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Release the pain and heal your heart

There are different moments in our lives where we are going to feel pain, it can be a superficial pain or a deeper pain, sometimes it can be for seconds, for hours, months or even years, and sometimes it never goes away, getting trapped in our hearts, contaminating our soul, and breaking our hearts, and the only way to stop it from hurting us is to release it from our hearts, letting it go away from our lives.

 "Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." - Joseph Campbell

 

There are three different kind of people: The ones that swallow the pain, digest it and throw it away from their mind and heart, the ones that swallow it, keeping it inside, letting it to destroy its heart, becoming its victim, and the ones that swallow it and let it spread through its veins like poison, contaminating its heart, becoming a reflection of its pain.

The first kind of people are not exempt of feeling pain, in fact it is very possible that they have felt it many times in their past, and they will probably feel it in their future, but what makes the difference between the other two type of people is that these people do not let it to control their lives. Therefore, once they feel it they find a way to remove it from their hearts as soon as possible.

 

 

 

“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.” – Walter Anderson

 

 

 

 

The second kind of people are the ones that feel pain but are not able to release it from their hearts, keeping it deep inside their hearts. The problem with doing this is that while they can have a smile in their faces, deep inside their hearts the pain kills them. These people do not release it in any way, but they keep it from themselves. The problem is that they become prisoners of it, destroying them inside day after day, and sometimes that pain becomes so intolerable that the person surrenders to it.

The third kind of people are almost the same as the second kind of people but there is one big difference between them. The main difference is that these people try to release it and stop their suffering by hurting others. The problem is that the pain they are feeling has consumed their hearts, and poisoned their minds. They are so destroyed inside that the only way they can rebel before so much pain is by becoming the definition of it themselves, causing others to feel it in order to heal themselves.

 

 

 

“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.” – Rumi 

 

 

 

As we can see pain is something that we must let go of from our hearts before it destroys the person we really are. It is not always possible to avoid feeling it, in fact, we should not force ourselves to not feel it, we must embrace it, taste it, digest it, learn from it and once we are ready we must let it go.

How do we release it then? Well, the answer will depend on the pain and the person, but the best way is knowing that the feeling of pain will not erase the fact that caused it in the first place. Therefore, we must focus in something else, something that makes us feel good, and we have to be patient and give ourselves time, knowing that sooner or later that pain will go away. Pain will bring us more pain and never joy, it won’t change what happened to us nor will change our future, it depends on us whether let it to destroy us, or destroy it ourselves.

 

 

 

My focus is to forget the pain of life. Forget the pain, mock the pain, reduce it and laugh.” – Jim Carrey

 

 

 

We can be the victims of our pain and let it control our lives, or we can be the creator of our own destiny. In the first option we will be at mercy of our pain, and in the second option we’ll decide what to do with our own lives. It won’t be easy, but it is possible. We cannot always avoid to feel pain, but we can always decide what we do with it. Transform it into something beautiful and you will change your world.

 

 

 

Today is the day where you can release the pain you are feeling, it is now the moment to decide to let it go, and start a new life!

Small Steps Lead to Success

In order to achieve any goal and dream we must take small steps each day, because those are the ones that will lead us to success.  In a previous post, I wrote about the importance of taking the first step. The first step is decisive, and every step we make afterwards will lead us to the place where we want to be. We can make all our dreams and desire a reality, one step at a time.

 

"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." - Robert Collier

 

The key to achieving our goals lies in the small steps we make each day. The amounts of steps we will have to take in order to achieve our goal will depend in the magnitude of our goal. The problem is that sometimes our dreams and goals are so big that is easy to get overwhelmed with all the things we have to do in order to achieve them, and it is in that moment when we give up.

If most people fail to achieve their goals is not because life is unfair and only benefits a few, but they fail because they have refused to take the necessary steps in order to reach their goals. The difference between those who are successful and those who are not is not luck but commitment. It is true that for some people things are easier than for others, but that can’t be used as excuse for giving up, instead it can be used as motivation to keep moving forward, one step at a time.

 

 

 

Every day do something that will inch you closer to a better tomorrow.” – Doug Firebaugh

 

 

 

Therefore, the most important thing we can do after we have decided to take the first step toward our goal is to divide that goal in small steps. Let’s imagine as an example that your goal for the next 2 months is to get a job. Therefore, in order to achieve that goal, you will have to follow a few different steps: Write your resume, send it to different companies, prepare yourself for interviews, and so on. Some of them will be easier than others, and sometimes you will have to repeat one of the steps one more time because it didn’t go well the first try, but if you don’t give up sooner or later you will achieve your goal.

Well, we can say that every goal works in the same way as that example. We will have more goals, smaller and harder than the one in the example, but they will all be possible.  Therefore, the best we can do in order to achieve our goals is to divide that goal in small steps, or in more achievable goals. Those small goals will seem more possible to achieve, what will give us the idea that we can make it, and once we do that, we will be one step closer from our biggest goal.

 

 

 

“Know what you want to do, hold the thought firmly, and do every day what should be done, and every sunset will see you that much nearer to your goal.” – Elbert Hubbard

 

 

 

What will happen when we achieve one of those small goals is that we will feel good because our brain will not know the difference between one goal or another, therefore, every victory, no matter how small or big will flood our mind and body with positive emotions, what will make us feel better about ourselves, creating in our mind the belief that we can make it, and if we believe that we are capable of achieving anything we want, then there is nothing that can stop us from doing so.

Here we have another example: Let’s say that you want to lose weight, and your goal is to lose 10 kg, you can divide that big goal in small steps or even in small goals. For example, you can start by losing 1 kilo in 1 week. That is a more achievable goal and more easy to do, what will prevent you from being overwhelmed about the idea of having to lose 10 kg. Once you have a new and smaller goal you can set up all the steps you must take in order to achieve it, and step by step you will reach that goal. And as a result you will be one step closer to your goal. You can continue step by step achieving those small goals, until you finally achieve your desired goal.

 

 

 

The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” – Chinese Proverb

 

 

 

Those little steps are the ones that will lead us to success. Therefore, you should ask yourself the following questions: What is your biggest goal? Have you taken the first step? What are the steps you should take in order to achieve your goal? If you goal is big enough, is it possible to divide your goal in smaller and more achievable goals? Which steps can you take in order to achieve that new goal? What can you do next in order to be one step closer from your goal?

 

 

 

I encourage you to take a paper and a pen and write your goal. Therefore, you will be able to write the steps you will have to take in order to achieve that goal. Focus in the first step, and then continue with the next one, and step by step you will achieve your goals!

Visualization: A Great Tool for Success

Visualization is a mental process that makes real our deepest dreams and goals through our imagination, that is to say, it pictures in our minds what we would like to achieve in our outside world. Visualization creates in our own minds the life of our dreams, and if we are able to achieve it in our own minds, we can achieve it in our real life.

 "Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere." - Albert Einstein #visualization

 

Visualization is more powerful than we think, because it actually helps us to create the positive outcomes we would like to achieve in our lives. When you are able to see in your mind your dreams and goals as something that already happen, you are able to create the life of your dreams and make everything a reality. Visualization is not only a way of dreaming, but it is a way of making your dreams and goals come true.

Every successful person has used the tool of visualization either consciously or unconsciously. For instance, visualization is very used in sports, many athletes have visualized themselves as having already achieved the positive outcomes they would like to achieve in the real life. Day after day these people imagine themselves as already being victorious, they constantly visualize in their minds the victory, they see it, they feel it as if they already were in that glorious moment, and that together with training, commitment and perseverance is what makes them achieve in their life the outcomes they already imagine in their own minds. For example, the boxing legend Muhammad Ali was always aware of the importance of visualization. He always pictured himself as being victorious before every fight.

 

 

 

“Champions aren’t made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them-a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill, and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill.” – Muhammad Ali

 

 

 

When we visualize something, we are able to see it as real in our mind, and when we are able to see something then we are able to believe in it. It is proved that our brain cannot see the difference between a visualized image and reality, that is why when we think about something that we would like to happen, we feel the emotions and feelings as if it were already real.  That is why visualization is so powerful, because it makes already real that we haven’t experienced in our physical world yet.

Visualization is not magic, it is not like you will imagine something with your eyes closed, and when you open your eyes it will already be there, but visualization is a great tool that you can use together with commitment and perseverance to succeed. When you visualize, your brain understands what you imagine as already being real and then it gives you the right emotions, feelings and beliefs what will help to form your habits and behaviours. Therefore, visualization will help you develop the right habits, skills, and behaviours in order to make your dreams and goals become a reality in your outside world.

 

 

 

“Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will.” – George Bernard Shaw

 

 

There is a good example of visualization that always inspire me: The actor Jim Carrey used the power of visualization when he was struggling to become an actor, he wrote himself a check for the amount of $10 million for “his acting service rendered” and years later he got the same amount for his role in Dumb and Dumber. That’s amazing, isn’t it? That is what happens when you hold in your mind the greatest vision about yourself and your life. When you visualize your dream, every time you can, and you do everything you can in order to achieve your goals and dreams, miracles occur. In my case, when I was younger, I always imagine myself living in another country, travelling around the world. I always closed my eyes and felt what was it to be living in a different country, and years later here I am living in a third country, and about to move to my fourth.

So we can say that visualization makes everything possible, it not only pictures in your mind your deepest goals and dreams, but it lets your brain know that those things are possible and real, and your brain provides you with beliefs of success, and that gives you the emotions as if you were already living your dream, and those emotions motivates you to become the best version of yourself, and that way you adopt the right habits and behaviours to make your dreams come true. This way we can see what a great tool visualization is.

 

 

 

Visualize your goals and dreams with all your heart, imagine yourself as already having achieved your goals and dreams, see every detail, caresses the glory, savour every victory and wait for the miracle!