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What motivates me?

There is one simple question we must ask ourselves: What motivates me?, once you find the answer to that question, you will find the reason of your existence, so you will finally know why are you here and what is your mission on this planet.

 Motivation is the key to success

I really believe that every human on earth is here for a reason, the trick is to find it. The best way to know what is our purpose in this life is by knowing what really motivates us. Motivation is what causes us to act in a specific way at a particular time and can be influenced by different factors that can be internal or external, so our motivations will determine our behaviors, and our behaviors will determine our future.

What is really important is that we must find what really motivates us to do something, because if those motivations are based in obligations created by external factors, we will feel frustrated even if we have achieved the goals imposed by those factors. And the reason why we feel frustrated is because we haven’t fulfilled our most desired goals, because we have allowed fear to interfere with our dreams, and when we do that, we let fear be our motivation, so we act according to our fears, letting them to control us, what makes us to go in the opposite direction of our goals and dreams. The only way to avoid this is by believing that our dreams are bigger than any fear, so we will use fear as a motivation rather than using fear as an excuse.

“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” – Mark Twain

We must find what really motivates us in our life and what really motivates us to live our life and not only to exist are those things based in our true self. Those motivations that have been influenced by our deepest desires are those who are going to make us to be the best version of ourselves so we can make our dreams a reality, and that is the only way to live a happy and fulfilled life.

The trick to find our true motivation in life is to listen to our heart, so you can know what you truly want to become, and once you know that, from now on your motivations will be based in your true desires, what will make you to act in a certain way at every moment to achieve those desires. Once you find what really motivates you, stick to it and never let it go, because that motivation will make you to do whatever you can to reach your goals, and you will transform what it was impossible into possible.

“To succeed, you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you.” – Tony Dorsett

What I want you to understand is that you must find those things that motivates you to be the person you always wanted to be, and the only way to do that is to listen the call from your soul and follow your heart at any time. It’s not going to be easy but it’s going to be worth it, because there is nothing that can give us more happiness than doing what we came here to do. So every time you are doing something always ask yourself why? Why am I doing this? What motivates me? Are those motivations influenced by my deepest desires or are those motivations based in someone else’s dreams?

I truly believe that those in which their actions are based in their deepest desires are those who live life to the fullest, because I think nothing is impossible for those who find what really motivates them in their lives and follow their hearts every step of the way. Those people never give up against adversity, because their motivations are also influenced by fears and doubts, what makes them to keep going forward because their desires and dreams are greater that their fears. Those people are motivated by their biggest dreams and not only motivated by simple goals, and when your motivation is influenced by the need to realize your dreams, is when you reach your full potential, and you fulfill you deepest goals and desires.

Find what motivates you, because that is the spark that will ignite the engine that will push you forward in your life and what will make you be the greatest version of yourself, and all your dreams will be a reality and you will have a happy and fulfilled life.

Be careful of your thoughts

Be careful of your thoughts, they control your life, as they have all the power to create your reality. What you see in your life it’s merely a set of thoughts, and that is why people have different realities. Your reality is the product of your thinking.

 

"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." - Marcus Aurelius

 

We are thinking all the time, and how we feel in that moment depends in what is in our mind in that particular moment. Our thoughts can be positive or negative, but never both at the same time, what is going to give us our emotions, and our reality. So how you feel will be the result of what you were thinking. Remember that your thoughts have the power to control your emotions. So you will find that the key to control your emotions lies in your thoughts, if you want to change your reality, change the way you are thinking.

We can divide our thoughts in positive and negative thoughts, where our positive thoughts are those that make us feel good like thoughts of happiness, joy or gratitude, and then we have our negative thoughts that make us feel bad like sadness, anxiety or fear. So we can feel happy or we can feel sad, the choice is made by us depending in our thoughts, if you have positive thoughts you will feel happy, if you have negative thoughts you will feel miserable.

 

 

“If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.” – Peace Pilgrim

 

 

Everything is connected; your thoughts give you your emotions and feelings, what will form your behavior, and what will give your reality. So, to change our life experience, we must change our thinking, we must choose those thoughts based in positive things, so we can have better feelings and good emotions, what will make us to have a better behavior, what will give us a reality full of happiness and joy.

It takes only one thought to change everything, one different thought and you will not only change how you feel in a particular moment, but you will change your whole life experience. It takes only one positive thought to go from sadness to happiness; you just have to say to yourself that no matter what is happening right now, this is not the end, and you will be happy, because you deserve it.

 

 

“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” – Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

I can say from my own experience that this is not something easy to do, but I can also say that is possible. What we have to do is to control our thoughts, and not let our thoughts to control us, and the easiest way is to open our perspective, so we can see everything in a different way, and understand that what is happening to us is happening for a reason, a reason we must learn to comprehend, so we can learn to see the positive side of it, a positive side that is sometimes hard to see because of our limited perspective.

We must be aware of the power of our thoughts, so we can control it, especially the negative thoughts, otherwise it will control us and it will destroy us. The day we learn how to control our thoughts, we will be capable of choosing a positive thought rather than a negative thought, and so we will decide to be happy at every moment rather than be sad needlessly.

 

 

“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.” – Buddha

 

 

Always remember that your thoughts creates your reality, whatever you are thinking right now is what you are going to experience in your life. The negative thoughts will give you negative feelings, what will give you unfortunate situations, and everything around will seem to be against you, when in fact, is you the one who are against yourself, because you have chosen to have negative thoughts, negative emotions and negative behaviors what gave you your miserable and awful reality. But if you choose positive thoughts, you will have positive emotions and positive behaviors that will give you happy situations what is going to make you feel happy about your life because your reality will be amazing.

 

 

Look around you, if you can only see a miserable life, look again, there is always something to be happy for no matter what you are going through, take the negative thoughts away from your mind, and flood your mind with positive thoughts and you will see what you couldn’t see so far.

Are you doing what you love?

Do what you love

 

Are you doing what you love? If the answer is no, what are you waiting for? Our days on earth are counted, our time is limited, not knowing how many days we have left on this planet has given us the wrong idea that we have time, but the truth is that we waste most of our time on earth doing what we don’t like, leaving the things we love for another day, a day that never comes.

 

 

“And then there is the most dangerous risk of all: the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.” – Randy Komisar

 

 

One day less means one day closer to our grave, it’s hard think it that way, but that is a fact, everyone is going to die someday, and you can’t do anything when you are dead, what you do while you are alive with your time on earth is what counts. The good thing about our life and our time on earth, is that even though is limited, we have the chance to choose either to use it for things we love or choose to waste every second of our life in doing things we don’t want.

Of course, there will be times when our only option is to do what we do not like, but that doesn’t mean that you have to spend the rest of your life doing something you don’t want to, what really means is that sometimes you have to do what you don’t want, in order to do what you love. We have the chance to decide what to do with our own life, and doing what we love is the only way to live a happy and fulfilled life.

 

 

“All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

 

 

We think we have time, so we decided to waste most of our precious time doing what we don’t want, thinking that some day we will be able to do the things we really love, and our days keep passing, and we keep staying in the same place, doing what we don’t want, wishing to be able to claim later our freedom.

The fact is that most of the people leave this world without having done the things they always wanted, They have spent their time in someone else’s life, being slaves and builders of the dreams of someone else, forgetting to invest time in their lives. So most of the people realize that they have wasted their time the day they don’t have any more time to do the things they love.

 

 

“One day you will wake up & there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.” – Paulo Coelho

 

 

So if we could be able to know when we are going to die, we would change the way we are living. Think about it this way: if we could know the days we have left on earth, let’s say we know we have 365 days, we would still doing the things we are doing? Or we would change the way we are living? I can bet that most of us would change everything, and we would start doing things we always wanted to do. We’ll begin to truly live, every second, every minute and every hour of our life.

 

 

“The trouble is you think you have time.” – Buddha

 

 

So, are you doing what you love? No? So why don’t you start right now? As I said, we have the power to change our life in a second, and we are free to do with our life anything we want. We didn’t come to this world to just exist, we came here to live, and we came here to be the best version of ourselves. So stop waiting for the weekend to live, stop waiting for a special occasion to celebrate, stop waiting for your two or three weeks of vacation to live and be happy, and for Christ Sake, stop wasting your time doing things you don’t want, the time to do the things you always wanted is now, don’t leave it for tomorrow, there could be no tomorrow. Remove the words “I don’t have time” or “I can’t” from your mouth, there is time and you can do it, because the only time when you don’t have time and you can’t do something is the day you are in the graveyard, until then you are free to do what you want.

It’s easy to say, you might think, but yes it’s easy to say because it’s easy to do, as Jim Rohn said: “If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.”

Find your inner child

Find your inner child, and you will find yourself again. Go back to those times where everything seemed to be possible, those times where you could become whatever you wanted, those times where you could just be yourself.

 

“When childhood dies, its corpses are called adults and they enter society, one of the politer names of hell.  That is why we dread children, even if we love them, they show us the state of our decay.”

Brian Aldiss

 

Somehow we have mixed up the meaning of being a child, we gave to that word the meaning of being immature, not fully grown or emotionally undeveloped, and so when someone acts like a child, we say that he is a very immature person. But then I ask myself, every bad behavior which is realized day by day by humans against the world and every being around them, it is not an immature behavior?

The humans, especially those who are considered to be very mature, are the one who are destroying everything and everyone around them, even though they have been blessed with a beautiful world, a magnificent body with a wonderful mind with the power to create everything they want, but which they not used to create but to destroy, it is this a mature behavior?

 

“Children have neither past nor future; they enjoy the present, which very few of us do.” – Jean de la Bruyere

 

The adults, those considered mature, are those who are constantly competing with each other, fighting with each other and those who are killing to each other, those people have forgotten the most important values as love, compassion, understanding, kindness, companionship and so on. And they have forgotten all that, because they have become a selfish person, they have become people who are only concerned with their own affairs.

When you grow up and become an adult, leaving the child behind, condemning the child spirit inside you to a death sentence, that’s when most of your dreams die, and that’s when part of your true self dies too, becoming your worst enemy. When you cease to be a child, you become vulnerable to all evil in this world, evil disguised as happiness, and so you let other adults who are also brainwashed by evil, to tell you what should you become in life, and what you should achieve either money, power, fame, material things and other nonsense.

 

“Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason, you’re in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you.” – Deepak Chopra

 

So I prefer to be like a child rather than an adult whose brain has been washed, I prefer the innocence of a child, a child who laugh just because he can, a child with creativity and imagination, a child who dreams, a child that believe that he can do anything in the world, a child who believe that he can be a superhero and help people, a child full of joy and love, a child that can see the beauty in the small things, a child who is happy for no reason, a child who can love even those things that are product of his imagination, a child who has friends no matter where they come from, a child who doesn’t discriminate others for their religion or race, a child who doesn’t know how to hate, a child who loves truly, and who is always loyal to that love without any kind of interest, selfishness, limitations or expectations.

 

“Hold the hand of the child that lives in your soul. For this child, nothing is impossible.” – Paulo Coelho

 

A child is an angel, who has become a puppet due to the environment where he was born, an environment which has taught him how to become a person with no dreams, no imagination, no hope, no happiness and no love.

It is time for all adults in this world find their inner child, that child who can make you be yourself again, who can bring you joy, happiness, hope and love, that child who will make you dream again, and will make you believe that everything is possible, that magic and miracles actually exist, so find you inner child, the one will make you a happy person again for no reason, a person who is grateful, specially for the small and more important things in this world, so find your inner child, play, laugh, have fun, enjoy life, be happy, dream, smile and live your life again.

 

“What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult.”

Sigmund Freud

Miracles are real

Yes, that’s true. Miracles are real, and they can happen to you every second of your life, you just have to let them happen, and the only way to do that is believing. Believe that miracles are possible and they will be.

 

The only way to make something a reality is believing it will, no matter what is our situation right now, if you believe in something with all your heart, it will become a reality. Miracles are the way that faith has to say thank you, thank you for believing even when everything seemed to go in the opposite direction of your dreams.

If miracles were an illusion, we would be an illusion as well, because we are on this planet right now because a miracle happened, the wonderful miracle of life. This is not about religion, and I do believe in God, but it doesn’t matter in what you believe, the important thing here is to be able to see that we are here for a miracle of life, and in fact, we are that miracle, converted in humans.

 

“The whole world is a series of miracles, but we’re so used to seeing them that we call them ordinary things.” – Hans Christian Andersen

 

So why don’t believe in miracles when we are one of them? This life here with all its beauty it’s a miracle, and all of us, being the miracle of life and God, we have the power to create with our magnificent mind every outcome we want.

We see ourselves as a body and nothing else, that is why we focus all the time in the superficial part of everything, because that is what we can only see, we see everything that we can touch, so we only believe in things we can see with our eyes and not with our heart. We see what we believe, as we cannot see in our reality something we don’t believe to be real.

 

“There are two ways to live your life, one is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as though everything is a miracle.” – Albert Einstein

 

So if we don’t start to focusing in the things that really matter, those things that we cannot see with our eyes, those things we believe they can’t be real, those things we only believe to be an illusion from our mind or an unreal story from a book, we are never going to see a miracle in our life, a dream come true, or nothing as possible, and so accepting the life we think to be real, a life that is far from miraculous.

So if you want to change your life, begin to believe, change your thoughts about yourself and your life, and you will change your whole world, and everything that you once thought to be impossible will then be possible, and you will open those doors that seemed to be sealed forever.

 

“Never lose hope, my dear heart. Miracles dwell in the invisible.” – Rumi

 

Miracles are real, we are miracles and we are real, dreams are possible and real, the life we want, we expect and the life we deserve is real and so is happiness, joy, kindness, loyalty, honesty, passion, success, freedom, peace and everything that human beings can feel for having one of the most wonderful miracles that exist in the whole world, the one that can change everything, the miracle of love.

Once again miracles are real, and the life you have ever dreamed of is also real, change then your beliefs, your thoughts and above all never lose faith, and you will see the miracles, you haven’t seen so far.

 

The life you want is waiting you to believe in it, it is waiting you to believe that everything is possible. Believe and a miracle will happen.

Happy New Year!

I would like to wish you a Happy New Year. The 2015 has arrived, and with that 365 days that give us 365 new chances to make our dreams a reality.

 

It doesn’t matter what happened in our life in 2014, that is now our past, so we have the chance to start again, to dream a new dream and to keep moving forward. Every New Year, life gives us the opportunity to reborn anew, to recreate ourselves and be a much better version than we have ever been before.

We have everything we need to become whoever we want to become and to achieve whatever we want to achieve, we have the power to create the reality we want, the one we deserve and the one we are capable of living. We must find that power within ourselves, we must find what motivates us, our purpose, our passion, and no matter what kind of situation we are going through, we must follow our heart and intuition no matter how hard our life gets, we must never give up!

I will repeat that again because it is very important for us to not forget those words: Never give up! Because I can guess that after so many years, most of you are still standing in the same place, wondering why you haven’t achieved your goals yet, and the answer is because you give up, and the worst thing is that most of you have quitted even before you start. So this year you have a new chance to do what you haven’t done before, decide that you will do whatever you can and that no matter what you will never give up again.

I know that some of you are looking at this New Year with fear, either because your last year was too good, or because it was awful, you are afraid because you don’t know if this new year is going to be as good as the old one, so because of fear, you remain attached to your past, not allowing yourself the opportunity to have a better one, or maybe your past year was not so good, and the fear you have inside doesn’t let you see the new opportunity you have now, blinded by insecurities and doubts.

So no matter how bad or how good your 2014 has been, there is always positive things to take from it even those positive things we take from awful situations, there is always something you can keep in your heart, the rest of it can go away and never come back to your mind, heart and soul.

So with the positive experiences from your past year, you can start this 2015 with confidence, using those experiences and feelings as a motivation, knowing you have inside all you need, and that you can and you definitely will make all your dreams come true.

We have a new chance, let’s take our pen and write down everything we want to achieve in this year, and read it whenever you can, and with confidence let’s go out and fight for the life we deserve. Every day, every minute, every second a miracle can happen. We have come this far in our life, after all we have been through, so let’s face this 2015 with no fear, and let’s go out and get the life we deserve.

 

Have a wonderful New Year! 🙂

How can I stay positive? Part II

Stay Positive
Hi everyone and thank you for reading! I really hope that my words can help you to have a wonderful and happy life! 🙂 So here is the second part of: How can I stay positive?

 

I was writing on the first part about Gratitude, a very useful and effective way to stay positive, if you learn to be grateful even in the hardest time, you will change your daily life experience in a second.

 

And so here comes the second cure for our short perception disease:

FOCUS

The problem of negativity is that it has a lot of power, and it will control you and your emotions if you let it do that. The solution? Stay focus in anything that makes you happy, whatever makes you smile, do that! And whatever makes you sad let that go!

 

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” – Buddha

 

There are two types of situations in this world: The one we can change, and the one we can’t.

So if there is something that makes you be unhappy and you have the chance to change that, then change that, it might take time or not, depending on what you want, what is important is to be positive while you are doing that, knowing that someday, somehow, you will change that.
The other situation is the one that we cannot change, what is happening or what is going to happen is something that is a fact and you can’t do anything about it, so being negative and sad about, is not going to make any change, it will make you feel better? I guess that no, right? So why don’t you just focus on things that you can actually change, on things that makes you happy?

 

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates

 

The truth about everything is that what is happening out there it is already happening, you may be able to change that or maybe not, but how you feel about it is something that you can control, by allowing yourself to focus on what makes you smile, in those things that push you forward and cutting the ropes of what is holding you back. Let go those things, the ones you can’t change, and be positive, by focusing on what you can change, you need to stay positive, no matter what happens, there is always a motive to be happy.

 

“Always remember, your focus determines your reality.” – George Lucas

 

And here goes the third cure, a hard one, but a very effective one:

 

FAITH

Having faith is a very good way to stay positive, because by having faith is a way to say to yourself and express to the world that everything is possible, and maybe nothing seems good out there, but faith allows me to see light in the darkness, it is a way the soul has, to let you know that everything is going to be alright!
No matter in what you believe, the important thing is to not lose faith, if you lose that, you lose all kind of possibility to achieve what you want to achieve, because if you can’t see something as possible, if you can’t see that in your mind, and if you can’t feel it with all your heart and soul, then that is what are you going to experience.

 

“Faith is seeing light with your heart when all your eyes see is darkness.” – Anonymous

 

So no matter what is happening, have faith, anything you can imagine, you can achieve, it’s that simple, if you have faith even when your reality is not what you have dreamed of, have faith, because that’s what will make you feel better, and be positive, because you can’t see it now, but you know that is going to happen. So have faith and stay positive, knowing that nothing is going to remain as it is right now, no matter how bad it looks like.
And that lead us to the fourth and last cure and for that no less important, and that is:

 

ENERGY

Everything is energy, so if you want something, or if you want to change something, just give all energy to that, to things you want and love, to anything that makes you happy. The problem is that usually we give all the energy that we have to the things that we don’t want, and that is why we keep having the same feeling over and over again.
So if you want to stay positive in life, you need to give energy to positive things, because negativity is like a powerful magnet of energy, and if you let it control you, it will suck all your positive energy, leaving you weak, without any kind of strength to stay positive.

 

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy, this is physics.” – Albert Einstein.

 

Whatever energy you give to the world, is what you are going to receive, so if you allow a situation to consume you, you will only give negative emotions and actions, having as a result more and more negativity back to yourself.
So no matter what is happening, just look beyond that, look around and see all the things for what you should be grateful for, focusing only in the things that makes you happy, having faith, knowing that anything will be alright and giving positive energy, and so you will light up all the darkness that your eyes are seeing right now, and receiving more and more positive things back to you, that will light up your heart, and will fill your empty soul.

 

Stay positive, always.

How can I stay positive?

Stay Positive
People wonder every day, How can I stay positive? And my question is: How is it possible that you cannot stay positive? And the problem is that we have a very short perspective of what is really important and what is really happening.

 

There is a fact: We have eyes and we can see, but the reality we can see is actually far less than the real reality. We cannot see what is really happening, we see according to what we believe.

The problem is that we live in an upside down world, and we have put in first places in our list of happiness what should be in the last positions, and our wrong idea of a happy and joyful life is what have created all the pain, unhappiness, sadness, hate and suffering in the world, if we could just change our perspective about life, we could just change everything.

 

 

 “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer

 

 

 

We go after things that don’t matter, we struggle every day to get material things, forgetting what is really important and why are we here on this planet.

So no matter what is happening in your life, you have the power and the ability to be happy and to have everything you really want in life, you have to learn to see the positive side of everything, you may not be able to see it right now, but believe me, there is a positive side in everything, the trick is to enlarge our short and limited perspective of life, if you do, you will see what you haven’t seen so far, you will see a completely and amazing new reality.

 

 

 

“Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind, the goal is to find it.” – Buddha

 

 

 

So what is the first and one of the most important cures to our lack of wider perspective disease?

 

And the first cure, the most important one, the one that it can change your life in a second, the best solution to negativity and the first motive to stay positive and happy is:

 

GRATITUDE

 

And maybe you already know that or maybe you don’t, but the fact is, that if you are not being positive and if you are complaining about any kind of situation you may be going through is because you are not being truly grateful.

 

 

“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” – Abraham Lincoln

 

 

And what I really mean with this is that this cure doesn’t really work if you just say that you are grateful, you have to really feel it, with all your heart and soul.

There is so much in your life to be grateful for;tthe problem is that we are so used to that kind of things, that we don’t really pay too much attention to it, because we are too focused on things that don’t really matter.

The most important things you should be grateful for is for being alive, because if you are alive it means that you still have the opportunity to do a lot of things and that you still can enjoy the most beautiful things in the world, while other people are fighting to survive or also some of them don’t even have the half of what you have.

 

 

“The struggle ends when gratitude begins.” – Neale Donald Walsh

 

 

If we have love, we have everything. If you can enjoy a hug, a kiss, an act of kindness, a word of compassion, understanding, a smile, and a simple touch you have more than enough to be grateful  and happy for.

If you can breathe and your heart is beating, if you are able to give love and receive love in any way, if you have people who will always be there for you, if you have food in your fridge, drinking water from the tap, a roof, a bed, a cup of coffee in a winter night, a warm shower, clothes, and you have all the freedom to think, to speak, and to do whatever you want,  you are richer and have more power than you ever imagined., and no matter what other things can happen, you can be grateful for all that and be happy.

 

 

“If you want to find happiness, find gratitude.” – Steve Maraboli

 

We have to look at the things that are really important, and be grateful for that, knowing that we are blessed, as there a lot of people who don’t have even 1% of what you have right now.  So how can you stay positive? Look at those things, the ones that make you happy, the ones that are really important.

And then there are 3 more cures, that have really helped me to change my life:

Focus, Faith and Energy.

 

So if you want to know more about the next cures, don’t forget to come back later this week for the second part of How can I stay positive? 🙂

Do Not Be Afraid to Be Alone

We live in a world, where being alone is something that scares us, that is why many time we lose ourselves, forgetting who we really are, being what we are not, in order to be accepted by others so we don’t have to face the dreaded solitude. But solitude is not something we should be scared of, but the opposite, as sometimes it is the best way to find ourselves.

 

“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.” - Arthur Schopenhauer

 

If we pay attention to what is happening around us, we can discover just by looking at people and their relationship with others, that actually being alone could be a benefit for our soul and life rather than a drawback, and you might be wondering why? Why it would be a benefit? Because being alone makes us reflect, it allows us to discover ourselves, because it is in the silence of our solitude where we can hear our inner voice. Solitude takes out the best version of ourselves, and it makes us find who we really are.

By being alone we allow us to move away from the outside world, and so we begin to think for ourselves, we question things, we start to find answers to our deepest questions, and sometimes that can be really hard, because it makes us realize that we were wrong in a lot of aspects in our life, especially in our idea of who we really are. So we start to listen to our own soul, and suddenly we find what we were looking for, we find ourselves.

 

 

 

”It’s beautiful to be alone. To be alone does not mean to be lonely. It means the mind is not influenced and contaminated by society.’’ – Jiddu Krishnamurti

 

 

 

Nowadays one of the biggest problem we are facing is that we actually don’t know who we really are, we just are what others wanted us to be, we are a product of society, so we accept that reality, but deep inside our hearts we feel incomplete, like if something was missing in ourselves, and so we found ourselves in the middle of a battle between the reality of our mind and the reality of our soul.

The problem is that not being alone with ourselves is blocking us to be what we really wanted to be. The fear of being alone makes us have the necessity to be with others, so we are what others want us to be in order to not be alone, or we surround ourselves with people who make us feel more lost, empty and the worst thing is that we find ourselves more alone than before.

 

 

 

 ”Don’t be scared to walk alone. Don’t be scared to like it.’’ – John Mayer

 

 

 

So I learned, that there is no way that you can find what you have been looking for, if you don’t start by loving to be with your own company. Once you know yourself and you do the things you love, and above all once you start loving yourself more you will learn that solitude is something that gives you the opportunity to be who you always wanted to be, and do the things you ever wanted to be. You will discover that being alone gives you wings to dream and discover a completely new you, without being affected and influenced by others, then you will enjoy life more, and everything that you have ever dreamed of will come true.

If we could just learn to be alone, enjoying our own company, we would find how amazing we really are, and what can we actually do without needing anyone else to do it. Therefore, do not be afraid to be alone, because it is not a punishment but a blessing, take advantage of it, and do not be afraid to talk and laugh with yourself. Enjoy your own company, do what you love to do, travel to the places you have always wanted to go, listen to your favorite music, or read your favorite book. Sometimes to be alone is what we need, because when we are only with ourselves we are free, and we are not influenced nor controlled by society, and that way we can enjoy being our true self.

 

 

 

”I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.’’ – Oscar Wilde

 

 

 

Learn to be alone, do not be afraid to be only with yourself, love the silence, love your own voice, enjoy your own company, and feel comfortable being with your own soul. Learn to separate yourself from people who don’t let you be yourself, people who don’t let you grow and evolve.

When you stop being afraid to be alone, looking its positive side, you will learn to enjoy every second alone, and you become wiser at the time of choosing the people to whom surround yourself with. You will take your time to choose the right people, with no rush, without having the necessity to depend on others.

 

 

 

 ”I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.’’ – Robin Williams

 

 

 

We are going to be alone many times in our lives, either by choice, or because there will be no other choice, sometimes we will face it abruptly, and in that moment can be very painful, but in that solitude that is not absolute, because nobody can be really alone if we learn to love our own company, you will find your own voice, you will listen to your soul, you will enjoy your own company, you will find yourself, and you will discover that being alone was not something negative, but very positive. Solitude is a gift if we know how to take advantage of it. You can change your situation at any time, you must simply change the way you see life.

 

 

 

Learn to love your own company, enjoy every moment with yourself, and change your life!

 

Failure is the road to success.

You must be wondering: Failure, the road to success? And yes it is, depending on how we let failure affect us, it can be a killer of dreams or it can be the road that leads us to success.

 

Failure: a simple word with just a lot of meaning. A word that makes us have Goosebumps with just reading it, a word that scares, blocking us to keep moving forward, a word that dominates us, for the meaning  and power we all gave it to it to control ourselves. Failure is why we haven’t made our dreams a reality; failure is what makes us keep dreaming without real achievement.

 

But failure wasn’t always a ‘’bad word’’.

 

When we were kids, failure was just a word that made us to try harder, that made us be better and better. When you are a kid failure is what gives you strength to keep moving forward until you succeed.

Remember when you were just a baby? I guess not, but let’s try to go back to those times were everything seemed possible. For example when we were trying to walk…

We felt many times until we really made it right? We tried a lot to get in our feet and walk, and we failed over and over again, but we gave up? No! We are where we are now using our feet and walking, we don’t even think about it, but one time we tried so hard to do what now seems normal, and we are doing it because we believed and we never gave up.

We didn’t stop until we succeed, we used failure as a motivation to keep trying, we had a goal and we kept pushing ourselves until we reached it.

 

 

”Failure is success if you learn from it.’’ Malcolm Forbes

 

 

And why we succeed every time we wanted to learn something new when we were kids?

Because we never gave up! In those moments you don’t get contaminated by society, you don’t have fears that don’t let you do what you want, when you are a kid you can see what others can do and use that a way to know that everything is possible, and when we grow up we can also see that others can do it, but because of our fears and lack of self-esteem we believe the fake story we told to ourselves that some of us can and some of us just can’t do it,  and so you give up, or what is worst you haven’t even tried.  So the problem when we grow up is that actually we start to have more fears than when we were kids. We listen what others say, we stop believing in ourselves and we start to use failure as a way to have an excuse for giving up.

If you didn’t give up because of failure, then you don’t even started because of the fear of it, am I right?

We have to go back to those moments where we were just ourselves, those moments where we believed that everything was possible, and that failure wasn’t an ending but an opportunity to improve ourselves, let’s go back to those moments where you embrace failure as a motivation, and where you go out and try over and over again until you make your goal a reality.

 

 

 

”Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” – Thomas Edison.

 

 

The dictionary says that Failure is a lack of success, but my experience and the experiences of people who never gave up taught me that failure is the way life has to tell us that we are in the right way to achieving our goals, because if you weren’t doing anything you will never knew what failure was neither success. You were just settled in a normal life and just existing, accepting a life where dreams are not possible.

 

 

”I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.”– Michael Jordan

 

 

Use failure as a tool to make you to be even better than you have imagined, use it as an opportunity to keep moving forward, knowing that it doesn’t matter how many times you will fall, you will stand up every single time until you make your goal a reality.

Don’t make more excuses, do not let more the fears to control your life and emotions, and stop believing what other people say about it, what they think about your goal, it’s their reality and not yours. Not matter what happen just keep moving forward, if you felt 8 times, you got up 10. If people don’t believe in your dream, use that as a motivation to continue because you believe, and so you will keep trying, you will keep getting better, and you will be successful, and so you will make others know that they were wrong about you and your dreams. 

 

 

”Success is not final, failure is not fatal. It’s the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill

 

 

Remember that failure is only real if you gave up! so don’t do it, never, until you succeed, do that for you and for the entire world, so they can use you as inspiration to make their dreams a reality.

 

Do not let failure be the killer of your dreams and remember that failure is the road to success!