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Love Yourself

The longest relationship you will ever have is with yourself, so the best decision you can make is to love yourself first. Once you decide to love yourself, everything around you will make more sense, and you will no longer suffer needlessly.

 

If you are seeking love, seek within yourself first.

 

 

We suffer needlessly because we seek for others to give us the love we can’t give to ourselves, and when we seek for others to love us, we become dependent on the love of others to be happy, so when someone doesn’t love us and treat us as we would like, we feel sad, and our whole world falls apart.

We go through life begging for love, settling for a mediocre love, accepting a love that is much less than the one we deserve, and we do that because we don’t love ourselves, and we don’t love ourselves because we haven’t realized what kind of person we really are, we are not aware of our potential, we are not aware that we are beautiful human beings, with the power to make our dreams become a reality, we don’t love ourselves because we have forgotten who we really are and why are we here, we don’t love ourselves because we have forgotten that we can change the world and every human being on it in a second with the love, passion, strength and kindness that everyone has within ourselves.

 

 

 

 

“If you don’t love yourself, you’ll always be chasing after people who don’t love you either.” – Mandy Hale

 

 

 

 

When we don’t love ourselves we become a victim of our daily circumstances, accepting a pathetic role where everything seems to be against us, when the truth is that we are against ourselves. The day we decided not to love ourselves, we decided to become a victim of the opinions and behaviors of others. It is not the world who is against you, it is you who is against yourself, and it’s you whom have decided to be a victim by letting the situations and people in your life to affect you, rather than loving yourself, and accepting those things that you deserve and letting go the rest.

When you really love yourself, you will no longer beg for love, and you will accept the love of others because you want it, not because you need it, and you will give love to everyone around you, without the need to have it back, what will make you less vulnerable to the actions of others. Once you have made the decision to love yourself as you really are, you will realize what kind of person you truly are, you will see how beautiful you are and what you can give to others, and you will no longer be devastated for the opinions and behaviors of others.

 

 

 

 

“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.” – Steve Maraboli

 

 

 

 

Once you realize how amazing you really are, you will accept yourself with your perfections and imperfections, and you will start to love yourself, and once you do that, you will start to finally respect yourself, and you will decide to go after those things that makes you feel happy, and every decision you will ever make will be based in those things that push you forward, leaving behind those things that push you backwards.

We can’t make peace with our life if we don’t make peace with ourselves first, and we can only do that loving ourselves. The day you decide to love yourself, you will find peace, not because everything around you has changed, but because you have changed, and then you will not be a victim anymore, but a creator of your own destiny, going after people, situations and experiences that will make you be the best version of yourself you can be, and you will never accept something you don’t deserve again.

Decide to love yourself and make peace with you and with everyone around you, because the world and the humans suffering on it can only be healed by those people who truly love themselves, because those who truly love themselves, also love life, and when you love life and every being on it, you want to give them the best, so they can love themselves as well.

Your behavior is a reflection of what you have in your heart, if there is love, then you will love others, and you will receive it back multiplied.

Be careful of your thoughts

Be careful of your thoughts, they control your life, as they have all the power to create your reality. What you see in your life it’s merely a set of thoughts, and that is why people have different realities. Your reality is the product of your thinking.

 

"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." - Marcus Aurelius

 

We are thinking all the time, and how we feel in that moment depends in what is in our mind in that particular moment. Our thoughts can be positive or negative, but never both at the same time, what is going to give us our emotions, and our reality. So how you feel will be the result of what you were thinking. Remember that your thoughts have the power to control your emotions. So you will find that the key to control your emotions lies in your thoughts, if you want to change your reality, change the way you are thinking.

We can divide our thoughts in positive and negative thoughts, where our positive thoughts are those that make us feel good like thoughts of happiness, joy or gratitude, and then we have our negative thoughts that make us feel bad like sadness, anxiety or fear. So we can feel happy or we can feel sad, the choice is made by us depending in our thoughts, if you have positive thoughts you will feel happy, if you have negative thoughts you will feel miserable.

 

 

“If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.” – Peace Pilgrim

 

 

Everything is connected; your thoughts give you your emotions and feelings, what will form your behavior, and what will give your reality. So, to change our life experience, we must change our thinking, we must choose those thoughts based in positive things, so we can have better feelings and good emotions, what will make us to have a better behavior, what will give us a reality full of happiness and joy.

It takes only one thought to change everything, one different thought and you will not only change how you feel in a particular moment, but you will change your whole life experience. It takes only one positive thought to go from sadness to happiness; you just have to say to yourself that no matter what is happening right now, this is not the end, and you will be happy, because you deserve it.

 

 

“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” – Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

I can say from my own experience that this is not something easy to do, but I can also say that is possible. What we have to do is to control our thoughts, and not let our thoughts to control us, and the easiest way is to open our perspective, so we can see everything in a different way, and understand that what is happening to us is happening for a reason, a reason we must learn to comprehend, so we can learn to see the positive side of it, a positive side that is sometimes hard to see because of our limited perspective.

We must be aware of the power of our thoughts, so we can control it, especially the negative thoughts, otherwise it will control us and it will destroy us. The day we learn how to control our thoughts, we will be capable of choosing a positive thought rather than a negative thought, and so we will decide to be happy at every moment rather than be sad needlessly.

 

 

“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.” – Buddha

 

 

Always remember that your thoughts creates your reality, whatever you are thinking right now is what you are going to experience in your life. The negative thoughts will give you negative feelings, what will give you unfortunate situations, and everything around will seem to be against you, when in fact, is you the one who are against yourself, because you have chosen to have negative thoughts, negative emotions and negative behaviors what gave you your miserable and awful reality. But if you choose positive thoughts, you will have positive emotions and positive behaviors that will give you happy situations what is going to make you feel happy about your life because your reality will be amazing.

 

 

Look around you, if you can only see a miserable life, look again, there is always something to be happy for no matter what you are going through, take the negative thoughts away from your mind, and flood your mind with positive thoughts and you will see what you couldn’t see so far.

Are you doing what you love?

Do what you love

 

Are you doing what you love? If the answer is no, what are you waiting for? Our days on earth are counted, our time is limited, not knowing how many days we have left on this planet has given us the wrong idea that we have time, but the truth is that we waste most of our time on earth doing what we don’t like, leaving the things we love for another day, a day that never comes.

 

 

“And then there is the most dangerous risk of all: the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.” – Randy Komisar

 

 

One day less means one day closer to our grave, it’s hard think it that way, but that is a fact, everyone is going to die someday, and you can’t do anything when you are dead, what you do while you are alive with your time on earth is what counts. The good thing about our life and our time on earth, is that even though is limited, we have the chance to choose either to use it for things we love or choose to waste every second of our life in doing things we don’t want.

Of course, there will be times when our only option is to do what we do not like, but that doesn’t mean that you have to spend the rest of your life doing something you don’t want to, what really means is that sometimes you have to do what you don’t want, in order to do what you love. We have the chance to decide what to do with our own life, and doing what we love is the only way to live a happy and fulfilled life.

 

 

“All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

 

 

We think we have time, so we decided to waste most of our precious time doing what we don’t want, thinking that some day we will be able to do the things we really love, and our days keep passing, and we keep staying in the same place, doing what we don’t want, wishing to be able to claim later our freedom.

The fact is that most of the people leave this world without having done the things they always wanted, They have spent their time in someone else’s life, being slaves and builders of the dreams of someone else, forgetting to invest time in their lives. So most of the people realize that they have wasted their time the day they don’t have any more time to do the things they love.

 

 

“One day you will wake up & there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.” – Paulo Coelho

 

 

So if we could be able to know when we are going to die, we would change the way we are living. Think about it this way: if we could know the days we have left on earth, let’s say we know we have 365 days, we would still doing the things we are doing? Or we would change the way we are living? I can bet that most of us would change everything, and we would start doing things we always wanted to do. We’ll begin to truly live, every second, every minute and every hour of our life.

 

 

“The trouble is you think you have time.” – Buddha

 

 

So, are you doing what you love? No? So why don’t you start right now? As I said, we have the power to change our life in a second, and we are free to do with our life anything we want. We didn’t come to this world to just exist, we came here to live, and we came here to be the best version of ourselves. So stop waiting for the weekend to live, stop waiting for a special occasion to celebrate, stop waiting for your two or three weeks of vacation to live and be happy, and for Christ Sake, stop wasting your time doing things you don’t want, the time to do the things you always wanted is now, don’t leave it for tomorrow, there could be no tomorrow. Remove the words “I don’t have time” or “I can’t” from your mouth, there is time and you can do it, because the only time when you don’t have time and you can’t do something is the day you are in the graveyard, until then you are free to do what you want.

It’s easy to say, you might think, but yes it’s easy to say because it’s easy to do, as Jim Rohn said: “If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.”

Superficial World

We are living in a superficial world where having a life and an appearance that looks good on the outside has become more important than looking good on the inside. We are more concerned about our external appearance that we forgot to pay attention to the kind of person we have become, a person who has forgotten that we are not just a body, but we are a soul which has body.

 

If the whole world was blind, how many people would you impress?

 

 

Relationship between humans have entered into a decay with almost no return, and why? Because we have changed our priceless values that we have as human beings for cheap rubbish, that has consumed our soul and spirit, forgetting what is really important, moving away from the path and losing control of our own lives.

Looking good and having a lot of material things have become the most important motive for our lives, we no longer focus in what kind of person we are, we don’t care anymore if we are a being of love, compassion, understanding or kindness, we don’t care anymore how we treat others as persons, because we don’t care how we treat ourselves, and if we do things to nourish our soul or not, we don’t care about anything of that, because we spend our time in making our external life to look good, and be accepted by others.

 

 

 

 

“Nowadays people know the price of everything and the value of nothing.” – Oscar Wilde

 

 

 

 

So what do we care if we don’t care anymore about our soul and our values? We care about how our image is viewed by society. We care about having the best clothes, the bigger the logo of the brand in our clothes the better, we care about having the more expensive house, car, mobile phone, television, and all the material things that have given us a wrong idea of happiness, we care about to have a great body and to be the most beautiful, we care about our makeup, hair, nails, we care about the tanning, we care about the new and absurd diet, we care about to have lots and lots of money, we care about being famous, about having power, and so on, an infinite list of stupid things created by those who dominate the world to entertain our minds and make us ignorant, so they can become more powerful, rich and do whatever they want with the world and every person on it.

The relationships between humans are a disaster, all the human values are in danger of extinction, humans are worried in their own businesses, and they don’t care what is going on with the person next to them, the world is dying thanks to us, there are people who have been forgotten by us, dying in agony, screaming for help, and crying in solitude, people whom nobody cares, because those people are too worried in getting more money, more power, more material things, more beauty, and more stupidity, so they don’t have time to help others, and some of them if they do that is only because they are looking recognition.

 

 

 

“I wish everybody could get rich and famous and have everything they ever dreamed of, so they would know that’s not the answer.” – Jim Carrey

 

 

 

 

So yes, this is a superficial world, where people are only worried about external matters, and when you are only focused on external matters, you forget to pay attention to the internal matters, and that can only lead us to a disaster, a disaster that you can see everywhere. Parents who are only focused in their jobs, their money, their house, their cars, parents that have forgotten about values, parents who are raising their kids with material things, and parents who want their kids to have a life and an image that only looks good on their outside, but they don’t see that their kids are growing with no values, no appreciation for life, for nature, or for other human beings.

There are also couples in a relationship that are more worried to be a couple who looks perfect in a photograph for social media, rather than being worried about being a couple who really love each other in every moment, day after day, those people in this relationship are more worried in their appearance, rather than being worried in being honest, loyal, and unconditional among them. People at work who are only worried about being the best, about getting more money, those people don’t care if they have to destroy another one to be successful. Friends who are friends in the good moments, but friends who disappear in the bad ones, friends who seems to be friends, but when comes the time to be happy for the success of the other one, they stab you in the back, while they smile you in your face, just because the jealousy within them consumed their heart.

 

 

 

 

“Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.” – Sophia Loren

 

 

 

 

So I could just go on forever with this examples that shows that people are more concerned about external things while they don’t care about what kind of person are on the inside, I’m not saying we should not worry about getting better, or getting more money to get what we want, or getting a better job, or a better house, or car, or whatever, I’m not saying that we don’t have to try to look more beautiful, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t try to be successful in every aspect of our life, what I’m saying here is that we should prioritize our soul and spirit first, we should try to be better person, we should try to first love ourselves as we are right now with our perfections and imperfections, and we should try to be more kind, more tolerant, or to be more understanding, we should try to be more concerned about giving others what we want to receive, we should try to love each other more and then afterwards we should try to get all the material, recognition, power, or whatever you want in your life.

If we could try to look good in the inside first, and become a better person, every relationship between human would be less fake and more real, our love would be less fake and more real and pure, and then our life would be much better.

 

 

What you can give to this world as human being to make it a better place for you and others, to make it a place of love and peace, is the most important thing, all else is secondary.

Find your inner child

Find your inner child, and you will find yourself again. Go back to those times where everything seemed to be possible, those times where you could become whatever you wanted, those times where you could just be yourself.

 

“When childhood dies, its corpses are called adults and they enter society, one of the politer names of hell.  That is why we dread children, even if we love them, they show us the state of our decay.”

Brian Aldiss

 

Somehow we have mixed up the meaning of being a child, we gave to that word the meaning of being immature, not fully grown or emotionally undeveloped, and so when someone acts like a child, we say that he is a very immature person. But then I ask myself, every bad behavior which is realized day by day by humans against the world and every being around them, it is not an immature behavior?

The humans, especially those who are considered to be very mature, are the one who are destroying everything and everyone around them, even though they have been blessed with a beautiful world, a magnificent body with a wonderful mind with the power to create everything they want, but which they not used to create but to destroy, it is this a mature behavior?

 

“Children have neither past nor future; they enjoy the present, which very few of us do.” – Jean de la Bruyere

 

The adults, those considered mature, are those who are constantly competing with each other, fighting with each other and those who are killing to each other, those people have forgotten the most important values as love, compassion, understanding, kindness, companionship and so on. And they have forgotten all that, because they have become a selfish person, they have become people who are only concerned with their own affairs.

When you grow up and become an adult, leaving the child behind, condemning the child spirit inside you to a death sentence, that’s when most of your dreams die, and that’s when part of your true self dies too, becoming your worst enemy. When you cease to be a child, you become vulnerable to all evil in this world, evil disguised as happiness, and so you let other adults who are also brainwashed by evil, to tell you what should you become in life, and what you should achieve either money, power, fame, material things and other nonsense.

 

“Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason, you’re in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you.” – Deepak Chopra

 

So I prefer to be like a child rather than an adult whose brain has been washed, I prefer the innocence of a child, a child who laugh just because he can, a child with creativity and imagination, a child who dreams, a child that believe that he can do anything in the world, a child who believe that he can be a superhero and help people, a child full of joy and love, a child that can see the beauty in the small things, a child who is happy for no reason, a child who can love even those things that are product of his imagination, a child who has friends no matter where they come from, a child who doesn’t discriminate others for their religion or race, a child who doesn’t know how to hate, a child who loves truly, and who is always loyal to that love without any kind of interest, selfishness, limitations or expectations.

 

“Hold the hand of the child that lives in your soul. For this child, nothing is impossible.” – Paulo Coelho

 

A child is an angel, who has become a puppet due to the environment where he was born, an environment which has taught him how to become a person with no dreams, no imagination, no hope, no happiness and no love.

It is time for all adults in this world find their inner child, that child who can make you be yourself again, who can bring you joy, happiness, hope and love, that child who will make you dream again, and will make you believe that everything is possible, that magic and miracles actually exist, so find you inner child, the one will make you a happy person again for no reason, a person who is grateful, specially for the small and more important things in this world, so find your inner child, play, laugh, have fun, enjoy life, be happy, dream, smile and live your life again.

 

“What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult.”

Sigmund Freud

We are all one

We are all one, and the separation between humans, created by us, is what made dehumanization something possible. The fact is that we are all human beings, and we all deserve the same rights, regardless of where you belong.

 

 

We are all one, we are the same breed, we are not separated from each other, we are part of something, and even though we can be an individualization of something bigger, at the end we are all the same, we came to this world in the same way, as we were created in the same way.

Somehow we have created an illusion, we have created an unreal catalogue, where all the human beings on earth have been categorized and so separated from each other, and when you are separated from anything else, you are also separated from yourself, then you are not yourself anymore, and you start to be what someone else wanted you to be.

 

 

“Our separation from each other is an optical illusion.” – Albert Einstein

 

 

So we are separated from each other, and so we are separate from our own self as well, for what we lose any right to think, believe, speak, feel, and do whatever we want. We become a product of our own separation, you think, speak and act according to which category you belong in this absurd catalogue created by humans for humans.

The worst atrocities carried out, and those that still happen every day are possible because we have been separated from each other, what gave us the wrong belief that we are different, and that some of us are better than others.

 

 

“Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect.” – Chief Seattle

 

 

We are all one, we all should have the same rights, and nobody deserves more than other, everyone has the same right to live on this earth, and nobody for any reason should remove that right from anyone. If we could just learn to understand each other, and accept our differences then this world could finally find peace.

We are all one under the same sky, and that is heaven on earth, but we decided to live a nightmare, we decided to separate from each other, and so we decided to turn heaven into hell, and suffer for the rest of our days.

We are all one regardless of Nationality, Gender, Race, Age, Religion, Culture, Sexual Preferences, or Social Status. So we should accept each other with our differences, and understand each other even when we might think different.

 

 

“So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” – Matthew 19:6

 

 

Nobody is better than anyone, the categories in which we live are the one that say that, categories created for a few, the same few who dominate you, and those who dominate the whole world. They have created those categories to separate people from each other, and taking with them all the power we have, so we can no longer think by ourselves, or make decisions, or do things, or make any kind of conclusions, so we will not interfere in their affairs anymore, what makes us their slaves.

So we are nothing more than slaves, which their brains have been washed, they have put in our mind the idea that we are separated, and that we cannot accept or tolerate for any reason someone who has different thoughts, beliefs, ideas, or something that your category says you should refuse. So they can dominate the world, while we hurt and kill each other for fake beliefs that have been imposed on us, by the big entities that own this planet.

 

 

“Individually, we are one drop. Together we are an ocean.” – Ryunosuke Satoro

 

 

We are all one, with different beliefs, thoughts, appearances, or with different tastes, but we are all human beings, and we should have the same rights, and we should understand each other and help each other, as whatever you do to others, you do that to yourself too. There is no separation, there is nothing separated in this world, all our thoughts and action have a consequence upon us, and also in nature, in animals, and in the whole world and that is why everything is falling apart.

Let’s allow us to have a different perspective, accepting the fact that we are one, connected with every being around us and accept others as they are and we’ll heal the world and finally live in peace.

Miracles are real

Yes, that’s true. Miracles are real, and they can happen to you every second of your life, you just have to let them happen, and the only way to do that is believing. Believe that miracles are possible and they will be.

 

The only way to make something a reality is believing it will, no matter what is our situation right now, if you believe in something with all your heart, it will become a reality. Miracles are the way that faith has to say thank you, thank you for believing even when everything seemed to go in the opposite direction of your dreams.

If miracles were an illusion, we would be an illusion as well, because we are on this planet right now because a miracle happened, the wonderful miracle of life. This is not about religion, and I do believe in God, but it doesn’t matter in what you believe, the important thing here is to be able to see that we are here for a miracle of life, and in fact, we are that miracle, converted in humans.

 

“The whole world is a series of miracles, but we’re so used to seeing them that we call them ordinary things.” – Hans Christian Andersen

 

So why don’t believe in miracles when we are one of them? This life here with all its beauty it’s a miracle, and all of us, being the miracle of life and God, we have the power to create with our magnificent mind every outcome we want.

We see ourselves as a body and nothing else, that is why we focus all the time in the superficial part of everything, because that is what we can only see, we see everything that we can touch, so we only believe in things we can see with our eyes and not with our heart. We see what we believe, as we cannot see in our reality something we don’t believe to be real.

 

“There are two ways to live your life, one is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as though everything is a miracle.” – Albert Einstein

 

So if we don’t start to focusing in the things that really matter, those things that we cannot see with our eyes, those things we believe they can’t be real, those things we only believe to be an illusion from our mind or an unreal story from a book, we are never going to see a miracle in our life, a dream come true, or nothing as possible, and so accepting the life we think to be real, a life that is far from miraculous.

So if you want to change your life, begin to believe, change your thoughts about yourself and your life, and you will change your whole world, and everything that you once thought to be impossible will then be possible, and you will open those doors that seemed to be sealed forever.

 

“Never lose hope, my dear heart. Miracles dwell in the invisible.” – Rumi

 

Miracles are real, we are miracles and we are real, dreams are possible and real, the life we want, we expect and the life we deserve is real and so is happiness, joy, kindness, loyalty, honesty, passion, success, freedom, peace and everything that human beings can feel for having one of the most wonderful miracles that exist in the whole world, the one that can change everything, the miracle of love.

Once again miracles are real, and the life you have ever dreamed of is also real, change then your beliefs, your thoughts and above all never lose faith, and you will see the miracles, you haven’t seen so far.

 

The life you want is waiting you to believe in it, it is waiting you to believe that everything is possible. Believe and a miracle will happen.

Happy New Year!

I would like to wish you a Happy New Year. The 2015 has arrived, and with that 365 days that give us 365 new chances to make our dreams a reality.

 

It doesn’t matter what happened in our life in 2014, that is now our past, so we have the chance to start again, to dream a new dream and to keep moving forward. Every New Year, life gives us the opportunity to reborn anew, to recreate ourselves and be a much better version than we have ever been before.

We have everything we need to become whoever we want to become and to achieve whatever we want to achieve, we have the power to create the reality we want, the one we deserve and the one we are capable of living. We must find that power within ourselves, we must find what motivates us, our purpose, our passion, and no matter what kind of situation we are going through, we must follow our heart and intuition no matter how hard our life gets, we must never give up!

I will repeat that again because it is very important for us to not forget those words: Never give up! Because I can guess that after so many years, most of you are still standing in the same place, wondering why you haven’t achieved your goals yet, and the answer is because you give up, and the worst thing is that most of you have quitted even before you start. So this year you have a new chance to do what you haven’t done before, decide that you will do whatever you can and that no matter what you will never give up again.

I know that some of you are looking at this New Year with fear, either because your last year was too good, or because it was awful, you are afraid because you don’t know if this new year is going to be as good as the old one, so because of fear, you remain attached to your past, not allowing yourself the opportunity to have a better one, or maybe your past year was not so good, and the fear you have inside doesn’t let you see the new opportunity you have now, blinded by insecurities and doubts.

So no matter how bad or how good your 2014 has been, there is always positive things to take from it even those positive things we take from awful situations, there is always something you can keep in your heart, the rest of it can go away and never come back to your mind, heart and soul.

So with the positive experiences from your past year, you can start this 2015 with confidence, using those experiences and feelings as a motivation, knowing you have inside all you need, and that you can and you definitely will make all your dreams come true.

We have a new chance, let’s take our pen and write down everything we want to achieve in this year, and read it whenever you can, and with confidence let’s go out and fight for the life we deserve. Every day, every minute, every second a miracle can happen. We have come this far in our life, after all we have been through, so let’s face this 2015 with no fear, and let’s go out and get the life we deserve.

 

Have a wonderful New Year! 🙂

Why do we care about what others think?

Why do we care about what others think? The answer to that question is very simple: We are looking to be accepted all the time, the fear of being rejected scare us to a point where we forget who we are by being what we are not, a prefabricated product created by society.

 

The greates prison people live in is the fear of what other people think.

 

 

We are looking for acceptance all the time, dominated by the fear for what other people think about us, we act based in what is right for people, and not what is right for us. All the time we act according to what is best for others in that moment, because the fear controls our actions all the time, so we lose the control of everything, and the worst thing is that we lose ourselves.

It doesn’t matter by whom, but we are always looking to be accepted by someone, because by being accepted by other, we can accept ourselves.

 

 

“If you live for people’s acceptance you will die from their rejection” – Lecrae

 

 

And there my friend is where we can find the beginning of this problem:

If we don’t accept ourselves first, how is another person going to accept us as we really are?

We need to accept ourselves as we are, and that includes everything, also our imperfections, we need to love ourselves and be happy for who we are. And what I want to say here is that is totally right to want to improve ourselves, and wish to be better and better person, but only if that change we want to accomplish is inspired by us for us, and not in order to please someone else.

 

Once we accept ourselves as we are, and decide who we want to be, without being influenced by someone else, then we will feel accepted everywhere, and maybe not by others, but we will always feel accepted by ourselves, feeling free to think, to say, and to do whatever we want without being afraid to what other people will think about us.

 

 

“Care what other people think and you will always be their prisoner” – Lao Tzu

 

 

Once you know what kind of person you are, and what kind of person you want to become in your life, you will not be afraid to others opinion about you anymore, because you know yourself, you know who you are, what you can give, what you can do, what you can achieve and you love yourself just the way you are, so you will set yourself free from any unnecessary pain as you will never be damaged again by the opinions of other people.

 

 

“The unhappiest people in this world are those who care the most about what other people think.” – C. JoyBell C.

 

Remember that the opinions of others are mostly generated from people who don’t believe in themselves, and who don’t accept them as they are, people who feel insecure and unsatisfied, people who are always looking to fit in this world by being someone else.

Losing our fear to what other people think about us, will set us free to be whatever we want to be in our life, we’ll be no longer a slave, freeing us from the chain that society has imposed, and we will not fear any more, walking with confidence, and acting in every second of our life according to what fit with our true personality.

 

 

“What other people think of you is not your business. If you start to make that business your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life.” – Deepak Chopra

 

Life could be amazing if we could just love ourselves for who we are, without being someone to please others. You came to this world to be whatever you want to be, you don’t come here to please your family, your friends, the society in which you live, your boss, your colleagues at work, and nobody, you come here to be who you really are, and give to the world the best you can.

So release yourself and stop being a slave from what other people think, accept yourself as you are, improve and get better every day, do whatever it takes to become who you want to be in order to achieve what you want to achieve, just because you have the power to do that and just to please the purpose of your soul.

 

 

“Don’t take anything personally; nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering” – Miguel Ruiz

 

 

Life is too short to worry about others opinion about you, those are their opinions and not yours anyway, right? Our time on this planet is limited, our days are counted, day after day, second after second, so why wasting our precious time by being what other people want us to be? It is you and only you who will live your life, so you better do what you love, think and feel freely as you please, say whatever you want to say, to whomever you want, whenever you want it, because as I said before, time is limited, and we are running out of time.

 

 

Live your life and be the best version of yourself and not being the best version for someone else, do everything you want, without fear of the opinions of others and you will be free.

Attitude is everything

Attitude is everything; and will determine your reality. Whatever is happening to you, it will have a lot of power or nothing at all, depending on how you react to it and how you let that situation to affect you.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to itIt’s that simple, we have the power within ourselves to decide how a situation is going to affect our life, and our attitude against a situation, will give us our feelings and emotions, and that will give us our reality. A situation by itself has no power at all; we give the power to it through our thoughts.

 

 

“The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem. Do you understand?” – Captain Jack Sparrow

 

 

No matter what is happening in our life, we can decide how we are going to react to it, allowing a situation to affect us or not. Our attitude is something we can change at any time, it might not be something easy to do, but is completely under our control, what gives us the power to decide how we are going to react to something and therefore how we are going to feel about it.

 

 

“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” – Winston Churchill

 

 

There are moments where we might be able to change what is happening, and there are moments where we can’t do anything with what is happening to us, whatever the situation, you and only you can allow a situation to control your emotions.

It doesn’t matter what kind of person we are, everyone is going to have different situations in their lives that will make them miserable or successful, what it’s going to make the difference between them is their attitude.

 

 

“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” – Carlos Castenada

 

 

There are different people who have been through the same situation, but their realities were totally different, because their attitudes were completely different from each other. What really matters here is to not give up against a situation, do not let a situation to determine your thoughts, feelings and emotions, do not let a situation control your reality, it is your attitude what has all the power to change everything in a second.

Life would be much easier if we could learn how to control a situation by changing our attitude, instead of letting a situation to control us and our entire reality. You can accept a situation and be miserable or you can change your attitude and be happy, the choice is yours.

We can be the victims of a situation, and let it to rule our life, or we can be the creator of our own destiny, by choosing how we are going to think, and feel, and what are we going to do about what is happening to us right now, knowing that we have the power to decide how our reality is going to be no matter what is happening.

 

 

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou

 

 

Attitude is everything, depending on how you react to what is happening, is what will give your inner reality, regardless of what is really happening outside of you. Remember that you have the power to turn a situation around, what you have to do is to change your attitude, and you will change your world.