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2017: A New Year, A New Opportunity, A New Beginning

We can almost see it, the 2017, the new year is about to arrive. It carries a big suitcase, and it is loaded with hopes, opportunities, challenges, adventures, goals, dreams and more. And I believe we all wonder the same questions… What thing in that suitcase has my name on it? What will the future hold? The answer is simple: The 2017 will bring us what is best for us and all those things that we are ready to receive. Are your arms open? Is your heart open? Are you ready to accept the new opportunities of this new year?

 

 

 

We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day

 

 

 

 

Every new year comes with new opportunities and challenges for every one of us. They come in different shapes, colors and sizes. They come in different ways and in different times, and we all receive at least one opportunity to improve our lives, to discover our true self, to develop our character, to become the best version of ourselves, to grow, to evolve. Those are purposes of these opportunities and challenges.

I said that this 2017 will bring us what is best for us and what we are willing to receive. What I mean with this is that God and life are always ready to give us what is best for us, that is to say, all the new opportunities that will push ourselves forward. The problem is that we are not always willing to receive the gift of a new challenge. The reason could be because of fear, doubts, uncertainty, maybe because we prefer to stay in our comfort zone or because the gift is not to our liking. So, we refuse to accept the new opportunities, letting them go, losing our chance to improve, develop, grow and evolve.

 

 

 

 

“Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering ‘it will be happier’…” – Alfred Tennyson

 

 

 

 

The new year can bring positive and “negative” things. With positive I mean a new job, a new relationship, an increase in your salary, a new trip, any kind of material possession, the achievement of a goal, a dream come true, a new home, another child, or any other positive thing that could happen to us. And with “negative” I mean those kinds of things that are opposite to the ones we call positive. For example, the loss of a job, more debts, the end of a relationship, the loss of any material possession, failure in any aspect of our lives.

What do we all want in this new year? We want more of the positive things and less of the negative ones. But what if the negative things have also a meaning? What if they happen for a reason that we do not yet comprehend? Well, the truth is that they also have a special meaning. The key is to discover its purpose, it could be for example, to make us learn a new lesson, or improve ourselves, to give us the chance to have better things, or simply because they want us to develop the greatness that is within us.

 

 

 

 

 

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – Viktor E. Frankl

 

 

 

 

Always remember, that it is not what happens outside of us, that is to say, our external circumstances what really matters, but how we respond to those circumstances is what matters the most. Regardless of what happens to us, at any given moment we have the opportunity to decide how we are going to feel and how are we going to respond to what is happening. Therefore, face this new year with courage and optimism, be ready to receive the new gifts of this 2017. When a new opportunity, whether positive or not so positive knocks at your door, take it, and give your best to create the outcomes you expect. Always remember that no matter what happens, you are the creator of your own destiny!

Let’s say goodbye to this wonderful 2016 that is about to end with happiness and gratitude, because no matter what happened, we survived and nobody can take from us the lessons we learned, the wonderful moments, and all the things we got from it. Let’s keep the good memories, the important lessons, and take them with us in this new year. Leave behind what doesn’t serve you, and with hope, courage and enthusiasm receive this 2017 with your arms open. Be ready to face any challenge, do not surrender in the face of adversity, transform the negative into positive, use any circumstance in your favor, and never lose the opportunity to create the life you imagine!

 

 

 

 

 

 

A new year is coming, and this 2017 brings 365 new opportunities, and if we are ready to take them they will help us become the person we are meant to become so we can create the life we yearn, the one we deserve and the one we are capable of living.  Happy New Year!

What is the true meaning of Christmas?

The year is almost over and with Christmas around the corner is easy to lose control. In this time of the year, specially the last days before Christmas people tend to be more stressed than relaxed. In these days, we have many things going in our heads, we are full of things to do, we need to organize everything with our families, prepare all the food possible, and one important task requires utmost urgency: Gifts. But why we truly celebrate Christmas? What is the true meaning of it?

 

 

 

“My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others.” - Bob Hope

 

 

 

For most people the first and most important thing to do before Christmas is to buy gifts. The little story about the old man who has a long white beard and is dressed in red and white made us believe that without gifts, Christmas is not Christmas. Therefore, it is necessary to buy gifts for all our friends and members of our family. So, it is time to go out to search and find them, but there is a little problem: Everyone left everything for the last minute as you did, and now you are trying to find gifts in a human tide.

The “Operation Gifts” becomes an impossible mission, there are a lot of people, endless queues, hundreds of different products at exorbitant prices, you don’t have enough time, and as you see the money flying from your wallet, and your card on fire, you know that it will be impossible to buy gifts for everyone. When you are about to lose hope, or go crazy, you find everything you “need” and you manage to go back home. Everyone put all the gifts in the Christmas tree, we celebrate, we eat, we drink, we open the gifts, and we say good-bye to Christmas until next year. But, what is the true meaning of Christmas?

 

 

 

 

“Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before! What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store. What if Christmas…perhaps…means a little bit more!” – Dr. Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas!

 

 

 

 

Some people may think about Santa Claus and gifts, others about eating a lot of food and drinking, and some about having a good time with their families and friends or maybe all together, but it’s that all? Well, there is something more. Christmas is in fact the day we commemorate the birth of Jesus Christ. Yes, I know. Most people know that. But, then why when the day comes, everyone forgets about it? I mean, imagine that is your birthday, everyone buys gifts, prepare food and gather together to celebrate it but you are not invited, in fact, nobody remembers about you. Sad, isn’t it?

Where do I want to go with this? That Christmas is a day to remember and commemorate the most wonderful thing that we have as human beings, and that my friends is called love. That is what Jesus taught us: To love unconditionally, to love with no boundaries, to love our neighbor as ourselves. Regardless if you are a believer or not, if you are going to celebrate Christmas, do not let Santa Claus, materialism and this society that made us addict to consumerism make you forget what is really important about Christmas: Love.

 

 

 

 

“Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love.” – Hamilton Wright Mabie

 

 

 

 

Therefore, do not feel pressured by this society to buy the best and most expensive gifts, or to spend a lot of money in high amounts of food, do not feel stressed because you have the need to go to certain places and meet with people you don’t want to. Don’t even feel depressed because you are alone that day. Don’t feel sad because your kids are not getting any gifts, that is not the meaning of Christmas, that is what this society made us believe, because the real meaning of it is to be grateful, for the things we have, and for the opportunity to love and be loved. Enjoy this moment, regardless of your current circumstances. Simply raise your glass and make a toast for today you are alive!

 

 

 

 

 

What is the meaning of Christmas? To remember that love conquers hate. May today all our actions and thoughts, and all the things we eat, the music we hear and the things we say may reflect only love, for love is what saved us and what will save us forever. Merry Christmas!

A Short Story About the Power of Understanding – Part II

In the previous part I started writing a little story that I imagined one night while I was watching the stars. This short story is about the power of understanding. It is a way to see how different everything could be if we could be less judgmental and more understanding with each other. Hope you enjoy it!

 

 

"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." - Carl Jung  

 

 

He started seeing flashing images, they were passing quickly through his eyes like a movie. As the images were passing, he started to recognize the kid in the images, it was the life of this kid in little images. As they were passing, the little kid was getting older, and suddenly he recognized completely who it was: It was his neighbor, a shy and quiet boy of about 20 years of age. The man has always criticized and judged this boy, because he was different, he always referred him as the “suicide boy” because he was lonely and never smiled. The images keep passing through his eyes, until they stopped.

 

The man remained motionless for almost 15 minutes, and suddenly, he broke into tears. What he saw in those images was the 20 years of life of this boy. The magic about the shoes he tried was that not only made him see the life of the boy he always criticized but he could felt what he also felt in different moments of his life. He understood why he was the way he was. This boy has been through a lot of hardship in his short life. And in the present, he was taking care of her sick and drunk mother, because his father ran away when he was born.  Suddenly, he realized that this boy, his neighbor, was worthy of being respected.

 

He tried the second pair first, and afterwards the third pair of shoes, both fit him perfectly. He saw the images that appeared. Those two pairs were the lives of two different people he knew. People who he always criticized most of the time.  One was the life of the secretary of her boss. He always criticized her for the way she looked, the way she acted, the way she spoke, he always judged her because she was a very reserved and quiet girl, who looked like a nun. It turns out that this girl has suffered abuse from his father when she was a child, and she has been afraid of men ever since.

 

The third pair of shoes was the life of his father. He has always been very critic with him. His father was always a strict, cold and distant man. He didn’t know much about his father’s life, they never really had a relationship, and they haven’t talked in the last years. He always criticized his father for not being a good, loving and understanding father. But what he saw in those images broke his heart into pieces.

 

It turned out that his father has had a rough life. His grandfather, his father’s dad, was very severe with his son. He has been the only son out of 4 daughters, and his father was very hard on him, always receiving psychological and physical abuse from his part. “This will make you a man, and you are the only one, you must take care of your sisters”, he used to say. This man now understood that his father was the way he was because of his own father. He saw in the images that his father always took care of his 4 sisters after their father’s death, and he always took care of him. The man felt ashamed of himself for being so cruel with his father, because he was always distant and cold, but deep inside him he was good man. A father to be proud of.

 

The man feeling a mixed of emotions tried to find again an exit door, he also went to the front to see if he could open the door, but it was still locked. Tired and hopeless, he went back to the rear of the store. He realized that he hasn’t tried the fourth pair of shoes. Already feeling devastated he was afraid of what he could see in those last pair of shoes. His curiosity was stronger so he decided to try them on.

 

He started seeing the images passing through his eyes. Immediately he recognized the person in those images: It was himself, and those were his memories. He saw the person he was and he saw the person he has become. A selfish and judgmental person that has always been criticizing people without even knowing them. He started crying, he couldn’t recognize himself. “Who have I become?” He said with tears in his eyes. The images keep passing before his eyes. He couldn’t tolerate seeing himself in those images. He felt ashamed, and for a moment he even despised himself. “Please God I don’t want to be this person anymore, I can be better than this, I can change.” He cried out loud.

 

Suddenly, the images stopped. He took out the shoes. The lights went on, and he went to the front door. It was open. He went out the door and left the shop. He opened his eyes, he was lying on his bed, it was all a dream, a dream that came true. He wanted to change, God gave him hand. He reborn, he changed, he evolved, and his life was never the same again.

 

 

 

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” – John Watson

 

 

 

With this little story that I imagined in my mind, I could understand how different everything is when we get to know the story of a person. Once we know what they have been through, once we feel what they felt, everything changes. But do we need to go through that to be understanding and compassionate? The answer is no. We need to understand that everyone is fighting their own battler, becoming more understanding and less judgmental. We do not change people by criticizing them, nor we change our lives. We need less critics, and more people willing to become the best version of themselves so they can be ready to help others do the same. Together we can make this world a better place, it all starts with us and with the person we choose to be every single day of our lives.

 

 

 

 

The next time you criticize and judge others, try to put yourself in that person shoes first. Try to understand others as you would like them to understand you. Understanding is the key to a better world. Will you help create it?

A Short Story About the Power of Understanding

When it comes to criticize and judge others, we are all experts. Without mercy we go through life like judges criticizing and condemning others, but what would happen if we could spend the same energy we spend on judging others, in trying to understand them? Could it be possible that our understanding could change the way we see others? What if we would have the chance to walk in someone else’s shoes?

 

 

"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." - Carl Jung

 

 

A few days ago, in one of those beautiful summer nights where the sky is clear and full of stars, and the temperature is pleasant, I was quietly sitting on an armchair in my balcony gazing at the stars. For some reason, every time I look at the sky I start to reflect about a certain topic, as if there were something up there, probably God, watching me and whispering something to me. In that night I started wondering about how much people tended to criticize others. I think because we can’t cope with our own life, we tend to focus on others rather than ourselves to feel less miserable.

While I was thinking about it I imagined how would it be to walk in someone else’s shoes. How would it be for one moment be in someone else’s skin and see life through that person’s eyes, and feel what that person feels. I was thinking that probably would increase our understanding for others, and we would become less judgmental. Our hearts would open, and we would change the way we treat others, becoming more understanding and compassionate, having more empathy and being less ruthless judges.

 

 

 

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” – Dale Carnegie

 

 

 

I always try to find examples that will help me clear my concerns. It is so that I imagined a little story about a man of about 30 years who used to criticize others constantly. It didn’t matter if you didn’t have reasons to criticize someone, this man always found a reason to criticize someone. Day and night, he was always criticizing and gossiping about other people, and no matter how annoying and despicable he was, he will always find followers who will applaud him.

One day, he went to a near shoe repair shop to collect one of the shoes he had left for repair. He entered into the shop, and suddenly a strong wind closed the door abruptly. He rang the bell, which was over the counter, to call the cobbler. No signs of him, he rang it one more time. He waited a few more minutes and decided to leave the store. He tried to open the door, but it was locked. “Maybe it was because of the wind” he thought. Tried a few more times without success.

“How will I get out? Maybe there is an alternative exit at the rear of the store” he thought. He went there to find a way to get out, and maybe he could also find the cobbler. As he was walking through the alley behind the counter the light slowly started to fade. Suddenly it was so dark he couldn’t see a thing. He was trying to find the light switch when something bright started shining. He went to see what it was, and he found four pair of shoes shining like stars.

He was amazed, he has never seen something like it. He took one of the shoes to see it closer, they were common shoes, but the light that shine through them with no apparently reason made them special. After seeing it carefully, he started using it as a lantern. He searched all around the place for the cobbler and the exit door. There were none of them. He searched every corner of that room, but there where no way out.

He decided to sit down and wait. “Maybe the cobbler went out to do something and he forgot to close the door, probably he will return soon” he thought. He waited half an hour, one hour, the cobbler never came. He was tired, hungry, and bored as hell. Where could he be? The man wondered. He took one of the shining shoes and tried it on, it was his size. He tried the other one. He stood up, and in that moment a miracle happened.

 

 

To be continued… 🙂 

Is Life a Competition?

Since we were children we are taught to compete. Day after day the habit of competing with others is shaped. When we less expect it that habit is created, and our whole life becomes a competition, a competition where we need to beat others in order to be successful. But is life really a competition? Do we need to compete in order to be successful? It is the act of competing with others what give us true victory? Can the result of a competition really define a human being? Let’s find out together more about competition, its definition, level of importance and impact on human beings.

 

 

 

 

According to the dictionary, a competition is “a situation in which someone is trying to win something or be more successful than someone else” In other words, we can define competition as being an opportunity to get a special prize that might have a special significance, or the opportunity to defeat others to declare oneself as being more successful or superior than someone else. Therefore, does this mean that we must focus on defeating others to be successful? It is by doing so, that one truly achieves victory? It is true that through competing with others one evolves, becomes superior, and achieves greatness?

Well, that will depend on the way we see it, that is to say, our own perspective, belief and idea of what a competition truly means. Two different beliefs are going to determine the true meaning of competition and the answers to those questions: 1. The belief that life is a competition, where you have to defeat others in every possible aspect of your life. 2. The belief that life is not a competition at all, and if there is one competition that is with the person you were yesterday.

 

 

 

“The only competition worthy of a wise man is with himself.” – Washington Allston

 

 

 

The first belief will define competition as the possibility to beat others to be successful, believing that through defeating others one gets true victory, what makes them more superior, what makes them evolve, and so achieve greatness.  The second belief will define competition as being merely the chance to be better than you were yesterday, believing that one is successful, evolves and achieves greatness by becoming the best version of oneself.

The people who have the first belief will focus on winning others. That will be their maximum goal, beating others will become their main desire, and the defeat of others will be their victory.  Those who have the second belief will focus on being better than they were yesterday, and becoming the best version of themselves will be their ultimate goal, and victory for them will mean being the person they were meant to be without needing to defeat others for being so.

 

 

 

“You are never really playing an opponent. You are playing yourself, your own highest standards, and when you reach your limits, that is real joy.” – Arthur Ashe

 

 

 

As we can see competition is a word that can have many different meanings. The true is that nowadays people have accepted the first belief, because that is what this society taught us. It taught us that we need to compete, and in every competition, we have to win others in order to be successful. And this is not about sports, this is not a simple game, this is about life. Somehow, they transformed life into a competition. We compete not to become the best version of ourselves, but to simply defeat others, what gave us a wrong idea of life.

Every aspect of our life has become a competition. In every place there is an ongoing competition: In workplaces, schools, universities, homes, neighborhoods, bars, parks, and every corner of this world. We compete to see who has the best car, smartphone, house, clothes, shoes, we compete to see who has the best body, who looks better, who is more beautiful, we compete to see who has the best job, the best position, the best salary, we compete to see who has the best grades, or the most important degree, or anything that will put us in a “high status position”,  we compete to see who has the best birthday, wedding, funeral, it doesn’t matter, the fact is that we have to be better than others, that gives a fake sensation of happiness and success, that seems to fill our empty souls.

 

 

 

“Real learning comes about when the competitive spirit has ceased.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti

 

 

 

But, do we ever feel complete? No, not really, and that is why we never stop competing. We desperate need to be better than others to feel successful. What we don’t know is that the only person we need to be better than is the person we were yesterday. Being the person we were meant to be, doing the things we love without needing others approval, without needing to beat others, gives us freedom, and that makes us truly successful, that is how you really win this competition called “Life”, which in fact is not a competition at all, or not against others, but a competition against the person we were yesterday. Winning this game, means defeating the person that we are not, becoming the person that we really are, and that means becoming the best version of ourselves.

If you want to improve yourself, to develop your true potential, if you want to succeed at life, you will have to fight to become the person you are capable of becoming, if you believe in yourself and you think you are good enough to be the person you have imagined, then there is no need to compete with others, because you will realize that you don’t have competition, and if you don’t have competition, against whom are you going to compete with?

 

 

 

 

 

Life is not a competition, and if there is one competition, that is against ourselves. We create our own success by exceeding our own standards not by defeating others. So let’s go out and become the best version of ourselves!

Rebels with a Cause

There are many rebels, but few with a cause. These rebels think they are being free but what they do not know is that they are only puppets of a system that have them under its control. Therefore, to attain real freedom one must discover a cause to fight for, this cause is the purpose of our very existence, this cause is not meant to destroy us but to reveal our true potential. Being your real self and doing what you came here to do is what gives you freedom. It is time to find your purpose, and be a rebel with a cause!

 

 

"We are rebels for a cause, poets with a dream, and we won't let this world die without a fight." - Albert Camus

 

 

When we are kids we dare to dream, and we dare to dream big. We believe that everything is possible, and we know what we want, and we do everything we can in order to get it. But day after day, all our illusions start to disappear, adults inadvertently begin to limit ourselves. And one day we stop being kids and we start being teenagers, and like an uncontrollable impulse that comes from within we start to rebel to all those who limited us.

The problem is we become rebels without a cause, or a cause that is not yet known or is not defined. And that makes us fight the wrong battle, because we don’t revolt against those who were limiting us but we revolt against ourselves. We start making choices which its consequences destroy us more than anyone else. We believe we are winning, but in the end we are only losing the battle. We make a revolution against ourselves. And one day this revolution ends, we are now grown up, and defeated, confused, lost and worried we become the miserable adults we were trying so hard to avoid, and only from time to time, we do things that makes us believe we are the bold rebels we were before, but in the blink of an eye we go back to our duties.

 

 

 

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.” – Rob Siltanen

 

 

 

Therefore, in order to create a revolution that will bring the change that we were looking for, we need to become the type of rebel that will make us successful, we will have to become rebels with a cause, a cause that puts our heart on fire, a cause that take out the best version of ourselves, a cause that gives meaning to our lives, a cause that challenge us, a cause that will change our lives, and the lives of others forever. The only way to deal with a society that limits us is to become an activist for freedom, a rebel with a cause, and be so utterly free as to start thinking by ourselves, being less impulsive, being less controlled, and being free to create the life that we have imagined.

The truth is every time someone starts to question things, or starts to see things in a different way, and comes with a crazy idea that could change the world, that could push human race forward, that can truly create an evolution and change the way in which humans live, they are most of the time treated as dreamers, crazy or rebels. But these people are crazy enough to think that they can make a difference, and they are free enough to act in a certain way to achieve their goals, they don’t depend on others approval and they don’t feel comfortable with the status quo. These people are the ones that make history, these are the people that change the world.

 

 

 

“The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.” – Albert Camus

 

 

 

So who are you going to be? A rebel without a cause making the kind of decisions that will create a negative impact on your life? Are you going to truly limit yourself by thinking you can’t be more than a simple rebel that does some crazy stuff from time to time? Or are you really going to become a rebel and fight for your freedom? Are you going to be a rebel with a cause, being the creator of your destiny, freeing yourself, creating the world you dream, and having the life you truly deserve? You have to remember one thing: nobody limits us more than we do, our true limitations are found within ourselves, and we have the key to our own freedom.

 

 

 

 

 

Do you want to be a rebel? So be a rebel with a cause, and in order to succeed you will have to be willing to do the things other don’t. Dare to dream, imagine, discover and create, work, study and learn, question everything, ask why, find your own conclusions, be yourself, learn from your mistakes, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something, love, grow, evolve and be free. Because true rebels are those who make a positive impact on their lives and everyone’s lives and are bold enough as to change the world!

The Scope of our Words

We constantly speak or write, and many words come out from our mouth in one day. Some of them just fade away, or are simply forgotten, but some of them keep resonating in someone else’s mind for hours, days, months and even years. The truth is the scope of our words can be higher than we think.

 "Speak clearly, if you speak at all; carve every word before you let it fall." - Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

 

The words we speak can be more powerful than we imagine, depending on what we say, they can be a wonderful tool or a lethal weapon. Even one word can create a huge impact in the life of other people. The problem is that sometimes we underestimate their power, and we do not measure the scope of our words. Therefore, we must be careful with the ones we choose, especially with those harmful words that can act as a deadly weapon for someone and hurt them forever.

We speak or write, and we use different words in order to communicate something to another, and according to what we say, they can sometimes encourage, inspire, help, teach, heal and help others, and at the same time they can destroy, hurt, damage, or kill other people. The words we speak can lift someone else up or they can put someone else down. They can do good, or they can do evil, and it is in our hands which one to choose.

 

 

 

“Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill.” – Buddha

 

 

 

If we could imagine what our words can cause in someone else’s life, we would probably choose them better. The problem is that sometimes when we speak, we do not think, especially when our emotions speaks for us, and the problem is not when those emotions are good, but when they are not, because it is in that moment when we can cause a huge pain.

Have you ever been angry and told someone something you regretted? Probably yes. The problem was that our emotions, that is to say, our anger spoke for us, and most of the cases we didn’t even wanted to say what we just said but the damage was done. The same happens in the opposite way, when someone says something to us and those words creates a huge pain in our hearts. Some of those words are forgiven, some of them are forgotten, and some of them are stored deep inside a person’s heart.

 

 

 

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napoleon Hill

 

 

 

The good thing about words is that they can influence someone, and make someone believe those words are real, changing its life completely. The bad thing is when those words are used for evil, and they make other people do evil, or to follow the wrong path, or make someone believe that those harmful words about himself are real. For example, many times in my past, people said different words to me that really made a hole in my heart: You’re ugly, you’re good for nothing, you’re not smart, you will fail, you can’t do that, you are this and that, and I believed them.

The problem is that sometimes those words are spoken by people you really care, and they can be really painful, because it is easy to avoid listening to those you don’t care but it’s hard to not listen to those you love. For that reason, we should always be careful with the words we choose in our daily lives, in our relationships, with our friends and colleagues, with our parents and children and with every single person we surround ourselves with.

 

 

 

“Be careful what you say. You can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later, the wounds are still there.” -Joel Osteen

 

 

 

Why would you say someone that he or she is ugly, stupid, or a loser, if you really don’t want them to believe that they are so? Maybe, because you think they won’t believe that? And what if they do? What if that person believes in what you said and act upon it? What if you really hurt someone with the power of your lethal words? Because that is what you can cause, and you may not know that, but you could break someone’s heart with just one word.

We could create the same effect but in the opposite way, and use them to lift a person up, make them love themselves, bring them peace, make them believe that they are awesome and unique, make them feel good about themselves so they can know how amazing and beautiful they are, we can change their perspective and make them know that they deserve all the good in the world, so they can know that everything is possible, that they can do it, that they can be successful.

 

 

 

“Kind words do not cost much. They never blister the tongue or lips. They make other people good-natured. They also produce their own image on men’s souls, and a beautiful image it is.” – Blaise Pascal

 

 

The truth is, what other people say about you is their opinion and not yours, what they say is their vision of the world, or maybe is their own broken heart speaking, or their anger, or maybe is just what they feel, and we cannot avoid it. We can either choose to let their words destroy us, or use it as strength to keep getting better, and keep moving forward. But in case we meet someone that cannot do that, why don’t we avoid hurting others, and choose to not hurt them with our words? Or at least, why don’t we say what we have to say in a more peaceful way?

 

 

 

Therefore, why don’t use our words as a tool rather than a weapon, and use it to inspire, help, heal and encourage people speaking words of love, and change our lives and the lives of others!

Why Am I a Vegetarian?

Every time I say I am a vegetarian, people ask: Why? Well, Mahatma Gandhi once said: “Be the change you wish to see in the world” and that’s why I’ve decided to become a vegetarian, because I believe we can live in a world in peace, but peace is something we all create, and to demand peace, we must first start by being the source of it, and that includes the things we feel, think, say and do. And choosing life before death in our dishes is a way of making peace.

 “Non-violence leads to the highest ethics, which is the goal of all evolution. Until we stop harming all other living beings, we are still savages.” - Thomas A. Edison #vegetarian #vegetarianism

 

I believe freedom makes us happy, and happiness brings us peace, and a world without freedom, nor peace cannot survive, and the lack of all those things create violence, and today there is violence everywhere, and that violence is bringing our existence to an end. How can we expect to live in a world in peace when we are constantly creating violence? There is violence in our daily lives, in our jobs and schools, there is violence in our homes, there is violence in the programs we watch, in the books and newspaper we read, in the games we play, in the music we hear, and there is violence in the food we eat.

We are covered with the blood of those who suffer: People, animals, and our precious world. When we choose to close our eyes against the suffering of other beings, we choose to be accomplices of the injustices of this world. But why does this happen? Because we are too worried in our own businesses that we forgot to remember the ones next to us. We have become so selfish that we do not care if in order to satisfy our own needs, we make others suffer.

 

 

 

“A man can live and be healthy without killing animals for food; therefore, if he eats meat, he participates in taking animal life merely for the sake of his appetite. And to act so is immoral.” – Leo Tolstoy

 

 

 

That is why we constantly do things that only benefits us, for example: eating dead animals. In my case, I have been the human grave of many animals. I tasted them, and I ate them for many years; I were always aware of their suffering but it was too complicated for me to change my lifestyle, so I decided to keep being the coffin of the remains of dead animals. The funny thing was that I always proclaimed myself as an animal lover, I was against those who cause them pain, but I was eating them, and that is pretty much the same as killing them; because of me they die, because of my needs and pleasures they are slaughtered, because of me they suffer.

And that is the worst part of all: Our hypocrisy. We proclaim ourselves as animal lovers; we kiss and hug our dogs and cats, but we go to a zoo, and admire the beautiful animals caged sleeping on their own excrement. We watch hunters killing without mercy, taking photos of themselves with the corpses of dead animals and we get angry, we see what other heartless people do to animals in meat trades and we get mad. We see a beautiful video of a sweet little pig and we all die of tenderness.

 

 

 

“Until he extends the circle of his compassion to all living things, man will not himself find peace.”  – Albert Schweitzer

 

 

 

And then what? What happens when we have that little pig killed and dismembered in our dishes? Do we get angry or upset? Do we get sad? Or do we eat it with pleasure and joy?  “Well, I have to eat, and I do not see that piece of meat as an animal but as food, and meat is good for our health, and it tastes good, and being a vegetarian is boring.” Excuses, and more excuses that people use in order to justify the slaughter of animals.

We are fast to judge others for their actions while we close our eyes while doing ours. People look at me weird, they laugh, they do not understand and ask me all the time: Why are you a vegetarian? And the answer is: Because I believe that every being on this planet should be free without being afraid that others will take away their freedom. Nobody, not a single person or animal should be enslaved, caged, tortured, or killed for the satisfaction of another being. We all deserve freedom and peace, and that are our main given rights. At the same time, this is not only about us or animals, it is about our planet, which is being killed by our deadly habits.

 

 

 

“I choose not to make a graveyard of my body for the rotting corpses of dead animals.” – George Bernard Shaw

 

 

 

This is not about being a vegetarian or not. This is about peace; this is about freedom. If you deserve those things, what made you think that other beings do not deserve the same rights? Who are we to choose who dies and who lives? And if you don’t care about animals, do you care about your home? And with home I mean your planet, without it we cease to exist. Once again, it is our habits and behaviors that are killing our world and their creatures, therefore, we are slowly committing suicide, and destroying the home of the next generation. We cause our own destruction, we take away our peace and we end with our freedom.

What I mean is that I have chosen this way of life not to be a super hero or the savior of the world, but because I wanted my actions to match my ideals. I wanted to leave my selfishness and hypocrisy aside, just because they do not identify my true self. I want peace for me, and for all the beings in this world. And I believe we must start by being the change we want to see in the world.

 

 

 

“Now I can look at you in peace; I don’t eat you any more.” – Franz Kafka

 

 

 

Therefore, I encourage you to leave aside the person that you are not, and become the person you are capable of becoming. I don’t try to make you vegetarian, I do not want to change you neither judge you, I just want you to be the source of the things you are looking for. Do you want love, kindness, compassion, peace? Do not wait that to come to you, go out and be all of that!

 

 

 

 

May your actions represent your ideals, your passions, your true self. Always remember that every little thing can make a huge difference in our daily lives and the life of others! No matter how crazy it sounds, together we can make a change, let’s make this world a better world for all! For a non-violent, without suffering nor pain, and more peaceful world!

Kindness: The Universal Language of Love

What if I tell you that there is a way to understand each other regardless our nationality? What if I tell you that there is a language that everyone already knows that we can use to speak to each other? What if I tell you that there is a language that can bring us love and heal our hearts? Would you believe me? Well, that language actually exists, is the universal language of love, and it is called kindness, and it can change the way we live our lives.

 

 “Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” - Mark Twain

 

 

We live in a world where its inhabitants are every day more connected through devices but every day more disconnected as human beings. We have all the resources to stay connected, to be together, but still, we insist on separate ourselves from each other. The real problem is that we cannot understand or comprehend each other. The reason? Simple: In the midst of the chaos of our society we have lost ourselves, and we have forgotten who we really are: kind, compassionate and loving beings.

There are thousands of different language in the world, but still, we cannot understand each other. You may be thinking that the problem is that we do not share the same language, but the problem is not that there are many different languages, the real problem is that we do not know, that we all speak the same language, and that language is kindness.

 

 

 

“A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees.” – Amelia Earhart

 

 

 

But kindness, a language? Yes, and let me tell you why. A language is a way of communication, which can be expressed in many ways. Therefore, we can say that kindness is a way to express love. Every simple word or act of kindness is a way to demonstrate love to another. Kindness is something that everyone can understand regardless culture, age, nationality or race. It is a language that can be spoken in many ways, and always will be heard.

The problem is that every day we are contaminated with other less important things in our daily routine, that we forget who we are, that is why we forget to speak the language of kindness. We underestimate the power of a simple word or act of kindness. The truth is that kindness speaks louder than any other language in the world, and it has the power to heal hearts, and bring joy and happiness to the person who speaks it, and the person who is ready to listen to it.

 

 

 

“Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.” – Barbara de Angelis

 

 

 

We can feel the power of kindness at any moment, for example: How do you feel when someone is kind to you? How do you feel when a stranger, someone you have never seen before, for no apparent reason, gives you a kind smile, or say a kind word? I guess you feel great, isn’t it? Even if it is for a second, a simple act or word of kindness has the power to fill our hearts with joy. Anytime, anywhere, with whomever we are, every act of kindness is never wasted.

Every time we are kind to someone else, even if we feel that the other person doesn’t care, deep inside their hearts they care, because the language of kindness is something that penetrates any barriers we can have, and gets deep inside our hearts, filling it with love and happiness.

 

 

 

“If we all do one random act of kindness daily; we just might set the world in the right direction.” – Martin Kornfeld

 

 

 

Kindness can be expressed even without words, that is why anyone can understand it, because a simple act, a simple touch, a simple smile, can speak louder than words. It doesn’t matter where we are from, nor our age, culture, gender, language, it doesn’t matter if we are deaf or blind, if we do not know how to read or write, because the language of kindness will always be understood. The kindness we give is a gift for others and a gift for ourselves, and the ripples it creates are bigger than we can imagine.

 

 

 

Why don’t you try to make one act of kindness a day, for a week, and see for yourself how wonderful it is? It is time to make kindness our first language, and change the way we live!

The Habit of Making Excuses

We limit ourselves and sabotage our own dreams, goals and desires by making excuses. Our own excuses create barriers between us and our dreams, pushing away from us everything we have always wanted. Therefore, if we want to make our dreams come true, we must begin by leaving the habit of making excuses.

 

“Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.” - George Washington Carver 

Every day we have a new excuse for not doing the things we have always wanted to do. We convince ourselves through the excuses we make, as a way of having a justification for not following the path that will lead us to the realization of our dreams and goals. They condemn us to live a life we do not like, and the worst part of all is that we believe that those excuses are valid, blaming them for our failure, when in fact, we are the cause of our own failure.

Why do we make so many excuses? Why do we punish ourselves in such a way? Why do we condemn ourselves to live a life we do not like? Why we refuse to live the kind of life that will bring us everything we have been searching for? Simple: because it is easier that way. It is easier to make an excuse and do nothing, than to do all the things we have to do in order to achieve our desired goals and make all our dreams come true.

 

 

 

“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.” – Jim Rohn

 

 

 

By making excuses we chose the easy way out, and with easy I do not mean the less painful. Because it is painful to work hard in order to achieve our goals, but it is more painful to be stuck in a life we do not want, doing things we do not like, and it is even more painful to know that we are the reason why we haven’t done the things we have always wanted to do. It is hard to recognize that in the end no one is more responsible than us of our own failure.

I constantly hear people saying things like: I don’t have enough money, I don’t have time, my family won’t allow it, I don’t have the resources, I have to work, it is too hard, I’m too tired, I don’t have the knowledge, I have to look after my kids, I’m too old, I’m too young, my wife/husband/mother/father will not approve it, I have many things to do, and so on. Have you ever heard something like that? I guess so. I heard those words from many people, even from myself. We are constantly making excuses and we believe they are valid, and under the phrase: “I am not making excuses; I’m just being realistic” we justify ourselves.

 

 

 

“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.” – Jordan Belfort

 

 

 

The truth is nothing can limit us, except our own personal thoughts. There is always a way to do something, and most of the time it won’t be easy, it won’t be simple, but it will be worth it. Therefore, in order to achieve our goals and make our dreams become a reality we must stop the habit of making excuses. If you want to be successful, if you want to achieve your goals, you will have to stop looking for excuses, and start looking for solutions. If other people are doing what you would like to do, if someone is living the life of your dreams, if somebody else has achieved what you would like to achieved, is not because they have been lucky, but because they have quit the habit of making excuses. They have decided to do whatever it takes to make their dreams become a reality, and you as well can do the same.

Stop thinking for a second the reasons why you can’t do something, and think as if everything was possible. What will you be doing now? What can you do right now that will get you closer to the place you want to be? What would be the right steps that will make you achieve your goals?

 

 

 

I know from my own experience how wonderful it is to do the things I once thought I couldn’t do. It always looks impossible, until it’s done. Anyway, what can happen if you try? Take responsibility for your life, and either find a way or create a way, and live the life you have imagined!