourself, you will achieve every dream that you propose.

 

 

 

 

Listen to your own heart, pursue your dreams with confidence, create your own reality, have faith, believe in yourself, and courageously make the impossible possible, and prove all the dream killers that they were wrong!

No Risk, No Win

On the way to make our goals and dreams become a reality we will have to face many risks. Every goal and every dream involves a risk. The decision whether to take certain risks or not will determine either our victory or our defeat. Risks are merely challenges that can push us closer to our dreams. So, are you ready to take the necessary risks and make your dreams become a reality?

 

 "It seems to be a law of nature, inflexible and inexorable, that those who will not risk cannot win." - John Paul Jones

 

 

Life itself is a risk; since we are born we face many risks. When we are kids we take risks all the time, even when we are afraid of the unknown we take risks in order to discover, learn and grow, and once we discover what we can achieve by taking risks, we become unstoppable risk takers. The problem when we grow up is that our risks become bigger, and with that our fears become greater, which most of the time paralyzes us, and that is the moment when we cease to move forward in the direction of our dreams, giving up the life we have always wanted.

Risks are scary, and that is the reason why we prefer to avoid them. The truth is we take risks all the time, even without knowing it. The simple act of getting out of bed involves a risk. Every action we take, in a greater or lesser extent, involves a risk. The problem is that our fears are directly proportional to the magnitude of our risks, and when the risk we have to face is enormous, our fears always ends up winning the battle, and all our desires broken into pieces are buried into oblivion.

 

 

 

“The biggest risk is not taking any risk… In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” – Mark Zuckerberg

 

 

Therefore, in order to make our goals and dreams become a reality we will have to take every necessary risk. But, does that mean we should take any risk possible? Well, the answer will depend in our goals and dreams and the type of risk we must take in order to achieve them. If what we can gain by taking a certain risk is higher than what we can lose, then we should go ahead and take it, but if we can lose more than we can win then we should think twice before taking that risk.

The key is to think first, and analyze all the odds. If they are more in your favor than against you, you should try and take the risk, and if you win, you will either make your dream become a reality, or you will be one step closer from achieving it. And in the case that you lose, you will not lose much, and you can always start again and try to do something in a different way in the future.

 

 

 

“He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.” – Muhammad Ali

 

 

For example: If you want a better life for your family, and you go and bet everything you have in the roulette, it is very likely that you will end losing everything. In this case it is better to not take that particular risk and try a different option. But if you have a better job offer in a different company in a different city, and you are afraid of starting a new life but you really want something better for your family, then you should go ahead and take the risk. In the end, what you can lose will be less than what you will earn even if that risk doesn’t work well for you.

That is why risks are so important, because they are great teachers. They teach us something we didn’t know about ourselves, they teach us to do something we didn’t know before, they teach us to act in a different way, they make us grow, they make us wise, they make us believe, they open doors that were closed and make our dreams and goals become a reality.

 

 

 

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far it is possible to go.” T.S. Eliot

 

 

 

Therefore, if you want to change your life, if you want to achieve a certain goal or make a dream become a reality you will have to take all the necessary steps and take all those risks, where the odds are highly in your favor. Take your time to think about the risk you have to take, analyze the odds, but do not let your mind focus on what can go wrong, but in what can go well. If that dream you have, if that goal you have is what you really want, and if it will be for your own good, the odds will always be in your favor, so don’t think it too much, just take the risk and win!

 

 

 

Are the chances of having a positive outcome high? Could you win more than you can lose if you take the risk? If the answer yes, do not think it again, do not let your fears interfere with your dreams and with confidence just go ahead and take the risk!

Are your fears holding you back?

If you find yourself feeling miserable, making excuses for not having done the things you always wanted to do, it’s probably because you have allowed your fears to control your mind, and when you do that you let your fears to control your entire life.

 

"A head full of fears has no space for dreams."

 

Fears are powerful, they can either trigger the greatness inside of you what will make you create the life of your dreams, or they can destroy your spirit and make your life a nightmare. Fears are part of life, there is no way we can avoid them, they exist in every culture and in every place of this world, to a greater or lesser extent they will always be present in the lives of human beings, the kind of impact they will have on us will depend on how well we deal with them.

Fears can hold you back, or can push your forward, what makes the difference between them is whether you choose to control your fears and use them as motivation to become better and better, or use them as a cage where you lock yourself in for the rest of your life. The second choice is always easier because you give your fears the power to control you, while you keep staying in your cage, feeling safe, as you don’t take any risks there, but the first choice is going to give you what your soul yearns for, because your soul knows who you are, and you are not your fears, you are better than that.

 

 

 

 

 

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

 

 

 

If you don’t take risks in your life because of your fears you will only risk one thing: the possibility of having the life of your dreams. If you risk nothing, then your risk everything, because you make your life a fortune wheel and you leave everything to chance, and it is in that moment where you give to your fears all the power they need to control your life, and everything you ever wanted, every dream, every goal disappears in the blackness of your fears. If you let them to control you, they will take you all the possibilities you have, to move forward in the direction of your dreams, and you will be stuck in a place of sadness, frustration, anger, disappointment and hopelessness for the rest of your days.

So if you haven’t moved forward in your life, if you haven’t taken any risk for a while, if you haven’t tried anything new, if you haven’t done what you love for a long time, if you haven’t been truly happy enjoying your life to the fullest, if you have been doing only the things you are supposed to do is because you have allowed you fears to control your life, you have no power at all right now, and nothing will change until you realize what is going on. You are where you are now, doing what you are doing because you wanted that way, we cannot condemn anyone for being guilty of your failure, and it is you, and only you, who has let fears to seize you.

 

 

 

 

“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.” – Dorothy Thompson

 

 

 

 

Despite this, there is good news, you can reverse the situation, and you can still have the life you ever wanted and be happy. To do this, you must stop believing the story you fears have told you, because they always tell you what is going to be wrong instead of telling you what is going to be right if you follow your heart. The problem is they don’t think positively because somehow they want to protect you from any adversity, but what they don’t know is that making you their prisoner only puts you in a place of vulnerability where you are exposed to any adversity. So the best thing you can do is not believing in your fears anymore knowing that what they say is what can go wrong but you know that everything can go great if you choose to follow you heart, and you will prove them wrong.

Everything you ever wanted, every dream, every goal, every idea is possible, they truly exist somewhere outside your fears. If you want to be happy, if you truly want to enjoy your life, you must silence your fears, that way you avoid giving them the power to create your future. Don’t let them to stop you, rather use them as a motivation to demonstrate that they were wrong.

 

 

Your life is like a notebook, if you don’t like what you see, turn the page, take your favorite crayons and make a new drawing! You can create anything you want, if you don’t let your fears blind you. Keep moving, keep dreaming and never stop!

Jealousy is a destructive emotion

Jealousy is a destructive emotion and it can only generate destructive outcomes. The truth is jealousy never bring anything good, as it consumes our mind and our reality becomes a nightmare.

 

"There is no greater glory than love, nor any greater punishment than jealousy." - Lope De Vega

 

Jealousy is a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves and our whole life because it shows how much we lack. Jealousy is poison to our spirit and is extremely toxic, as it contaminates our soul and heart. There are many reasons why we are jealous, for my experience I believe that the main reasons are due to our lack of self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-love, and when this happens, we let fear to control our life, and we become insecure, doubtful, anxious, depressed and miserable, everything that jealousy needs to grow every day.

Jealousy has the power to control our thoughts, emotions, actions and our whole life. When jealousy seizes your mind, you lose the control of your own thoughts and emotions, and your perspective which gives your reality, becomes unreal. Jealousy is a disease that causes torment and pain for those who suffer it. Once we let jealousy to control our life, our whole reality becomes a nightmare, and not only for us but for those around us who are also the victims of our jealousy.

 

 

 

 

Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy – in fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other.” – Robert A. Heinlein

 

 

 

 

 

So jealousy is the way we have to defend ourselves against external threats, but in fact the worst threat lies within ourselves, and is called fear, and fear gives us wrong beliefs about life, people and ourselves, and so we live in a fictional reality that makes us to have the emotion that we were trying to avoid: unhappiness.

When you are jealous, you live in a world that is not real, because you don’t see the world with your eyes open, you see it with your eyes covered by your fears, and the reality you see in your mind is most of the time inaccurate, and so are your feelings and emotions.

The truth is jealousy puts us in the place of suffering we were trying to avoid, and we don’t get anything good out of it. Jealousy takes from us any opportunity to be in peace and happy with ourselves, and with everyone around us. No matter the situation, no matter how good your life can be, if you suffer from jealousy, your life will be your worst nightmare, because once jealousy poisons your mind and spirit you will live in a distorted reality, and you will see ghosts and demons where there are only angels, pushing away everything that is good for you.

 

 

 

 

“Never underestimate the power of jealousy and the power of envy to destroy. Never underestimate that.” – Oliver Stone

 

 

 

 

Jealousy is the cause why you are not living a truly happy and peaceful life, because it consumes your mind and your life. Every opportunity to achieve your goals, every chance to live the life of your dreams getting what you always wanted, vanishes in the darkness of your fears. If you want to be happy you will have to face your fears and challenge them.

If someone we love leaves us or does something that hurts us, or if we are betrayed or if we can’t get something we always wanted can be very painful but nothing can be more painful as being trapped in a nightmare world created by our mind, poisoned by our jealousy encouraged by our fears, insecurities, doubts and anxieties.

If you know who you really are, what you are capable of achieving, if you know how beautiful and amazing you are, you will never doubt from yourself again, and that my friends, is the first step to remove jealousy from your life. It is something you must work every day, you must learn to love yourself and believe in you, once you do that, you will find peace again and you will see life as it really is.

 

 

 

 

“You can be the moon and still be jealous of the stars.” – Gary Allan

 

 

 

 

At least that was my experience because one day I decided that in order to be successful I needed to believe in myself, and I found out that my beliefs about me and life were wrong, I underestimate me, and let my past, situations and people to define me, which created insecurity, disgust, anxiety, resentment and fears, and I became dependent of others for being happy, and then I fed my jealousy so much that they took my life, and so I believed in myself, and I took back the control of my own life, and I defeated all fears.

 

 

Believe in yourself and be confident about your potential, it is important for you to see it, once you see it, you will not care if others do the same, you don’t have to show nothing to anyone, you are worth, and you know that, so don’t be jealous of no one!

Victims of expectation

Expectations

 

We are victims of expectation; the big problem of everything is not the problem itself, but rather our expectation about everything. Everything we say and do is accompanied by an expectation, and that is why sometimes our results are not as we wanted them to be, what it creates all the unnecessary sadness in ourselves.

 

Like I said before, we are victims of expectation, and that is why we’ll be disappointed over and over again, until we finally give up and lose, because if you are not careful, and if you don’t learn how to control it, expectations will always win, and if we get to that point where we let our expectations to win, then we get to the point where everything we want, every dream, every wish, every opportunity to make all of that become a reality, completely disappears.

 

After we have had a lot of results that haven’t met our expectations, We get to that place called disappointment, a place where we found unhappiness and sadness, and once you get to that place, it is really hard to get out from it, because after being there, Your actions will only be based on that, you will not have more expectations or at least good expectations, and you neither will have any vision of your dream.

 

“Expectation feeds frustration. It is an unhealthy attachment to people, things, and outcomes we wish we could control; but don’t.” – Steve Maraboli

 

Because once you are the victim of your own expectations, having as a result nothing more than disappointment, then you will walk your path with fear and doubts, having the belief that you shouldn’t have more expectations about anything, because not everything is possible, so your reality is going to look like that, and from now on you will face everything without enthusiasm, believing that it cannot end well based on your past experiences, and that belief will create your reality, and nothing will be like you have wanted it to be.

 

The problem with expectation, is that we have it because we actually need something. what it makes us be very attached to it, so we choose in first place something for what can give us, in order to satisfy that necessity, so if we don’t get what we want, we’ll be disappointed, and if we are disappointed, we stop believing, we lose faith and we forget about hope, so we accept a life of disappointment, sadness and suffering.

 

“Expectation is the root of all heartache” – William Shakespeare

 

So what we have to do, in order to be always happy without depending on the results, is not having more expectations, but what we have to do is make a decision according to what we feel and want in that moment without needing anything, giving all the best we can give, being happy, even if the result is not what we wanted, because we just decided to do something, because in that moment was what we wanted, not because we wanted to get something out of it.

 

Expectations give nothing more than disappointment, visualization gives nothing more than achievement. So what we have to do is to never forget whatever we want for our life, using the power of visualization, knowing that what we want exists and that sooner or later we are going to get that, forgetting any kind of expectation and being free to do, give and feel whatever we want.

 

“When you release expectations, you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be” – Mandy Hale 

 

Remember that everything you give is a demonstration of what you already have, as we cannot give what we lack and we cannot receive what we don’t give. So everything you give, you will receive it back, multiplied.

 

So every time you want to have a new relationship, or get a new job, or anything you want to get, or achieve in your life, first you have to see your goal in your mind, and truly believe that is possible and that is a fact, and not having expectations, because you don’t need something, you already have it or you will have it, because you believe that!

 

“Trade Your Expectation to Appreciation and the World Changes Instantly” – Tony Robbins 

 

Walk your path fearless and doubtless, with confidence, truly believing that if something is meant to you, it will be at the best time for you. So do anything you want and feel, say whatever you want, think whatever you want to think, and above all love everyone around you without expecting anything in return, and I can guarantee that you will find true freedom and happiness.