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Great Spirits Will Always Encounter Fierce Opposition

We constantly live our lives fighting a battle between who we really and who we are supposed to be. We were taught that in order to be successful we must belong and fit in this society. The truth is, when we deny our true identity, even if we had success and we were accepted by the majority, we will fail, but when we rise and declare who we really are and we face our doubts, fears, criticism and opposition courageously in the name of our highest ideals and values, and dare to be our true self and live our purpose nobody can ever limit us nor stop us and that is one of the keys to success.

 

 

 

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds." - Albert Einstein

 

 

 

One of the easiest ways to avoid criticism and opposition and be accepted is to remain in the side of the majority, thus, say what the say, do what they say, and behave as they behave. Refuse to be yourself and the person you think you are, and become the stereotype of perfection imposed by society.  The weirdos, the crazy ones, the unconventional human beings, those who think differently, those who don’t fit in, those who dream big, those who are constantly looking to improve themselves and be better persons are always marginalized and encounter a violent opposition.

However, if you want to make an impact, if you want to become a revolutionary, if you want to change the world, or if you simply want to be yourself and not being the perfect stereotype of person imposed by society, you need to be willing to separate yourself from some people and get ready to face opposition. In order to push the human race forward one must be willing to break the rules and refuse to accept the status quo. Therefore, evolution is the daily sum of revolutionary acts which challenges what is established and accepted by society, expanding humans’ perspectives, horizons and limitations, creating beliefs and ideas capable of changing the world for the better.

 

 

“Can you remember who you were, before the world told you who you should be?” – Danielle LaPorte

 

 

The question is: Are you willing to step aside from the majority in the name of your values, ideals and express your true self freely? If the answer is yes, are you then ready to face opposition, humiliation and solitude? The journey to become the best version of yourself, your true self and create a better world for everyone is not easy, but in the end, it will be worth it. There will be times where you will encounter yourself walking alone, there will be times where you will face humiliation  and opposition, there will be times where nobody will understand you, the temptation to give up and return to the “acceptance zone” will be strong, when this happens, don’t let your fears, doubts and other people’s opinion take your sight off from your higher values, goals and dreams.

The thing is, in this world it is much easier to belong, to be accepted and recognized as a member of the group of those who has been accepted by society. Nobody wants to be rejected, rejection is a strong feeling, that not many people can cope with. However, if we learn to love ourselves as we are and be confident about the person we truly are, we will walk our path in this life without fear of rejection, because once you accept yourself, you will never ever need the necessity to be accepted by others, and their opinions, thoughts and criticism will never be a limitation to become the person you know you can be, your true self, your best version.

 

 

“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.” – Mark Twain

 

 

Whether you are at school, or at the university, or at work, or any other place you might be, never feel ashamed to be who you really are, never fear the bullies. If you are different, if you are shy, if you don’t follow trend, if you are not the smartest, or the prettiest, if you are not the popular, or most funny, if you have big and “impossible” dreams and goals, if your beliefs are different than what is accepted, and most of all, if you know you are being your true self, and with true self I mean you best version of yourself, the person capable of changing those around you and make this world a better place for all, if deep inside yourself you know that what you are doing is the best you can do for you and for others, so be not afraid to affirm and declare the person you really are and go with confidence in the direction of the achievement of your personal growth and evolution, and with your example change the world and open the eyes of those who cannot see that violence, hatred, intolerance and ignorance will never be bring us peace, love nor success!

 

 

 

 

 

Discover your true self, love and accept the person you really are regardless if you are accepted by other people or not, never cease to improve yourself, release your true potential, stay true to your values and ideals, do not let your soul and your true self be corrupted by the fear of being rejected, do not feel ashamed for who you really are, and with courage and confidence go out, make your dreams become a reality, make an impact, be the best version of your self and change the world! 

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Day after day we deliberately accept in our minds the venom of poisonous people with devastating consequences. Once in our minds, this venom annihilates our self-confidence and destroys our self-esteem and feelings of anger, hatred and resentment flood our minds. Cause: taking things too personally. Cure: living without the influence of other people’s opinions.  Are you taking things personally? Are you letting other people’s opinion and behaviors define your true self?

 

 

Don’t take anything personally, nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. Don Miguel Ruiz

 

 

 

We go through life as we had a target hanging from our necks. We feel as if we were inoffensive deer grazing peacefully in the woods surrounded by heartless hunters waiting for the perfect moment to pull the trigger. Suddenly, that moment comes, the world freezes, the watch stops, and bang! Perfect shot, straight into our heads, we lie motionless, presumed deceased. The world begins to move again, we breathe, we are alive, we survived, but the scars are bleeding, the pain increases, and suddenly the pain becomes anger and the anger commence to rule our lives. Resentment becomes our ally.

The problem is that our constantly need for acceptance and our desperate search for everyone’s approval has become a necessity in order to maintain an acceptable reputation to society, and this reputation, or our own reputation about our own selves is severely affected when we encounter ourselves being the target of someone’s attacks, that is the main reason why we take things so personally, because that person is preventing us from achieving our goal of being accepted by every single human in our society. It damages our ego, diminishes our self-confidence and put ourselves at the edge of collapse.

 

 

“What other people think of you is not your business. If you start to make that business your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life.” – Deepak Chopra

 

 

Therefore, taking things personally and unhappiness are connected. But, is there such thing as an everlasting happiness? Well, There are many keys and ideas of how can one be happy, but this question continues to be an existential doubt for most of us. However, through the years we have discovered important keys to unhappiness. One of them is taking things personally, when we do this, we expose ourselves, we put ourselves in a place of extreme vulnerability, putting our own happiness in someone else’s hands. When we take things personally, we condemn ourselves to a life of misery and resentment, we sabotage our own capabilities of achieving all our dreams and goals, and we deny ourselves the possibility of having a happy life.

When someone attacks you in any way in the end they never have something personal with you but rather they have something personal with themselves. The only time when you can take things personally is when you have attacked them or hurt them in any way first. For example, let’s imagine the case where you insult someone else’s mother, if the person gives you a punch in the face, you can take it personally, nevertheless, in the end, it always comes down to the fact that someone’s reaction and behavior against others is never something personal with them but with their own selves, no matter if they think they have an excuse for acting that way.

 

 

“There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.” — Miguel Ruiz.

 

 

Not taking things personally from the people that surrounds you is not something we can learn overnight, but is rather an every day commitment, but there is nothing more rewarding that gaining that level of freedom and become immune to other people’s opinions, immune to other people’s criticism, immune to other people’s judgements, immune to other people’s aggression. The real truth is that other people’s behaviors and attitudes toward you do not define nor categorize you, not damage your reputation, do not condemn you, but they rather do all of that onto them. Every actions and behaviors, every thoughts and opinions of others are only a reflection of their own souls, they do not indicate who you are, but they indicate who they are. Therefore, do not take things personally, and you will have found the key to your own personal development, you will broaden your limitations and you will declare, loudly and fearless to the world:  “I do not seek to belong, I do not seek to be accepted, nobody defines me nor limits me, I am immune to the poisonous souls that seek to destroy me, I am an utterly and completely free soul.”

 

 

 

 

Learn to not take things personally, release your soul from the need to get everyone’s approval and become immune to other people’s criticism, opinions and behaviors and you will have discovered one of the keys to success and your personal development. 

Why do we care about what others think?

Why do we care about what others think? The answer to that question is very simple: We are looking to be accepted all the time, the fear of being rejected scare us to a point where we forget who we are by being what we are not, a prefabricated product created by society.

 

The greates prison people live in is the fear of what other people think.

 

 

We are looking for acceptance all the time, dominated by the fear for what other people think about us, we act based in what is right for people, and not what is right for us. All the time we act according to what is best for others in that moment, because the fear controls our actions all the time, so we lose the control of everything, and the worst thing is that we lose ourselves.

It doesn’t matter by whom, but we are always looking to be accepted by someone, because by being accepted by other, we can accept ourselves.

 

 

“If you live for people’s acceptance you will die from their rejection” – Lecrae

 

 

And there my friend is where we can find the beginning of this problem:

If we don’t accept ourselves first, how is another person going to accept us as we really are?

We need to accept ourselves as we are, and that includes everything, also our imperfections, we need to love ourselves and be happy for who we are. And what I want to say here is that is totally right to want to improve ourselves, and wish to be better and better person, but only if that change we want to accomplish is inspired by us for us, and not in order to please someone else.

 

Once we accept ourselves as we are, and decide who we want to be, without being influenced by someone else, then we will feel accepted everywhere, and maybe not by others, but we will always feel accepted by ourselves, feeling free to think, to say, and to do whatever we want without being afraid to what other people will think about us.

 

 

“Care what other people think and you will always be their prisoner” – Lao Tzu

 

 

Once you know what kind of person you are, and what kind of person you want to become in your life, you will not be afraid to others opinion about you anymore, because you know yourself, you know who you are, what you can give, what you can do, what you can achieve and you love yourself just the way you are, so you will set yourself free from any unnecessary pain as you will never be damaged again by the opinions of other people.

 

 

“The unhappiest people in this world are those who care the most about what other people think.” – C. JoyBell C.

 

Remember that the opinions of others are mostly generated from people who don’t believe in themselves, and who don’t accept them as they are, people who feel insecure and unsatisfied, people who are always looking to fit in this world by being someone else.

Losing our fear to what other people think about us, will set us free to be whatever we want to be in our life, we’ll be no longer a slave, freeing us from the chain that society has imposed, and we will not fear any more, walking with confidence, and acting in every second of our life according to what fit with our true personality.

 

 

“What other people think of you is not your business. If you start to make that business your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life.” – Deepak Chopra

 

Life could be amazing if we could just love ourselves for who we are, without being someone to please others. You came to this world to be whatever you want to be, you don’t come here to please your family, your friends, the society in which you live, your boss, your colleagues at work, and nobody, you come here to be who you really are, and give to the world the best you can.

So release yourself and stop being a slave from what other people think, accept yourself as you are, improve and get better every day, do whatever it takes to become who you want to be in order to achieve what you want to achieve, just because you have the power to do that and just to please the purpose of your soul.

 

 

“Don’t take anything personally; nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering” – Miguel Ruiz

 

 

Life is too short to worry about others opinion about you, those are their opinions and not yours anyway, right? Our time on this planet is limited, our days are counted, day after day, second after second, so why wasting our precious time by being what other people want us to be? It is you and only you who will live your life, so you better do what you love, think and feel freely as you please, say whatever you want to say, to whomever you want, whenever you want it, because as I said before, time is limited, and we are running out of time.

 

 

Live your life and be the best version of yourself and not being the best version for someone else, do everything you want, without fear of the opinions of others and you will be free.