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Are You Committed to Change Your Life?

If we would spend the same amount of energy we spend on complaining on creating the life we want, how different our life would be. The problem is we are not always as committed on changing our lives as we are on complaining about the things we do not like about it. The good news is that the life we yearn, the things we want, and absolutely everything is possible, we only need to be willing to daily commit to create the life we want to experience. Are you committed to change your life?  

 

 

"When confronted with a challenge, the committed heart will search for a solution. The undecided heart searches for an escape." - Andy Andrews

 

 

There are many things we may not like about our lives, but instead of doing something in order to change it, we spend our precious time complaining about the things we do not like. We tend to focus on the problem, and not in the solution. We surrender to a miserable life, instead of fighting for the life we really want. We do not commit to change our lives because we are already too committed on complaining about the different things in our lives that we despise.

Why? Because is easier that way, it is hard to change your life. It requires us to leave our comfort zone, which in fact is not so comfortable at all, but in this place we have everything we need to survive, so we refuse to do something to change our current situation, becoming the eternal complainers. But can you imagine how different our lives would be if we would simply decide to do something to change our lives? The first thing we need to know is that if we are not really committed on doing something in order to change it everything will remain as it is and nothing will change.

 

 

 

“Commitment is that turning point in your life when you seize the moment to alter your destiny.” – Denis Waitley

 

 

 

I found many times people being frustrated because they are upset with their jobs, or their current financial situation, people who are not happy with the things they are doing, with the career they have chosen, people who are unhappy with the relationship they are having with their partners, people who are depressed and sad because they are not living the life they want or doing the things they love, people who are unsatisfied with their health condition, people who is frustrated because they are failing in their tests at school or university, people who indeed have reasons to complain and feel miserable but people who haven’t done anything to change their lives.

I found myself many times being that kind of people, being the complainer not the doer. I always thought how easy my life would be if I could have the same luck as Aladdin and find a special lamp that I could rub so a genie can come out to offer me three wishes. Frustrated and disappointed because such a fantasy would never come true, I suddenly discovered that I could be my own genie. I mean, I always believed that God was ready to help me, so why I wasn’t doing anything to change my life? Because I never believed in myself. So one day I decided to become my own genie, quitting the habit of complaining, becoming the creator of my destiny.

 

 

 

“Commitment unlocks the doors of imagination, allows vision, and gives us the right stuff to turn our dream into reality.” – James Womack

 

 

 

You too can become your own genie in the lamp. The first decision you need to make is to decide what you really want and take the first step in the direction of your goal. They say Rome wasn’t built in a day, so don’t be discouraged if you can’t change your life overnight. If you are really committed to make it happen, and if you take the right steps towards your dreams, you will eventually turn your life around. Do you want different results? Change your actions! The same behavior will give us the same outcomes. You don’t like your job? Change it! You are not doing well at school or at college? Study more! You don’t have enough money? Spend less! You want to travel? Do it! I know, it’s not so easy as it sounds, but if you focus on finding the way to change the things you are not happy with, you will eventually do it! And the key is: commitment.

Focus on the solution, not the problem. Cease to complain and take the reins of your own life, and create new and better outcomes. When do you should start? Today! What do you do? Decide what you want. What to do next? Take the first step! It doesn’t matter what you do to begin, the thing is to begin. Start building the life you want with whatever you have right now, as you move forward you will encounter new opportunities, people who will be ready to help you, tools that will help you build your dream, and if you are truly committed, sooner or later, life will welcome you with a new tomorrow.

 

 

 

“Most people fail, not because of lack of desire, but because of lack of commitment.” – Vince Lombardi

 

 

 

It’s not so hard as it seems, in fact, is much simpler than we think. The key is to do what we have to do in order to make it happen, that is the only way to get what we want. Whatever we are unhappy with our lives right now, complaining won’t change anything. Sometimes we can easily fix what is going wrong with our lives but sometimes it will require from us a bigger commitment, and sometimes the only way to improve our lives, to get what we want, and have the life we desire is to make a complete radical change. Start now, start today, and step by step create the life you want to experience. Everything is possible for those who dare to dream and are committed enough to make it happen!

 

 

 

 

Don’t give up, don’t give in, create the life you believe in. If you are really committed to change your life, there is nothing that can stop you!

Improve your Strategies for Better Outcomes

Some of the circumstances that happen in our life are inevitable, some of them are simply a matter of luck, and some of them are the product of our actions. Our life is not already written, but it is easy to think it is, because that way we disclaim ourselves from any responsibility and we blame destiny for being the cause of our hardships. The truth is we create our life with our own actions, and if the outcomes we are getting are not the desired ones, it is time to improve our life strategies.

 

 "If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten." - Anthony Robins better outcomes

 

 

If we keep thinking the same thoughts, if keep having the same feelings, if we keep making the same actions and having the same behaviors, we are going to keep getting what we have always got. The question now is: Are you getting the outcomes you expect to get? If the answer is yes, congratulations! You’re heading in the right direction! If the answer is no, you will need to change your strategies, and do something in a different way until you get the desired outcomes.

If we are not getting what we want is probably because something is not working as it should, something we are doing is not helping us to get the outcomes we expect. Normally we blame life, our family, time, money, or anything we can put our blame on for not getting the outcomes we want, but the truth is, in most cases we are the cause of our own failure. Therefore, if we want better outcomes, if we want to succeed we will have to change something in order to be successful, and stop doing the kind of things that has only gave us failure.

 

 

 

“Achieve success in any area of life by identifying the optimum strategies and repeating them until they become habits.” – Charles J. Givens

 

 

 

The first and most important thing we should know in order to succeed is to know that we do not depend on our environment to succeed, but in having the ability to not fall in the trap of remaining captive in that environment. That is to say, no matter where we are right now, and which our external circumstances, we can always create a better tomorrow, and the key to do that is not to surrender to our current circumstances, and take responsibility for our own life, and create with our own actions the life we truly want to experience, and take all the right actions in order to get the desired outcomes.

If you want something different, if you want a better outcome for your life you need to change your current actions and improve your strategies. What are you doing now that is giving you results? What are you doing that is not giving you the outcomes you want? What are you not doing that can help you get the outcomes you desire? What kind of strategies have you been using that haven’t given you the outcomes you expected? What can you do today to improve them? Think about those questions, determine what you want, and discover what you can do that will help you get the outcomes you want. Read, ask, learn, make mistakes, take risks, try once more, improve, improve and improve until you are successful, but never give up!

 

 

 

“The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself.” – Mark Caine

 

 

 

There is always something you can do better, there is always something that you can improve, do not limit yourself by thinking that is nothing else you can do, or that you can’t aspire for more, you have greatness within you, and you can achieve anything if you work hard, if you are persevering, and if you never surrender to any hardship. You can always grow, learn, improve, evolve and succeed. Learn from past mistakes, learn from other people’s mistakes, ask questions, learn new things, improve yourself, develop your potential, and do not stop until you get the outcomes you want to get.

 

 

 

 

If what you have been thinking, feeling and doing has not given you the outcomes you wish to get, it is time to improve your strategies. Do not be afraid to change, do not be afraid to try something new, do not be afraid of failure, remember that failure is only real when you give up! Change your strategies, and get the outcomes you want!

When Our World Trembles: Facing Changes

Changes are part of life and at some point in our lives we are going to face them. Changes are hard to digest even when we have been looking for them, the problem is we are afraid of changes because we fear the unknown, and when a change appears, our world trembles. Therefore, we are going to have two options: We can face them and dance at the rhythm of tremor, or hide and let the tremor bury us.

 

"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." - Alan Watts

 

Many times in our lives we are going to face different types of changes, some of them will be created by us and others will be created for us. The first ones are the easiest to digest, because most of them are the result of our own wishes, and they happened because we have let them happen, they are created by us, voluntarily, through our own decisions and actions, but the second ones are the ones that we do not look for, they suddenly appear, unexpectedly, without calling.

All changes destabilize us and make our world shake. The reason is because they force us to leave the shore and enter into unknown waters, they push us away from our comfort zone and destabilize us. But once we face them, we challenge them, and it’s in that moment when we ignite the spark that makes our heart burn, giving us power and strength to cope with the new changes in our lives and change our lives.

 

 

 

“All change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end.” – Robin Sharma

 

 

 

Changes are often inevitable, sometimes because there is no other option, there is no another alternative, there is no escape, and we cannot avoid them. They appear, they are real, and we can either accept them and succeed or fight an already lost battle. Why a lost battle? Because when an unexpectedly change has taken place we cannot avoid it, and the only way to walk out victorious is to keep moving forward. Resisting to changes will only lead us to defeat.

Therefore, whether we face a change we have created ourselves or an unexpectedly change, we have to accept it first, whether we like it or not, but this doesn’t mean we have to settle. If the new change is not to our liking, then we have to think the way to create the change that we do like to happen in our lives and make it happen. We cannot fight with the past; we cannot fight with what already happened, but we can do everything we can in order to create the future we want.

 

 

 

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” – Leon C. Megginson

 

 

 

The first and most important thing you will have to know in order to face any change in your life is that nothing will remain as it is. The world is constantly moving, and changes happen all the time. There will be those that we will create ourselves and those that will just happen without calling, but we must know that changes are in our favor and not against us. They may not look like that but in the end they will be a benefit for us if we give them the opportunity. Changes make us change, and that is the purpose of the changes that happen in our lives, because they make us grow, they make us stronger and develop the potential hidden in ourselves.

 

 

 

Let the changes happen, and face them with courage and confidence, knowing that you have the power to create the life you want. With faith in God, in yourself and in life, keep moving at the rhythm of your changes, close your eyes and keep on dancing!

Our Example: Our Legacy

It is known that words are the most basic and simple form of giving a message because the most powerful message is given by our example, and through it we can change everything for better or worse. Our example is our legacy, it makes the real difference in our world, therefore, what example are you going to give?

 

"Be the change you wish to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi #example #bethechange

 

An example knows no boundaries and knows no languages, it is the most powerful source of knowledge and education. It is through our example that we give the kind of message that will last in people’s minds. A person can take that example, and follow it or they can avoid them, and do the opposite, it is their decision, but is your responsibility to be the example you would like to see in them and in the world.

Day after day, we go through life complaining about the behaviours of others, we constantly criticize and judge others but we never look ourselves in the mirror. The truth is if we tried to be the example of person we would like to see in the world, every human being on this planet would be different, but the problem is we are more focused in changing others than changing ourselves in the first place, and the result is many critics, but few people who actually do something to change the world they live in.

 

 

“Setting an example is not the main means of influencing others; it is the only means.” – Albert Einstein

 

 

 

How can we pretend others act in the way we would like them to act if we are not capable of acting in the way we would like them to act? To make it simpler: How other people will act in a different way if you behave exactly as them? Your example is their example, and their example is your example, everything is connected. The funny thing is that we all consider ourselves as the preachers of truth, values, honesty, love, and morality, and so we go through life, teaching and preaching to others and judging and condemning them for their behaviours but we never stop and reflect about our own behaviours, because if we did that, we would realize how far is our example of being the kind of example we are always talking about.

Parents that fight in front of their children, parents who are dishonest between each other, parents who have bad habits, parents that are aggressive and disrespectful with their children, how can they pretend their kids to not be like them? Just saying things like do not do that, do not say that, do not behave like that? Of course not! They will have to be the example of person that they would like their children to be. Well the same happens everywhere. In churches, in schools, in universities, in work places, in politics, and in every single place of this world there have been people whose examples have helped to make this world a complete nightmare and at the same time there are people who their examples have helped to make this world a better place.

 

 

 

“People may doubt what you say, but they will believe what you do.” – Lewis Cass

 

 

The questions we should analyse now are: What example, that is to say, what message are we giving to the world? Are we being an example of love, kindness, compassion, honesty, respect and understanding or are we being an example of the opposite? Are we being the change we would like to see in the world or are we being the creators of our own destruction? What kind of example are we giving? What legacy are we leaving?

We have to learn something: Our criticism does not lead us anywhere, it does not change anything, but it is our good example what can change the whole world and if it cannot change the world at least will contribute to make this world a better place, and at least one person around you will learn from your example and it will adopt it as their own, and if we all do that, imagine what would happen. This world would definitely be what it was intended to be: A heaven on earth. Be an example not by being perfect, but just being the best version of yourself in every situation you can.

 

 

 

Do you want a better world? Fantastic! Now your first responsibility is to be the change you want to see in the world. Be an example to follow for those around you, for those you know and do not know, for those you love and those who don’t, for your friends and your enemies, this will be your legacy for the born and unborn. Be the source of love, values, kindness and loyalty and see how the world changes!

Our past doesn’t define who we are

Our past doesn’t define who we are, because we are not our past, but we are what we choose to be at this very moment. Somehow we have accepted the concept that our past define who we are, but the truth is that our past cannot define us, but we define ourselves through our behaviours and actions of our present.

 

"Do not give your past the power to define who you are." 

 

Our past doesn’t define us, because the past is gone. The only thing that is here is our present, and what we have chosen to be now is what really define us. In every sunrise, each new day, at any time, we have the opportunity to decide who we are going to be. If you let your past situations define you, if you let others define you, if your let your past behaviours, thoughts and actions define you, if you let external circumstances and things out of your control define you, you will become their slave, but if you decide to be the best version of yourself right here, right now, regardless your past and the person you used to be, then you will become free from any attachment with your old self, having the possibility to be your true self.

The problem is when we fail to be the person we really are by the thoughts and beliefs we have put in our minds about who we are, condemning ourselves to be the person who we are not, for the rest of our lives. There is no greater agony than the one you suffer when you start to believe that you are the person that deep inside your heart you know you are not, repressing and hiding your full potential.

 

 

 

“My past has not defined me, destroyed me, deterred me, or defeated me; it has only strengthened me.” – Steve Maraboli

 

 

 

But the worst issue of all is when people start to believe in the person you are not, because once they accept that person as your true self, they will categorize and define you, and the concept they create in their minds about you rarely changes, what makes everything more difficult for you. That is why the process to change yourself for a better you is not easy, because you must walk the path alone. You will have to face your own misconceptions about yourself, you will have to forgive yourself, forget others opinions about you, and then you will have to accept yourself as you really are and act upon it. The important thing is to believe in yourself, because you create your own destiny and not others, therefore, their opinions about you are absolutely useless.

We all have done and said things that we regret, but what is the point of regretting the person we used to be if that won’t change anything from our past? But what we can change is our present. The key is to embrace the person we used to be, because in a certain way that person shaped us, and released our true self. Our past has defined us, because in the way we acted, but now we define ourselves through our present actions and behaviours, the question is: Are we going to keep letting our past to define us by acting as in our past or are we going to redefine ourselves and act according to our true self?

 

 

 

 “Success in any endeavour depends on the degree to which it is an expression of your true self.” – Ralph Marston

 

 

 

We are not our past, we are not our past decisions, we are not our mistakes, we are not our past behaviours, but we are what we choose to be right now, and that is all that matters. The consequences of our past actions cannot be avoided, but we can avoid being the person we are not. We grow, we change, we evolve, and in that way we discover and create our true self, and that is success.

 

 

 

Nobody defines who we are, not even our past nor our old self, but we define ourselves. In this present moment we have the opportunity to decide and express our true self and release the greatness within us. Forgive yourself, accept your true self, love yourself, become the best version of yourself and change your life!

Take Full Responsibility For Your Life

We are all responsible for our own life, but we act as if someone else has control of our lives. The truth is most of the things that happen to us is for our actions or inactions, whatever we decide to do or not to do creates our reality. In order to live the life we want we must take full responsibility for our own life, doing everything we can to create what we would like to experience.

 

"Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else." -  Les Brown #takefullresponsibility

 

It is not an external factor that limits us from achieving what we would like to achieve – it is us. We limit ourselves with our own beliefs, with our daily thoughts, with the words we speak and with our behaviors and actions. We are constantly creating our future even if we are not aware of it. Everything we do and everything we cease to do determines our destiny.

The problem is that it’s easier to blame our past, our parents, our friends, our boss, our colleagues, our job, the time, the weather, the society, and the whole world for the life we have, because that way we do not feel responsible for our miserable life – we sit in our comfy chair with a cup of coffee and we put ourselves in the role where we always give our best performance – The victim role.

 

 

 

“The moment you accept responsibility for everything in your life is the moment you gain the power to changeanything in your life.” – Hal Elrod

 

 

 

And so we start blaming everyone and everything in our life, making them responsible for our failure. It sounds so convincing that we even start believing ourselves, and one day the victim role becomes part of us, and so we spend our entire life living as if we were victims of this evil and unjust world. And why do we do that? Because it’s easier to blame others and do nothing, than taking full responsibility for our life, doing everything we can, taking risk and accepting challenges to change our life circumstances.

When we take full responsibility for our life we blame only one person for being guilty of our failure – and that person is always us. The bad thing is that is always difficult and harmful for our ego to admit that we are responsible for most of the unpleasant situations that happened in our life – It is not your job responsible for your miserable life, you are responsible for not looking something better, it is not your teacher responsible for your failure, you are responsible for not having studied enough, it is not your family responsible for your lack of success, you are responsible for not pursuing your dreams. Can you see it? Most of the time we are responsible for our own misery, but it is always easier to make others responsible for it.

 

 

 

“The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them.” – Steve Maraboli

 

 

 

The good thing is when you take full responsibility for your life, you allow yourself to have control to change any unpleasant situation of your life by creating another different outcome – for instance when you have decided to stop smoking and now your health has increased, or when you have decided to leave the job that you hate to make your dreams a reality and now you live a happier life, or when you have decided to leave the toxic relationship in which you were in and now you have finally found peace. Can you see it? You have taken full responsibility for your life, and you made the right actions to create a better outcome.

We face difficulties in our lives where we have to deal with awful circumstances, but it depends on us if we are going to remain as a victim of our life circumstances, blaming life for being so unfair, condemning ourselves to a life of suffering, or if we are going to take full responsibility for our lives, doing everything we can to turn the negative into positive, creating a better future for ourselves.

 

 

 

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

 

 

 

Think about these questions: Is there something you are doing that you could do better to increase the probabilities to have the desired outcome? Is there something you are doing that you shouldn’t be doing to have the outcome you want? Is there something you are not doing that you should be doing?

 

 

The life you want is possible, the question is: Are you doing what you should be doing in order to get it? Take full responsibility for your life and live the life you have always wanted!