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Age is nothing but a number

Age is nothing but a number, to which we have attached great significance. Somehow we have given more meaning than we should, and so we let a number to control our life. The truth is that age does not define us, or our destiny, because it is not our age that counts, but our attitude.

 

 

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.”

 

 

As today is my 26th birthday I was thinking about life and age, and how our life is influenced by it. It seems that we have an age for everything, an age to learn and study, and age to have fun, an age to get married, and age to have kids, and age to be successful and an age where you are too old to do anything that you basically die before you are really dead.

We have given age the power to decide for us, it can decide if it’s right for us to do something or not, we base our decisions in our age, what most of the time lead us to make the wrong decision or to decide something according to our age rather than decide according to our feelings and desires and we do this due to the limitations we have put in our minds because of age.

 

 

“Don’t just count your years, make your years count.” – George Meredith

 

 

Age is a prison created by our society, which has deprived us the freedom to do whatever we want whenever we want. It’s like we are in a race against time, where the age to be free, to be young, happy, have fun, enjoy life, be successful, be beautiful and do whatever we want is very short, so we are pressed to do anything we can, at specific time with a specific age because after that age we become obsolete, and we bury all our dreams and desires together with our happiness and passion for life, and await the day that someone bury us with them.

 

The truth about age is that it’s an illusion, because we are free to do whatever we love to do whenever we want and above all our dreams don’t have an expiration date and it’s never too early or too late to chase them, and at any given moment we have the power to decide what we want to become and go and do whatever we can to become the person we always wanted to be. Our life is completely under our control, and is not age that controls us, because a number will be just a number if we do not give any power.

 

 

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream” – C.S. Lewis

 

 

Today I’m 26 years old, for some of you I can be too young for some things and too old for others, the truth is I don’t care about age, today is a day to celebrate because I’m alive, and that is all that matters today, being alive means that I still have the opportunity to do what I love and be happy, because age and situations are not in control of my emotions, I’m the one who is in control, and I know that happiness is something that lies within myself. I’m doing what I love and I always will regardless of my age, because age means nothing to me, my dreams and goals and my love for life is what keep me alive, and even if one day I reach my 100th birthday I will be as alive as I am now, because age will only matter the day I stop adding years to my life, because that moment will mean that I’m dead, and dreams, goals, passions, and everything that you love can only be achieved while you are alive.

The important thing in our life is to know that age is not what matters, because what really matter in our life is our attitude, our faith, commitment and perseverance. Of course our age indicates the passage of time, and so we have more difficulties at certain age, but the key to live our life to the fullest resides in our mind, there is nothing that can stop us to reaching our goals if we believe that everything is possible. Our mind is everything, and we should never let age interfere with us.

 

 

“Live your life and forget your age.” – Norman Vincent Peale

 

 

Let’s give less importance to age and more importance to our mind and attitude, because we cannot achieve anything and live a happy life if we don’t believe in ourselves. Remember age is just a number so don’t let it control your life, age only indicates that you are alive to keep being happy, having fun, enjoying life, laughing, learning, dreaming, smiling and to keep living your life to the fullest!

Get out of your comfort zone

We make decisions all the time, every new step we make in our life is followed by another new decision we must make, some of those decisions are not going to have any repercussion but some of those decision yes, and there is one decision that can change your whole life: The decision to get out of your comfort zone.

 

 

“A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.” – John A. Shedd.

 

 

 

My life was quite the same as everyone else, and as most of the people in this world I was just existing, but one day I was wondering, what if I die tomorrow? Can I say that I have really lived my life? And of course the answer was No, so I decided to leave my comfort zone and move ahead into the unknown, and it was in that unknown place where I found myself. Leaving my comfort zone was the best decision I have ever made in my entire life.

Of course it’s not easy for anyone to leave the place where we feel comfortable and neither was for me, because we are afraid of the unknown and it’s easy for us to settle in a place where everything seems to be alright and under control even if we have the feeling that we don’t belong there. The problem is that we easily get used to be in the comfort zone, because we know that making the decision to get out of it means that we are going to suffer from things we didn’t suffer so far, but let me tell you something, the suffering you will face will be worth it, because that suffering is much more rewarding than the suffering you are facing right now for not living your life as you always wanted.

 

 

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” – Neale Donald Walsch

 

 

 

Safety is one thing, dreams are other, if you think you came here to do what people told you to do, and have a normal life, great! Then you are going to live your life as them, and one day you will realize that you haven’t lived at all, because those who decide to stay in the comfort zone are those who have refused to follow their dreams, and those who do not follow their dreams do not live at all. Life has a special meaning for those who dare to leave the comfort zone and go after their dreams.

What I want you to understand is that yes, it is really fantastic to live in the comfort zone, because we have everything we need to survive there, everything is under control, but there is much more out there, waiting for you to make the decision. Once you decide to make the big step to get out of your comfort zone you will start to live, you will find everything you have been looking for and all the doors that were previously closed will open for you.

 

 

 

“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” – Brian Tracy

 

 

 

For me making the decision to leave my country and my comfort zone and travel the world was the best decision I ever made, It wasn’t easy because I struggled a lot in many aspects but it was worth it, because that struggle was the kind of struggle you have when you are doing what you love, so I decided to embrace the struggle every step of the way because it was what motivated me to keep moving forward, because it reminded me that I was following my dreams.

I don’t know what kind of dreams or goals do you have, but no matter how impossible it may look like, if you leave your comfort zone and you do everything you can no matter how hard it gets, you will make it possible. We are here for a reason, our most desired and deepest dream, no matter how small or big, is what gives our life a meaning. There is no better feeling than the one we feel when we reach our goals.

 

 

Being fully alive means living outside your comfort zone, it’s the uncertainty of living there that makes everything possible. Take the decision, leave your safety area, dream, explore, take risks and live your life!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Happy Valentine’s Day! Let today be the day we remember love and let’s spread it to everyone around us, let’s take this day into our hearts day after day for the rest of our lives because love is all there is.

 

Happy Valentine's Day!

 

Love should be the most important thing we should remember this day. It doesn’t matter what is our marital status, there is always someone who we can give our love. Most of the time we underestimate the power of love because we are not aware of the extent of our love, even with a small amount of our love we can heal someone else’s heart and make someone happy.

Love is not about gifts, love is those little things that make a huge difference, and love is about giving the best of ourselves to others in order to make them happy. Love cannot be measured in the amount of gifts we give, nor be measured by the amount of money we spend on those gifts, because love can only be measured in the amount of small actions we make day after day to benefit others.

 

Somehow we got stuck in the system in which we live that has taught us that love should be remembered only once a year, and should be celebrated spending money in material things what actually it cannot be further from the true meaning of love. The truth is we don’t need to buy things in order to show our love, because love should be demonstrated with our daily actions, from the smallest to the biggest action.

Like it or not, this special day exists in most of the people calendar around the world, and usually it cannot be ignored due to the consumer society in which we live. Every February when it gets close to St. Valentine’s Day everyone seems to remember love, and you can see everywhere how love begins to be commercialized as if it were a product we can buy in a store

 

The truth is that every day is St. Valentine’s Day, and it should be celebrated at every moment year-round. Love is something that should be demonstrated to our loved ones every single day of our lives. I’m not saying that we should not buy gifts on the 14th, in fact I believe that buying someone a gift is a beautiful gesture, but I also believe that gifts should be given at any time and not because we are forced to do so because it is a specific day of the year.

Love is priceless, and everyone on this planet have access to it, and that my friends is the most wonderful gift we have! There is nothing greater than love, because love is all there is. Let’s celebrate love today, and every single day of our lives, it doesn’t matter if we are in a relationship or not, love should be always be celebrated, even if it is only with ourselves, because it is something that exists within us and it’s everlasting.

 

Happy Valentine’s Day! ♥

Judge less, Love more

Judge less, Love more

 

The problem is we judge too much. We go through life judging everyone around us as if we were superior species from another galaxy whom they do everything well, and whom always make the best decisions. But the truth is that we are all humans and we all have the right to do whatever we want according to our own vision of life.

 

 

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” – Matthew 7:1-2

 

 

 

We waste so much time judging others than we forget to judge ourselves, and that is when the problem begins, because if we are going to judge, let’s judge ourselves first, and then we could see the reason why we act as we act every day, what will make us understand that everyone around us have also reasons deep inside their hearts to say the things they say and to act the way they act.

It’s easy for us to judge someone, what is hard for us is to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes. If we could do that, and if we could not only put ourselves in someone else’s shoes, but feel what that person is feeling deep inside their heart, I’m sure we would be surprised, and we will never judge a person again in our life.

 

 

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” – Mother Theresa

 

 

It’s easy for us to judge people all the time, it’s easy for us to judge people by the way they act, the way they speak, the way they think, the way they feel, the way they look, the way they dress, it’s easy for us to judge people for what they do and what they say and it’s easy for us to judge people through the decisions they make. And why is it so easy for us to judge? Because we don’t have an idea what another person has in its mind and heart and we are not even close to know how a person is feeling inside, because we can know the story of a person, but we can never feel what another person feels about something.

Judging others doesn’t make us better, but actually does the opposite, because we define ourselves every time we judge another person, and the act of judging others reflects how we feel about ourselves. Every time we judge, we express the lack of love for ourselves and for life, because it requires having in ourselves a lot of love, tolerance and compassion to not judge another person anymore, but understand them even when we disagree with them in all aspects.

 

 

“When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself” – Wayne dyer

 

 

What I believe is that the world could be a better place if we could learn to understand each other even when we think or act different, because it does any good to go through life judging people, nothing will change if we keep doing that, different would be if we could change a judgment for an observation, with the only purpose to help someone.

What I want you to understand is that is totally fine to disagree with another person, because we are all humans, but we have different beliefs, we think differently, we speak in different ways and we feel in different ways, everyone should walk their own path, but in order to find peace we should understand others and accept them as they are, because everyone acts according their vision of their world.

 

You deserve to be understood and not judged for the way you are as everyone else around you. So if you don’t want to be judged, do not judge others.

What motivates me?

There is one simple question we must ask ourselves: What motivates me?, once you find the answer to that question, you will find the reason of your existence, so you will finally know why are you here and what is your mission on this planet.

 Motivation is the key to success

I really believe that every human on earth is here for a reason, the trick is to find it. The best way to know what is our purpose in this life is by knowing what really motivates us. Motivation is what causes us to act in a specific way at a particular time and can be influenced by different factors that can be internal or external, so our motivations will determine our behaviors, and our behaviors will determine our future.

What is really important is that we must find what really motivates us to do something, because if those motivations are based in obligations created by external factors, we will feel frustrated even if we have achieved the goals imposed by those factors. And the reason why we feel frustrated is because we haven’t fulfilled our most desired goals, because we have allowed fear to interfere with our dreams, and when we do that, we let fear be our motivation, so we act according to our fears, letting them to control us, what makes us to go in the opposite direction of our goals and dreams. The only way to avoid this is by believing that our dreams are bigger than any fear, so we will use fear as a motivation rather than using fear as an excuse.

“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” – Mark Twain

We must find what really motivates us in our life and what really motivates us to live our life and not only to exist are those things based in our true self. Those motivations that have been influenced by our deepest desires are those who are going to make us to be the best version of ourselves so we can make our dreams a reality, and that is the only way to live a happy and fulfilled life.

The trick to find our true motivation in life is to listen to our heart, so you can know what you truly want to become, and once you know that, from now on your motivations will be based in your true desires, what will make you to act in a certain way at every moment to achieve those desires. Once you find what really motivates you, stick to it and never let it go, because that motivation will make you to do whatever you can to reach your goals, and you will transform what it was impossible into possible.

“To succeed, you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you.” – Tony Dorsett

What I want you to understand is that you must find those things that motivates you to be the person you always wanted to be, and the only way to do that is to listen the call from your soul and follow your heart at any time. It’s not going to be easy but it’s going to be worth it, because there is nothing that can give us more happiness than doing what we came here to do. So every time you are doing something always ask yourself why? Why am I doing this? What motivates me? Are those motivations influenced by my deepest desires or are those motivations based in someone else’s dreams?

I truly believe that those in which their actions are based in their deepest desires are those who live life to the fullest, because I think nothing is impossible for those who find what really motivates them in their lives and follow their hearts every step of the way. Those people never give up against adversity, because their motivations are also influenced by fears and doubts, what makes them to keep going forward because their desires and dreams are greater that their fears. Those people are motivated by their biggest dreams and not only motivated by simple goals, and when your motivation is influenced by the need to realize your dreams, is when you reach your full potential, and you fulfill you deepest goals and desires.

Find what motivates you, because that is the spark that will ignite the engine that will push you forward in your life and what will make you be the greatest version of yourself, and all your dreams will be a reality and you will have a happy and fulfilled life.

Love Yourself

The longest relationship you will ever have is with yourself, so the best decision you can make is to love yourself first. Once you decide to love yourself, everything around you will make more sense, and you will no longer suffer needlessly.

 

If you are seeking love, seek within yourself first.

 

 

We suffer needlessly because we seek for others to give us the love we can’t give to ourselves, and when we seek for others to love us, we become dependent on the love of others to be happy, so when someone doesn’t love us and treat us as we would like, we feel sad, and our whole world falls apart.

We go through life begging for love, settling for a mediocre love, accepting a love that is much less than the one we deserve, and we do that because we don’t love ourselves, and we don’t love ourselves because we haven’t realized what kind of person we really are, we are not aware of our potential, we are not aware that we are beautiful human beings, with the power to make our dreams become a reality, we don’t love ourselves because we have forgotten who we really are and why are we here, we don’t love ourselves because we have forgotten that we can change the world and every human being on it in a second with the love, passion, strength and kindness that everyone has within ourselves.

 

 

 

 

“If you don’t love yourself, you’ll always be chasing after people who don’t love you either.” – Mandy Hale

 

 

 

 

When we don’t love ourselves we become a victim of our daily circumstances, accepting a pathetic role where everything seems to be against us, when the truth is that we are against ourselves. The day we decided not to love ourselves, we decided to become a victim of the opinions and behaviors of others. It is not the world who is against you, it is you who is against yourself, and it’s you whom have decided to be a victim by letting the situations and people in your life to affect you, rather than loving yourself, and accepting those things that you deserve and letting go the rest.

When you really love yourself, you will no longer beg for love, and you will accept the love of others because you want it, not because you need it, and you will give love to everyone around you, without the need to have it back, what will make you less vulnerable to the actions of others. Once you have made the decision to love yourself as you really are, you will realize what kind of person you truly are, you will see how beautiful you are and what you can give to others, and you will no longer be devastated for the opinions and behaviors of others.

 

 

 

 

“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.” – Steve Maraboli

 

 

 

 

Once you realize how amazing you really are, you will accept yourself with your perfections and imperfections, and you will start to love yourself, and once you do that, you will start to finally respect yourself, and you will decide to go after those things that makes you feel happy, and every decision you will ever make will be based in those things that push you forward, leaving behind those things that push you backwards.

We can’t make peace with our life if we don’t make peace with ourselves first, and we can only do that loving ourselves. The day you decide to love yourself, you will find peace, not because everything around you has changed, but because you have changed, and then you will not be a victim anymore, but a creator of your own destiny, going after people, situations and experiences that will make you be the best version of yourself you can be, and you will never accept something you don’t deserve again.

Decide to love yourself and make peace with you and with everyone around you, because the world and the humans suffering on it can only be healed by those people who truly love themselves, because those who truly love themselves, also love life, and when you love life and every being on it, you want to give them the best, so they can love themselves as well.

Your behavior is a reflection of what you have in your heart, if there is love, then you will love others, and you will receive it back multiplied.

Be careful of your thoughts

Be careful of your thoughts, they control your life, as they have all the power to create your reality. What you see in your life it’s merely a set of thoughts, and that is why people have different realities. Your reality is the product of your thinking.

 

"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." - Marcus Aurelius

 

We are thinking all the time, and how we feel in that moment depends in what is in our mind in that particular moment. Our thoughts can be positive or negative, but never both at the same time, what is going to give us our emotions, and our reality. So how you feel will be the result of what you were thinking. Remember that your thoughts have the power to control your emotions. So you will find that the key to control your emotions lies in your thoughts, if you want to change your reality, change the way you are thinking.

We can divide our thoughts in positive and negative thoughts, where our positive thoughts are those that make us feel good like thoughts of happiness, joy or gratitude, and then we have our negative thoughts that make us feel bad like sadness, anxiety or fear. So we can feel happy or we can feel sad, the choice is made by us depending in our thoughts, if you have positive thoughts you will feel happy, if you have negative thoughts you will feel miserable.

 

 

“If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.” – Peace Pilgrim

 

 

Everything is connected; your thoughts give you your emotions and feelings, what will form your behavior, and what will give your reality. So, to change our life experience, we must change our thinking, we must choose those thoughts based in positive things, so we can have better feelings and good emotions, what will make us to have a better behavior, what will give us a reality full of happiness and joy.

It takes only one thought to change everything, one different thought and you will not only change how you feel in a particular moment, but you will change your whole life experience. It takes only one positive thought to go from sadness to happiness; you just have to say to yourself that no matter what is happening right now, this is not the end, and you will be happy, because you deserve it.

 

 

“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” – Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

I can say from my own experience that this is not something easy to do, but I can also say that is possible. What we have to do is to control our thoughts, and not let our thoughts to control us, and the easiest way is to open our perspective, so we can see everything in a different way, and understand that what is happening to us is happening for a reason, a reason we must learn to comprehend, so we can learn to see the positive side of it, a positive side that is sometimes hard to see because of our limited perspective.

We must be aware of the power of our thoughts, so we can control it, especially the negative thoughts, otherwise it will control us and it will destroy us. The day we learn how to control our thoughts, we will be capable of choosing a positive thought rather than a negative thought, and so we will decide to be happy at every moment rather than be sad needlessly.

 

 

“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.” – Buddha

 

 

Always remember that your thoughts creates your reality, whatever you are thinking right now is what you are going to experience in your life. The negative thoughts will give you negative feelings, what will give you unfortunate situations, and everything around will seem to be against you, when in fact, is you the one who are against yourself, because you have chosen to have negative thoughts, negative emotions and negative behaviors what gave you your miserable and awful reality. But if you choose positive thoughts, you will have positive emotions and positive behaviors that will give you happy situations what is going to make you feel happy about your life because your reality will be amazing.

 

 

Look around you, if you can only see a miserable life, look again, there is always something to be happy for no matter what you are going through, take the negative thoughts away from your mind, and flood your mind with positive thoughts and you will see what you couldn’t see so far.

Are you doing what you love?

Do what you love

 

Are you doing what you love? If the answer is no, what are you waiting for? Our days on earth are counted, our time is limited, not knowing how many days we have left on this planet has given us the wrong idea that we have time, but the truth is that we waste most of our time on earth doing what we don’t like, leaving the things we love for another day, a day that never comes.

 

 

“And then there is the most dangerous risk of all: the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.” – Randy Komisar

 

 

One day less means one day closer to our grave, it’s hard think it that way, but that is a fact, everyone is going to die someday, and you can’t do anything when you are dead, what you do while you are alive with your time on earth is what counts. The good thing about our life and our time on earth, is that even though is limited, we have the chance to choose either to use it for things we love or choose to waste every second of our life in doing things we don’t want.

Of course, there will be times when our only option is to do what we do not like, but that doesn’t mean that you have to spend the rest of your life doing something you don’t want to, what really means is that sometimes you have to do what you don’t want, in order to do what you love. We have the chance to decide what to do with our own life, and doing what we love is the only way to live a happy and fulfilled life.

 

 

“All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

 

 

We think we have time, so we decided to waste most of our precious time doing what we don’t want, thinking that some day we will be able to do the things we really love, and our days keep passing, and we keep staying in the same place, doing what we don’t want, wishing to be able to claim later our freedom.

The fact is that most of the people leave this world without having done the things they always wanted, They have spent their time in someone else’s life, being slaves and builders of the dreams of someone else, forgetting to invest time in their lives. So most of the people realize that they have wasted their time the day they don’t have any more time to do the things they love.

 

 

“One day you will wake up & there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.” – Paulo Coelho

 

 

So if we could be able to know when we are going to die, we would change the way we are living. Think about it this way: if we could know the days we have left on earth, let’s say we know we have 365 days, we would still doing the things we are doing? Or we would change the way we are living? I can bet that most of us would change everything, and we would start doing things we always wanted to do. We’ll begin to truly live, every second, every minute and every hour of our life.

 

 

“The trouble is you think you have time.” – Buddha

 

 

So, are you doing what you love? No? So why don’t you start right now? As I said, we have the power to change our life in a second, and we are free to do with our life anything we want. We didn’t come to this world to just exist, we came here to live, and we came here to be the best version of ourselves. So stop waiting for the weekend to live, stop waiting for a special occasion to celebrate, stop waiting for your two or three weeks of vacation to live and be happy, and for Christ Sake, stop wasting your time doing things you don’t want, the time to do the things you always wanted is now, don’t leave it for tomorrow, there could be no tomorrow. Remove the words “I don’t have time” or “I can’t” from your mouth, there is time and you can do it, because the only time when you don’t have time and you can’t do something is the day you are in the graveyard, until then you are free to do what you want.

It’s easy to say, you might think, but yes it’s easy to say because it’s easy to do, as Jim Rohn said: “If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.”

Superficial World

We are living in a superficial world where having a life and an appearance that looks good on the outside has become more important than looking good on the inside. We are more concerned about our external appearance that we forgot to pay attention to the kind of person we have become, a person who has forgotten that we are not just a body, but we are a soul which has body.

 

If the whole world was blind, how many people would you impress?

 

 

Relationship between humans have entered into a decay with almost no return, and why? Because we have changed our priceless values that we have as human beings for cheap rubbish, that has consumed our soul and spirit, forgetting what is really important, moving away from the path and losing control of our own lives.

Looking good and having a lot of material things have become the most important motive for our lives, we no longer focus in what kind of person we are, we don’t care anymore if we are a being of love, compassion, understanding or kindness, we don’t care anymore how we treat others as persons, because we don’t care how we treat ourselves, and if we do things to nourish our soul or not, we don’t care about anything of that, because we spend our time in making our external life to look good, and be accepted by others.

 

 

 

 

“Nowadays people know the price of everything and the value of nothing.” – Oscar Wilde

 

 

 

 

So what do we care if we don’t care anymore about our soul and our values? We care about how our image is viewed by society. We care about having the best clothes, the bigger the logo of the brand in our clothes the better, we care about having the more expensive house, car, mobile phone, television, and all the material things that have given us a wrong idea of happiness, we care about to have a great body and to be the most beautiful, we care about our makeup, hair, nails, we care about the tanning, we care about the new and absurd diet, we care about to have lots and lots of money, we care about being famous, about having power, and so on, an infinite list of stupid things created by those who dominate the world to entertain our minds and make us ignorant, so they can become more powerful, rich and do whatever they want with the world and every person on it.

The relationships between humans are a disaster, all the human values are in danger of extinction, humans are worried in their own businesses, and they don’t care what is going on with the person next to them, the world is dying thanks to us, there are people who have been forgotten by us, dying in agony, screaming for help, and crying in solitude, people whom nobody cares, because those people are too worried in getting more money, more power, more material things, more beauty, and more stupidity, so they don’t have time to help others, and some of them if they do that is only because they are looking recognition.

 

 

 

“I wish everybody could get rich and famous and have everything they ever dreamed of, so they would know that’s not the answer.” – Jim Carrey

 

 

 

 

So yes, this is a superficial world, where people are only worried about external matters, and when you are only focused on external matters, you forget to pay attention to the internal matters, and that can only lead us to a disaster, a disaster that you can see everywhere. Parents who are only focused in their jobs, their money, their house, their cars, parents that have forgotten about values, parents who are raising their kids with material things, and parents who want their kids to have a life and an image that only looks good on their outside, but they don’t see that their kids are growing with no values, no appreciation for life, for nature, or for other human beings.

There are also couples in a relationship that are more worried to be a couple who looks perfect in a photograph for social media, rather than being worried about being a couple who really love each other in every moment, day after day, those people in this relationship are more worried in their appearance, rather than being worried in being honest, loyal, and unconditional among them. People at work who are only worried about being the best, about getting more money, those people don’t care if they have to destroy another one to be successful. Friends who are friends in the good moments, but friends who disappear in the bad ones, friends who seems to be friends, but when comes the time to be happy for the success of the other one, they stab you in the back, while they smile you in your face, just because the jealousy within them consumed their heart.

 

 

 

 

“Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.” – Sophia Loren

 

 

 

 

So I could just go on forever with this examples that shows that people are more concerned about external things while they don’t care about what kind of person are on the inside, I’m not saying we should not worry about getting better, or getting more money to get what we want, or getting a better job, or a better house, or car, or whatever, I’m not saying that we don’t have to try to look more beautiful, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t try to be successful in every aspect of our life, what I’m saying here is that we should prioritize our soul and spirit first, we should try to be better person, we should try to first love ourselves as we are right now with our perfections and imperfections, and we should try to be more kind, more tolerant, or to be more understanding, we should try to be more concerned about giving others what we want to receive, we should try to love each other more and then afterwards we should try to get all the material, recognition, power, or whatever you want in your life.

If we could try to look good in the inside first, and become a better person, every relationship between human would be less fake and more real, our love would be less fake and more real and pure, and then our life would be much better.

 

 

What you can give to this world as human being to make it a better place for you and others, to make it a place of love and peace, is the most important thing, all else is secondary.

Find your inner child

Find your inner child, and you will find yourself again. Go back to those times where everything seemed to be possible, those times where you could become whatever you wanted, those times where you could just be yourself.

 

“When childhood dies, its corpses are called adults and they enter society, one of the politer names of hell.  That is why we dread children, even if we love them, they show us the state of our decay.”

Brian Aldiss

 

Somehow we have mixed up the meaning of being a child, we gave to that word the meaning of being immature, not fully grown or emotionally undeveloped, and so when someone acts like a child, we say that he is a very immature person. But then I ask myself, every bad behavior which is realized day by day by humans against the world and every being around them, it is not an immature behavior?

The humans, especially those who are considered to be very mature, are the one who are destroying everything and everyone around them, even though they have been blessed with a beautiful world, a magnificent body with a wonderful mind with the power to create everything they want, but which they not used to create but to destroy, it is this a mature behavior?

 

“Children have neither past nor future; they enjoy the present, which very few of us do.” – Jean de la Bruyere

 

The adults, those considered mature, are those who are constantly competing with each other, fighting with each other and those who are killing to each other, those people have forgotten the most important values as love, compassion, understanding, kindness, companionship and so on. And they have forgotten all that, because they have become a selfish person, they have become people who are only concerned with their own affairs.

When you grow up and become an adult, leaving the child behind, condemning the child spirit inside you to a death sentence, that’s when most of your dreams die, and that’s when part of your true self dies too, becoming your worst enemy. When you cease to be a child, you become vulnerable to all evil in this world, evil disguised as happiness, and so you let other adults who are also brainwashed by evil, to tell you what should you become in life, and what you should achieve either money, power, fame, material things and other nonsense.

 

“Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason, you’re in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you.” – Deepak Chopra

 

So I prefer to be like a child rather than an adult whose brain has been washed, I prefer the innocence of a child, a child who laugh just because he can, a child with creativity and imagination, a child who dreams, a child that believe that he can do anything in the world, a child who believe that he can be a superhero and help people, a child full of joy and love, a child that can see the beauty in the small things, a child who is happy for no reason, a child who can love even those things that are product of his imagination, a child who has friends no matter where they come from, a child who doesn’t discriminate others for their religion or race, a child who doesn’t know how to hate, a child who loves truly, and who is always loyal to that love without any kind of interest, selfishness, limitations or expectations.

 

“Hold the hand of the child that lives in your soul. For this child, nothing is impossible.” – Paulo Coelho

 

A child is an angel, who has become a puppet due to the environment where he was born, an environment which has taught him how to become a person with no dreams, no imagination, no hope, no happiness and no love.

It is time for all adults in this world find their inner child, that child who can make you be yourself again, who can bring you joy, happiness, hope and love, that child who will make you dream again, and will make you believe that everything is possible, that magic and miracles actually exist, so find you inner child, the one will make you a happy person again for no reason, a person who is grateful, specially for the small and more important things in this world, so find your inner child, play, laugh, have fun, enjoy life, be happy, dream, smile and live your life again.

 

“What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult.”

Sigmund Freud