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The Secret to Success: Keep Moving Forward

Through out our lifetime we pass through different stages. Periods of extreme joy, calmness and peace, periods of chaos and brutal struggle, and in order to emerge victorious from the different stages of life we have to keep moving forward. We have within ourselves the necessary tools to overcome any obstacle and achieve all our goals and dreams. One of the secrets to success is always keep moving forward.

 

 

"If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward." - Martin Luther King Jr

 

 

I am an unstoppable dreamer looking always for new adventures, and leaving my comfort zone is something I have done from the past years. Every time I do it, it does not take long until I am face to face to the harsh reality of being in that place of uncertainty, but always God and life find their ways to show me that we must always keep moving forward, because we have within ourselves the power, the strength and the courage to overcome any obstacle, and that is one of the secrets to success.

A few days ago I was kayaking for the first time. I got in a single kayak, the guide pushed me into the water, and there I was, sitting alone in a small boat in the middle of the sea. We started the tour, paddling around the beautiful scenery that Norway has to offer. In the beginning the sea was very calm, then the wind started to blow against us and paddling through those waters became a very hard task. I knew I was trying very hard to move,  but I felt as I was not moving, exhausted I kept paddling, moving forward through turbulent waters, and suddenly it was calm again and everything became much easier. In some moments I simply stopped paddling and I took the time to enjoy the surroundings.

 

“We develop our character muscles by overcoming challenges and obstacles.” – Stephen Covey

 

In that state of peace and relax I discovered a hidden message. Life was using that sea kayaking tour to explain me that in order to move forward in life one must keep paddling even in the worst of conditions. It taught me that life can sometimes be a calm and relaxed experience but sometimes can become a little harsh, but one has their own paddles, that is to say, our strength and courage that will help us move through the currents of life.

Life always finds its ways to teach you helpful lessons that can help you become the best version of yourself, specially when leaving your comfort zone which can happen even without your approval. Life sometimes pushes us away from our comfort zone in a very brutal way for a reason that can be very hard to understand in the beginning, and sometimes like a kamikaze we leave our comfort zone for no reason at all or to pursue a dream, a desire, a fantasy.

 

“Don’t waste your time looking back. You’re not going that way.” – Ragnar Lothbrok (Vikings)

 

Moving away from that place of comfort always means that you will have to face many challenges. They can be very simple or very hard ones, but in the end all of these challenges will make you grow and evolve in a personal and spiritual way. Always remember to keep your eyes in the horizon, keep moving forward, and don’t look back, you are not going there anyway.

 

 

 

Keep paddling through life, keep moving forward with strength, commitment, perseverance and courage, because that is the secret to success!

Face your Fears!

At least once in our lives we will be challenged to face our fears in order to grow up, evolve, in order to get what we yearn, achieve our goals and make our dreams become a reality. The victory is not guaranteed, but if we let our fears win, if we refuse to leave our comfort zone, if we decide not to pursue our dreams, if we succumb to our fears, one things is guaranteed: Our own defeat and the death of our dreams. Therefore, if we want to make our dreams become a reality we should face all our fears!

 

 

 

 

Our fears have the ability to paralyze us. They create a burden between us and our dreams. They limit us, they stop us, they steal our hopes, they snatch our dreams. There are many reasons for which most of the people haven’t achieved their dreams and one of them is because of their fears. The fear of the unknown, the fear of losing something, the fear of failure, the fear of what people would think of them if they fail, or if they succeed. These and many other fears that have sabotaged our own dreams.

As I look back into my past I can see how many times I refused to do something I wanted to do, or I gave up a certain goal, or I stopped pursing a special dream and all because of my fears. “What if I can’t do it?” “What if I fail?” “What if I am not good enough?” “What would people think of me if I do it?” “What if I lose?” “What if, what if, what if…” I hear those questions resonating in my head as it was yesterday when I said them. That was not my true self speaking, those words were my fears speaking for me. “What if”: That is how fears start confusing ourselves, that is their language.

 

 

 

 

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

 

 

 

 

Therefore, in order to face our fears and achieve all our dreams we must first detect when our fears have taken the control of our own minds. Why is important to do that? Because once we detect that our fears are controlling our thoughts, we can quickly take back the control and start thinking for ourselves. If we are not careful our fears will take the control of our minds and they will decide for us, and they will shape our destiny. We should face them and challenge them, and prove them wrong.

Life is like a box of chocolates, there are different shapes, different fillings, different tastes, some are sweet, some are bitter, you can like them all or only a few, but you end enjoying all the box. One thing is certain in this world: Nothing is sure, and you will never know the taste of what is inside the box until you begin to try it. For one moment to another our life could take an unexpected turn, and everything could change. Therefore, if we go safely, if we do not take risks, if we remain in our comfort zone we will never truly end enjoying our lives, we will simple exist, and all our dreams will be buried into oblivion.

 

 

 

 

“He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

 

Most of the time our fears are not real. For example: Every time I turn off the light I think something horrible is going to appear, but it never happens. The reason is because what I imagine that is going to happen is not real, it is all in my mind. Our fears are founded by the environment where we were born. It happens with all our fears, and we can overcome them if we are willing to face them.

I was once afraid of spiders, one day I wondered why? Why I am so afraid of something that never did something to me? The problem is that I was programmed to fear them, I decided to overcome that fear, and I faced what I feared the most. It was hard in the beginning, but day after day my fear has started to vanish.

 

 

 

 

“Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.” – Judy Blume

 

 

 

 

It happened with my fear of living in another country, with another culture and language. My fears tried to stop me, at some point they wanted to protect me, so they wanted me to stay in my comfort zone. One day I woke up, and I said to myself: “You know what, if you are going to fear something, fear the idea of living a miserable life for the rest of your life for not having pursued your dreams.” That day I silenced my fears, and I took the first step in the direction of my dreams. It is when you decide to face them, when your life gets another meaning. Do what you fear the most and grow, improve, reborn, evolve.

 

 

 

 

All your dreams, all the things you want, all your desires are on the other side of your fears. Don’t let them stop you, don’t let them snatch your dreams, face them, challenge them, and defeat them!

Are You Committed to Change Your Life?

If we would spend the same amount of energy we spend on complaining on creating the life we want, how different our life would be. The problem is we are not always as committed on changing our lives as we are on complaining about the things we do not like about it. The good news is that the life we yearn, the things we want, and absolutely everything is possible, we only need to be willing to daily commit to create the life we want to experience. Are you committed to change your life?  

 

 

"When confronted with a challenge, the committed heart will search for a solution. The undecided heart searches for an escape." - Andy Andrews

 

 

There are many things we may not like about our lives, but instead of doing something in order to change it, we spend our precious time complaining about the things we do not like. We tend to focus on the problem, and not in the solution. We surrender to a miserable life, instead of fighting for the life we really want. We do not commit to change our lives because we are already too committed on complaining about the different things in our lives that we despise.

Why? Because is easier that way, it is hard to change your life. It requires us to leave our comfort zone, which in fact is not so comfortable at all, but in this place we have everything we need to survive, so we refuse to do something to change our current situation, becoming the eternal complainers. But can you imagine how different our lives would be if we would simply decide to do something to change our lives? The first thing we need to know is that if we are not really committed on doing something in order to change it everything will remain as it is and nothing will change.

 

 

 

“Commitment is that turning point in your life when you seize the moment to alter your destiny.” – Denis Waitley

 

 

 

I found many times people being frustrated because they are upset with their jobs, or their current financial situation, people who are not happy with the things they are doing, with the career they have chosen, people who are unhappy with the relationship they are having with their partners, people who are depressed and sad because they are not living the life they want or doing the things they love, people who are unsatisfied with their health condition, people who is frustrated because they are failing in their tests at school or university, people who indeed have reasons to complain and feel miserable but people who haven’t done anything to change their lives.

I found myself many times being that kind of people, being the complainer not the doer. I always thought how easy my life would be if I could have the same luck as Aladdin and find a special lamp that I could rub so a genie can come out to offer me three wishes. Frustrated and disappointed because such a fantasy would never come true, I suddenly discovered that I could be my own genie. I mean, I always believed that God was ready to help me, so why I wasn’t doing anything to change my life? Because I never believed in myself. So one day I decided to become my own genie, quitting the habit of complaining, becoming the creator of my destiny.

 

 

 

“Commitment unlocks the doors of imagination, allows vision, and gives us the right stuff to turn our dream into reality.” – James Womack

 

 

 

You too can become your own genie in the lamp. The first decision you need to make is to decide what you really want and take the first step in the direction of your goal. They say Rome wasn’t built in a day, so don’t be discouraged if you can’t change your life overnight. If you are really committed to make it happen, and if you take the right steps towards your dreams, you will eventually turn your life around. Do you want different results? Change your actions! The same behavior will give us the same outcomes. You don’t like your job? Change it! You are not doing well at school or at college? Study more! You don’t have enough money? Spend less! You want to travel? Do it! I know, it’s not so easy as it sounds, but if you focus on finding the way to change the things you are not happy with, you will eventually do it! And the key is: commitment.

Focus on the solution, not the problem. Cease to complain and take the reins of your own life, and create new and better outcomes. When do you should start? Today! What do you do? Decide what you want. What to do next? Take the first step! It doesn’t matter what you do to begin, the thing is to begin. Start building the life you want with whatever you have right now, as you move forward you will encounter new opportunities, people who will be ready to help you, tools that will help you build your dream, and if you are truly committed, sooner or later, life will welcome you with a new tomorrow.

 

 

 

“Most people fail, not because of lack of desire, but because of lack of commitment.” – Vince Lombardi

 

 

 

It’s not so hard as it seems, in fact, is much simpler than we think. The key is to do what we have to do in order to make it happen, that is the only way to get what we want. Whatever we are unhappy with our lives right now, complaining won’t change anything. Sometimes we can easily fix what is going wrong with our lives but sometimes it will require from us a bigger commitment, and sometimes the only way to improve our lives, to get what we want, and have the life we desire is to make a complete radical change. Start now, start today, and step by step create the life you want to experience. Everything is possible for those who dare to dream and are committed enough to make it happen!

 

 

 

 

Don’t give up, don’t give in, create the life you believe in. If you are really committed to change your life, there is nothing that can stop you!

Our Need for Security

One of the things that people constantly seek, either consciously or unconsciously is security. We have the need to feel safe because that guarantees us our survival. Certainty makes us feel comfortable, while uncertainty makes our world tremble, putting us in a place of extreme vulnerability. This need for security can truly guarantee us our very existence, it will make us feel comfortable, it will make us feel safe. But does it really guarantees us freedom, peace, happiness, success and everything we might want in life? Stay with me, and let’s find out together!

 

 

"No amount of security is worth the suffering of a mediocre life chained to a routine that has killed your dreams." - Maya Mendoza

 

 

We always seek for security because we think that it will give us freedom, we believe that having a lifetime security will mean having a lifetime freedom, a lifetime happiness, or a lifetime success. We think that it will guarantee us true success, we think that we will be free to do everything we love and make all our dreams become a reality. A lifetime security is possible when we choose to live a life inside our comfort zone, a place where we feel safe and at ease.

While living in our comfort zone, can bring us security and give us the idea that we are free, happy and successful, it is in fact only an illusion. Why? because choosing a lifetime security only enslaves us, taking us all our freedom. When we put security as priority over our dreams, that is when we become prisoners of a system that teach us that the only thing that matters is a lifetime security, it told us that dreams are impossible or that they are not worth the risk. So, we look for security in every aspect of our lives: we look for a job security, for a house, a car, and everything that will make us feel safe, we don’t question anything, we simply settle.

 

 

 

“Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth.” – John F. Kennedy

 

 

 

But what is wrong about this? Why is wrong to look for security? what is the problem of living in our comfort zone? There is no problem at all. In fact, it is in our own instincts, it is in our very nature as human beings. The problem only starts when we settle to a life that is far less than the one we are capable of living, limiting our own extraordinary capabilities. The problem is when we achieve a life that gives us security, and that stop us from achieving more. We become so dependent on that life, that we fight to protect it against everything including our own dreams, because our dreams are always a threat to our security.

That is the reason why so many people give up on their dreams. The fear of leaving the place of conformity to enter to unknown territories scares them to the point that they decide to stick to their ordinary life, where they are comfortable and they feel safe. And if you want to achieve the life we have always imagined, if we want to make all our dreams become a reality, we will have to be ready to feel uncomfortable. That place of security will bring us everything we need to survive, but the life we want, and truly deserve, it is only possible outside our comfort zone.

 

 

 

“The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” – Michelangelo

 

 

 

Most of the people who have already achieved their dreams, or those people who are known for being extremely successful, have one thing in common: They were in a place of absolutely uncertainty when they decided to go for their dreams. Therefore, we can see that actually our place of security, our comfort zone is what truly limits us, because it makes us feel safe, so we do not do anything in order to not lose that security we have. It is only when we are in a place of mystery, uncertainty, and discomfort when our true character is shaped. It is in that moment that we become free to become the person we were meant to be and do everything we have always imagined.

 

 

 

 

 

May your need for security do not limit you from living the life that you are capable of living. Do not settle for a life that you do not love only because it gives you security. You can, and you will live the life of your dreams if you dare to leave your comfort zone!

When Our World Trembles: Facing Changes

Changes are part of life and at some point in our lives we are going to face them. Changes are hard to digest even when we have been looking for them, the problem is we are afraid of changes because we fear the unknown, and when a change appears, our world trembles. Therefore, we are going to have two options: We can face them and dance at the rhythm of tremor, or hide and let the tremor bury us.

 

"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." - Alan Watts

 

Many times in our lives we are going to face different types of changes, some of them will be created by us and others will be created for us. The first ones are the easiest to digest, because most of them are the result of our own wishes, and they happened because we have let them happen, they are created by us, voluntarily, through our own decisions and actions, but the second ones are the ones that we do not look for, they suddenly appear, unexpectedly, without calling.

All changes destabilize us and make our world shake. The reason is because they force us to leave the shore and enter into unknown waters, they push us away from our comfort zone and destabilize us. But once we face them, we challenge them, and it’s in that moment when we ignite the spark that makes our heart burn, giving us power and strength to cope with the new changes in our lives and change our lives.

 

 

 

“All change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end.” – Robin Sharma

 

 

 

Changes are often inevitable, sometimes because there is no other option, there is no another alternative, there is no escape, and we cannot avoid them. They appear, they are real, and we can either accept them and succeed or fight an already lost battle. Why a lost battle? Because when an unexpectedly change has taken place we cannot avoid it, and the only way to walk out victorious is to keep moving forward. Resisting to changes will only lead us to defeat.

Therefore, whether we face a change we have created ourselves or an unexpectedly change, we have to accept it first, whether we like it or not, but this doesn’t mean we have to settle. If the new change is not to our liking, then we have to think the way to create the change that we do like to happen in our lives and make it happen. We cannot fight with the past; we cannot fight with what already happened, but we can do everything we can in order to create the future we want.

 

 

 

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” – Leon C. Megginson

 

 

 

The first and most important thing you will have to know in order to face any change in your life is that nothing will remain as it is. The world is constantly moving, and changes happen all the time. There will be those that we will create ourselves and those that will just happen without calling, but we must know that changes are in our favor and not against us. They may not look like that but in the end they will be a benefit for us if we give them the opportunity. Changes make us change, and that is the purpose of the changes that happen in our lives, because they make us grow, they make us stronger and develop the potential hidden in ourselves.

 

 

 

Let the changes happen, and face them with courage and confidence, knowing that you have the power to create the life you want. With faith in God, in yourself and in life, keep moving at the rhythm of your changes, close your eyes and keep on dancing!