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How can I stay positive? Part II

Stay Positive
Hi everyone and thank you for reading! I really hope that my words can help you to have a wonderful and happy life! 🙂 So here is the second part of: How can I stay positive?

 

I was writing on the first part about Gratitude, a very useful and effective way to stay positive, if you learn to be grateful even in the hardest time, you will change your daily life experience in a second.

 

And so here comes the second cure for our short perception disease:

FOCUS

The problem of negativity is that it has a lot of power, and it will control you and your emotions if you let it do that. The solution? Stay focus in anything that makes you happy, whatever makes you smile, do that! And whatever makes you sad let that go!

 

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” – Buddha

 

There are two types of situations in this world: The one we can change, and the one we can’t.

So if there is something that makes you be unhappy and you have the chance to change that, then change that, it might take time or not, depending on what you want, what is important is to be positive while you are doing that, knowing that someday, somehow, you will change that.
The other situation is the one that we cannot change, what is happening or what is going to happen is something that is a fact and you can’t do anything about it, so being negative and sad about, is not going to make any change, it will make you feel better? I guess that no, right? So why don’t you just focus on things that you can actually change, on things that makes you happy?

 

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates

 

The truth about everything is that what is happening out there it is already happening, you may be able to change that or maybe not, but how you feel about it is something that you can control, by allowing yourself to focus on what makes you smile, in those things that push you forward and cutting the ropes of what is holding you back. Let go those things, the ones you can’t change, and be positive, by focusing on what you can change, you need to stay positive, no matter what happens, there is always a motive to be happy.

 

“Always remember, your focus determines your reality.” – George Lucas

 

And here goes the third cure, a hard one, but a very effective one:

 

FAITH

Having faith is a very good way to stay positive, because by having faith is a way to say to yourself and express to the world that everything is possible, and maybe nothing seems good out there, but faith allows me to see light in the darkness, it is a way the soul has, to let you know that everything is going to be alright!
No matter in what you believe, the important thing is to not lose faith, if you lose that, you lose all kind of possibility to achieve what you want to achieve, because if you can’t see something as possible, if you can’t see that in your mind, and if you can’t feel it with all your heart and soul, then that is what are you going to experience.

 

“Faith is seeing light with your heart when all your eyes see is darkness.” – Anonymous

 

So no matter what is happening, have faith, anything you can imagine, you can achieve, it’s that simple, if you have faith even when your reality is not what you have dreamed of, have faith, because that’s what will make you feel better, and be positive, because you can’t see it now, but you know that is going to happen. So have faith and stay positive, knowing that nothing is going to remain as it is right now, no matter how bad it looks like.
And that lead us to the fourth and last cure and for that no less important, and that is:

 

ENERGY

Everything is energy, so if you want something, or if you want to change something, just give all energy to that, to things you want and love, to anything that makes you happy. The problem is that usually we give all the energy that we have to the things that we don’t want, and that is why we keep having the same feeling over and over again.
So if you want to stay positive in life, you need to give energy to positive things, because negativity is like a powerful magnet of energy, and if you let it control you, it will suck all your positive energy, leaving you weak, without any kind of strength to stay positive.

 

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy, this is physics.” – Albert Einstein.

 

Whatever energy you give to the world, is what you are going to receive, so if you allow a situation to consume you, you will only give negative emotions and actions, having as a result more and more negativity back to yourself.
So no matter what is happening, just look beyond that, look around and see all the things for what you should be grateful for, focusing only in the things that makes you happy, having faith, knowing that anything will be alright and giving positive energy, and so you will light up all the darkness that your eyes are seeing right now, and receiving more and more positive things back to you, that will light up your heart, and will fill your empty soul.

 

Stay positive, always.

How can I stay positive?

Stay Positive
People wonder every day, How can I stay positive? And my question is: How is it possible that you cannot stay positive? And the problem is that we have a very short perspective of what is really important and what is really happening.

 

There is a fact: We have eyes and we can see, but the reality we can see is actually far less than the real reality. We cannot see what is really happening, we see according to what we believe.

The problem is that we live in an upside down world, and we have put in first places in our list of happiness what should be in the last positions, and our wrong idea of a happy and joyful life is what have created all the pain, unhappiness, sadness, hate and suffering in the world, if we could just change our perspective about life, we could just change everything.

 

 

 “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer

 

 

 

We go after things that don’t matter, we struggle every day to get material things, forgetting what is really important and why are we here on this planet.

So no matter what is happening in your life, you have the power and the ability to be happy and to have everything you really want in life, you have to learn to see the positive side of everything, you may not be able to see it right now, but believe me, there is a positive side in everything, the trick is to enlarge our short and limited perspective of life, if you do, you will see what you haven’t seen so far, you will see a completely and amazing new reality.

 

 

 

“Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind, the goal is to find it.” – Buddha

 

 

 

So what is the first and one of the most important cures to our lack of wider perspective disease?

 

And the first cure, the most important one, the one that it can change your life in a second, the best solution to negativity and the first motive to stay positive and happy is:

 

GRATITUDE

 

And maybe you already know that or maybe you don’t, but the fact is, that if you are not being positive and if you are complaining about any kind of situation you may be going through is because you are not being truly grateful.

 

 

“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” – Abraham Lincoln

 

 

And what I really mean with this is that this cure doesn’t really work if you just say that you are grateful, you have to really feel it, with all your heart and soul.

There is so much in your life to be grateful for;tthe problem is that we are so used to that kind of things, that we don’t really pay too much attention to it, because we are too focused on things that don’t really matter.

The most important things you should be grateful for is for being alive, because if you are alive it means that you still have the opportunity to do a lot of things and that you still can enjoy the most beautiful things in the world, while other people are fighting to survive or also some of them don’t even have the half of what you have.

 

 

“The struggle ends when gratitude begins.” – Neale Donald Walsh

 

 

If we have love, we have everything. If you can enjoy a hug, a kiss, an act of kindness, a word of compassion, understanding, a smile, and a simple touch you have more than enough to be grateful  and happy for.

If you can breathe and your heart is beating, if you are able to give love and receive love in any way, if you have people who will always be there for you, if you have food in your fridge, drinking water from the tap, a roof, a bed, a cup of coffee in a winter night, a warm shower, clothes, and you have all the freedom to think, to speak, and to do whatever you want,  you are richer and have more power than you ever imagined., and no matter what other things can happen, you can be grateful for all that and be happy.

 

 

“If you want to find happiness, find gratitude.” – Steve Maraboli

 

We have to look at the things that are really important, and be grateful for that, knowing that we are blessed, as there a lot of people who don’t have even 1% of what you have right now.  So how can you stay positive? Look at those things, the ones that make you happy, the ones that are really important.

And then there are 3 more cures, that have really helped me to change my life:

Focus, Faith and Energy.

 

So if you want to know more about the next cures, don’t forget to come back later this week for the second part of How can I stay positive? 🙂

The conqueror of our mind

No fear
We born and we are immediately condemned to a life imprisonment, without having any possibility to appeal, we live our lives as prisoners, victims of our own minds; we let the conqueror of our mind to rule our life.

 

So we forget who we really are and we start being what the conqueror wants us to be, but what we don’t really know is that actually it doesn’t really exist, it is an invention of our own minds, so we condemn ourselves to a life of suffering and sadness.

And what is that invention that doesn’t exist rather than in our minds? That invention is called FEAR and we create it with our own thoughts, letting it be the driver of our life, the creator of our reality and our destiny.

Everything we think and do is related to fear, what is ironic is that what human beings look most in this life is to be happy, but what we only do is to act based in our fears, and that is why we only find unhappiness, because we run away from anything that can give us happiness.

 

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” – Joseph Campbell

 

So the only way to find happiness is to learn to face the fears, and then push them away from our way, because unhappiness is the result of fears, so while you have it, you will not be able to find happiness, and your dreams will be only dreams for the rest of your life, because you have chosen fear for your life, and dreams can never become a reality if you let fears to control your life.

Fear is lethal, because being alive and walking doesn’t mean that you are not dead inside, because fears consumes your spirit, as you are the results of your fears, and your reality is based on them.

 

“The only fear we have to fear is fear itself.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

 

Fears are only the sum of wrong belief about everything. Our belief based in our past experiences and the experiences of others have made us to have a wrong idea of what life is really about. Every thought and action that leads us to unhappiness is based on fears, living then in an imaginary reality. We can’t see what is really happening, because fears make us blind, it controls our mind and our life, and makes us be miserable.

 

“Fear has two meanings: Forget everything and run or face everything and rise. The choice is yours.” – Zig Ziglar

 

The truth about everything is that fears don’t exist, they are the product of our own mind, fear is only an illusion that we create as a way to protect ourselves from any kind of suffering, which in fact is what creates all the suffering and pain we face every day.

We need to change our belief about life and about ourselves, belief created by society, imposed in our minds and accepted by us which creates all the fears in our life.

We are afraid to die, but we are more afraid to live, we have the concept that life is suffering, so we try to avoid it by not facing what we are afraid of, but in fact we are making those fears a reality. In the end what we don’t want is to suffer, but in fact allowing those fears to become a reality by controlling ourselves, makes us to be unhappy, to suffer and be sad, living in an unreal prison of unhappiness created by us.

 

“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.” – Dorothy Thompson

 

Once you choose to live without depending on the results of any decision by giving more energy to what you really want rather than giving it all to your fears, and once you face it, knowing that are only an illusion of your mind, you will find true happiness.

So fear nothing, don’t listen to them, fears say nothing more than lies, don’t be afraid of losing something, because being afraid and pushing away everything you want will only make you lose the most wonderful thing we have: The life and the possibility to enjoy it, being truly happy and making any dream a reality.

 

Face your fears, follow your heart, and set yourself free!

Prisoners of the system

We think we live in a free world, we think we are free, but in fact that is only an illusion, because we are prisoners of the system, the one we think we dominate, but which in fact it dominates us, having us under its control. We think, we act, and we talk based on the beliefs that they have imposed on us. There’s no such thing as freedom, our freedom is an illusion.

 

 

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We have been categorized, such as in a product catalog, in which the human beings are separated from each other by nationality, religion, social belief, gender, race, sexual preferences, external appearance, social status, and so on. An infinite catalog, that define us and which we use to determinate if someone is better than other, and if deserves something or not. Based on that belief, we separate each other and is there where the worst miseries of the world come into play.

We start to judge and condemn others, we compete, we do horrible things to each other, we envy, we hate, we become selfish and without feelings and we think based on the belief that we are all different. Some people believe that are more superior than others simply because they belong to the privileged group inside this catalog created by the society in which we live. These few people, the elite, the privileged believe that they have the right to hurt, humiliate, torture and even kill other human being. The problem is that we sell our souls day after day, ceasing to be our true self, to become a puppet from this twisted, illogical and selfish system in which we live.

 

 

“You have to understand, most of these people are not ready to be unplugged. And many of them are so inert, so hopelessly dependent on the system, that they will fight to protect it.” – Morpheus (The Matrix)

 

 

We live in a world where the appearance is the primordial, in which our idols are plastic dolls, unreal and with empty minds. We came to a point of such madness, that we have come to believe that to achieve the beauty standards imposed by this society makes us superiors, believing that we have the right to hurt another one that doesn’t meet the stupid requirements of the beauty industry. The worst part is that some people have killed themselves because they have been consumed by these stupid, unreal, fictitious and meaningless standards, believing that they didn’t deserve to live and be happy by just being the way they were.

It’s a world full of enslaved people, prisoners of money and material things, for which we have committed the worst atrocities. It’s for money that a man loses himself, forgetting all types of values or respect for another human. We forget to live by going after material things that don’t give us any kind of happiness, as we always go after the new, the best, and blinded we go through life consuming the crap that they sell to us, making that our fake motive of happiness. What we don’t know is that everything we buy has a price, and the price is not valued in papers with a number on it, but its real value it’s valued in the amount of time of our lives we spend to earn it.

 

 

“The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.” – Henry David Thoreau

 

 

We live in a world where we complain about injustice, but we do not do anything about it, we live in a world where we are always looking what other people do or cease to do, and we don’t look at what we are doing, we complain, we blame, but when we need to do something to change the world, we don’t do anything and we only have excuses.

We live in a world where we are too worried about ourselves that we cannot see around us, there are people killing each other in wars and we don’t do anything about it, there is people starving because they don’t have anything to eat and we throw food every day, there is people who don’t have drinking water and we waste it like if there were an inexhaustible resource of it. But human beings have everything: mind, intelligence, skills, abilities, and resources, everything to make this world, a wonderful place, but we destroy it, and we self-destruct day after day, blind and lost in a complete wrong system, that condemn many people and benefit a few.

 

 

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

 

The day we gather together, the day we stop blaming each other, the day we stop separating ourselves by nationality, language, culture, gender, rich or poor, the day we begin to value the important things of life, the day we act against injustice and we stop blaming others, and the day we stop making the biggest criminals of the world to become more and more rich by consuming the crap they sell us: clothes made with slaves, alcohol that destroy people, electronics that make people stupid, cigarettes that kill people, drugs that consume us, food that poison us and all the trash they give to us, and the day we start being the change we want to see in the world by doing unto others as we would like them to do unto us, and above all, the day we start loving each other, that day all the suffering, the pain and injustice will be over.

We have everything, there is nothing that we don’t have, and the problem is that we don’t do anything. We born, we live, we exist and we die like puppets, believing that we are somebody, when in fact we are dominated and handled by someone else, by the ones who belongs to the elite club, the ones who made this system, the ones who locked us up.

 

 

 

 

Wake up my friends, we still have time to free ourselves from the chains of this society that oppress us, and get the victory, for us, and for all those that their voices have been silenced! Let’s raise our voices and get back our freedom!  

Letting go of the past

Let go of the past
Letting go of the past, in order to be in the present, is the best way to have a happy, fulfilled and joyful life.

 

Our past consumes us, no matter how good or how bad it was, it consume us, and not only ourselves but it consumes our present and our whole life if you don’t let it go.

 

We live tied to a past world, which has defined us and which we now use as an excuse to be who we are and to act as we act now. Each of our decisions, every thought, every action, and every word out of our mouth is based on our past.

The experiences we have in our daily life, which generates our feelings, are not much different from others we already had like pain, sadness, anger, anxiety, happiness, excitement, joy, and so on. But our reality, the reality based on how we feel about what is happening has much to do with what has happened before. Our mind seeks similarities to past events and how we reacted to those events, which is why we react now as we reacted before, without giving us the opportunity to analyze what is really happening right now and act based on what we really believe and feel at that time.

Living tied up to the past creates fears, it create obstacles that prevent us to reinvent ourselves in every situation, it doesn’t let us go forward with confidence, blocking us, making us who we were and forgetting who we might be now. We stop doing things or we can’t go forward with our friends, romantic or family relationships, jobs, and so on, because in the past we have failed, allowing the past to cause fears and to define us as people who have failed forever. Or maybe our past was too good, so we live and we let us die in that past, without enjoying the present, and so as we are unable to let go of the past, we forget to live today in our present, so we believe that former days were better, we stick ourselves to that and so it reflects our current reality, a reality full of sadness and bitterness.

We bring the past to the present day after day, a past that dominate us, who speaks and acts for us, a past that blocks us and makes us prisoners, losing any ability to act, to think and to be what we really want to be, losing any possibility of freedom.

 

 

”Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” – Buddha

 

 

Living in the past creates an imaginary reality, everything we perceive every day is based on what we have experienced, for what we live in an illusion, which only creates unhappiness since our feelings about what is happening to us day after day are wrong.

The past seizes our present, moving us away from everything we really want in life, we let the past to create our destiny for what can dominate us, so it can think and feel for us.

So then my friends, we don’t get anything we want, or we get it and then we lose it, and that is why we go after of anything we don’t deserve, and we just not value what we have now, because we live in our past, which defines us and makes us act as we act.

We move away from people who love us, we avoid relationships with people because in the past we haven’t been loved, and so by living in the past we cannot see the current reality and we see one that is totally imaginary, we believe that everything that resembles a past relationship that was unsatisfactory will be the same even if it indicates that is totally different. Or if in the past was good, but for some reason ended, we stay in that past where everything was better, and we believe that it will not be another like that one so we avoid any kind of relationship in the present. We avoid any situation that can generate suffering according to what we believe based on our past experiences, locking us in a prison that only creates that suffering that we once wanted to avoid.

 

 

”Oh yes, the past can hurt. But you can either run from it, or learn from it.” – The Lion King

 

 

We avoid going for what we want, we avoid making our dreams come true because at some point we have gone through a situation where we have failed, or in which we saw someone fail or where we have the belief that someone imposed on us that we can never achieve what we want because we simply don’t have the skills or abilities to make our dreams a reality, accepting that past as a present, and accepting ourselves as incapable and unsuccessful, accepting a reality that could be different if we just let the past behind, believing in ourselves and if we just lived in the present, since each second is a new opportunity to be who we really are, forgetting who we were or who they told us that we were.

No matter what happened in your life, what is important is that you are here today, that you can breathe and you can live, come back to the present, don’t let the past to keep defining you rather be the one who uses the past to a way of defining yourself, to a way to say this happened to me and I were like that but now I am what I am because of that, because I didn’t let the situation that happened in my past to destroy me, I used that as a motivation to become what I became now!

 

 

”No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.” Buddha

 

 

No matter if your past was a total failure and if nothing was good for you, today is a new day, a new day to affirm and act as a new you, because you’re who you say you are, your failures, your fears, your old beliefs, whatever you have said, that doesn’t define you, you do that every day with your thoughts and actions, and you can create any reality you want to create.

 

You have the power and ability to change your whole existence, and how can you do that?

Leaving the past where it belongs, in the past!

 

It has been bad or good, it does not matter, leave it there, and with that you will also leave your fears behind as well. You will leave what you was before to become who you choose to be now, and you will get what you always wanted: love, job, friendship, experiences, and so on. Leaving the prison of the past behind, to return to be free again, to believe and dream, to make all your dreams come true, to define you as what you really are: a wonderful human being with an infinite capacity to get everything you ever wanted to have.

 

Live in the present, create your future, leave your past behind.

Do Not Be Afraid to Be Alone

We live in a world, where being alone is something that scares us, that is why many time we lose ourselves, forgetting who we really are, being what we are not, in order to be accepted by others so we don’t have to face the dreaded solitude. But solitude is not something we should be scared of, but the opposite, as sometimes it is the best way to find ourselves.

 

“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.” - Arthur Schopenhauer

 

If we pay attention to what is happening around us, we can discover just by looking at people and their relationship with others, that actually being alone could be a benefit for our soul and life rather than a drawback, and you might be wondering why? Why it would be a benefit? Because being alone makes us reflect, it allows us to discover ourselves, because it is in the silence of our solitude where we can hear our inner voice. Solitude takes out the best version of ourselves, and it makes us find who we really are.

By being alone we allow us to move away from the outside world, and so we begin to think for ourselves, we question things, we start to find answers to our deepest questions, and sometimes that can be really hard, because it makes us realize that we were wrong in a lot of aspects in our life, especially in our idea of who we really are. So we start to listen to our own soul, and suddenly we find what we were looking for, we find ourselves.

 

 

 

”It’s beautiful to be alone. To be alone does not mean to be lonely. It means the mind is not influenced and contaminated by society.’’ – Jiddu Krishnamurti

 

 

 

Nowadays one of the biggest problem we are facing is that we actually don’t know who we really are, we just are what others wanted us to be, we are a product of society, so we accept that reality, but deep inside our hearts we feel incomplete, like if something was missing in ourselves, and so we found ourselves in the middle of a battle between the reality of our mind and the reality of our soul.

The problem is that not being alone with ourselves is blocking us to be what we really wanted to be. The fear of being alone makes us have the necessity to be with others, so we are what others want us to be in order to not be alone, or we surround ourselves with people who make us feel more lost, empty and the worst thing is that we find ourselves more alone than before.

 

 

 

 ”Don’t be scared to walk alone. Don’t be scared to like it.’’ – John Mayer

 

 

 

So I learned, that there is no way that you can find what you have been looking for, if you don’t start by loving to be with your own company. Once you know yourself and you do the things you love, and above all once you start loving yourself more you will learn that solitude is something that gives you the opportunity to be who you always wanted to be, and do the things you ever wanted to be. You will discover that being alone gives you wings to dream and discover a completely new you, without being affected and influenced by others, then you will enjoy life more, and everything that you have ever dreamed of will come true.

If we could just learn to be alone, enjoying our own company, we would find how amazing we really are, and what can we actually do without needing anyone else to do it. Therefore, do not be afraid to be alone, because it is not a punishment but a blessing, take advantage of it, and do not be afraid to talk and laugh with yourself. Enjoy your own company, do what you love to do, travel to the places you have always wanted to go, listen to your favorite music, or read your favorite book. Sometimes to be alone is what we need, because when we are only with ourselves we are free, and we are not influenced nor controlled by society, and that way we can enjoy being our true self.

 

 

 

”I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.’’ – Oscar Wilde

 

 

 

Learn to be alone, do not be afraid to be only with yourself, love the silence, love your own voice, enjoy your own company, and feel comfortable being with your own soul. Learn to separate yourself from people who don’t let you be yourself, people who don’t let you grow and evolve.

When you stop being afraid to be alone, looking its positive side, you will learn to enjoy every second alone, and you become wiser at the time of choosing the people to whom surround yourself with. You will take your time to choose the right people, with no rush, without having the necessity to depend on others.

 

 

 

 ”I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.’’ – Robin Williams

 

 

 

We are going to be alone many times in our lives, either by choice, or because there will be no other choice, sometimes we will face it abruptly, and in that moment can be very painful, but in that solitude that is not absolute, because nobody can be really alone if we learn to love our own company, you will find your own voice, you will listen to your soul, you will enjoy your own company, you will find yourself, and you will discover that being alone was not something negative, but very positive. Solitude is a gift if we know how to take advantage of it. You can change your situation at any time, you must simply change the way you see life.

 

 

 

Learn to love your own company, enjoy every moment with yourself, and change your life!

 

Failure is the road to success.

You must be wondering: Failure, the road to success? And yes it is, depending on how we let failure affect us, it can be a killer of dreams or it can be the road that leads us to success.

 

Failure: a simple word with just a lot of meaning. A word that makes us have Goosebumps with just reading it, a word that scares, blocking us to keep moving forward, a word that dominates us, for the meaning  and power we all gave it to it to control ourselves. Failure is why we haven’t made our dreams a reality; failure is what makes us keep dreaming without real achievement.

 

But failure wasn’t always a ‘’bad word’’.

 

When we were kids, failure was just a word that made us to try harder, that made us be better and better. When you are a kid failure is what gives you strength to keep moving forward until you succeed.

Remember when you were just a baby? I guess not, but let’s try to go back to those times were everything seemed possible. For example when we were trying to walk…

We felt many times until we really made it right? We tried a lot to get in our feet and walk, and we failed over and over again, but we gave up? No! We are where we are now using our feet and walking, we don’t even think about it, but one time we tried so hard to do what now seems normal, and we are doing it because we believed and we never gave up.

We didn’t stop until we succeed, we used failure as a motivation to keep trying, we had a goal and we kept pushing ourselves until we reached it.

 

 

”Failure is success if you learn from it.’’ Malcolm Forbes

 

 

And why we succeed every time we wanted to learn something new when we were kids?

Because we never gave up! In those moments you don’t get contaminated by society, you don’t have fears that don’t let you do what you want, when you are a kid you can see what others can do and use that a way to know that everything is possible, and when we grow up we can also see that others can do it, but because of our fears and lack of self-esteem we believe the fake story we told to ourselves that some of us can and some of us just can’t do it,  and so you give up, or what is worst you haven’t even tried.  So the problem when we grow up is that actually we start to have more fears than when we were kids. We listen what others say, we stop believing in ourselves and we start to use failure as a way to have an excuse for giving up.

If you didn’t give up because of failure, then you don’t even started because of the fear of it, am I right?

We have to go back to those moments where we were just ourselves, those moments where we believed that everything was possible, and that failure wasn’t an ending but an opportunity to improve ourselves, let’s go back to those moments where you embrace failure as a motivation, and where you go out and try over and over again until you make your goal a reality.

 

 

 

”Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” – Thomas Edison.

 

 

The dictionary says that Failure is a lack of success, but my experience and the experiences of people who never gave up taught me that failure is the way life has to tell us that we are in the right way to achieving our goals, because if you weren’t doing anything you will never knew what failure was neither success. You were just settled in a normal life and just existing, accepting a life where dreams are not possible.

 

 

”I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.”– Michael Jordan

 

 

Use failure as a tool to make you to be even better than you have imagined, use it as an opportunity to keep moving forward, knowing that it doesn’t matter how many times you will fall, you will stand up every single time until you make your goal a reality.

Don’t make more excuses, do not let more the fears to control your life and emotions, and stop believing what other people say about it, what they think about your goal, it’s their reality and not yours. Not matter what happen just keep moving forward, if you felt 8 times, you got up 10. If people don’t believe in your dream, use that as a motivation to continue because you believe, and so you will keep trying, you will keep getting better, and you will be successful, and so you will make others know that they were wrong about you and your dreams. 

 

 

”Success is not final, failure is not fatal. It’s the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill

 

 

Remember that failure is only real if you gave up! so don’t do it, never, until you succeed, do that for you and for the entire world, so they can use you as inspiration to make their dreams a reality.

 

Do not let failure be the killer of your dreams and remember that failure is the road to success!

Follow your heart and intuition.

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It’s very complicated these days to just be yourself, but as Steve Jobs said: follow your heart and intuition and be who you want to be and not what somebody else want, it is you and only you that will live your life anyway right?.

 

But I know, it is very easy to be contaminated by the society in which we are living and without losing ourselves, don’t you think so?. And you get in those moments where you don’t know who you really are and what are you really doing here.

The problem is that we look without really seeing, we don’t live, we just exist. 

We don’t let ourselves be who we really want to be, and why? because of one of the most lethal things that exist in this world:

FEAR

 

Fear of what?

Fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of what other people will think about us.

 

”The greatest prison that people lives in is the fear of what other people think.”

 

We think we are free, but we are not. We live in an invisible prison, that we create with our thoughts. That’s why we don’t let ourselves be whoever we wanted to be.

We dream, we wish, but we don’t believe, we just believe in what other people say, if they say that what you want is hard to get and impossible and that you are crazy for even thinking about it, you believe it, you accept those words as a reality, and you start being what society tell you to be, forgetting who you really are.

 

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I know that you already know what you want to become in this world, maybe you are not 100% conscious about that, but there is something that you love to do, that makes you smile and makes you enjoy life in a way  you have never experienced  before. I guess that you have felt that many times before, and that is being your true self, that is saying to the world you know what? This is what makes me happy, This is who I really am!

It’s unbelievable how we limit ourselves by not following our heart and intuition. We do what we are supposed to do, because they tell you that there is no other way to live. You have to do the right things at the right time, if you want a happy life. But if it were like that, why most of the people in this world are not happy?

Because we do what someone else told us to do and not what we really wanted to do.

We live as if we will live forever, letting everything for tomorrow, but no matter what you have done in this life, we all end in the same place someday.

So break the walls of fear that are around you, don’t be trapped any more by others opinions, remember that somebody else’s opinions don’t have to become your reality.

 

”Your life is yours, live it!”

 

Life goes too fast to waste it, there is so many beautiful things, and there is so much to be grateful and happy for.

So go out, live the life that you always wanted, be the person you always wanted to be, be a voice and not an echo,  give to others what you want to receive and above all:

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you, this is actually what we really are. A beautiful human beings, with  the ability to be and get whatever we want, and we have the power to change other people lives, and our lives and so… The entire world!

 

”The problem is, that we think we have time.” – Buddha

 

So the time is now, don’t wait until you don’t have it anymore. So enjoy the present, is what we have right now and nothing else, and if you want to see the future, see what you are doing now, do not let things for tomorrow, there may be no tomorrow.

Today is the day to be happy, to celebrate, to be grateful, to have joy, to feel love and be just yourself.!

Everything is possible, believe it!

Everything is possible, we can make our dreams come true, but we must believe in ourselves, because a dream is just a dream and it will always be that if we don’t do anything to change that!

 

Since we were born we have been blessed with the most wonderful gift we can ever have…

The gift of life

 

You came to this wonderful place to be the most amazing person you can ever been, you came to have it all, you came to discover who you really are and who do you want to be and you have all the resources to have the life of your dreams, but for some reason we just make this amazing life look like a horrible place…

and why? Why having it all to make this place a paradise we just want to keep saying that life is a nasty place? Why?

 

Because people have a special passion:

The passion for suffering!

 

I mean I’m serious, because with one thought just one single thought you can change everything, with a wonderful feeling, that feeling called:

Love: love for everything around you.

 

”We came to love and be loved.”

 

If you just can have love and give love to every single person and thing around you, you can transform this place into a paradise, you will find the true happiness, if you just can feel gratitude for everything, every single day, every single second of your life, for everything  you got, you have and you will have and I swear that  you can transform this place into heaven, you can have it all, all you ever dreamed of, you just have to believe, believe in you, believe that everything is out there waiting for you to start believing! You must be happy and grateful for everything you already have and you have to love yourself with all your heart so then you can love everyone, and I’m saying every one!  Not only your wife, husband, children, girlfriend, boyfriend, family or friend, every single person in this world!  See? We can just live in heaven but not, we don’t and why?

Because we don’t believe, we only focus in what we don’t want, in what we hate, in how hard life is and how disgusting is and why?

Like I said we just don’t believe in the things that look too good, we just think: Oh no there must be something wrong with that! Is not possible, magic doesn’t exist, just accept that life is horrible! So when you have the possibility to have the job of your dreams and earn the money you ever wanted, you just think: Oh no! it sounds too good, I can’t have it, dreams can’t come true or you found the love of your life but what do you think? She/he must be lying in some point, She/he can’t be so perfect or amazing, She/he will probably hurt me one day and I will be devastated, so what do you do with all those fears and thoughts?

 

”You create your own reality.”

 

 

You just make your thoughts come true, you make your dreams be only that.. Dreams for ever and nothing else, you can make it true! But no, people doesn’t want to because people don’t believe, they don’t love themselves  so they think they can’t have it all because you think you don’t deserve it just because you don’t love yourself and because you don’t love yourself you can’t love other and others can’t love you, so you are back again in your horrible reality thinking life is horrible, life is suffering, I can’t have it all, dreams can’t come true, love doesn’t exist, so you just conform yourself with nothing, with a horrible life, with a job you don’t want, with a relationship that sucks because you just think you can’t have better things and only because  you only want to believe that life is like that, you leave everything to destiny, to luck and to whatever you think, you complain about everything and you keep living as life was a fortune wheel where someone can have a wonderful life, a wonderful family, friends, the love of their dreams, the money, the job and anything their ever wanted and that you have been the unlucky one and that you have to accept it.

But let me tell you something, you make your own reality, you can have it all, you can have the life of your dreams, the love of your life, the best friends in the world, the job you ever wanted, everything!

Just start believing in it!

 

”Believe you can and you are halfway there.”

 

 

And don’t forget to love yourself and love anyone around you, give love every single day of your life because if you don’t give it, how are you going to have it then?

Be grateful for every single thing you have and you will have and for every single person around you who makes the life a better place!

Be happy and grateful for what you got, for what you have, for what you will have, love with all your heart, believe that the things you want are there waiting for you and believe that dreams can come true, if you really want!

 

”There is always something to be grateful for.”

 

You have everything you want, is just there in front of your eyes believe and you will see it! Believe that good things are not possible and continue with your life and thinking that life is suffering, that your job has to be the worst thing, that you can’t earn the money you want and that you relationship has to be horrible, that you have to suffer and cry and be sad, because everyone says that life is like that!

So, if you don’t want that reality anymore, start believing now and you will see that everything is possible, that you deserve the best in the world, that you deserve to be happy, you deserve to be loved and anything you want!

Believe and you will see what you can’t see, Believe and you will be happy for ever,  Believe and you will make your dreams come true!

 

It is my wish to you and every single person of this amazing world! 🙂