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The Battle Between Us and Our Past

Sometimes in a person’s life, a battle takes place between him and his past. This battle occurs in that person’s present. The past controls and conditions its present, and the person becomes the victim of its past, and his whole life is covered with suffering. But is the past the true cause of suffering? If this battle is real, how can we win?

 

 

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Imagine with me for a moment that we are witnessing a trial, a fictional trial. Today the court is going to dictate the sentence. The victim is a woman, and the defendant its past. The woman accused it for destroying her life. According to her, everything that happened to her and every person involved in her past have caused a permanent damage in her life. She expressed that her present has been conditioned by the things that happened or didn’t happened and by the persons that caused them. She claimed that her past is the first and only cause of all suffering she experiences in her present.

The trial takes place, and after several hours of debate, it is time for the verdict. After reviewing the case very carefully, the court makes a decision. The defendant is exonerated from all charges and the victim is found guilty and it is convicted to a life in prison, with the exemption that she will not be behind the bars, but she will be attached to the defendant, her past, for the rest of her life. Having a life of misery and despair.

 

 

 

 

“Too often, we carry around those things from our past that hurt us the most. Don’t let past pain rob you of your present happiness. You had to live through it in the past, and that cannot be changed, but if the only place it lives today is in your mind, then forgive, let go, and be free.” – Doe Zantamata

 

 

 

 

In this trial, the past is accused of causing suffering and permanent damage in this woman’s present. Then, why it is exonerated from all charges? How come the victim is declared guilty and the accused innocent? Because they are not judging situations, experiences and people of her past, they are judging it for causing pain in her present, and for the court the only cause of suffering of this woman in her present is herself, for the past itself can’t cause suffering in a place where it doesn’t exist, and it cease to exist in the present, the only one who can keep the past alive in the present is oneself in one’s mind, therefore, if we remain attached to it in our present, we are guilty of our present suffering.

When we become victims of our past, we immediately condemn ourselves to a life in prison. When we refuse to let it go by remaining attached to it, we take the role of victims, and in the end, the only thing we get is more and more suffering. The truth is, we cannot change what happened, no matter how painful it might have been, but we can change our present. We can decide to let go of the past, quitting the role of victims, and releasing ourselves from the hard sentence.

 

 

 

“Today is a new day. Don’t let your history interfere with your destiny! Let today be the day you stop being a victim of your circumstances and start taking action towards the life you want. You have the power and the time to shape your life. Break free from the poisonous victim mentality and embrace the truth of your greatness. You were not meant for a mundane or mediocre life!” – Steve Maraboli

 

 

 

 

Our past may have been our worst nightmare, we may have suffered, things in our past may have damaged us, people may have hurt us, and we can have all the right to feel victims, but by being a victim with all our resentment and hate we are not going to change what happened, nor we are going to feel better, but slowly and painfully those feelings will consume our own souls. Our past might never be of our liking, and maybe we will never overcome all the things that happened to us, but if we do not cease to be its victims, if we do not let it go, we will carry it as a burden in our backs, condemning ourselves to a life of misery.

It is a hard battle the one that is carried out between you and your past, but the victory is possible. To obtain it, to finally defeat it, there is a few things you need to do, but the first thing is to stop fighting with it. Let it go, accept it, forgive, let go of resentment, learn, those are useful things you can do to cease with your suffering. End this useless battle, and take back the control of your feelings, emotions and your entire life.

 

 

 

 

 

Stop being a victim of your past, letting it go, cutting all attachments to it, cleansing your body, soul and mind from all resentment, and starting again, only then you will heal your heart, end with all suffering and you will become free to start a new life!

The Story of The Two Wolves: The Battle Within

There are two wolves who are always fighting. One is darkness and despair, and the other is light and hope. The question is: which wolf wins?

 

 

"Some of the greatest battles will be fought within the silent chambers of your own soul.” - Ezra Taft Benson

 

 

The answer is: The one you feed. This is a great quote from a movie I saw a couple of days ago: Tomorrowland, which has a very inspirational and beautiful message, but it is in fact a Native American Cherokee story, and I would like to share it with you, please read it carefully, the message is wonderful, believe me, you won’t regret it:

 

 

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life.

He said,My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all

“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

 

 

A beautiful story, isn’t it? It has within a powerful message that teaches us one thing: We decide. It is up to us to decide which of the wolves we will feed. It doesn’t depend on anyone except ourselves. The story reminds us that we all have a great power within us: The power to decide who we are, what gives us the control of our own feelings, emotions and behaviours.

There are two wolves, there are two of us, they are opposites but equals at the same time, they fight and in the end they become one, and in that moment one of the two wolves’ wins, and the one who wins is the one who we have decided to become. In any given moment we have the chance to decide which wolf is going to win the battle, our external circumstances together with any person we meet along the way will help one of the wolves, but in the end we are the ones who decide who wins. The one who wins more battles, that is to say, the one who we have fed more will win the fight. The question is: Which of them are you going to let win?

 

 

 

“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.” – Stephen R. Covey

 

 

 

The first and most important question you should ask yourself is: Who am I? – Which wolf do you think you are? With which one you identify yourself with? Which wolf represents your true self? Once you discover the answers to those questions, you will decide which wolf will you feed, and that is the most important thing that can happen to us: To know who we really are and act according to our true self, being the best version of ourselves.

Every single day of your life, in different situations, you will always have the power to decide: Am I going to feed today the “bad” wolf or the “good” wolf? Am I going to be my true self or am I going to be who I’m not? Am I going to let external situations to control my feelings, emotions and behaviors or am I going to act as my true self? The decision is yours, and that of course is the difficult part to accept, because it’s much easier to blame others for our behaviors rather than having full responsibility for what we believe, think, speak and do. But always remember that it doesn’t matter who you were yesterday, what really matters from now on is who you choose to be right now. Your past situations do not define you, because it is you who define yourself, it is you who has the power to decide now who you really are.

 

 

 

“Who are you now? Who have you decided you really are now? Don’t think about who you have been. Who are you now? Who have you decided to become? Make this decision consciously. Make it carefully. Make it powerfully.” – Tony Robbins

 

 

 

Let’s take just a couple of minutes to think. Think about the last few days, which wolf do you think you have been feeding? How do you feel about that? If your life is full of happiness, joy, peace, if you believe, dream and wish, if you feel happy even when your life is not going 100% the way you wanted, then probably you have been feeding the right wolf because you have decided to feel that way even though your external circumstances gave you a lot of resources to help you feed the other wolf. Can you see? You have the control at any moment to decide which wolf you are going to feed, and when we have the control, we are free, and we are no longer vulnerable to external circumstances.

 

 

Two wolves, one decision, you choose, the power is within you. Your actions will define yourself and will create your destiny. Therefore, which wolf are you going to feed today?