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A Wonderful Stroke of Luck

There are those moments throughout our lifetime when luck does not seem to be in our favor. The things we want are denied to us in a very brutal way and feelings of despair, sorrow, anger, and disappointment flood our heart. Suddenly we found ourselves lost standing in front of a brick wall in the middle of the road in the journey of our lives. The things we wanted, our desires and dreams have been taken away from us, the doors has been closed, and our hopes and illusions disappeared. Confused and upset we try to find the reason for our bad luck. We ask again and again, why? And the answer conspicuous by its absence, until now?…

 

 

"Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck." - Dalai Lama

 

 

Sometimes in our lives no matter what we do and how much we try to have the things we want, life insist to deny us the things we yearn, and as if in life everything were about luck, we consider ourselves to be in the group of those with the worst one, but what if I tell you that sometimes what it seems to be bad luck, is in fact, good luck? What if those moments of bad luck in our lives are what we need in order to get a better luck? What if those moments of bad luck are actually saving us from a worse luck? What if those moments are giving us the chance to have a better future? What if sometimes life has to deny us the things we want, in order for us to have better things?

The truth is, in many cases, what it seems to be bad luck, is only an opportunity in disguise, an opportunity to take another road, a better way, to develop ourselves, to improve, to evolve, to create those things that we really want, deserve and that will really take out the best version of ourselves, but it is true that when life snatches from us the possibility of getting what we desire, when life denies the opportunity to have the things we love, we feel nothing but pain, our heart tears apart, and we cannot find any reason enough as to justify such sacrifice. You keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason, but the truth is, for you that reason seems to be non-existent, hard to discover, or has no sense at all, and days keep passing and you keep yourself immerse in that sorrow that sinks you to the depths of darkness.

 

 

“You never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from.” – Cormac McCarthy

 

 

The truth is, that reason, eventually becomes visible.  The things that happen to us, the things that we were not able to get, are not a mere casualty, but it was meant to be that way, because life in fact, is not about luck, life is not a fortune wheel where some of us obtain better things than others, it may seem this way, but the truth is, we create our own luck, and if life doesn’t give to us something we want is because is giving us the chance to broaden our limitations, recreate ourselves anew, and become the source of our own luck.

If I look back into my past, some of the things that happened to me seemed first as bad luck, but now in the present, I see them as good luck. Why? Because from the point of my life where I am standing right now, looking back into my past, I can see that if I would never have had those moments of “bad luck” my life would be different from the one that I have now, and the things I have achieved so far, I wouldn’t have achieved them without those moment of “bad luck” I had in my past.

 

 

“Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.” – Steve Maraboli

 

 

You can be a victim of your own circumstances, you can accept that luck is not in your favor, and succumb to adversity, surrendering the control of your own life, becoming a slave of your “bad luck” and be at mercy of fate, or you can decide to recreate your story, knowing that any moment of “bad luck” hides within itself the opportunity to obtain a greater luck, because in the end, if we are patient, if we don’t lose hope, if we give life time to prove us wrong about our own luck, if we decide to move forward and reinvent ourselves to recreate our destiny, we will discover the reason for that previous bad luck and we will thank God and life for all those moments where we didn’t get what we want, because that put us to the edge, took us from our comfort zone, and made us discover a new path, a new way, a new life, a new version of ourselves.

 

 

 

Some doors are meant to be closed, some are closed that so we can find a way to open them again, and some are closed so that we can find the way to those that will lead us to something better. Trust that everything happens for a good reason, and your faith will help create the fact, and your commitment and perseverance will shape your destiny and create your own luck.

 

Life Goes On Like The Flowing River

Life is like a river, it is always flowing, it can flow slowly or it can flow quickly, it can change courses but nothing can stop the river from flowing. The same happens with life, there are no external circumstances that can stop it from flowing. One thing is sure: Life always goes on. We have different options: We can go with the flow and move on with life, we can stay still like a rock while life passes over us or we can fight against the current. Are you going to move on with life to a better future or will you stay stuck in that dark and hopeless place? You create your own luck, you create your future, you choose.

 

 

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No matter what happens in your life, it always goes on. According to Wikipedia the earth has 4.6 billion years but life on earth started a little bit later around 3.8 billion years ago, and humans has been on earth only a few hundred thousand of years ago. From the beginning there have been a lot of different circumstances that affected life on earth in many ways, but in one way or another it always managed to move on.

Since they are born humans go through a lot of different circumstances throughout their lives. Like a river faces different external conditions, so does life, and so we are exposed to many changes throughout our lives. These kind of changes have different impacts on a person’s life, it doesn’t really depend on the circumstance but it depends on the way a person reacts to that particular circumstance.

 

 

 

 

“When the pretty birds have flown, and you feel hurt and alone, be strong and carry on, and remember that life goes on.” – Mouloud Benzadi

 

 

 

 

In this beautiful and sometimes turbulent river called life there will be different situations along the way, sometimes the external conditions will be favorable for us and it will push us forward in the streams of life but sometimes they will not be favorable and like a very hard punch in the face it will hit us making us fall, and we are going to feel nothing but pain. But it will paralyze us? It will destroy us? The truth is there is no answer, because we determine the answer according to our reaction to what happened and our following actions. But is it possible to move on? Yes, definitely.

Whatever has happened to us there is no way we can go back to the past and change it. No matter how hard we fight with the current, we will never go back to the point we want to get in order to change something, therefore the only way we can do something to change our current situation is to move forward. Our present is the place where we create the foundations of our future. Every day of your life you can decide to start again.

 

 

 

 

“Accidents happen. Our bones shatter, our skin splits, our hearts break. We burn, we drown, we stay alive.” – Moïra Fowley-Doyle

 

 

 

 

We can fight with the current and end up being exhausted, we can refuse to move on, staying stuck in a miserable life forever or we can decide to move forward at the rhythm of the current. Life always goes on and we have the power to decide what to do with our own lives. Are we going to let an external situation whatever it is to define us? To paralyze us? To destroy us and all our goals and dreams? Or are we going to be the creators of our destiny believing in God, believing in ourselves? We decide. Life with or without us will go on.

Nothing will remain as it is, life flows like a river, it changes, it evolves. It always goes on, and if we move forward with it, no matter how dark it is at the moment, always remember that the sun never disappears, it only hides, and sooner or later the bright of a sunny morning will come through your window.

 

 

 

 

Leave the past, live the present, create your future and always move forward in the direction of your dreams!  

 

Becoming the Person You Were Meant to Be

Most of the time we give up on life, refusing to become the person we are capable of becoming either because we think that we have miss the opportunity to do so or because we do not believe we can aspire more. We condemn ourselves to live the rest of our lives being the person we are not, believing that we would never become the person we were meant to be for any reason we may have, but the truth is it is never too late to become the person we were meant to be.

 

 "It is never too late to be what you might have been."

 

 

Some people know from the very beginning of their lives what they want to do and who they want to become, and they do everything they can in order to become the person they want to become. Some succeed at it, others are still trying. Some people didn’t know what they wanted to and who they wanted to become, and suddenly, magically they realized what they wanted to do, and who they wanted to become, and they did everything in order to achieve it. Some of them succeed at it, some are still trying.

Then there are those people who don’t know at all what they want to do and who they want to become, but they never give up, they never settle, then there are those who may know what they want or not at all but they gave up, they accepted life as it was presented to them, living a life they don’t want, being the person they are not. They refused to keep trying, condemning themselves to a life of failure.

 

 

 

“The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself.” – Mark Caine

 

 

 

I always thought that I was a complete failure; a few years ago I realized I was not. When I was a teenager my life was kind of a disaster. I never fitted in, and I hated myself for that. I was never the kind of girl with lots of friends at school, in fact, I was the one everyone laughed at. I wasn’t the cool kid, the pretty one, the badass or the smart one; I was the shy girl, always sitting in the back of the classroom, crying always in silence. I had no friends, my grades at school were a disaster, my relationship with my family was a complete mess, and the relationship with myself was terrible. I was my worst enemy. I blamed myself for not being capable of being the person that everyone was expecting me to be, always trying to be, always failing at it.

I didn’t know at all what I wanted to do or who I wanted to become, and if I had a small idea, I always destroyed it quickly, simply because I thought I wasn’t good enough, I believed I was a failure, but I wasn’t. I was being the person I needed to be, because that person shaped the person I am now. Today, after 27 years I can say that now I know what I want and who I want to become. I might not be there yet, but oh man, one lesson I had from life is: “Never give up, you never know what you can miss if you do, and if you give life a chance, it will surprise you.”

 

 

 

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” – E.E. Cumings

 

 

 

I’m not the only one who has waited many years to realize their purpose, and I’m not the only one who is fighting to achieve it. There have been many people that didn’t find success until they were “old” for this society, that the older you are the obsolete you become. That’s bullshit, there is no right time to become the person you meant to be. The first important thing is to believe in yourself, know that you are capable of becoming anything you want, secondly discover your life purpose, and third do everything you can in order to achieve it. Do not worry about time, do not let it stop you.

If you still think that you are not capable of being the person you were meant to be for whatever reason you may have, I will show you a few examples of people who they were doing something completely different before becoming the person they were meant to be. A few examples:

 

At age 23, Oprah was fired from her first reporting job.

At age 24, Stephen King was working as a janitor and living in a trailer.

At age 27, Vincent Van Gogh failed as a missionary and decided to go to art school.

At age 28, J.K. Rowling was a suicidal single parent living on welfare.

At age 30, Harrison Ford was a carpenter.

At age 30, Martha Stewart was a stockbroker.

Samuel L. Jackson didn’t get his first movie role until he was 41.

Morgan Freeman landed his first MAJOR movie role at age 52.

 

And there are many other examples out there, just take a look at them, and then think again if it’s really too late to be the person you were meant to be.

 

 

 

“You are never too old to set another goal, or to dream a new dream.” – C.S. Lewis

 

 

 

Some people inherit success, others have to work hard to achieve it, but what really determines one’s success, is the ability to discover the reason of our existence, and live our life according to it. Being the best version of ourselves, doing what we love is the key to a fulfilled life. Do not settle with a life that is less than you deserve, it doesn’t matter where you are, who you are with, what you are doing, you can always become the person you truly want to become, do not let anyone say otherwise.

 

 

 

 

If you haven’t discovered what you want and who you want to become, don’t worry, if you don’t give up, sooner or later you will discover it. If you already know that but you feel you are far from achieving it, don’t worry, time is an illusion, if you don’t give up, sooner or later success will knock at your door.

No Risk, No Win

On the way to make our goals and dreams become a reality we will have to face many risks. Every goal and every dream involves a risk. The decision whether to take certain risks or not will determine either our victory or our defeat. Risks are merely challenges that can push us closer to our dreams. So, are you ready to take the necessary risks and make your dreams become a reality?

 

 "It seems to be a law of nature, inflexible and inexorable, that those who will not risk cannot win." - John Paul Jones

 

 

Life itself is a risk; since we are born we face many risks. When we are kids we take risks all the time, even when we are afraid of the unknown we take risks in order to discover, learn and grow, and once we discover what we can achieve by taking risks, we become unstoppable risk takers. The problem when we grow up is that our risks become bigger, and with that our fears become greater, which most of the time paralyzes us, and that is the moment when we cease to move forward in the direction of our dreams, giving up the life we have always wanted.

Risks are scary, and that is the reason why we prefer to avoid them. The truth is we take risks all the time, even without knowing it. The simple act of getting out of bed involves a risk. Every action we take, in a greater or lesser extent, involves a risk. The problem is that our fears are directly proportional to the magnitude of our risks, and when the risk we have to face is enormous, our fears always ends up winning the battle, and all our desires broken into pieces are buried into oblivion.

 

 

 

“The biggest risk is not taking any risk… In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” – Mark Zuckerberg

 

 

Therefore, in order to make our goals and dreams become a reality we will have to take every necessary risk. But, does that mean we should take any risk possible? Well, the answer will depend in our goals and dreams and the type of risk we must take in order to achieve them. If what we can gain by taking a certain risk is higher than what we can lose, then we should go ahead and take it, but if we can lose more than we can win then we should think twice before taking that risk.

The key is to think first, and analyze all the odds. If they are more in your favor than against you, you should try and take the risk, and if you win, you will either make your dream become a reality, or you will be one step closer from achieving it. And in the case that you lose, you will not lose much, and you can always start again and try to do something in a different way in the future.

 

 

 

“He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.” – Muhammad Ali

 

 

For example: If you want a better life for your family, and you go and bet everything you have in the roulette, it is very likely that you will end losing everything. In this case it is better to not take that particular risk and try a different option. But if you have a better job offer in a different company in a different city, and you are afraid of starting a new life but you really want something better for your family, then you should go ahead and take the risk. In the end, what you can lose will be less than what you will earn even if that risk doesn’t work well for you.

That is why risks are so important, because they are great teachers. They teach us something we didn’t know about ourselves, they teach us to do something we didn’t know before, they teach us to act in a different way, they make us grow, they make us wise, they make us believe, they open doors that were closed and make our dreams and goals become a reality.

 

 

 

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far it is possible to go.” T.S. Eliot

 

 

 

Therefore, if you want to change your life, if you want to achieve a certain goal or make a dream become a reality you will have to take all the necessary steps and take all those risks, where the odds are highly in your favor. Take your time to think about the risk you have to take, analyze the odds, but do not let your mind focus on what can go wrong, but in what can go well. If that dream you have, if that goal you have is what you really want, and if it will be for your own good, the odds will always be in your favor, so don’t think it too much, just take the risk and win!

 

 

 

Are the chances of having a positive outcome high? Could you win more than you can lose if you take the risk? If the answer yes, do not think it again, do not let your fears interfere with your dreams and with confidence just go ahead and take the risk!

A New Year: Hundreds of New Opportunities

Why the New Year is a motive to celebrate? Because life will give us 365 new opportunities to enjoy life and be happy, that is why in this time of the year our hearts are filled with dreams, desires and hope. Deep inside our hearts, we believe that this one could be the year where we can do everything we have always wanted to do, making our dreams and goals become a reality, and that is in fact true. The question will be: Are you 100% committed to give your best this year? The answer will determine your future.

 

"Tomorrow, is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one." - Brad Paisley 

 At 00:00 am on the first day of the year, we raise our glasses and make a toast for the New Year, and with joy we look into the future with hope. We remember the year that is gone but we look forward to the next year. Most of us think about all the things we wanted to do that we haven’t done in the last year and we wish that this year we can do all the things we have always wanted to do. That is the spirit of this time of the year, the spirit of believing that everything is possible.

The problem is that after a few days, that spirit is overshadowed by our daily routine, worries, fears and problems, and once again we leave aside all our goals, desires and dreams. Therefore, we leave everything to chance and when that happens there is a large percentage of probabilities that we are not going to do most of the things we wanted to do. That means, that we sabotage our own life, forbidding us to live the life of our dreams.

 

 

 

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney

 

 

 

The truth is we do not know all the things that will happen to us, but that doesn’t mean we should leave everything to chance, but we should do everything we can in order to create the kind of life that will bring us the greatest joy and happiness. Therefore, we must use these days to reflect about the year that is ending, that way we can welcome the New Year more prepared, being the creators of our future and not simply gambling about our life. It is important to know that we are where we are now because we wanted that way, therefore, if we want a different outcome, we should do something in a different way.

Let’s take this time to relax and reflect about this year. Have you done most of the things you have always wanted? Have you reached most of your goals? Have you invested most of the time in yourself? Have you been most of the time happy and joyful? What could you have done different? Have you learned something new? Have you grown up as a person? Are you happy with the person you have been? Have you worked hard in order to be a few step closer from your dream? Have you truly enjoyed your life? My friend, that is the most important question of all, so I will write it one more time: Have you truly enjoyed your life?

 

 

 

“Change your life today. Don’t gamble on the future, act now, without delay.” – Simone de Beauvoir

 

 

 

That is important, because no matter what happened, if you have been able to enjoy your life, that is all that matters. Life is meant to be happy with its good and bad things. The good things are the best but the bad things are lessons, opportunities and tests that life gives us in order to take out the best of ourselves. Think about all those questions, take your time to relax and reflect and then leave the past, forget what doesn’t serve you, remember the lessons, learn from your mistakes and keep all the good things from this year, and with hope and confidence move into this new year with joy.

Once we finish, we must focus on the year that is about to arrive, and the most important question will be: What do you really want to happen to you this year?  Once you know the answer, think about these questions: What can you do now to improve your future? What can you do this year to get closer to your dreams? Which is the first step? What can you do in order to become the best version of yourself? Think about the things that make you happy and then go out and make it happen. Think about them and write them, and take the actions that will make everything possible.

 

 

 

There is no right time, the time is always now. The good thing is that it doesn’t really matter in what time of the year we are, because every new day is a new opportunity to do the things we always wanted to do and be happy. There is no time to waste, time flies, time is limited, so go out and make this year a wonderful year!

Small Steps Lead to Success

In order to achieve any goal and dream we must take small steps each day, because those are the ones that will lead us to success.  In a previous post, I wrote about the importance of taking the first step. The first step is decisive, and every step we make afterwards will lead us to the place where we want to be. We can make all our dreams and desire a reality, one step at a time.

 

"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." - Robert Collier

 

The key to achieving our goals lies in the small steps we make each day. The amounts of steps we will have to take in order to achieve our goal will depend in the magnitude of our goal. The problem is that sometimes our dreams and goals are so big that is easy to get overwhelmed with all the things we have to do in order to achieve them, and it is in that moment when we give up.

If most people fail to achieve their goals is not because life is unfair and only benefits a few, but they fail because they have refused to take the necessary steps in order to reach their goals. The difference between those who are successful and those who are not is not luck but commitment. It is true that for some people things are easier than for others, but that can’t be used as excuse for giving up, instead it can be used as motivation to keep moving forward, one step at a time.

 

 

 

Every day do something that will inch you closer to a better tomorrow.” – Doug Firebaugh

 

 

 

Therefore, the most important thing we can do after we have decided to take the first step toward our goal is to divide that goal in small steps. Let’s imagine as an example that your goal for the next 2 months is to get a job. Therefore, in order to achieve that goal, you will have to follow a few different steps: Write your resume, send it to different companies, prepare yourself for interviews, and so on. Some of them will be easier than others, and sometimes you will have to repeat one of the steps one more time because it didn’t go well the first try, but if you don’t give up sooner or later you will achieve your goal.

Well, we can say that every goal works in the same way as that example. We will have more goals, smaller and harder than the one in the example, but they will all be possible.  Therefore, the best we can do in order to achieve our goals is to divide that goal in small steps, or in more achievable goals. Those small goals will seem more possible to achieve, what will give us the idea that we can make it, and once we do that, we will be one step closer from our biggest goal.

 

 

 

“Know what you want to do, hold the thought firmly, and do every day what should be done, and every sunset will see you that much nearer to your goal.” – Elbert Hubbard

 

 

 

What will happen when we achieve one of those small goals is that we will feel good because our brain will not know the difference between one goal or another, therefore, every victory, no matter how small or big will flood our mind and body with positive emotions, what will make us feel better about ourselves, creating in our mind the belief that we can make it, and if we believe that we are capable of achieving anything we want, then there is nothing that can stop us from doing so.

Here we have another example: Let’s say that you want to lose weight, and your goal is to lose 10 kg, you can divide that big goal in small steps or even in small goals. For example, you can start by losing 1 kilo in 1 week. That is a more achievable goal and more easy to do, what will prevent you from being overwhelmed about the idea of having to lose 10 kg. Once you have a new and smaller goal you can set up all the steps you must take in order to achieve it, and step by step you will reach that goal. And as a result you will be one step closer to your goal. You can continue step by step achieving those small goals, until you finally achieve your desired goal.

 

 

 

The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” – Chinese Proverb

 

 

 

Those little steps are the ones that will lead us to success. Therefore, you should ask yourself the following questions: What is your biggest goal? Have you taken the first step? What are the steps you should take in order to achieve your goal? If you goal is big enough, is it possible to divide your goal in smaller and more achievable goals? Which steps can you take in order to achieve that new goal? What can you do next in order to be one step closer from your goal?

 

 

 

I encourage you to take a paper and a pen and write your goal. Therefore, you will be able to write the steps you will have to take in order to achieve that goal. Focus in the first step, and then continue with the next one, and step by step you will achieve your goals!

Every Ending is Always a New Beginning

Every ending is always a new beginning. When something ends, something new begins and a new beginning is always a new opportunity. Learning to see the end of something as an opportunity rather than a punishment would help to change our whole life experience in the moment when we begin a new chapter in our lives.

 "There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." - C.S. Lewis #new #beginning

 

Every ending that I have experienced in my life was because something better was coming. If my life had never been full with endings and changes, everything that I have experienced in my life would have never happened. I am where I am now because something in my past have changed. Something that has ended in my past has allowed me to have new opportunities and challenges in my life, and the outcomes I got were always positive.

If you look into your past, everything that has ended has allowed you to be where you are now. In my case many things have ended: relationships, jobs, working visas, and those endings had led me to the place I am now. The life that I have is the result of many endings. Every single new opportunity and new challenge that I have experienced was possible because an ending had taken place in my past.

 

 

 

“For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.” – Romans 8:18

 

 

 

The problem is we normally see the end of something as the end of everything, especially when we were not looking for that ending. In those moments when something ends, it is very difficult to see a new beginning. For instance, when a relationship ends, we normally do not see that as a new beginning or as a new opportunity, we see that as a painful ending, and the sorrow and frustration we feel in our hearts in those cases consume our spirit, making it impossible for us to see that as new beginning.

Endings are most of the time very difficult to accept, even if we were looking for that ending, because it is always hard to start again. Some endings are easier to digest and other endings are so painful that tears our heart apart. Those kind of endings paralyzes our world, and nothing in our lives seems to make sense. But there is always a reason why things happen in the way they happened. Every ending, no matter how hard it is, it is always a new opportunity in disguise.

 

 

 

“New Beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.” – Lao Tzu

 

 

 

But how can we see an ending as a new beginning? How can we see an opportunity between so much sorrow, frustration and uncertainty? The answer is: by living in the present. There is no other way we can live. The past is gone and the future has not arrived yet. The only place where we can truly live is in our present. Therefore, we must focus all our energies not in trying to change our past but to focus all our energy in creating our present moment. This very moment is all we have, therefore, we must focus our mind in the things we would like to experience in our life rather in what we do not want. We cannot change what happened, but we can change how we experience what is going on in our present moment. This way, we would be able to see the opportunities that we were missing by only focusing in what is gone.

When something ends, something new begins. We must remember than when a door closes, others open. When a chapter ends, another begins, and is in our own hands the possibility to write a new and most wonderful story. Therefore, we must focus not in the old chapter, that has already been written, and we cannot change it, but we can always write a new one. This new chapter, this blank paper is our new opportunity, and we can create anything we want. We are the creators of our own destiny.

 

 

 

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Dan Millman

 

 

 

An ending is always a new beginning. Therefore, we have the opportunity to start again. We must let go of what is gone, to allow in our life what is waiting for us. Life is always changing, and that is what makes this life to be so rich and wonderful. Today you can make two decisions: You can decide to live tied to an end, living in your past with sorrow and pain, or you can decide to let go of what is gone and start a new life. You can choose to live in your present, and use it as a canvas to create the life that will bring you happiness and joy.

 

 

Trust life and believe that better things are coming. Embrace the end as a new beginning, and with faith and confidence keep moving in the direction of your dreams!

Visualization: A Great Tool for Success

Visualization is a mental process that makes real our deepest dreams and goals through our imagination, that is to say, it pictures in our minds what we would like to achieve in our outside world. Visualization creates in our own minds the life of our dreams, and if we are able to achieve it in our own minds, we can achieve it in our real life.

 "Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere." - Albert Einstein #visualization

 

Visualization is more powerful than we think, because it actually helps us to create the positive outcomes we would like to achieve in our lives. When you are able to see in your mind your dreams and goals as something that already happen, you are able to create the life of your dreams and make everything a reality. Visualization is not only a way of dreaming, but it is a way of making your dreams and goals come true.

Every successful person has used the tool of visualization either consciously or unconsciously. For instance, visualization is very used in sports, many athletes have visualized themselves as having already achieved the positive outcomes they would like to achieve in the real life. Day after day these people imagine themselves as already being victorious, they constantly visualize in their minds the victory, they see it, they feel it as if they already were in that glorious moment, and that together with training, commitment and perseverance is what makes them achieve in their life the outcomes they already imagine in their own minds. For example, the boxing legend Muhammad Ali was always aware of the importance of visualization. He always pictured himself as being victorious before every fight.

 

 

 

“Champions aren’t made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them-a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill, and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill.” – Muhammad Ali

 

 

 

When we visualize something, we are able to see it as real in our mind, and when we are able to see something then we are able to believe in it. It is proved that our brain cannot see the difference between a visualized image and reality, that is why when we think about something that we would like to happen, we feel the emotions and feelings as if it were already real.  That is why visualization is so powerful, because it makes already real that we haven’t experienced in our physical world yet.

Visualization is not magic, it is not like you will imagine something with your eyes closed, and when you open your eyes it will already be there, but visualization is a great tool that you can use together with commitment and perseverance to succeed. When you visualize, your brain understands what you imagine as already being real and then it gives you the right emotions, feelings and beliefs what will help to form your habits and behaviours. Therefore, visualization will help you develop the right habits, skills, and behaviours in order to make your dreams and goals become a reality in your outside world.

 

 

 

“Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will.” – George Bernard Shaw

 

 

There is a good example of visualization that always inspire me: The actor Jim Carrey used the power of visualization when he was struggling to become an actor, he wrote himself a check for the amount of $10 million for “his acting service rendered” and years later he got the same amount for his role in Dumb and Dumber. That’s amazing, isn’t it? That is what happens when you hold in your mind the greatest vision about yourself and your life. When you visualize your dream, every time you can, and you do everything you can in order to achieve your goals and dreams, miracles occur. In my case, when I was younger, I always imagine myself living in another country, travelling around the world. I always closed my eyes and felt what was it to be living in a different country, and years later here I am living in a third country, and about to move to my fourth.

So we can say that visualization makes everything possible, it not only pictures in your mind your deepest goals and dreams, but it lets your brain know that those things are possible and real, and your brain provides you with beliefs of success, and that gives you the emotions as if you were already living your dream, and those emotions motivates you to become the best version of yourself, and that way you adopt the right habits and behaviours to make your dreams come true. This way we can see what a great tool visualization is.

 

 

 

Visualize your goals and dreams with all your heart, imagine yourself as already having achieved your goals and dreams, see every detail, caresses the glory, savour every victory and wait for the miracle!

Our past doesn’t define who we are

Our past doesn’t define who we are, because we are not our past, but we are what we choose to be at this very moment. Somehow we have accepted the concept that our past define who we are, but the truth is that our past cannot define us, but we define ourselves through our behaviours and actions of our present.

 

"Do not give your past the power to define who you are." 

 

Our past doesn’t define us, because the past is gone. The only thing that is here is our present, and what we have chosen to be now is what really define us. In every sunrise, each new day, at any time, we have the opportunity to decide who we are going to be. If you let your past situations define you, if you let others define you, if your let your past behaviours, thoughts and actions define you, if you let external circumstances and things out of your control define you, you will become their slave, but if you decide to be the best version of yourself right here, right now, regardless your past and the person you used to be, then you will become free from any attachment with your old self, having the possibility to be your true self.

The problem is when we fail to be the person we really are by the thoughts and beliefs we have put in our minds about who we are, condemning ourselves to be the person who we are not, for the rest of our lives. There is no greater agony than the one you suffer when you start to believe that you are the person that deep inside your heart you know you are not, repressing and hiding your full potential.

 

 

 

“My past has not defined me, destroyed me, deterred me, or defeated me; it has only strengthened me.” – Steve Maraboli

 

 

 

But the worst issue of all is when people start to believe in the person you are not, because once they accept that person as your true self, they will categorize and define you, and the concept they create in their minds about you rarely changes, what makes everything more difficult for you. That is why the process to change yourself for a better you is not easy, because you must walk the path alone. You will have to face your own misconceptions about yourself, you will have to forgive yourself, forget others opinions about you, and then you will have to accept yourself as you really are and act upon it. The important thing is to believe in yourself, because you create your own destiny and not others, therefore, their opinions about you are absolutely useless.

We all have done and said things that we regret, but what is the point of regretting the person we used to be if that won’t change anything from our past? But what we can change is our present. The key is to embrace the person we used to be, because in a certain way that person shaped us, and released our true self. Our past has defined us, because in the way we acted, but now we define ourselves through our present actions and behaviours, the question is: Are we going to keep letting our past to define us by acting as in our past or are we going to redefine ourselves and act according to our true self?

 

 

 

 “Success in any endeavour depends on the degree to which it is an expression of your true self.” – Ralph Marston

 

 

 

We are not our past, we are not our past decisions, we are not our mistakes, we are not our past behaviours, but we are what we choose to be right now, and that is all that matters. The consequences of our past actions cannot be avoided, but we can avoid being the person we are not. We grow, we change, we evolve, and in that way we discover and create our true self, and that is success.

 

 

 

Nobody defines who we are, not even our past nor our old self, but we define ourselves. In this present moment we have the opportunity to decide and express our true self and release the greatness within us. Forgive yourself, accept your true self, love yourself, become the best version of yourself and change your life!

Take the First Step

In order to reach our destination, we must begin the journey by taking the first step. Any victory depends on that first step. It is the first action, the first move, the first try, what can lead us to the place where we want to get. That first step makes everything possible and our following actions make it all come true.

 "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." - Lao Tzu

 

Let’s analyse this: Everyone wants to win the jackpot, but how many of us actually goes and buy the ticket? The truth is that only a few of us do that, but why? The reason is simple: Our thoughts and beliefs creates boundaries between our dreams and our reality. We dream but believe they are impossible or too difficult to become a reality, so we give up even before trying.

If you believe that the chances of winning are almost zero it is very likely that you are not going to buy the ticket, so you are not even going to try, or you will try, and if you don’t win, you will use that as a way to prove that you were right about that winning was impossible, and you will finally give up. You can see here that the first step is crucial as it determines everything.

 

 

 

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt

 

 

 

But why the first step is so crucial? How is it possible that it can determine everything? Simple. There are two different outcomes that makes the first step so vital: If we decide to not take that first step, we decide to lose by default. But if we take that first step, it means that we are in the correct way to make our dreams become a reality. If we continue to move forward, step by step, not giving up, overcoming adversity, with perseverance, commitment and faith, it is likely that we reach the desired destination.

Therefore, the first step will be to buy the ticket. What I mean here is that we have to believe in our dreams and go out and make them happen. In order to make your dreams and goals become a reality, you will have to take the first action that will get you closer to the place where you want to be. The first step will determine whether your dream will remain a dream or if it will become true.

 

 

 

“Take the first step, and your mind will mobilize all its forces to your aid. But the first essential is that you begin. Once the battle is startled, all that is within and without you will come to your assistance.” – Robert Collier

 

 

 

No dream will become a reality if we do not take actions. It is beautiful to dream, but what is hard is to take actions to make them a reality. You are not going to win the jackpot if you don’t buy the ticket, that is to say, you are not going to get to the place where you want to be, or get what you want to have if you don’t take the first step. It is our decision to act what creates our destiny and it is our inaction what leaves everything to chance.

If you want to be a doctor, an engineer, a lawyer, a graphic designer, or whatever you want to be, you will have to take the first step and enrol in the university. If you want to learn a new language, you will have to take the first step and look for a course in your city or online. If you want to lose weight you will have to take the first step and make the decision to change your diet. If you hate your job and you want another, you will have to take the first step and find another one. If you want to be a professional athlete, you will have to go and train. If you want to quit smoking, you will have to decide to smoke less cigarettes a day or not buy any more cigarettes. There is always a first step that makes what we wish and dream more real.

 

 

 

 “The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and starting on the first one.” – Mark Twain

 

 

 

It is the first step what get us closer to our dream, and it is our perseverance and commitment to make it happen what makes it all possible. Every single person who has been successful at doing or getting something has once decided to take the first step and then work until they succeeded.  So, what is your dream? What do you want to do? Who do you want to be? What do you want to get? Where do you want to get? If you know the answers to those questions it means that the moment to start is right now. The key is to do step by step what we should do in order to achieve what we want. We have to make the decision to take the first step and start changing our lives.

 

 

My question now is: Have you taken the first step? If you have done it, congratulations! You are one step closer to your goal, keep moving and don’t give up, and if you haven’t done it yet, go ahead and fearlessly take the first step