Category Archives: Reflections

The Habit of Making Excuses

We limit ourselves and sabotage our own dreams, goals and desires by making excuses. Our own excuses create barriers between us and our dreams, pushing away from us everything we have always wanted. Therefore, if we want to make our dreams come true, we must begin by leaving the habit of making excuses.

 

“Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.” - George Washington Carver 

Every day we have a new excuse for not doing the things we have always wanted to do. We convince ourselves through the excuses we make, as a way of having a justification for not following the path that will lead us to the realization of our dreams and goals. They condemn us to live a life we do not like, and the worst part of all is that we believe that those excuses are valid, blaming them for our failure, when in fact, we are the cause of our own failure.

Why do we make so many excuses? Why do we punish ourselves in such a way? Why do we condemn ourselves to live a life we do not like? Why we refuse to live the kind of life that will bring us everything we have been searching for? Simple: because it is easier that way. It is easier to make an excuse and do nothing, than to do all the things we have to do in order to achieve our desired goals and make all our dreams come true.

 

 

 

“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.” – Jim Rohn

 

 

 

By making excuses we chose the easy way out, and with easy I do not mean the less painful. Because it is painful to work hard in order to achieve our goals, but it is more painful to be stuck in a life we do not want, doing things we do not like, and it is even more painful to know that we are the reason why we haven’t done the things we have always wanted to do. It is hard to recognize that in the end no one is more responsible than us of our own failure.

I constantly hear people saying things like: I don’t have enough money, I don’t have time, my family won’t allow it, I don’t have the resources, I have to work, it is too hard, I’m too tired, I don’t have the knowledge, I have to look after my kids, I’m too old, I’m too young, my wife/husband/mother/father will not approve it, I have many things to do, and so on. Have you ever heard something like that? I guess so. I heard those words from many people, even from myself. We are constantly making excuses and we believe they are valid, and under the phrase: “I am not making excuses; I’m just being realistic” we justify ourselves.

 

 

 

“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.” – Jordan Belfort

 

 

 

The truth is nothing can limit us, except our own personal thoughts. There is always a way to do something, and most of the time it won’t be easy, it won’t be simple, but it will be worth it. Therefore, in order to achieve our goals and make our dreams become a reality we must stop the habit of making excuses. If you want to be successful, if you want to achieve your goals, you will have to stop looking for excuses, and start looking for solutions. If other people are doing what you would like to do, if someone is living the life of your dreams, if somebody else has achieved what you would like to achieved, is not because they have been lucky, but because they have quit the habit of making excuses. They have decided to do whatever it takes to make their dreams become a reality, and you as well can do the same.

Stop thinking for a second the reasons why you can’t do something, and think as if everything was possible. What will you be doing now? What can you do right now that will get you closer to the place you want to be? What would be the right steps that will make you achieve your goals?

 

 

 

I know from my own experience how wonderful it is to do the things I once thought I couldn’t do. It always looks impossible, until it’s done. Anyway, what can happen if you try? Take responsibility for your life, and either find a way or create a way, and live the life you have imagined!

A New Year: Hundreds of New Opportunities

Why the New Year is a motive to celebrate? Because life will give us 365 new opportunities to enjoy life and be happy, that is why in this time of the year our hearts are filled with dreams, desires and hope. Deep inside our hearts, we believe that this one could be the year where we can do everything we have always wanted to do, making our dreams and goals become a reality, and that is in fact true. The question will be: Are you 100% committed to give your best this year? The answer will determine your future.

 

"Tomorrow, is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one." - Brad Paisley 

 At 00:00 am on the first day of the year, we raise our glasses and make a toast for the New Year, and with joy we look into the future with hope. We remember the year that is gone but we look forward to the next year. Most of us think about all the things we wanted to do that we haven’t done in the last year and we wish that this year we can do all the things we have always wanted to do. That is the spirit of this time of the year, the spirit of believing that everything is possible.

The problem is that after a few days, that spirit is overshadowed by our daily routine, worries, fears and problems, and once again we leave aside all our goals, desires and dreams. Therefore, we leave everything to chance and when that happens there is a large percentage of probabilities that we are not going to do most of the things we wanted to do. That means, that we sabotage our own life, forbidding us to live the life of our dreams.

 

 

 

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney

 

 

 

The truth is we do not know all the things that will happen to us, but that doesn’t mean we should leave everything to chance, but we should do everything we can in order to create the kind of life that will bring us the greatest joy and happiness. Therefore, we must use these days to reflect about the year that is ending, that way we can welcome the New Year more prepared, being the creators of our future and not simply gambling about our life. It is important to know that we are where we are now because we wanted that way, therefore, if we want a different outcome, we should do something in a different way.

Let’s take this time to relax and reflect about this year. Have you done most of the things you have always wanted? Have you reached most of your goals? Have you invested most of the time in yourself? Have you been most of the time happy and joyful? What could you have done different? Have you learned something new? Have you grown up as a person? Are you happy with the person you have been? Have you worked hard in order to be a few step closer from your dream? Have you truly enjoyed your life? My friend, that is the most important question of all, so I will write it one more time: Have you truly enjoyed your life?

 

 

 

“Change your life today. Don’t gamble on the future, act now, without delay.” – Simone de Beauvoir

 

 

 

That is important, because no matter what happened, if you have been able to enjoy your life, that is all that matters. Life is meant to be happy with its good and bad things. The good things are the best but the bad things are lessons, opportunities and tests that life gives us in order to take out the best of ourselves. Think about all those questions, take your time to relax and reflect and then leave the past, forget what doesn’t serve you, remember the lessons, learn from your mistakes and keep all the good things from this year, and with hope and confidence move into this new year with joy.

Once we finish, we must focus on the year that is about to arrive, and the most important question will be: What do you really want to happen to you this year?  Once you know the answer, think about these questions: What can you do now to improve your future? What can you do this year to get closer to your dreams? Which is the first step? What can you do in order to become the best version of yourself? Think about the things that make you happy and then go out and make it happen. Think about them and write them, and take the actions that will make everything possible.

 

 

 

There is no right time, the time is always now. The good thing is that it doesn’t really matter in what time of the year we are, because every new day is a new opportunity to do the things we always wanted to do and be happy. There is no time to waste, time flies, time is limited, so go out and make this year a wonderful year!

Our Silence: The Weapon of Evil

The evil has triumphed, without much effort has defeated the good, snatching its crown, and now, sitting on its throne runs the world. Its power has been the inaction of the good people, and their silence was its lethal weapon. Our silence is causing our own destruction, therefore, it is in our hands to take action and stop so much suffering.

 "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." - Edmund Burke

 

Our silence against the horrors of the world it is what has given to evil the power to conquer the world. Day after day, horrendous acts are being carried out around the world, and humanity remains silent. Evil act with impunity under our noses, and all of us, blind and deaf to the desperate cries of its victims, we remain motionless, speechless, before so much pain.

Our silence is the weapon that has been used by evil to win. It has not damaged its victims as much as we have damaged them with our silence. We are all accomplices of the atrocities committed in the world by remaining silent and looking away to those who claim our help. Our silence is our own punishment, because it condemns us to live in a world full of darkness ruled by evil, where nobody is exempt of its power.

 

 

 

In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

 

 

If the evil has won is because we have let it to win. Wars, murders, violence, rape, bullying, racism, and much more, all happen in front of our eyes, and our silence is our response. We become very confused and stunned before such atrocities but then we continue with our daily duties as if nothing happened. The problem is we do not act until evil touches us close. Once we face the clutches of evil, our silence becomes a cry, and the cry becomes a prayer, and then we realize that nobody seems to listen, and it is in that moment when we realize that humanity is too worried doing something else to listen to those who claim our help.

How different would everything be if we would realize the power we all have within. Together we can make this world a better place. It is the power of the good ones, what can put the evil on its knees, but for doing so we must not stay silent, but speak, not stay still, but act. The problem is we are not aware of our power, we believe we cannot make a difference, so we give up before trying. We wish and hope that someone, one day, will do something to help those who need it, but most of the time, that help never comes, and the pain of those who are suffering never ends. The only thing that we do, that does not help in any way is by remaining silent. Therefore, every little thing we can do counts.

 

 

 

“The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything.” – Albert Einstein

 

 

Love is what this world lacks. A love revolution is what we need to do if we want to live in peace. We need to know that nothing will change if we remain silent before the different types of atrocities that are committed each day. Together we must fight against evil, not with violence but we love, compassion and understanding. Every act of evil we see must be repudiated, and we must act in order to prevent any more suffering. Those who do evil need to know that we are not like them, and we must give them our good example. We must express and declare that we are all together regardless our race, culture or religion. Not any other innocent human being should suffer by the hands of those who do evil.

 

 

Together we can defeat evil, not by remaining silent but by raising our voices. It is time for us to do everything we can in order to stop those which threaten our own existence. Our voices need to be heard and our message must be clear: Yes to love and peace, No to violence and hate!

Our Example: Our Legacy

It is known that words are the most basic and simple form of giving a message because the most powerful message is given by our example, and through it we can change everything for better or worse. Our example is our legacy, it makes the real difference in our world, therefore, what example are you going to give?

 

"Be the change you wish to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi #example #bethechange

 

An example knows no boundaries and knows no languages, it is the most powerful source of knowledge and education. It is through our example that we give the kind of message that will last in people’s minds. A person can take that example, and follow it or they can avoid them, and do the opposite, it is their decision, but is your responsibility to be the example you would like to see in them and in the world.

Day after day, we go through life complaining about the behaviours of others, we constantly criticize and judge others but we never look ourselves in the mirror. The truth is if we tried to be the example of person we would like to see in the world, every human being on this planet would be different, but the problem is we are more focused in changing others than changing ourselves in the first place, and the result is many critics, but few people who actually do something to change the world they live in.

 

 

“Setting an example is not the main means of influencing others; it is the only means.” – Albert Einstein

 

 

 

How can we pretend others act in the way we would like them to act if we are not capable of acting in the way we would like them to act? To make it simpler: How other people will act in a different way if you behave exactly as them? Your example is their example, and their example is your example, everything is connected. The funny thing is that we all consider ourselves as the preachers of truth, values, honesty, love, and morality, and so we go through life, teaching and preaching to others and judging and condemning them for their behaviours but we never stop and reflect about our own behaviours, because if we did that, we would realize how far is our example of being the kind of example we are always talking about.

Parents that fight in front of their children, parents who are dishonest between each other, parents who have bad habits, parents that are aggressive and disrespectful with their children, how can they pretend their kids to not be like them? Just saying things like do not do that, do not say that, do not behave like that? Of course not! They will have to be the example of person that they would like their children to be. Well the same happens everywhere. In churches, in schools, in universities, in work places, in politics, and in every single place of this world there have been people whose examples have helped to make this world a complete nightmare and at the same time there are people who their examples have helped to make this world a better place.

 

 

 

“People may doubt what you say, but they will believe what you do.” – Lewis Cass

 

 

The questions we should analyse now are: What example, that is to say, what message are we giving to the world? Are we being an example of love, kindness, compassion, honesty, respect and understanding or are we being an example of the opposite? Are we being the change we would like to see in the world or are we being the creators of our own destruction? What kind of example are we giving? What legacy are we leaving?

We have to learn something: Our criticism does not lead us anywhere, it does not change anything, but it is our good example what can change the whole world and if it cannot change the world at least will contribute to make this world a better place, and at least one person around you will learn from your example and it will adopt it as their own, and if we all do that, imagine what would happen. This world would definitely be what it was intended to be: A heaven on earth. Be an example not by being perfect, but just being the best version of yourself in every situation you can.

 

 

 

Do you want a better world? Fantastic! Now your first responsibility is to be the change you want to see in the world. Be an example to follow for those around you, for those you know and do not know, for those you love and those who don’t, for your friends and your enemies, this will be your legacy for the born and unborn. Be the source of love, values, kindness and loyalty and see how the world changes!

The Importance of Tolerance

This world has become a world with zero tolerance. Our lack of tolerance with others opinions and beliefs has created this chaotic and maddening separation between human beings. The result of such separation? sadness, suffering, despair, hatred and death. A world without tolerance is a world without peace, and a world without peace is a threat to our very existence.

 "Tolerance is giving to every other human being every right that you claim for yourself." - Robert Green Ingersoll

 

What has made us think that our beliefs are better than others? What has made us think that we are the bearers of absolute truth? What has made us think that we can condemn others for thinking in a different way than us? How is it possible that we commit horrendous acts all in the name of our beliefs as a way of excusing ourselves?

The problem is that we all believe that we have the ultimate truth about something, we believe that our thoughts and beliefs are the right ones, and that the other ones are wrong, what has given us the impunity to act as we do, to condemn and punish others for the only motive of thinking different from us. This has caused not only the separation between nations, but between people all around the world. Families, friendships, relationships of all kind have been destroyed by the lack of tolerance of their own occupants.

 

 

“What is tolerance? It is the consequence of humanity. We are all formed of frailty and error; let us pardon reciprocally each other’s folly – that is the first law of nature.” – Voltaire

 

 

We all consider ourselves tolerant and we ask others for tolerance, but the truth is we are all tolerant as long as the other person agrees with our opinions and beliefs, but tolerance is nothing more and nothing less than understanding others point of view. Tolerance does not involve having to agree with someone else’s opinion or having to share the same belief but involves the understanding of others perceptions about life and different matters.

Freedom is having the opportunity to believe in something, having our own personal opinion about a certain thing without being influenced or forced to do it. There is a huge diversity of thought, and that is what makes this world so interesting and beautiful, otherwise freedom would not exist, and we would become slaves of a tyrannical regime, and as our past has taught us, that is not a happy story.

 

 

 

“Tolerance implies no lack of commitment to one’s own beliefs. Rather it condemns the oppression or persecution of others.” – John F. Kennedy

 

 

Sports, religion, politics, money, and other matters are a prove that we lack tolerance.  We fight, we hate and we kill each other only because someone else doesn’t agree with our beliefs or doesn’t have the same opinion as us. The question is: Why do we want others to agree with us when we do no not want to agree with them? Because “My football team is much better than yours” “My God is much more great and powerful than yours” “My country is better and far richer than yours” “The political party I follow is better than the one you follow” “I am intelligent and you are an ignorant!” “I know more than you do” and so on.

Do you recognize those phrases? I do. I have said them and I’ve heard them from many people. We all believe we have the truth, and we believe that the other is wrong, and we want them to change their beliefs to satisfy our ego. The truth is this does not construct but destroys, and there is no more ignorance than thinking we are the special ones, the lucky owners of absolute truth about life. I mean, it is okay to discuss an idea, what is not okay is to not understand and comprehend that we all not think in the same way, and basically that is the idea of life: To be as free to think and believe what we want without needing the approval of someone else.

 

 

Everyone has different perspective about life, different points of view, and so we need to understand that in order to avoid unnecessary suffering, hate and despair, pointless fights and war, to protect ourselves, our world, and our whole existence. Let’s be more tolerant with others opinions and beliefs, and live in peace!

Our past doesn’t define who we are

Our past doesn’t define who we are, because we are not our past, but we are what we choose to be at this very moment. Somehow we have accepted the concept that our past define who we are, but the truth is that our past cannot define us, but we define ourselves through our behaviours and actions of our present.

 

"Do not give your past the power to define who you are." 

 

Our past doesn’t define us, because the past is gone. The only thing that is here is our present, and what we have chosen to be now is what really define us. In every sunrise, each new day, at any time, we have the opportunity to decide who we are going to be. If you let your past situations define you, if you let others define you, if your let your past behaviours, thoughts and actions define you, if you let external circumstances and things out of your control define you, you will become their slave, but if you decide to be the best version of yourself right here, right now, regardless your past and the person you used to be, then you will become free from any attachment with your old self, having the possibility to be your true self.

The problem is when we fail to be the person we really are by the thoughts and beliefs we have put in our minds about who we are, condemning ourselves to be the person who we are not, for the rest of our lives. There is no greater agony than the one you suffer when you start to believe that you are the person that deep inside your heart you know you are not, repressing and hiding your full potential.

 

 

 

“My past has not defined me, destroyed me, deterred me, or defeated me; it has only strengthened me.” – Steve Maraboli

 

 

 

But the worst issue of all is when people start to believe in the person you are not, because once they accept that person as your true self, they will categorize and define you, and the concept they create in their minds about you rarely changes, what makes everything more difficult for you. That is why the process to change yourself for a better you is not easy, because you must walk the path alone. You will have to face your own misconceptions about yourself, you will have to forgive yourself, forget others opinions about you, and then you will have to accept yourself as you really are and act upon it. The important thing is to believe in yourself, because you create your own destiny and not others, therefore, their opinions about you are absolutely useless.

We all have done and said things that we regret, but what is the point of regretting the person we used to be if that won’t change anything from our past? But what we can change is our present. The key is to embrace the person we used to be, because in a certain way that person shaped us, and released our true self. Our past has defined us, because in the way we acted, but now we define ourselves through our present actions and behaviours, the question is: Are we going to keep letting our past to define us by acting as in our past or are we going to redefine ourselves and act according to our true self?

 

 

 

 “Success in any endeavour depends on the degree to which it is an expression of your true self.” – Ralph Marston

 

 

 

We are not our past, we are not our past decisions, we are not our mistakes, we are not our past behaviours, but we are what we choose to be right now, and that is all that matters. The consequences of our past actions cannot be avoided, but we can avoid being the person we are not. We grow, we change, we evolve, and in that way we discover and create our true self, and that is success.

 

 

 

Nobody defines who we are, not even our past nor our old self, but we define ourselves. In this present moment we have the opportunity to decide and express our true self and release the greatness within us. Forgive yourself, accept your true self, love yourself, become the best version of yourself and change your life!

Lack of Empathy: The Murderer of our Humanity?

Our lack of empathy, that is to say, our lack of ability to recognize and understand the feelings of another, is killing the humanity that is left in our society. Everything that is happening in the world just made me realize one thing: We have learned nothing.

 

"Could a greater miracle take place than for us to look through each other's eyes for an instant?" - Henry David Thoreau #empathy

 

Our own world has been the witness of our own destruction through the years. For years the human beings has been fighting for different reasons, most of them has been the cause of our own separation, where most of the time was generated through the efforts of those who govern us, who have always planted seeds of hate in human hearts, only to satisfy their own ambitious and selfish needs.

Through the years, all those people, the ones with the power, have taken the time to think the best way to control the whole world, and the best plan was launched: Separating people from each other by Nationality, Race, Gender and Religion and voilà! Here goes the most brilliant and evil plan of all times: People just hate and kill each other all by themselves. They took us our ability to think, and we became their slaves. Therefore, this caused one thing: hatred increased while love declined, which caused our lack of empathy, and the creators of such amazing plan? Well, they have always won the game.

 

 

 

“The secret of freedom lies in educating people, whereas the secret of tyranny is in keeping them ignorant.” – Maximilien Robespierre

 

 

 

So, what is empathy? The dictionary says that empathy is: The ability to understand and share the feelings of another. Therefore, how can our lack of empathy be the murderer of our humanity? Simple: if we can’t understand what someone else is feeling, if we can’t put ourselves in some else’s shoes or at least try to feel what that person is feeling, then there is no way we can feel the sadness and suffering from others, what will either cause our disinterest in the suffering of others, generating our inaction, or it will make us act in an evil way against others, being unable to understand and share their suffering.

Therefore, when we lack empathy, everything that makes us humans disappears, because where there is no love, hatred thrives, and it is in that moment when all the worst atrocities happen. We destroy our planet, our nature, we kill all animals, we poison every ocean, lake and river, we cut all our trees, and we hate and kill each other without mercy and compassion and everything thanks to our lack of empathy and lack of love.

 

 

 

“Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule.” – Buddha

 

 

 

What is happening with the refugees is a clear example of our lack of empathy. In the last few days I read articles and comments from people from all countries around the world about immigration and refugees enough to make me sick. Our lack of empathy and our dehumanization is evident, there is no way we can hide the fact that we became so individualistic, that we don’t care anything about anyone except ourselves. The mere thought that someone with a different culture, religion or language will come to our little fantasy world were everything seems to be fine drives us crazy; taking out the worst in us, when it should be the other way around, since we do not own the world.

That’s why in the beginning I said that we have learned nothing. Why? Well, if we compare our past history and our present moment we can see that every death, every suffering, pain and fight from the past, and every human who have fought to restore the peace have taught us nothing, or in better words, we didn’t want to learn and so, we repeat those destructive behaviors from our past over and over again.

 

 

 

“Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” – George Santayana

 

 

 

I wonder if there is any way we can revert the destiny of our humanity. I dare to say – Yes, there is, and the cure to all evil is love. The seeds of hate have been planted thousands of years ago, but that doesn’t mean that love is already extinct, because love will never die, but we have to plant love once again, wherever we go, to everyone we can. Without love humanity cannot survive, and our existence will be condemned by our own actions.

We are all human beings, no matter our nationality, religion, language, race, or culture and that means we all have the same rights, where the right to live counts as the most fundamental of all, we are all the same and we are all one. Every person should be treated as a human, not matter where they come from. Everything that happens to another may someday happen to us.

 

 

 

Let’s restore our humanity, let’s recover our empathy, and with love and compassion let’s help other humans in need. We could be them, so let’s be kind and have respect, and in return we will have everything anyone can ask for: a world full of love and peace.

Do We Live, or We Merely Exist?

Do we live, or we merely exist? Depending on whether we are free or not it is what will determine the answer. But how do we know that? Because freedom makes us happy, thus, if we are happy we are free and if we are free it means that we are truly living our life, otherwise we only exist.

 

 “What light is to the eyes, what air is to the lungs, what love is to the heart, liberty is to the soul of man.”  - Robert Green Ingersoll

 

The other day I was reading an article about pigeons, and I read something that really caught my attention. The article said that wild pigeons have a life expectancy of around 5 years while pigeons in captivity can live around 15 years or more, and after reading that, I wondered: It is better to live longer with everything you need to survive but with no freedom, or it is better to live less, with a not so comfortable life, but being free?

Trying to give an answer, I said to my self – Okay, the truth is I can’t think as pigeon, I can’t know what is better for them and what they would prefer, but I can think as a human, and as we are free beings, so are pigeons. We both have something in common, and that is the need to be free, and I believe every being has the same need. None of us would prefer to be kept in captivity or in an “all-inclusive prison” in order to live more comfortable for many years, or at least is not what we humans want, or… maybe yes?

 

 

 

“None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free.” – Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

 

 

I hesitated for a couple of minutes and then I asked myself another questions: It is not in that way how most of human beings on this earth actually live? Don’t we live in captivity? I mean, don’t we constantly fall in the trap of living as prisoners in our comfort zone? Because that is what our comfort zone is, it is the cage where we lock ourselves in with the purpose of surviving. In fact, that is what we do, we survive, we exist, but do we truly live?

The truth is that living in our comfort zone only gives us the feeling of being truly alive and free, what in fact is only an illusion, that is why it is so easy for us to live there, pretending to be happy, because it gives us the idea that there we can have everything we want in order to live a comfortable, happy, and peaceful life, but in order to survive we refuse to live the life we want because doing that would mean leaving our comfort zone, which would mean that we would have to put ourselves at risk, where everything we have can vanish in the blink of an eye.

 

 

 

“Freedom means you are unobstructed in living your life as you choose. Anything less is a form of slavery.” – Wayne Dyer

 

 

 

Wild or in captivity? Uncomfortable or comfortable? Free or caged? What would you choose if you knew you were going to die in a year? Would you still be doing what you are doing now? Because if you don’t, that means you already live in captivity. The truth is our future is not guaranteed, and no matter how safe we think we are, any time can be our time. What matters is to live our life, and not simply survive. Otherwise, what would be the point of this life?

I mean, how many years a human being can live? 50? 60? 80 years? I mean, what is the point of living 80 years if you haven’t lived at all? Maybe you have experienced a safe and comfortable life, and that’s totally fine, but if you haven’t pursued a dream, or you haven’t dared to go for a new adventure, or if you haven’t followed your heart, or if you didn’t do something that has required you to leave your comfort zone at least once in a while, if you haven’t experienced the feeling of happiness that comes from being free to do whatever you want without letting your fears, other people, situations, and anything to stop you, then you haven’t lived at all.

 

 

 

The truth about everything is that your life is yours, and nobody but you has the power to decide what to do with it, and the best for you, me and everyone is to do what makes us happy. But always remember that being in captivity is not living, is merely exist, but being free is living.

The Power of a Compliment

Normally we ignore the power of a compliment, not knowing how deep and magical a simple compliment can be. Unfortunately the act of praising is easily forgotten in the chaos of our daily life. The truth is that a single kind word, a simple, genuine and unexpected compliment can change a person’s day.

 "A compliment is verbal sunshine." - Robert Orben

 

A single compliment is like a caress for the soul. It can bring joy, strength and courage to human souls. To give someone else a compliment is a way to recognize another person for something in particular, and it is a way to show others love and kindness, what always generate a good impact in someone else’s life and never the opposite. Think about it this way, most of us have received a compliment at least once in our lives. Do you remember how you felt when that happened? It feels great, isn’t it?

That’s the power of a compliment; it always makes someone happier and not the opposite. A compliment can make someone else’s day, and if we can make someone happy, why wouldn’t we? But for a compliment to be effective, it must meet the following requirements: It has to be kind, show respect, be genuine and be totally honest otherwise the effect will be the opposite. After all, a compliment is a kind and sincere word expressed by a person to praise, to lift and to make other person happy.

 

 

 

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” – Leo Buscaglia

 

 

 

If you haven’t figured out yet, I’m not only talking about compliments that focus on someone else’s appearance, but I’m talking about those compliments that focus in something much deeper and essential as the spirit, behaviors and attitudes of human beings. In a world where superficiality wins, is great to be recognized by doing things right. Every small word of kindness is always appreciated and the impact can be greater than expected.

On the other hand, a compliment is not only beneficial for the other person but for you as well, because as you already might know: what goes around comes around. If you have the habit to give compliments, you are very likely to be the person who will also receive compliments. There is also another benefit you will receive by giving others a compliment, what can generate an impact in your life. That benefit is the reward you get from praising others for a job well done, because when you give a compliment for it, you encourage that person, and it is very sure that person will continue or even improve on doing something.

 

 

 

“Kind words do not cost much. Yet they accomplish much.” – Blaise Pascal

 

 

 

For instance, if one of your employees has done a good job, and you recognize the effort, telling a few kind words like – Well done today! How do you think that person is going to feel? And how do you think it will act in the future? Definitely the result of those simple words will create a huge impact. The person will appreciate those words and will feel good about it, what will act as a motivation to keep the good work. The reward for you will be to have a happy employee who will keep the good work. The same example acts for everything, parents with their children, relationships between couples, or siblings, or friends, colleagues, employees and customers, and with everyone you surround yourself with. If you give sincere compliments to people around you, it will generate a positive impact in their lives and yours as well.

That’s what I have experienced many times, for example, one day I was working as a waitress for a special event in a Hotel, there were more than 400 people and my colleagues and managers were more stressed than ever, the work was hard and tiring, and after a several hours I began to feel fatigue all over my body, but that didn’t erase my smile from my face, but I was indeed tired, and I desperately needed some peace of mind. When everything finished and every guest was leaving, an old man came and said to me – Thank you for tonight, you have done a great job! I know this is hard work and I hope you get some kind of reward for it, and he left. What he didn’t know was that his own compliment was a reward to me. He made me feel that all the hard work was worth it, what motivated me to keep doing a good job.

 

 

A single compliment can be simple words for you, but huge words for someone else. A compliment it is a gift you give to another and it can mean nothing to you but a lot for someone else. Therefore, do not underestimate the power of a compliment. Do not let a day pass without giving someone else a sincere compliment, no matter how big or small, you may not know it, but you can brighten someone else’s day!

 

What is Success?

Is success the road to happiness? How can we achieve success? Is there perhaps a special recipe for it? What should we do to be successful? In order to answer these questions we must ask ourselves this question first: What is success? In the answer to that question we can find the key to our success.

  “The whole secret of a successful life is to find out what is one's destiny to do, and then do it.”  - Henry Ford #success #quotes

 

Have you ever thought about the real meaning of success? And what will make you a successful person? Have you ever wonder why you want to succeed? Do you think success is the road to happiness? The truth is that our own definition of success determines whether we are successful or not.

I have always wondered about success, as I grew up with the belief that happiness was the result of success, therefore I always believed that in order to live a happy life one should succeed first. Years later, I not only realized that my belief was wrong, but I also found out that my ideas about success and how to be successful were also wrong, and that was the reason why I struggled and struggled to be successful always failing at it.

 

 

 

“Our greatest fear should not be of failure, but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter.” – Francis Chan

 

 

 

The problem is that our society teaches us that success is equal to having money, or having fame, or power or material things, or a particular social status, or a degree, a good job, a special talent, or a good-looking appearance, or all of the above. Therefore, we go through our life seeking for those things in order to achieve success, but would that be a real success? Can we consider success as being the act of achieving superficial things? Or is it success something more profound?

Therefore, the rule N.1 to achieve success would be to investigate, define and understand the meaning of the word success. According with the dictionary, success means: The favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one’s goals. Therefore, if success is the achievement of one’s goals, wouldn’t anyone who has achieved its goals be a successful person? Even if those goals don’t involve power, fame or fortune? Or in the end, it’s all about how we measure success? That is to say that success can only be measured in a superficial way?

 

 

 

“Stop chasing the money and start chasing the passion.” – Tony Hsieh

 

 

 

Let’s think about this: There are two people with law degree, who would have wanted to study something different. One of them works in a prestigious law firm, while the other one have decided to make his hobby a profession; he quit his job to travel the world. The first of them has his life assured with a degree, a great job, and an excellent salary but the second one doesn’t, he lives day by day, doing what he loves. Therefore, who is successful?

I guess most of the people, judging for the way their lives look like; they would determine that the first one is the one who is successful. But what if they could see deeper? What if you could see and feel what they feel deep inside their hearts? What if you could feel the pain and suffering of the first person for not doing the things he would love to do? And what if you could feel the joy and happiness of the second person? Would you change your mind?

 

 

 

“The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself.” – Mark Caine

 

 

 

Once again everything depends on your own definition of success and your personal goals, dreams and desires and what you do or cease to do to achieve those things determines your success. Therefore, if you want to be successful, find your own definition for success, find what would be true success for your and make it happen. Success is being who you really are, always believing in yourself, doing what you love regardless how many material things you possess.

In my case, I discovered that success is doing what you love, success is being happy for who you are and what you have. Success is facing challenges every day, not giving up, rising every time you fall. Success means to conquer your fears, without letting them to conquer you. Success is not allowing adversity to defeat you. Success is being who you really are whenever you want it, without being limited for others opinions about you.

 

 

“Success? I don’t know what that word means. I’m happy. But success, that goes back to what in somebody’s eyes success means. For me, success is inner peace. That’s a good day for me.” – Denzel Washington

 

 

Successful people are those who have always believed in themselves, successful people are doers, dreamers, believers, adventurers, risk takers, and they never give up. Successful people are those who have dared to follow their own dreams. Successful people are all the children and adults, women and men, rich and poor, famous or unknown, with a degree or not, who are out there being happy, doing what they love, chasing their dreams, being who they really are, without trying to please everybody.

 

 

To conclude – Is success the road to happiness? As Albert Schweitzer once said – “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” If you want to be successful: Be happy, do what you love, follow your dreams and make them happen and above all be whoever you want to be, otherwise you will succeed being someone else, having a life you don’t want.