Every ending is always a new beginning. When something ends, something new begins and a new beginning is always a new opportunity. Learning to see the end of something as an opportunity rather than a punishment would help to change our whole life experience in the moment when we begin a new chapter in our lives.
Every ending that I have experienced in my life was because something better was coming. If my life had never been full with endings and changes, everything that I have experienced in my life would have never happened. I am where I am now because something in my past have changed. Something that has ended in my past has allowed me to have new opportunities and challenges in my life, and the outcomes I got were always positive.
If you look into your past, everything that has ended has allowed you to be where you are now. In my case many things have ended: relationships, jobs, working visas, and those endings had led me to the place I am now. The life that I have is the result of many endings. Every single new opportunity and new challenge that I have experienced was possible because an ending had taken place in my past.
“For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.” – Romans 8:18
The problem is we normally see the end of something as the end of everything, especially when we were not looking for that ending. In those moments when something ends, it is very difficult to see a new beginning. For instance, when a relationship ends, we normally do not see that as a new beginning or as a new opportunity, we see that as a painful ending, and the sorrow and frustration we feel in our hearts in those cases consume our spirit, making it impossible for us to see that as new beginning.
Endings are most of the time very difficult to accept, even if we were looking for that ending, because it is always hard to start again. Some endings are easier to digest and other endings are so painful that tears our heart apart. Those kind of endings paralyzes our world, and nothing in our lives seems to make sense. But there is always a reason why things happen in the way they happened. Every ending, no matter how hard it is, it is always a new opportunity in disguise.
“New Beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.” – Lao Tzu
But how can we see an ending as a new beginning? How can we see an opportunity between so much sorrow, frustration and uncertainty? The answer is: by living in the present. There is no other way we can live. The past is gone and the future has not arrived yet. The only place where we can truly live is in our present. Therefore, we must focus all our energies not in trying to change our past but to focus all our energy in creating our present moment. This very moment is all we have, therefore, we must focus our mind in the things we would like to experience in our life rather in what we do not want. We cannot change what happened, but we can change how we experience what is going on in our present moment. This way, we would be able to see the opportunities that we were missing by only focusing in what is gone.
When something ends, something new begins. We must remember than when a door closes, others open. When a chapter ends, another begins, and is in our own hands the possibility to write a new and most wonderful story. Therefore, we must focus not in the old chapter, that has already been written, and we cannot change it, but we can always write a new one. This new chapter, this blank paper is our new opportunity, and we can create anything we want. We are the creators of our own destiny.
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Dan Millman
An ending is always a new beginning. Therefore, we have the opportunity to start again. We must let go of what is gone, to allow in our life what is waiting for us. Life is always changing, and that is what makes this life to be so rich and wonderful. Today you can make two decisions: You can decide to live tied to an end, living in your past with sorrow and pain, or you can decide to let go of what is gone and start a new life. You can choose to live in your present, and use it as a canvas to create the life that will bring you happiness and joy.
Trust life and believe that better things are coming. Embrace the end as a new beginning, and with faith and confidence keep moving in the direction of your dreams!