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Face your Fears!

At least once in our lives we will be challenged to face our fears in order to grow up, evolve, in order to get what we yearn, achieve our goals and make our dreams become a reality. The victory is not guaranteed, but if we let our fears win, if we refuse to leave our comfort zone, if we decide not to pursue our dreams, if we succumb to our fears, one things is guaranteed: Our own defeat and the death of our dreams. Therefore, if we want to make our dreams become a reality we should face all our fears!

 

 

 

 

Our fears have the ability to paralyze us. They create a burden between us and our dreams. They limit us, they stop us, they steal our hopes, they snatch our dreams. There are many reasons for which most of the people haven’t achieved their dreams and one of them is because of their fears. The fear of the unknown, the fear of losing something, the fear of failure, the fear of what people would think of them if they fail, or if they succeed. These and many other fears that have sabotaged our own dreams.

As I look back into my past I can see how many times I refused to do something I wanted to do, or I gave up a certain goal, or I stopped pursing a special dream and all because of my fears. “What if I can’t do it?” “What if I fail?” “What if I am not good enough?” “What would people think of me if I do it?” “What if I lose?” “What if, what if, what if…” I hear those questions resonating in my head as it was yesterday when I said them. That was not my true self speaking, those words were my fears speaking for me. “What if”: That is how fears start confusing ourselves, that is their language.

 

 

 

 

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

 

 

 

 

Therefore, in order to face our fears and achieve all our dreams we must first detect when our fears have taken the control of our own minds. Why is important to do that? Because once we detect that our fears are controlling our thoughts, we can quickly take back the control and start thinking for ourselves. If we are not careful our fears will take the control of our minds and they will decide for us, and they will shape our destiny. We should face them and challenge them, and prove them wrong.

Life is like a box of chocolates, there are different shapes, different fillings, different tastes, some are sweet, some are bitter, you can like them all or only a few, but you end enjoying all the box. One thing is certain in this world: Nothing is sure, and you will never know the taste of what is inside the box until you begin to try it. For one moment to another our life could take an unexpected turn, and everything could change. Therefore, if we go safely, if we do not take risks, if we remain in our comfort zone we will never truly end enjoying our lives, we will simple exist, and all our dreams will be buried into oblivion.

 

 

 

 

“He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

 

Most of the time our fears are not real. For example: Every time I turn off the light I think something horrible is going to appear, but it never happens. The reason is because what I imagine that is going to happen is not real, it is all in my mind. Our fears are founded by the environment where we were born. It happens with all our fears, and we can overcome them if we are willing to face them.

I was once afraid of spiders, one day I wondered why? Why I am so afraid of something that never did something to me? The problem is that I was programmed to fear them, I decided to overcome that fear, and I faced what I feared the most. It was hard in the beginning, but day after day my fear has started to vanish.

 

 

 

 

“Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.” – Judy Blume

 

 

 

 

It happened with my fear of living in another country, with another culture and language. My fears tried to stop me, at some point they wanted to protect me, so they wanted me to stay in my comfort zone. One day I woke up, and I said to myself: “You know what, if you are going to fear something, fear the idea of living a miserable life for the rest of your life for not having pursued your dreams.” That day I silenced my fears, and I took the first step in the direction of my dreams. It is when you decide to face them, when your life gets another meaning. Do what you fear the most and grow, improve, reborn, evolve.

 

 

 

 

All your dreams, all the things you want, all your desires are on the other side of your fears. Don’t let them stop you, don’t let them snatch your dreams, face them, challenge them, and defeat them!

Follow Your Passion

We spend most of our time immersed in an endless race. We go through life chasing something, believing that it will give us everything we want. This thing is called money, and we believe that this will help us make all our dreams come true. We make money our first priority, we chase it at all costs, and in the end of this race we pay a high price for it and we lose it all. We realize that money made us blind, it made us follow the wrong path, and we have killed our own dreams, burned our desires, and extinguished the flame of our passion. To avoid this before is too late we must change our direction, and follow our passion, not money.

 

 

 

Somehow we have come to believe that having money is what will make us happy and successful. They told us a wonderful story about money, they painted a fantastic picture in our minds, what gave us the idea that money will allow us to buy every possession in this world, and so acquire an everlasting happiness, and we believed it. The problem with this is that we started chasing money instead our passion, not knowing that we were heading straight to our decay.

The problem when we chase money is that we fall into a big trap. This trap attracts us making us believe that money is the solution to all our problems, and the key to a happy and fulfilled life, so we start chasing it, falling into the trap, right into its claws, and slowly devours our souls alive. It consumes every part of us, and it makes us so addict, so dependent that we need it in order to survive, making us believe that in fact, money makes us happy, and the lack of it makes us miserable, and deaf and blind we defend this idea until we die.

 

 

“Chase your passion, not your pension.” – Denis Waitley

 

 

 

But how many successful people do you see out there? And with successful I do not mean having money, because having money does not always equals success, but I mean people living their passion, people who have achieved their dreams and desires, people who is happy living the life they want, people who is truly alive. How many people do you see happy doing what they are doing? Not many isn’t it?

The problem with most of us is that we chase money, we get it, and we settle. As long as we can acquire material possessions we are going to have the idea that we are happy the way we are, even if that happiness depends on something as ephemeral as money. We live under a system that makes us believe that money is the key to a happy life, so we do not follow what makes us really happy, we follow money, believing that one day we are going to be free enough to start chasing our passion, and that day never comes.

 

 

 

“There is no passion to be found playing small, in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” – Nelson Mandela

 

 

 

Therefore, it is important to chase your passion. Your passion is your purpose, is doing what you love, what makes you happy. No matter what that is, you can always make a living doing what you love. Money shouldn’t be our main purpose, if that is your main reason of your existence then you haven’t figured out yet why you are really here, and you are limiting yourself from living a wonderful life.

If you chase money, you will always be chasing it, but if you chase your passion, money will follow. People chase money, they get it, they lose it, they get more, they lose more, they get it back, they throw it away, they think again how to get more, and they bury themselves more and more in this madness. This never stops, that is why most people are living a miserable life, and the problem is not that they have or not money, the problem is what they lose, what they hide, what they sacrifice, what they kill, what they destroy, what they forget for money.

 

 

 

“If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.” – Bishop T.D. Jakes

 

 

 

What is your passion? What makes you happy? What do you love to do? What is your dream? Take a time to think about it, this is really important my friend. Discover your purpose, find your passion, and go out and chase it, chase it under the sun, under the storm, through light or through darkness, when you feel strong or weak, not matter how hard it gets, or how far you are from reaching your goal, no matter how impossible it looks like, always follow your passion, and everything else, including money will follow. Do not settle, do not limit yourself, do not be the killer of your own dreams.

 

 

 

 

Decide what you want to do and do it. Be the best at it, fail, try again, fail better, and never stop. Chase your passion with confidence and commitment and live the life of your dreams!

 

Our Greatest Limitations are Found in our Own Minds

There are no bigger limitations than the ones we create with our own minds. All the time, we are limiting ourselves through the limiting beliefs we put in our minds. Those limitations are most of the time an illusion, being the creation of our own thoughts, and they are only real inside the confines of our own minds. In order to achieve your desired dreams and goals, you will have to discover your own limitations, challenge them and exceed them!

 

 "You are confined only by the walls you build yourself." - Andrew Murphy #limitations

 

 

Our imaginary limitations are the reason of our failure, if our dreams haven’t become a reality yet is because we have let them to stop us from achieving our desired dreams and goals. It is not our external limitations what makes us fail, but is our own limiting beliefs what really defeat us. The beliefs that we have in our mind about ourselves and life is what gives us our reality. It is our own misconceptions about our potential what truly limit us from achieving our goals.

The problem is that is easier for us to claim that we are being realistic when we say that we can’t do something, when in fact we are only using it as an excuse for not doing the things we would love to do. The truth is, if we haven’t done what we always wanted to do, if we haven’t gotten to the place where we have always wanted to get, if we haven’t reached our true potential or if we haven’t got the things we have always wanted to get is very probable that our own imaginary limitations have stopped us and paralyzed us, and that created our reality; but is not accurate to say that we are being realistic when in fact, what really stopped us was our own created limitations, and not our external circumstances. The problem it is not that we cannot do something, the problem is that we believe it.

 

 

 

“Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless.” – Jamie Paolinetti

 

 

 

What I mean is that reality is relative, my reality can be very different from your reality, and I can have the same external limitations as you do, but I could create a different outcome, and what will make the difference is whether I decide to create my own limitations, believe them and let them stop me, or if I’m going to use them as way to improve myself. When you decide that nothing can stop you, you destroy any imaginary limitations about yourself and you recreate your beliefs about who you really are, what gives you the power you need to make everything become a reality.

If the environment in where we find ourselves would be a limiting factor, no one would have never reached their goals. If age, time, money, abilities, other people beliefs about you, criticism, your external appearance, momentary failures, past situations, the place where you have born, or any other condition would be a true limitation then this world only would belong to a few and the rest of us would be condemned to a life of misery, but that is not the true, but unfortunately is what is happening in this world, because most of the people have believed that only a few are touched with a magic wand, and they are the only ones who are able to reach success and touch the glory, we have accepted that concept as real and we gave up, and all thanks to the real limitations which are the ones that we have created with our own limiting beliefs.

 

 

 

“Limitations can only be true as long as we believe in them. Believe in yourself instead. Amazing things will happen.” – Doe Zantamata

 

 

 

There are people who have made their dreams become a reality with less than you have, there are people who have born in poverty, who have born with an illness, there are people who have been through very hard times, and they still have managed to achieve their dreams and goals. It wasn’t a matter of luck but a matter of willingness, and they didn’t let any limitations to stop them. If I have made many of my goals become a reality was because I didn’t let my external circumstances, but specially my own created limitations to stop me. And the key to make all your limiting beliefs disappear is by believing in yourself. There is no stronger force than believing you can reach your goals and desires no matter what obstacles appears in your life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Discover your own limitations, find the way to exceed them and achieve all your goals and dreams. Because everything is possible for those who dare to dream and never ever give up. No matter how limited you think you are, if you believe you can, and if you never surrender to those limitations and you keep trying you will be victorious!

Improve your Strategies for Better Outcomes

Some of the circumstances that happen in our life are inevitable, some of them are simply a matter of luck, and some of them are the product of our actions. Our life is not already written, but it is easy to think it is, because that way we disclaim ourselves from any responsibility and we blame destiny for being the cause of our hardships. The truth is we create our life with our own actions, and if the outcomes we are getting are not the desired ones, it is time to improve our life strategies.

 

 "If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten." - Anthony Robins better outcomes

 

 

If we keep thinking the same thoughts, if keep having the same feelings, if we keep making the same actions and having the same behaviors, we are going to keep getting what we have always got. The question now is: Are you getting the outcomes you expect to get? If the answer is yes, congratulations! You’re heading in the right direction! If the answer is no, you will need to change your strategies, and do something in a different way until you get the desired outcomes.

If we are not getting what we want is probably because something is not working as it should, something we are doing is not helping us to get the outcomes we expect. Normally we blame life, our family, time, money, or anything we can put our blame on for not getting the outcomes we want, but the truth is, in most cases we are the cause of our own failure. Therefore, if we want better outcomes, if we want to succeed we will have to change something in order to be successful, and stop doing the kind of things that has only gave us failure.

 

 

 

“Achieve success in any area of life by identifying the optimum strategies and repeating them until they become habits.” – Charles J. Givens

 

 

 

The first and most important thing we should know in order to succeed is to know that we do not depend on our environment to succeed, but in having the ability to not fall in the trap of remaining captive in that environment. That is to say, no matter where we are right now, and which our external circumstances, we can always create a better tomorrow, and the key to do that is not to surrender to our current circumstances, and take responsibility for our own life, and create with our own actions the life we truly want to experience, and take all the right actions in order to get the desired outcomes.

If you want something different, if you want a better outcome for your life you need to change your current actions and improve your strategies. What are you doing now that is giving you results? What are you doing that is not giving you the outcomes you want? What are you not doing that can help you get the outcomes you desire? What kind of strategies have you been using that haven’t given you the outcomes you expected? What can you do today to improve them? Think about those questions, determine what you want, and discover what you can do that will help you get the outcomes you want. Read, ask, learn, make mistakes, take risks, try once more, improve, improve and improve until you are successful, but never give up!

 

 

 

“The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself.” – Mark Caine

 

 

 

There is always something you can do better, there is always something that you can improve, do not limit yourself by thinking that is nothing else you can do, or that you can’t aspire for more, you have greatness within you, and you can achieve anything if you work hard, if you are persevering, and if you never surrender to any hardship. You can always grow, learn, improve, evolve and succeed. Learn from past mistakes, learn from other people’s mistakes, ask questions, learn new things, improve yourself, develop your potential, and do not stop until you get the outcomes you want to get.

 

 

 

 

If what you have been thinking, feeling and doing has not given you the outcomes you wish to get, it is time to improve your strategies. Do not be afraid to change, do not be afraid to try something new, do not be afraid of failure, remember that failure is only real when you give up! Change your strategies, and get the outcomes you want!

Breaking Free From the Chains of Addiction

We cease to be in charge of our own lives the day our addiction take the control of our life. That day we lose our freedom and we become slaves of our addictions. They become our whole aim and purpose of our lives, and we become dependent on the satisfaction of that addiction in order to feel good, happy or successful. In order to take back the control of our life, we will have to free ourselves from the chains of our addictions.

 

 "The greater the struggle, the more glorious the triumph." - Nick Vujicic -addiction-adversity

 

 

An addiction is the desperately need to have something or do something, it creates in us a habit that enslaves us, making us dependent of that habit. It makes us believe that we need it, taking us the control of our own life, and when we are not in charge of our lives, we are not in charge of anything, that means, that our life is at mercy of our luck. We are merely in a boat drifting in the ocean of our lives pushed by the current of our addictions.

Where are we going to end? Only God knows. What are the odds? We are probably heading straight to the fall, directly to our failure. Can we do something about it? Can we change our direction? Absolutely. How can we do that? Taking back the control of our lives and saying to our addictions: Hey, you! You are no longer in charge here, you have no power over my life, you don’t control me, so move on and give me my life back!

 

 

 

“Sometimes you can only find Heaven by slowly backing away from Hell.” – Carrie Fisher

 

 

 

Okay, I know, everything sounds so nice and easy, but you may be wondering a few things like: how do I start? Is it really possible to move away from my addiction? And yes, it is. Do you want to know how do I know that? Because you have already taken the first and most important step of all: You have decided that is something you want to change in your life, and having the ability to see that something is not giving you what you really want is the first step in the road to a better life.

If you really want to change, if you really want something and you are willing to do everything you can in order to have it, you will have it, but you will have to work hard, and with hard I do not mean working hard one day, and the other day not, I mean every single day of your entire life. Getting rid of your addictions is a whole life commitment. It is not something you do today, and you cease to do tomorrow. Our addiction is our weak spot, and it needs to be always reinforced, even if we feel that we are already strong in that aspect, we always need to be careful of addictions, and be ready to fight them whenever the occasion arises.

 

 

 

“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” – Robert Collier

 

 

 

Therefore, the first step is to accept the fact that we need to change something in our lives, something that doesn’t help us but buries us, something that is not giving us success but utterly failure. The first thing we need to know is that our addictions doesn’t save us in any way nor change our reality, they don’t bring us what we really want, but they condemn us to a life of failure. They only put lies in our minds, and convince us that we need them, so we can fall in their traps.

The second step is to find the source of our addiction. There is something, that fosters you the need to satisfy that addiction. That need becomes so strong that it becomes inevitable and makes you fall into the clutches of your addiction. What to do then? Move away from that source, do not get into the trap expecting to get out from it safe. Anything that makes that addiction stronger, get rid of it.

 

 

 

“If you can quit for a day, you can quit for a lifetime.” – Benjamin Alire Sáenz

 

 

 

The following step is focus. It is all a matter of focusing your mind in the things that you really want in your life, the kind of things that will make you get to the place where you want to get, the kind of things that will reveal your true potential. It is not about resisting the temptation, it’s about ending with that temptation, and how can we do that? Once again, is all a matter of focus. We are surrounded with a lot of things, but we see half of them, because we see what we look at, and it is all a matter of focus. Focus your mind in the type of things that will bring you happiness, peace and success, and forget about the things that destroy you, make them disappear. Put your heart in what is best for you, not your mind in what doesn’t serve you, and you will see your whole life change.

 

 

 

 

Regardless of your addiction, always remember something: You are a masterpiece of God, you have greatness within you and the power to overcome any challenge. It all depends on you, in your commitment and perseverance. How much you are willing to sacrifice yourself in order to get the victory will determine your success.  It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it!

Your Future Starts Today!

The actions we take today are the foundations of our future. We create our own future, that is to say, we reap what we sow. We are the architects of our own life, and the future that awaits us, is the future we are creating now. Therefore, in order to have the life we have imagined, there is something we need to remember: Our future starts today!

 

 "The best way to predict your future is to create it." - Abraham Lincoln

 

 

The reality is that none of us know what is going to happen in our future, but the actions we take in our present can give us an idea of how our future is going to look like. It is simple as that, what we do today or what we cease to do has a consequence in our life. We create with every action we take our future, therefore, it depends on us to create today what we want to experience tomorrow.

Normally we get surprised when life suddenly punches us in our face with the truth. The truth about that life has gone quickly and our reality is far from being the one that we have ever dreamed of. That is the moment when we ask ourselves – What have I done all my life? How can I be in this situation now when I wanted something different for my life? What has gone wrong? Well my friend, you have been very busy doing something else rather than being focused in creating the life you have always imagined

 

 

 

“The past, the present and the future are really one: they are today.” – Harriet Beecher Stowe

 

 

 

The problem is that we see our future as something distant to us, but is not. Life goes quickly, very quickly, and if we are not careful we could end up living a life that is far from the one in our dreams. To avoid that, we have to focus in the life that we want, and take the right actions in order to create it, and we have to start today, not tomorrow, not the day after tomorrow, but today. The problem is that we usually leave everything for tomorrow, because we do not realize how close our future is, but in fact it starts today, and with every little action we are creating our own destiny.

Everything that you want to achieve in your future requires you to take a certain action in your present. It might be tough, hard and unpleasant, but if you really want to get to the place where you want to get, you will have to take those necessary actions in order to triumph. Our future is unknown, but we can do everything we can in order to create the life that we want, or we can leave everything to chance and see what happens.

 

 

 

“The future depends on what you do today.” – Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

 

Do you want to get that degree you really want and become the person you imagine? Well, start today, study, work hard and create today the person you want to become. Do you want to be successful? Do not act as a loser expecting one day to become successful. Be successful now, make the actions that will make you a successful person. Do you want to have your own business? Perfect! Work hard today and take all the necessary actions until you make it a reality. If you want something tomorrow, you will have to make something today that will push you closer to what you want. It is what you do today what defines your future.

What I’m saying here is that you shouldn’t worry about your future, I mean, if you are creating the life that you want, why worry then? We have to live in the present knowing that our future starts today. Focus your mind in the present moment, enjoy every single minute of your life, but at the same time create today the life you would like to experience tomorrow. Don’t gamble with your life, don’t let everything to chance, don’t create today a life from which you will regret in your future.

 

 

 

“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.” – Mother Teresa

 

 

 

What you are doing today is leading you to the place where you want to get or are you merely drifting? What you are doing today is helping you to achieve what you really want? Be honest with yourself and answer this question – Are you working in your goals and dreams or are you too busy doing less important things? It’s a yes or no question. Answers like “sometimes”, “maybe”, “I don’t have time”, “I don’t have money” are not allowed. If the answer is yes – Congratulations! Keep moving forward! But if the answer is no, you can either continue like that and see what your future holds, or you can start by creating the future you want now with no excuses, no delays, no distractions.

 

 

 

 

Life is like the book “Choose your own story”, you are writing your own book, and you create your own ending by the decisions you take and actions you make. Life can be sometimes unpredictable and some circumstances are unavoidable, but we are the creators of the major part of our lives. Choose to create now the future you dream!

No Risk, No Win

On the way to make our goals and dreams become a reality we will have to face many risks. Every goal and every dream involves a risk. The decision whether to take certain risks or not will determine either our victory or our defeat. Risks are merely challenges that can push us closer to our dreams. So, are you ready to take the necessary risks and make your dreams become a reality?

 

 "It seems to be a law of nature, inflexible and inexorable, that those who will not risk cannot win." - John Paul Jones

 

 

Life itself is a risk; since we are born we face many risks. When we are kids we take risks all the time, even when we are afraid of the unknown we take risks in order to discover, learn and grow, and once we discover what we can achieve by taking risks, we become unstoppable risk takers. The problem when we grow up is that our risks become bigger, and with that our fears become greater, which most of the time paralyzes us, and that is the moment when we cease to move forward in the direction of our dreams, giving up the life we have always wanted.

Risks are scary, and that is the reason why we prefer to avoid them. The truth is we take risks all the time, even without knowing it. The simple act of getting out of bed involves a risk. Every action we take, in a greater or lesser extent, involves a risk. The problem is that our fears are directly proportional to the magnitude of our risks, and when the risk we have to face is enormous, our fears always ends up winning the battle, and all our desires broken into pieces are buried into oblivion.

 

 

 

“The biggest risk is not taking any risk… In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” – Mark Zuckerberg

 

 

Therefore, in order to make our goals and dreams become a reality we will have to take every necessary risk. But, does that mean we should take any risk possible? Well, the answer will depend in our goals and dreams and the type of risk we must take in order to achieve them. If what we can gain by taking a certain risk is higher than what we can lose, then we should go ahead and take it, but if we can lose more than we can win then we should think twice before taking that risk.

The key is to think first, and analyze all the odds. If they are more in your favor than against you, you should try and take the risk, and if you win, you will either make your dream become a reality, or you will be one step closer from achieving it. And in the case that you lose, you will not lose much, and you can always start again and try to do something in a different way in the future.

 

 

 

“He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.” – Muhammad Ali

 

 

For example: If you want a better life for your family, and you go and bet everything you have in the roulette, it is very likely that you will end losing everything. In this case it is better to not take that particular risk and try a different option. But if you have a better job offer in a different company in a different city, and you are afraid of starting a new life but you really want something better for your family, then you should go ahead and take the risk. In the end, what you can lose will be less than what you will earn even if that risk doesn’t work well for you.

That is why risks are so important, because they are great teachers. They teach us something we didn’t know about ourselves, they teach us to do something we didn’t know before, they teach us to act in a different way, they make us grow, they make us wise, they make us believe, they open doors that were closed and make our dreams and goals become a reality.

 

 

 

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far it is possible to go.” T.S. Eliot

 

 

 

Therefore, if you want to change your life, if you want to achieve a certain goal or make a dream become a reality you will have to take all the necessary steps and take all those risks, where the odds are highly in your favor. Take your time to think about the risk you have to take, analyze the odds, but do not let your mind focus on what can go wrong, but in what can go well. If that dream you have, if that goal you have is what you really want, and if it will be for your own good, the odds will always be in your favor, so don’t think it too much, just take the risk and win!

 

 

 

Are the chances of having a positive outcome high? Could you win more than you can lose if you take the risk? If the answer yes, do not think it again, do not let your fears interfere with your dreams and with confidence just go ahead and take the risk!

Release the pain and heal your heart

There are different moments in our lives where we are going to feel pain, it can be a superficial pain or a deeper pain, sometimes it can be for seconds, for hours, months or even years, and sometimes it never goes away, getting trapped in our hearts, contaminating our soul, and breaking our hearts, and the only way to stop it from hurting us is to release it from our hearts, letting it go away from our lives.

 "Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." - Joseph Campbell

 

There are three different kind of people: The ones that swallow the pain, digest it and throw it away from their mind and heart, the ones that swallow it, keeping it inside, letting it to destroy its heart, becoming its victim, and the ones that swallow it and let it spread through its veins like poison, contaminating its heart, becoming a reflection of its pain.

The first kind of people are not exempt of feeling pain, in fact it is very possible that they have felt it many times in their past, and they will probably feel it in their future, but what makes the difference between the other two type of people is that these people do not let it to control their lives. Therefore, once they feel it they find a way to remove it from their hearts as soon as possible.

 

 

 

“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.” – Walter Anderson

 

 

 

 

The second kind of people are the ones that feel pain but are not able to release it from their hearts, keeping it deep inside their hearts. The problem with doing this is that while they can have a smile in their faces, deep inside their hearts the pain kills them. These people do not release it in any way, but they keep it from themselves. The problem is that they become prisoners of it, destroying them inside day after day, and sometimes that pain becomes so intolerable that the person surrenders to it.

The third kind of people are almost the same as the second kind of people but there is one big difference between them. The main difference is that these people try to release it and stop their suffering by hurting others. The problem is that the pain they are feeling has consumed their hearts, and poisoned their minds. They are so destroyed inside that the only way they can rebel before so much pain is by becoming the definition of it themselves, causing others to feel it in order to heal themselves.

 

 

 

“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.” – Rumi 

 

 

 

As we can see pain is something that we must let go of from our hearts before it destroys the person we really are. It is not always possible to avoid feeling it, in fact, we should not force ourselves to not feel it, we must embrace it, taste it, digest it, learn from it and once we are ready we must let it go.

How do we release it then? Well, the answer will depend on the pain and the person, but the best way is knowing that the feeling of pain will not erase the fact that caused it in the first place. Therefore, we must focus in something else, something that makes us feel good, and we have to be patient and give ourselves time, knowing that sooner or later that pain will go away. Pain will bring us more pain and never joy, it won’t change what happened to us nor will change our future, it depends on us whether let it to destroy us, or destroy it ourselves.

 

 

 

My focus is to forget the pain of life. Forget the pain, mock the pain, reduce it and laugh.” – Jim Carrey

 

 

 

We can be the victims of our pain and let it control our lives, or we can be the creator of our own destiny. In the first option we will be at mercy of our pain, and in the second option we’ll decide what to do with our own lives. It won’t be easy, but it is possible. We cannot always avoid to feel pain, but we can always decide what we do with it. Transform it into something beautiful and you will change your world.

 

 

 

Today is the day where you can release the pain you are feeling, it is now the moment to decide to let it go, and start a new life!

Small Steps Lead to Success

In order to achieve any goal and dream we must take small steps each day, because those are the ones that will lead us to success.  In a previous post, I wrote about the importance of taking the first step. The first step is decisive, and every step we make afterwards will lead us to the place where we want to be. We can make all our dreams and desire a reality, one step at a time.

 

"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." - Robert Collier

 

The key to achieving our goals lies in the small steps we make each day. The amounts of steps we will have to take in order to achieve our goal will depend in the magnitude of our goal. The problem is that sometimes our dreams and goals are so big that is easy to get overwhelmed with all the things we have to do in order to achieve them, and it is in that moment when we give up.

If most people fail to achieve their goals is not because life is unfair and only benefits a few, but they fail because they have refused to take the necessary steps in order to reach their goals. The difference between those who are successful and those who are not is not luck but commitment. It is true that for some people things are easier than for others, but that can’t be used as excuse for giving up, instead it can be used as motivation to keep moving forward, one step at a time.

 

 

 

Every day do something that will inch you closer to a better tomorrow.” – Doug Firebaugh

 

 

 

Therefore, the most important thing we can do after we have decided to take the first step toward our goal is to divide that goal in small steps. Let’s imagine as an example that your goal for the next 2 months is to get a job. Therefore, in order to achieve that goal, you will have to follow a few different steps: Write your resume, send it to different companies, prepare yourself for interviews, and so on. Some of them will be easier than others, and sometimes you will have to repeat one of the steps one more time because it didn’t go well the first try, but if you don’t give up sooner or later you will achieve your goal.

Well, we can say that every goal works in the same way as that example. We will have more goals, smaller and harder than the one in the example, but they will all be possible.  Therefore, the best we can do in order to achieve our goals is to divide that goal in small steps, or in more achievable goals. Those small goals will seem more possible to achieve, what will give us the idea that we can make it, and once we do that, we will be one step closer from our biggest goal.

 

 

 

“Know what you want to do, hold the thought firmly, and do every day what should be done, and every sunset will see you that much nearer to your goal.” – Elbert Hubbard

 

 

 

What will happen when we achieve one of those small goals is that we will feel good because our brain will not know the difference between one goal or another, therefore, every victory, no matter how small or big will flood our mind and body with positive emotions, what will make us feel better about ourselves, creating in our mind the belief that we can make it, and if we believe that we are capable of achieving anything we want, then there is nothing that can stop us from doing so.

Here we have another example: Let’s say that you want to lose weight, and your goal is to lose 10 kg, you can divide that big goal in small steps or even in small goals. For example, you can start by losing 1 kilo in 1 week. That is a more achievable goal and more easy to do, what will prevent you from being overwhelmed about the idea of having to lose 10 kg. Once you have a new and smaller goal you can set up all the steps you must take in order to achieve it, and step by step you will reach that goal. And as a result you will be one step closer to your goal. You can continue step by step achieving those small goals, until you finally achieve your desired goal.

 

 

 

The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” – Chinese Proverb

 

 

 

Those little steps are the ones that will lead us to success. Therefore, you should ask yourself the following questions: What is your biggest goal? Have you taken the first step? What are the steps you should take in order to achieve your goal? If you goal is big enough, is it possible to divide your goal in smaller and more achievable goals? Which steps can you take in order to achieve that new goal? What can you do next in order to be one step closer from your goal?

 

 

 

I encourage you to take a paper and a pen and write your goal. Therefore, you will be able to write the steps you will have to take in order to achieve that goal. Focus in the first step, and then continue with the next one, and step by step you will achieve your goals!

Visualization: A Great Tool for Success

Visualization is a mental process that makes real our deepest dreams and goals through our imagination, that is to say, it pictures in our minds what we would like to achieve in our outside world. Visualization creates in our own minds the life of our dreams, and if we are able to achieve it in our own minds, we can achieve it in our real life.

 "Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere." - Albert Einstein #visualization

 

Visualization is more powerful than we think, because it actually helps us to create the positive outcomes we would like to achieve in our lives. When you are able to see in your mind your dreams and goals as something that already happen, you are able to create the life of your dreams and make everything a reality. Visualization is not only a way of dreaming, but it is a way of making your dreams and goals come true.

Every successful person has used the tool of visualization either consciously or unconsciously. For instance, visualization is very used in sports, many athletes have visualized themselves as having already achieved the positive outcomes they would like to achieve in the real life. Day after day these people imagine themselves as already being victorious, they constantly visualize in their minds the victory, they see it, they feel it as if they already were in that glorious moment, and that together with training, commitment and perseverance is what makes them achieve in their life the outcomes they already imagine in their own minds. For example, the boxing legend Muhammad Ali was always aware of the importance of visualization. He always pictured himself as being victorious before every fight.

 

 

 

“Champions aren’t made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them-a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill, and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill.” – Muhammad Ali

 

 

 

When we visualize something, we are able to see it as real in our mind, and when we are able to see something then we are able to believe in it. It is proved that our brain cannot see the difference between a visualized image and reality, that is why when we think about something that we would like to happen, we feel the emotions and feelings as if it were already real.  That is why visualization is so powerful, because it makes already real that we haven’t experienced in our physical world yet.

Visualization is not magic, it is not like you will imagine something with your eyes closed, and when you open your eyes it will already be there, but visualization is a great tool that you can use together with commitment and perseverance to succeed. When you visualize, your brain understands what you imagine as already being real and then it gives you the right emotions, feelings and beliefs what will help to form your habits and behaviours. Therefore, visualization will help you develop the right habits, skills, and behaviours in order to make your dreams and goals become a reality in your outside world.

 

 

 

“Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will.” – George Bernard Shaw

 

 

There is a good example of visualization that always inspire me: The actor Jim Carrey used the power of visualization when he was struggling to become an actor, he wrote himself a check for the amount of $10 million for “his acting service rendered” and years later he got the same amount for his role in Dumb and Dumber. That’s amazing, isn’t it? That is what happens when you hold in your mind the greatest vision about yourself and your life. When you visualize your dream, every time you can, and you do everything you can in order to achieve your goals and dreams, miracles occur. In my case, when I was younger, I always imagine myself living in another country, travelling around the world. I always closed my eyes and felt what was it to be living in a different country, and years later here I am living in a third country, and about to move to my fourth.

So we can say that visualization makes everything possible, it not only pictures in your mind your deepest goals and dreams, but it lets your brain know that those things are possible and real, and your brain provides you with beliefs of success, and that gives you the emotions as if you were already living your dream, and those emotions motivates you to become the best version of yourself, and that way you adopt the right habits and behaviours to make your dreams come true. This way we can see what a great tool visualization is.

 

 

 

Visualize your goals and dreams with all your heart, imagine yourself as already having achieved your goals and dreams, see every detail, caresses the glory, savour every victory and wait for the miracle!