Category Archives: Keys for a happy life

The Rebellious Act of Liking Yourself

We live in a world so obsessed with external appearances that the package has become more important than the content. Nowadays looking good on the outside has become our main priority, our obsession, and the only reason is to be accepted in this society that condemns you or glorifies you for your appearance. Therefore, liking yourself in a society that plays with your self-esteem and expect you to feel ugly is a rebellious act that gives you freedom!

 

 In a society that profits from your self doubt liking yourself is a rebellious act. Caroline Caldwell

 

 

This society wants us to believe that in order to be successful we need to look beautiful on the outside. Since we are born we are exposed to different sources which its only purpose is to make us feel ugly. They created the concept that ugly equals unhappiness, and beauty equals happiness and success. It seems that you can only love yourself if you are beautiful on the outside, and that, of course, never happens, and why? because if you finally love yourself, the business would be over, and where there is no business, there is no money.

Our minds have been infected with this virus from the day one. When we are born they cut us our hair, they make a hole in our ears so we can look pretty with cute little earrings, they dress us like dolls, and they make us to act as princesses and princes. As we grew, they gave us skinny, blonde, and blue-eyed Barbie’s to play with, and as we continue to grow that infernal virus sickened our mind with make-up, plastic surgery, reality shows with all good-looking people, movies with beautiful actors, music played by pretty boys and girls, and TV commercials that constantly wash our brains, day in and day out.

 

 

 

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

The problem is that we have accepted the concept that we need to look pretty in order to feel happy. We believe that eventually we are going to love ourselves once we look beautiful on the outside, so we buy all the crap that we can find in order to feel happy and like ourselves, but this never ends, we never feel completely happy with ourselves and we want more, we want to look as the girls in the magazines, and the problem is that they do not even look like that in the reality. We chase a fake stereotype of beauty that doesn’t exist.

The problem is that they make us believe that it exists, so we never stop buying the crap they sell, submitting ourselves to this maniac marketing that owns us. There is always something new, a new type of plastic surgery, a new revolutionary product that will make you look 20 years younger, and wonderful tanning product that will make you look tanned the 365 days of a year, a new make-up that transforms your face into a fake and unnatural doll. There always will be something that you will need in order to look beautiful and feel happy. This never stops, never.

 

 

 

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise L. Hay

 

 

 

Therefore, if you want to be beautiful, start by liking yourself just the way you are, love the real you without any artificial product or special clothes or anything, simply love what society calls “imperfections” because they are not, they are perfect, you are perfect just the way you are. Beauty is a concept that society created in order to set a standard, and profit from it, but everyone is beautiful, we are unique, original, one of a kind, we do not need to be someone else to be beautiful, being ourselves and liking ourselves is what makes us beautiful.

What I mean is that is completely okay to buy and wear all the products you want, as long as your happiness doesn’t depend from it. Change your hair color, wear make-up, make a diet, go to the gym, buy new clothes, use your favorite cream, but do it because you like it, not to impress others, not to be accepted, not to belong, not to feel happy or be successful because you will never be completely happy if you depend on all that to feel good with yourself. Wake up in the morning, go to the mirror, and look yourself without make-up, with your disheveled hair, with your Minnie mouse pajamas, look at your face with your wrinkles, pimples, look at your body with all your “imperfections” and smile at you, because you are beautiful. Love yourself in that very moment and you will find freedom to be yourself without needing anything in order to be it.

 

 

 

“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

 

 

 

They once said: “beauty hurts” – No my friend, beauty doesn’t hurt, what it hurts is not being able to look yourself in the mirror, and like what you are seeing simply because you don’t look like the girl in the magazine. Not being able to see your true beauty, makes you miserable, and it doesn’t matter how hard you try to look “beautiful” you will always feel miserable, and that hurts thousands of times more than walking with high heels, plastic surgery or waxing. Can you understand the real problem here? It is you! It is the way you see yourself, change the eyes with which you see yourself, fall in love with your true self and you will change your whole life… and you will save a lot of money too! 😉

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you look yourself at the mirror and you like what you see, do you think you will care what others think? Absolutely no! that is called self-confidence and that is liking yourself! You don’t need anything to be beautiful, you already are, just remember that and be free to be your authentic, wonderful, and beautiful self!

Is your past still present in your life?

Sometimes our past is more present than we think, and that is one of the reasons why we are still standing in the same place in our present. The problem is that everything that is related with our past, that we haven’t let go is still interfering with our present, and prevents us from moving forward. For that reason, in order to achieve our desired goals and dreams and create our future, we must first remove our past from our present.

 

 "Without freedom from the past, there is no freedom at all." - Jiddu Krishnamurti

 

How many things that are related with your past are still living in your present? And with that I do not only mean only material things, but memories, thoughts, feelings, people and experiences. What place does your past occupy in your present? Does it occupy a huge part or small part in your life? How much of it are still alive in your heart?

Try to reflect about your life and your present, try to relax and calm down from your daily obligations and pressures, and when you are ready look around you, and look inside of you: Can you see your past dominating your present? Are your past emotions and feelings blocking you from moving forward? Is stopping you from achieving your goals and desires? Are your past experiences and emotions influencing your present and making decisions for you?

 

 

 

 

“Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.” – Daphne Rose Kingma

 

 

 

If the answer is no, well done! You have done a great job getting rid from your past and you are living your present to the fullest, without being influenced by it. But if the answer is yes, my next question will be: Does your past serve you in your present? That is to say, it is giving you the results you have been looking for? It is useful in your present? It is helping you in any way or,  it is simply blocking you from getting the things you want to get?

The thing is our past does not have to be always a disadvantage in our present life, as long as the reason of being in our present is to take the best out of ourselves and give us strength. Our past, whether if was good or bad, is always a lesson, a lesson we should learn, so we can apply the knowledge acquired in our present, and at the same time, it should never be forgotten, so we do not repeat the same actions again. That is the important part of it, and the one that we should keep in our present, together with memories that lift our heart and brighten our days.

 

 

 

“The mental and physical space we create by letting go of things that belong in our past gives us the option to fill the space with something new.” – Susan Fay West

 

 

 

Everything from your past that not serves you in your present, does not bring any benefits in your life, any bad memory, or relationship, or good and bad experiences, every emotion, every person, as well as every thing including material things from our past that doesn’t help us in any way should be removed from our present to leave space for new and better things.

If our heart, mind and our environment is full of things from our past that does not make us grow, make us better, make us happy, or make us be the person we want to be and have the things we want to get, Why we should keep them if it is not only to sabotage our own lives? Why we should keep it alive when it kills our present and destroys our future? We have a chain around our necks that is leaving us without breath and that chain is our past, why keep living like that when we have the key to our own freedom?

 

 

 

“You’ve got to make a conscious choice every day to shed the old – whatever ‘the old’ means for you.” – Sarah Ban Breathnach

 

 

 

Today is the right day to clean your heart, mind and your whole life and take away from them all the things from your past that do not serve you anymore. Take all those  things, people, memories, experiences and feelings that do not make you happy, or make you grow, or make you the person you want to be, even those that may seem good, because everything that is from the past has nothing to do with your present, neither your future, they may have been bad or painful, or good or great but they are the past and we have to let them go, so we can move forward and leave space for those great things that are waiting for us.

What would be the first thing that does not serve you anymore in any way? What is that memory, thing, emotion or experience from your past that is stopping you from moving forward? Start with it, and without thinking it too much: just let it go!

 

 

 

It is time to grab a bag, put the things from our past that do not serve us in our present, and throw them away, and make space for all the great things that are yet to come!

Release the pain and heal your heart

There are different moments in our lives where we are going to feel pain, it can be a superficial pain or a deeper pain, sometimes it can be for seconds, for hours, months or even years, and sometimes it never goes away, getting trapped in our hearts, contaminating our soul, and breaking our hearts, and the only way to stop it from hurting us is to release it from our hearts, letting it go away from our lives.

 "Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." - Joseph Campbell

 

There are three different kind of people: The ones that swallow the pain, digest it and throw it away from their mind and heart, the ones that swallow it, keeping it inside, letting it to destroy its heart, becoming its victim, and the ones that swallow it and let it spread through its veins like poison, contaminating its heart, becoming a reflection of its pain.

The first kind of people are not exempt of feeling pain, in fact it is very possible that they have felt it many times in their past, and they will probably feel it in their future, but what makes the difference between the other two type of people is that these people do not let it to control their lives. Therefore, once they feel it they find a way to remove it from their hearts as soon as possible.

 

 

 

“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.” – Walter Anderson

 

 

 

 

The second kind of people are the ones that feel pain but are not able to release it from their hearts, keeping it deep inside their hearts. The problem with doing this is that while they can have a smile in their faces, deep inside their hearts the pain kills them. These people do not release it in any way, but they keep it from themselves. The problem is that they become prisoners of it, destroying them inside day after day, and sometimes that pain becomes so intolerable that the person surrenders to it.

The third kind of people are almost the same as the second kind of people but there is one big difference between them. The main difference is that these people try to release it and stop their suffering by hurting others. The problem is that the pain they are feeling has consumed their hearts, and poisoned their minds. They are so destroyed inside that the only way they can rebel before so much pain is by becoming the definition of it themselves, causing others to feel it in order to heal themselves.

 

 

 

“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.” – Rumi 

 

 

 

As we can see pain is something that we must let go of from our hearts before it destroys the person we really are. It is not always possible to avoid feeling it, in fact, we should not force ourselves to not feel it, we must embrace it, taste it, digest it, learn from it and once we are ready we must let it go.

How do we release it then? Well, the answer will depend on the pain and the person, but the best way is knowing that the feeling of pain will not erase the fact that caused it in the first place. Therefore, we must focus in something else, something that makes us feel good, and we have to be patient and give ourselves time, knowing that sooner or later that pain will go away. Pain will bring us more pain and never joy, it won’t change what happened to us nor will change our future, it depends on us whether let it to destroy us, or destroy it ourselves.

 

 

 

My focus is to forget the pain of life. Forget the pain, mock the pain, reduce it and laugh.” – Jim Carrey

 

 

 

We can be the victims of our pain and let it control our lives, or we can be the creator of our own destiny. In the first option we will be at mercy of our pain, and in the second option we’ll decide what to do with our own lives. It won’t be easy, but it is possible. We cannot always avoid to feel pain, but we can always decide what we do with it. Transform it into something beautiful and you will change your world.

 

 

 

Today is the day where you can release the pain you are feeling, it is now the moment to decide to let it go, and start a new life!

The Benefits of Living a Minimalist Lifestyle

Have you ever thought how would it be to live a minimalist lifestyle? Can you imagine how your life would be if you wouldn’t have the necessity to have more in order to be happier? Wouldn’t that be the key to a more fulfilled and balanced life? Wouldn’t that be freedom? Absolutely. Our life and our own minds would benefit from a minimalist lifestyle. Let’s analyze together the benefits of living a minimalist lifestyle.

 “The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.” - Socrates #minimalist

 

Nowadays we live in a world where we strive to have more. The problem is that we have accepted the idea that more equals more happiness, but the truth is, the more you want, the less happy you are, but how can this be true? Because in that way, we exchange our freedom for possessions, why? Because material possessions are not really paid with money, but with time, time that we spend from our life in order to get those possessions, and if we have less time to enjoy our life, how can we be really happy?

We have fallen into the trap of believing that the more we have, the more successful and happy our life will be, and if we look at it from a particular perspective, we can say that’s true. The problem is, that moment of satisfaction lasts as the blink of an eye. We feel happy, successful and fulfilled, but quickly that sensation starts to vanish, and we begin to feel the same feeling of emptiness, becoming addicts to the idea of having more and more, so we can feel one more time, fulfilled and happy

 

 

 

 “We really must understand that the lust for affluence in contemporary society is psychotic. It is psychotic because it has completely lost touch with reality. We crave things we neither need nor enjoy.” – Richard Foster

 

 

 

The ultimate problem is that the more we want, the more dependent we become, and what we own, begins to own us, and that way, the less free we become. Therefore, our happiness is compromised by the things we possess and do not possess. That way we always see the glass half-empty, giving us the feeling of dissatisfaction and emptiness, and so, desperately we go after more things in order to get back our happiness, which we recover momentarily.

As we can see, the idea that having more is the key to happiness is mistaken. What I mean is, that is okay to want to acquire more possessions in your life, but the idea that those things will make us have a fulfilled and happy life is wrong. If this were true, people who can have everything would be happy, and people with nothing would be miserable, and that is not exactly what happens in this world, just because possessions doesn’t determine our happiness. Therefore, possessions are not the key factor for a happy life.

 

 

 

“The things you own end up owning you. It’s only after you lose everything that you’re free to do anything.” – Tyler Durden (Fight Club)

 

 

 

The truth is that is okay to aim for a life where we can get everything we want, but we should never depend on material possessions, or any other superficial thing in our life, in order to be happy. That is exactly what I mean with living a minimalist lifestyle. It is to live in a way where our happiness, freedom and peace of mind does not depend on material things. It is being happy with what we already have, without having the necessity to obtain more things in order to be happy.

Living a minimalist lifestyle means to set away from our mind and daily life, everything that distract us from being happy and at peace. It is being free to feel good at any moment, without depending on external things. When we live in a minimalist way, we focus our mind in what it is really important, what gives us the power to control our feelings, and not letting other things to control us.

 

 

 

“The consumption society has made us feel that happiness lies in having things, and has failed to teach us the happiness of not having things.” – Elise Boulding

 

 

 

When we live a minimalist lifestyle we focus on the things that really matter. It is the best way to become our true self, because we are no longer distracted with other less important things, what can help us develop our true potential. The truth is, we do not need much to live a happy and fulfilled life, but what we need is less things that can distract our mind from the small and more essential things that really make a difference in our lives, those things fill our emptiness, complete our soul, without those things we are lost, and we will always fall in the game of having more things in order to complete it, and this is something that will never happen, because our soul is completed with those things that can’t be bought.

 

 

 

Let’s focus our mind on the important aspects of our lives, keeping the things that are really essential, feeling content with less, leaving behind all the unnecessary things that only forbid us from enjoying our lives.

Life is Made Up of Choices

Life is made up of choices. In every single step of our lives we have the opportunity to choose. We create our world through the choices we make, therefore, our whole life is the result of the choices we have made. The main choice in our life is between choosing to feel good or to feel bad. Therefore, what are you going to choose today?

 "May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears." - Nelson Mandela

 

Every day we are faced with different types of choices and according to what we choose is the consequence we are going to have. There are some kind of circumstances that we are not able to control, these type of circumstances are inevitable, and there is no way we can choose the opposite, and then we have the other circumstances, those which are the results of the choices we have made. But no matter the type of circumstances, we will always have the opportunity to choose. Whatever happens to us, we have the choice to feel good or to feel bad.

The first kind of circumstances, those which we cannot avoid, are the kind of circumstances which we are not responsible for. For example, the death of a loved one. One day, we receive the awful notice that a person close to us has died. There is no way we could have done something to revert that situation. That circumstance is something that happened to us without calling it, therefore, we are not responsible for that, but we are responsible of one thing: the decision of choosing whether to let that circumstance to destroy us or not.

 

 

 

“When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It’s all a matter of perspective.” – Harvey Mackay

 

 

When an inevitable and unwanted circumstance happens we cannot choose another circumstance, another ending, or another story. There is no way we can go back in time and do something to revert what has happened. But when something like that happens we have different choices to make: We can either choose to let that situation to destroy us, or we can choose to keep fighting. We can choose to give up or we can choose to move on. We can choose to see the negative side or we can choose to see the positive side. We can choose to let the pain, anger and sadness we feel to consume us, or we can choose love to heal our hearts. We can choose to keep the poison running through our veins, rotting us on the inside, or we can choose to drain it all out, and clean our body and soul with love.

On the other hand, we have the kind of circumstances that are the results of the choices we have made. For example, when we have failed an exam because we have chosen not to study, or when we felt stomach ache because we have chosen to eat junk food instead of healthy food, or when somebody got cancer because he didn’t want to stop smoking, or when you have lost your partner because you have chosen to betray rather than love, or when we decided to live a life we do not want because we have chosen not to follow our dreams.

 

 

 

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” – Tony Robbins

 

 

When a circumstance of that kind happens, we can wish to have done something different but we cannot change what we have done. We are responsible for that, and we must take full responsibility, but at the same time we can make different choices: We can choose to not do anything about it, or we can choose to act. We can choose to let that situation to paralyze us or we can choose to move forward. We can choose to give up or we can choose to do our best to revert the situation, change the situation or accept the situation and move on. We can choose to see the negative side or we can choose to see the positive side. We can choose to feel negative emotions and let them to control us or we can choose to feel positive emotions. We can choose to keep looking to our past with sadness, pain, and anger or we can choose to look into our future with courage, commitment and confidence.

As you can see we cannot always change the situation, but we can always choose how we are going to deal with what has happened. We are responsible of our own choices, and we have always the opportunity to choose to feel good or to feel bad. According to what we do, what we say, what feel, and what we think in relationship with was has happened is what is going to determine our future.  We can choose to be positive and feel good or we can choose to be negative and feel bad. We can always choose to be sad or we can choose to be happy no matter what happens.

 

 

 

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

 

 

Always remember that not everything that will happen to you will be the consequence of your own choices, but at the same time, always remember that every choice you make today will have either a short-term or a long-term consequence in your life.  If you feel that your choices are not getting you closer to the place you want to be, or if you feel that they are not making you feel the way you want to feel, or if you feel that they are not making you be the person you would like to be, it is time for you to make a choice.

You can choose to keep making the same kind of negative choices, leaving everything to chance, or you can choose to stop and make the best possible choices, being the creator of your own destiny. Your happiness depends on the choices you make. If you feel happy, is probably because you are doing the right choices, but if you are not, you are probably doing the wrong ones. Everything is impossible until we make the choice to make the impossible possible.

 

 

 

Our life is the result of our choices, and we are what we choose to be. Everything is a choice, so no matter what happens to you, always make the choice to be happy today, tomorrow and always!

The Story of The Two Wolves: The Battle Within

There are two wolves who are always fighting. One is darkness and despair, and the other is light and hope. The question is: which wolf wins?

 

 

"Some of the greatest battles will be fought within the silent chambers of your own soul.” - Ezra Taft Benson

 

 

The answer is: The one you feed. This is a great quote from a movie I saw a couple of days ago: Tomorrowland, which has a very inspirational and beautiful message, but it is in fact a Native American Cherokee story, and I would like to share it with you, please read it carefully, the message is wonderful, believe me, you won’t regret it:

 

 

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life.

He said,My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all

“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

 

 

A beautiful story, isn’t it? It has within a powerful message that teaches us one thing: We decide. It is up to us to decide which of the wolves we will feed. It doesn’t depend on anyone except ourselves. The story reminds us that we all have a great power within us: The power to decide who we are, what gives us the control of our own feelings, emotions and behaviours.

There are two wolves, there are two of us, they are opposites but equals at the same time, they fight and in the end they become one, and in that moment one of the two wolves’ wins, and the one who wins is the one who we have decided to become. In any given moment we have the chance to decide which wolf is going to win the battle, our external circumstances together with any person we meet along the way will help one of the wolves, but in the end we are the ones who decide who wins. The one who wins more battles, that is to say, the one who we have fed more will win the fight. The question is: Which of them are you going to let win?

 

 

 

“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.” – Stephen R. Covey

 

 

 

The first and most important question you should ask yourself is: Who am I? – Which wolf do you think you are? With which one you identify yourself with? Which wolf represents your true self? Once you discover the answers to those questions, you will decide which wolf will you feed, and that is the most important thing that can happen to us: To know who we really are and act according to our true self, being the best version of ourselves.

Every single day of your life, in different situations, you will always have the power to decide: Am I going to feed today the “bad” wolf or the “good” wolf? Am I going to be my true self or am I going to be who I’m not? Am I going to let external situations to control my feelings, emotions and behaviors or am I going to act as my true self? The decision is yours, and that of course is the difficult part to accept, because it’s much easier to blame others for our behaviors rather than having full responsibility for what we believe, think, speak and do. But always remember that it doesn’t matter who you were yesterday, what really matters from now on is who you choose to be right now. Your past situations do not define you, because it is you who define yourself, it is you who has the power to decide now who you really are.

 

 

 

“Who are you now? Who have you decided you really are now? Don’t think about who you have been. Who are you now? Who have you decided to become? Make this decision consciously. Make it carefully. Make it powerfully.” – Tony Robbins

 

 

 

Let’s take just a couple of minutes to think. Think about the last few days, which wolf do you think you have been feeding? How do you feel about that? If your life is full of happiness, joy, peace, if you believe, dream and wish, if you feel happy even when your life is not going 100% the way you wanted, then probably you have been feeding the right wolf because you have decided to feel that way even though your external circumstances gave you a lot of resources to help you feed the other wolf. Can you see? You have the control at any moment to decide which wolf you are going to feed, and when we have the control, we are free, and we are no longer vulnerable to external circumstances.

 

 

Two wolves, one decision, you choose, the power is within you. Your actions will define yourself and will create your destiny. Therefore, which wolf are you going to feed today?

Take Full Responsibility For Your Life

We are all responsible for our own life, but we act as if someone else has control of our lives. The truth is most of the things that happen to us is for our actions or inactions, whatever we decide to do or not to do creates our reality. In order to live the life we want we must take full responsibility for our own life, doing everything we can to create what we would like to experience.

 

"Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else." -  Les Brown #takefullresponsibility

 

It is not an external factor that limits us from achieving what we would like to achieve – it is us. We limit ourselves with our own beliefs, with our daily thoughts, with the words we speak and with our behaviors and actions. We are constantly creating our future even if we are not aware of it. Everything we do and everything we cease to do determines our destiny.

The problem is that it’s easier to blame our past, our parents, our friends, our boss, our colleagues, our job, the time, the weather, the society, and the whole world for the life we have, because that way we do not feel responsible for our miserable life – we sit in our comfy chair with a cup of coffee and we put ourselves in the role where we always give our best performance – The victim role.

 

 

 

“The moment you accept responsibility for everything in your life is the moment you gain the power to changeanything in your life.” – Hal Elrod

 

 

 

And so we start blaming everyone and everything in our life, making them responsible for our failure. It sounds so convincing that we even start believing ourselves, and one day the victim role becomes part of us, and so we spend our entire life living as if we were victims of this evil and unjust world. And why do we do that? Because it’s easier to blame others and do nothing, than taking full responsibility for our life, doing everything we can, taking risk and accepting challenges to change our life circumstances.

When we take full responsibility for our life we blame only one person for being guilty of our failure – and that person is always us. The bad thing is that is always difficult and harmful for our ego to admit that we are responsible for most of the unpleasant situations that happened in our life – It is not your job responsible for your miserable life, you are responsible for not looking something better, it is not your teacher responsible for your failure, you are responsible for not having studied enough, it is not your family responsible for your lack of success, you are responsible for not pursuing your dreams. Can you see it? Most of the time we are responsible for our own misery, but it is always easier to make others responsible for it.

 

 

 

“The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them.” – Steve Maraboli

 

 

 

The good thing is when you take full responsibility for your life, you allow yourself to have control to change any unpleasant situation of your life by creating another different outcome – for instance when you have decided to stop smoking and now your health has increased, or when you have decided to leave the job that you hate to make your dreams a reality and now you live a happier life, or when you have decided to leave the toxic relationship in which you were in and now you have finally found peace. Can you see it? You have taken full responsibility for your life, and you made the right actions to create a better outcome.

We face difficulties in our lives where we have to deal with awful circumstances, but it depends on us if we are going to remain as a victim of our life circumstances, blaming life for being so unfair, condemning ourselves to a life of suffering, or if we are going to take full responsibility for our lives, doing everything we can to turn the negative into positive, creating a better future for ourselves.

 

 

 

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

 

 

 

Think about these questions: Is there something you are doing that you could do better to increase the probabilities to have the desired outcome? Is there something you are doing that you shouldn’t be doing to have the outcome you want? Is there something you are not doing that you should be doing?

 

 

The life you want is possible, the question is: Are you doing what you should be doing in order to get it? Take full responsibility for your life and live the life you have always wanted!

The Pursuit Of Happiness

Every human being on this earth has the same desire: to be happy. Happiness is a wish we all have in common, every human on this planet want to be happy, and everyone wishes to find eternal happiness but, what is it? Is it real? And if it does, how can be achieved?

 "Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence." - Aristotle

Understanding Happiness

 

I have always believed in happiness, but I have never been able to experience a long-lasting happiness but only for a short period of time until I found out the true meaning of it, what gave me the clue where to look for it. The problem was that I always looked for it in a place outside of me, and this was because I had the wrong idea of what happiness really meant and where can one find it.

In my pursuit of happiness I have always asked myself different questions: What is it? Is it real? Where can I find it? Is happiness a destination? Is it a place where one can get and stay there forever? Can I find a long-lasting happiness? Is it possible to be truly happy or is it just a creation of human imagination? These are some of the questions I have always asked myself trying to find out the definition of happiness and what I realized is that my concepts about it were completely wrong.

 

 

 

“Happiness is a journey, not a destination; happiness is to be found along the way not at the end of the road, for then the journey is over and it’s too late. The time for happiness is today not tomorrow.” – Paul H. Dunn

 

 

 

According to the dictionary: happiness is the state of being happy, and to be happy means, to be delighted or glad over a particular thing. However, people have given different meanings to happiness, what can be happiness for some people are sorrow for others. According to how we see the world, and what are our beliefs about life, it is what will form our definition of happiness. Thus, it is very complicated to define it in one particular way, as it is something that has as meanings as people on this planet.

Therefore, does happiness exist? In my opinion, according to my life experience, I believe it is something that truly exists, making it possible to achieve it. The problem with most of us is that our happiness disappears in the blink of an eye, sometimes it disappears even before we can truly enjoy being happy. For instance, when we go on holidays and our happiness is growing every second, and suddenly, in the right moment when we are reaching that moment of absolute bliss, our happiness is snatched from us for our daily routine. Our happiness is always so short that we distrust its existence and this is due to our confused ideas of what it really means.

 

 

 

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.” – Denis Waitley

 

 

 

Then, to understand more about it, let’s try to ask different questions and think about it, because as Claude Levi-Strauss said: “The wise man doesn’t give the right answers, he poses the right questions.”

I already expressed my opinion about the existence of happiness so, what is it? Where can we find it? Does it depends on life circumstances? Can happiness be something constant or it will always be interrupted? Is it based in our actions? Do we need to get something special or get to a particular place to experiment happiness? Does our past or our future influence our present happiness? Can an external factor affect our happiness?

What comes to your mind when you think about these questions? Why are you happy when you say you are happy? What is it that makes you feel happiness? And why are you sad when you say you are sad? Have you thought about it? Sometimes, it is in our own questions where we find the answers.

 

 

The key to being happy lies in understanding happiness. In my next post I will go deeply into the meaning of it. Until next time my friends!

Are your fears holding you back?

If you find yourself feeling miserable, making excuses for not having done the things you always wanted to do, it’s probably because you have allowed your fears to control your mind, and when you do that you let your fears to control your entire life.

 

"A head full of fears has no space for dreams."

 

Fears are powerful, they can either trigger the greatness inside of you what will make you create the life of your dreams, or they can destroy your spirit and make your life a nightmare. Fears are part of life, there is no way we can avoid them, they exist in every culture and in every place of this world, to a greater or lesser extent they will always be present in the lives of human beings, the kind of impact they will have on us will depend on how well we deal with them.

Fears can hold you back, or can push your forward, what makes the difference between them is whether you choose to control your fears and use them as motivation to become better and better, or use them as a cage where you lock yourself in for the rest of your life. The second choice is always easier because you give your fears the power to control you, while you keep staying in your cage, feeling safe, as you don’t take any risks there, but the first choice is going to give you what your soul yearns for, because your soul knows who you are, and you are not your fears, you are better than that.

 

 

 

 

 

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

 

 

 

If you don’t take risks in your life because of your fears you will only risk one thing: the possibility of having the life of your dreams. If you risk nothing, then your risk everything, because you make your life a fortune wheel and you leave everything to chance, and it is in that moment where you give to your fears all the power they need to control your life, and everything you ever wanted, every dream, every goal disappears in the blackness of your fears. If you let them to control you, they will take you all the possibilities you have, to move forward in the direction of your dreams, and you will be stuck in a place of sadness, frustration, anger, disappointment and hopelessness for the rest of your days.

So if you haven’t moved forward in your life, if you haven’t taken any risk for a while, if you haven’t tried anything new, if you haven’t done what you love for a long time, if you haven’t been truly happy enjoying your life to the fullest, if you have been doing only the things you are supposed to do is because you have allowed you fears to control your life, you have no power at all right now, and nothing will change until you realize what is going on. You are where you are now, doing what you are doing because you wanted that way, we cannot condemn anyone for being guilty of your failure, and it is you, and only you, who has let fears to seize you.

 

 

 

 

“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.” – Dorothy Thompson

 

 

 

 

Despite this, there is good news, you can reverse the situation, and you can still have the life you ever wanted and be happy. To do this, you must stop believing the story you fears have told you, because they always tell you what is going to be wrong instead of telling you what is going to be right if you follow your heart. The problem is they don’t think positively because somehow they want to protect you from any adversity, but what they don’t know is that making you their prisoner only puts you in a place of vulnerability where you are exposed to any adversity. So the best thing you can do is not believing in your fears anymore knowing that what they say is what can go wrong but you know that everything can go great if you choose to follow you heart, and you will prove them wrong.

Everything you ever wanted, every dream, every goal, every idea is possible, they truly exist somewhere outside your fears. If you want to be happy, if you truly want to enjoy your life, you must silence your fears, that way you avoid giving them the power to create your future. Don’t let them to stop you, rather use them as a motivation to demonstrate that they were wrong.

 

 

Your life is like a notebook, if you don’t like what you see, turn the page, take your favorite crayons and make a new drawing! You can create anything you want, if you don’t let your fears blind you. Keep moving, keep dreaming and never stop!

Nourishing Your Mind With Positive Thoughts

We are what we eat and so it is with our mind: we are what we think, depending on how you feed your mind, is what you are going to experience in your life. You can have a positive mind or you can have a negative mind, what makes the difference between one and the other is the choice you make when you feed it and what you decide to consume every day.

 

"If it doesn't nourish your soul, get rid of it."

 

 

What we eat and drink through our mouth on a daily basis has consequences in our body, either short-term or long-term:

  • We can eat spoiled food and feel sick right away or after a few days, or we can get very sick after eating unhealthy food on a daily basis for a long period of time.
  • We can also eat fresh food one day and feel great, or we can eat healthy food daily for a long period of time and feel better and better every day.

 

 

Well, with the mind is exactly the same, what we consume on a daily basis through our eyes and ears has consequences in our mind, heart and spirit, either short-term or long-term:

  • We can consume negativity either hearing or watching a self-destructive situation and feel bad right away or after a few days, or we can get very sad and depressed after having consumed negativity for a long period of time in our lives.
  • We can also consume positivity one day and feel awesome, or we can consume positivity on a daily basis for a long period of time and feel happier every day.

 

 

 

 

 

“There are realities we all share, regardless of our nationality, language, or individual tastes. As we need food, so do we need emotional nourishment: love, kindness, appreciation, and support from others.” – J. Donald Walters

 

 

 

 

 

Nourishing your mind with positive thoughts, it is as important as nourishing your body with fresh and healthy food, because if we fail to nourish our mind with positive thoughts, affirmations and beliefs, we put in danger our whole existence on this planet, and not because we run the risk dying, because that is something we cannot avoid, but because we run the risk of not having truly lived while we could, and you can never truly live if you carry a negative mind through your lifetime.

In order to nourish your mind, it is necessary avoiding contaminating your spirit with negativity. It can seem harmless, but most of the time it is not. Any negativity you consume every day, regardless of the amount, can have a huge impact in your mind, and if you are not aware of it, you will consume it day after day without realizing the damage that is causing you, and the result will be catastrophic, it will take over your mind, and it will rule your life and you will suffer from all the side effects: depression, sadness, anger and anguish.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Don’t feed your mind with negative thoughts. If you do, you will come to believe them.” – Catherine Pulsifer.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Would you go now to the kitchen and eat rotten food for dinner? I guess no, right? Because it will make you feel bad, and you will probably have diarrhea, nausea, fever and you will have to call somebody for help. So, why you read those magazines that poison your mind, and gives you wrong belief about yourself and your life, making you feel miserable? Or why you keep watching that TV show that plants seeds of hatred, wickedness and sadness in your mind? Or why you keep hanging out with those people whom only take out the worst of people included yourself, people whom only speak the language of hate, hopelessness, gossip, racism and evil? Or why you keep wasting your time consuming all the rubbish you see and hear in a TV show, a movie, in a song, or the rubbish you keep reading in Facebook, magazines, and books that only drains the happiness of your heart? If you don’t eat rotten food because it will make you sick, why do you consume all that rubbish that makes you feel bad?

 

If you feel happy, if you have the life of your dreams, if everything you consume is giving you happiness and peace, keep going that way then, but if you are not, you need to change your diet, and with that I mean what you watch and hear on a daily basis, even if you think that is not making you any damage, because it is probably affecting you in a way or another, as I said before we are what we think and believe, and those beliefs create our behavior, which gives us our perspective and our reality.

 

 

 

If you want to be happy, nourish your mind and soul with positive thoughts, and get rid of all the negativity around you. If you have positive thoughts about you and your life, it will give you positive feelings, and if you have positive feelings, your behavior will be positive, and so your entire reality will be much more positive.